Feel like I'm in a very Mark Makes a Friend situation from Peep Show. For a long time I've considered myself straight and recently just came out of a break up with a girl. I have a really good friend who I've been friends with for a good few years. I feel like we're so close and open whether I ever feel like my feelings can almost sometimes border into maybe love? I don't have any gay, sexual desire but I sometimes suggest the idea to myself in my head and wonder if giving him a peck on the lips or not would feel so weird in a fictional situation. I'm quite a fan of tits and arse but can straight up friendship develop into something else in your brain?
Am I gay?
Anthony Hernandez
Jacob Rivera
As a bi guy, sure, caring is an admirable thing. Sex with guys for me is just sex, not really falling in love with them.
Easton Phillips
>Mark makes a friend
Thanks for reminding me, now go watch Brokeback Mountain
Jace Campbell
Do you have no concept of platonic love? Are you fucking retarded?
Ian Edwards
platonic love does not involve daydreams of kissing
Xavier Adams
Who knows. Who cares. Fuck labels. Why not try it? What is the worst that happens, he doesn't like it, or you don't? Then problem solved.
Sit close to him, let your arms/legs touch or something. Test the waters, see how both of you feel about it. Then maybe try and hold his hand or play footsie or something, I don't know.
Truth is no one here is going to be able to tell you. The fact that you're thinking about it at all is an indication that yeah, maybe you do harbor some homo feelings for your friend. But YOU need to self-reflect on it and then possibly act on it to really be sure.
Asher Barnes
You just have a really good friend and have seen too much homoerotic media that keeps getting injected into this board and accross the internet and culture in general. You might also have intrusive thoughts
Brandon Hall
Yes I'm sure the gay agenda brainwashed OP into being homo and it's not ten-times more likely that he may just be confused and curious
Not every board is Jow Forums dumbass
Logan King
>he may just be confused and curious
people get confused and curious about something when they keep seeing it 40-50 times a day on the internet and anywhere else
It's not some conspiracy or nefarious agenda and I'm not a poltard either, but you have to real innocent to think that being exposed to the same shit day after day doesn't make its way into your subconscious. That's how ideas work, that's why people make careers out of working in marketing and advertising and politicians have been using propganda for centuries if not millenia - it works.
There's loads of gay people on this website who post their gay shit on /b/ and Jow Forums and anywhere else and they're not trying to like recruit straight dudes or whatever they're just being gay with themselves but people like OP are caught in the crossfire
Aaron Butler
>people get confused and curious about something when they keep seeing it 40-50 times a day on the internet and anywhere else
That's not true. Are you confused, user? No? Oh. Ok then.
No one's trying to recruit anyone. You're literally the only one here deciding someone's sexuality for them.
Henry Jones
>That's not true. Are you confused, user? No? Oh. Ok then.
Different people have different psyches.
It's like being a vegan. Two people can exposed to the same vegan communities and videos and whatever and one can end up becoming a vegan and the other just could not give a shit and still keep on eating bacon and butter, and a third person ends up being just a vegetarian, etc. But no one ends up becoming vegan unless they hear about it.
It's the same reason why not everyone drinks coca cola or watches disney movies, even though they're some of the biggest things in the world.
regardless, exposure to something can influence you. That's just how it is.
>No one's trying to recruit anyone
Read what I wrote dipshit, I already said that.
Blake Rodriguez
Oh please.
Firstly, no one here is posting gay shit out of some agenda to turn other people gay. Secondly, no one here is forcing any user to view said gay shit. Lastly, it's completely and perfectly natural to see some gay shit and be curious regardless of where you saw it. There doesn't need to be some malicious intent or "getting caught in the crossfire" of people sharing fucking porn for someone to be curious or confused about their sexuality. And even if it was porn that sparked his curiosity, why is that a bad thing to explore again?
Hudson Cooper
>people share ideas
wow user. how fucking insightful.
>exposure to something can influence you
and this automatically a bad thing, why?
Jacob James
>It's the same reason why not everyone drinks coca cola or watches disney movies, even though they're some of the biggest things in the world.
Wait you mean someone can be exposed to an idea, ponder it, and than come to their own conclusion without automatically subscribing to that idea?
So why are you telling OP he's just brainwashed when you've literally just said people are capable of independent thought? Just because something influenced your thinking doesn't mean it took control of it user.
Let OP come to his own conclusion, again, you are the only deciding something for someone.
Jackson Sullivan
>Firstly, no one here is posting gay shit out of some agenda to turn other people gay. Secondly, no one here is forcing any user to view said gay shit
Why are you arguing against things that I never said? When did I ever say any of that? Read what I wrote. I wrote just the opposite. I clearly said that it WASN'T an agenda or intentional.
Although for your second point, yeah they kind of are. When you go on a NSFW board like r9k or whatever you actually are immediately greeted by like 4 or 5 threads of gay porn. You do see it by default, even if you then go and hide it. and AGAIN, those homos aren't trying to shove their gay porn in other people's Jow Forums experience on purpose and intentionally but it does end up there.
When did I say it was a bad thing?
Why are you all trying to argue with me like I'm some pol conservative? All I said was state the obvious that people can get gay thoughts in their head because of all the gay porn and media in the world. I never said it was bad, or good. It just is.
Landon Hernandez
>Why are you all trying to argue with me like I'm some pol conservative?
Because you've totally dismissed a common and natural thing, being curious about your own sexuality, on the basis that other people are gay too
Ian James
Don't bother replying to me unless you've taken like at least a basic college intro psychology course. not every thought that you have in your mind is your own.
>Let OP come to his own conclusion
and funny I don't see you chastising posts like that are egging him on
Austin Roberts
actually no I don't think that thinking about kissing your bro is that common or natural
especially when OP clearly said that he doesn't have any sexual feelings towards him
Cameron Lee
>Don't bother replying to me unless you've taken like at least a basic college intro psychology course
Oh, so you've met OP personally, have listened to his story with full context, checked his family's mental history? No? Then fuck off with your pretentious shit. You're psyche degree doesn't help when you're not HIS shrink, not to mention when all you have is text to go on.
And how is egging him on at all? Did you even read it? It IS saying let OP come to his own conclusion. It says right there,
>Truth is no one here is going to be able to tell you.
>YOU need to self-reflect on it and then possibly act on it to really be sure.
I know this because I fucking wrote it.
How is that "egging" him on? If OP is straight, he'll stay that way. Exploring his sexuality is something most healthy people do and how you turned a post that is literally saying "only you can decide your sexuality" into "lol ur gay" says more about you than OP
Owen Green
>actually no I don't think that thinking about kissing your bro is that common or natural
It doesn't matter what you think, because it is, especially for teenagers.
>especially when OP clearly said that he doesn't have any sexual feelings towards him
so you're just going to conveniently ignore that he also clearly said he has romantic feelings toward him?
Why are you arguing with me like I'm telling OP he's gay? I'm not. My problem is that YOU are telling OP he's straight.
We don't get to decide. OP has to think about this for himself.
Samuel Russell
>lmao dude who CARES about labels like "gay" it's not gay to kiss your best friend just kiss him haha maybe like play football without a shirt on and then tickle him lol just kidding the choice is yours and you should take time to think about it - but then totally absolutely act on it to be sure cause if you don't try to make out with him you'll regret it for the rest of your life
Mason Kelly
>OP has to think about this for himself.
and then still act on it to be extra crystal-clear and double-check, right?
Carter Edwards
>YOU need to self-reflect on it and then possibly act on it to really be sure.
>possibly act on it to really be sure.
>possibly
>POSSIBLY
Read what I type before you bother replying.
Carter Nelson
>totally absolutely act on it
amazing. just amazing. you literally can't read.
Owen Clark
I'm sorry your thread derailed into this OP
Anyone who isn't telling you to do some serious self-reflection is wrong. This is a question only you can answer.
Chase Hall
He clearly stated that he has no sexual feelings. Its just an intrusive thought.
Gabriel Martinez
He also clearly stated he has romantic feelings and purposefully daydreams of kissing him
why are you ignoring literally half of his post
Ayden Allen
Isaac Allen
wow having romantic feelings for the same sex but not sexual ones despite daydreams of kissing it's almost as if OP is simply confused and curious and needs to self-reflect and that it's totally and equally possible that he's completely straight or gay for his friend and that you can't simply say "lol ur str8" or "lol ur gey" to fix this problem.
amazing. and I didn't even need to waste my youth earning a psychology degree
Ryan Edwards
suuuuure
Brody Russell
>I sometimes suggest the idea in my head
that sounds like the opposite of intrusive user
Andrew Gutierrez
No that is what an intrusive thought is.
Jack Rogers
Or its just an intrusive thought lol
Lincoln Thompson
Suggesting an idea to yourself, purposefully, is called thinking regularly dumbass. An intrusive thought has to be, y'know, INTRUSIVE.
in·tru·sive
inˈtro͞osiv/Submit
adjective
1.
causing disruption or annoyance through being unwelcome or uninvited.
Suggesting an idea to yourself isn't an uninvited idea being brought into your head. I can't believe I even need to explain such a basic fundamental aspect of human existence to you.
Also, an intrusive thoughts aren't full-blown fantasy daydreams and OP never said that these daydreams bothered him at all
Cooper Gonzalez
lol op never said anything about fantasy daydreams he calls it just an idea aka a thought
Nathan Torres
>resorting to arguing semantics
>lol
lol
Carson Sanchez
>and wonder if giving him a peck on the lips or not would feel so weird in a fictional situation.
thinking of hypothetical situations is what daydreaming is you fucking retard
Julian Myers
Maybe dont be calling peoples random intrusive thoughts their delicious daydreams of fantastic hidden desire or whatever and we wont have that argument haha
Benjamin Brooks
No not really youre the one whose arguing semantics now lol op never called it a daydream