Melancholy

>he blocked you
>you still manage to know that he's posting on Jow Forums
>you still manage to know that he has feelings for his coworker
>you actively look for him on discord
You're mental.

I deleted it quickly. Granted, I should’ve known better considering there are quite a few incels on the site.

This has happened before. We broke up and ended up getting back together within a few months.

This doesn’t make me mental.

Yes it does. You're mental.

Isnt be a bit mental for making the edited photo from my discord his profile pic?? Did we just suddenly forget that part?

OP isn’t stalking. The premise of the entire post is that he cut her off after saying he’d mutually keep in touch. She’s left in the dark and wants to know what happened. Honestly it’s a really cruel thing for her boyfriend to assure her that they’d keep in touch and then just bail like that.

I think both are at fault, why is he badmouthing on other sites about his ex? Yes OP is technically stalking unless she found about about the sh*t talk by accident. Both are at fault.

No. That's him telling you that he knows what you did. You fucking mental retard.

We know you're samefagging, OP.

He's venting. People vent on anonymous sites because they're anonymous. There is literally no way to identify OP from "my ex was a stupid cunt, here's the story about her". OP is posting his picture, which can be used to identify him. She is vindictive and mental and a cunt.

This.

If he would’ve told me he wanted nothing to do with me I wouldn’t have bothered with any of this. Bottom line it’s hurtful. Or he could have at least told me he wanted some space.

And honestly who WOULDNT go a bit mental upon having the love of their life for 5 years break up with you mutually acting like everything’s okay and then BAM, the person who was most important to you bails? Unresolved situations erode the mind like no other. She’s incredibly hurt and in the dark. It is perfectly normal for her to react this way.

He told you that he wants nothing to do with you when he blocked you.

>vindictive
>mental
>cunt

What are you getting out of this by insulting me. Plus, I don’t really care that he was talking shit. He’s interested in the coworker he told me not to worry about during our relationship. I’m not stalking him, we browse the same exact site. It can be easy to pinpoint who it is if they mention certain things about their life that you knew about.

You posted his face into a discord server to spite him. You know fine rightly the reason you did it. It wasn't to satisfy peoples' curiosity. Let's not play dumb.

I wasn’t blocked until his photo got posted on R9K.

Holy fuck, you're crazy.
I feel bad that the dude was even together with someone like you. You should be locked away in some asylum.

And he blocked you because you're a vindictive cunt that posted his picture online. Take your licks and leave the man alone. You've done enough damage.

To spite him? Why does everything have to have a devious underline? They were curious I showed them. Big mistake and I regret it. I don’t know what else to say about that. I’m not an evil person. But you don’t know me so of course you’d assume that.

Right well, you’d be thinking the same thing about him if you knew what he put me th

OP, I think neither of you are at fault. It sounds to me that whenever you did something that he didn’t like, that he never reacted in a way that implied he didn’t like it. Thus you had no way of knowing he wasn’t cool with it in the first place. But he’s not at fault either because he wasn’t aware that he was sending those signals to you. It’s the only thing that makes sense because you can’t trace back to why he bailed like this, which means he was bothered by something but never told you why. If he had simply conveyed when things were bothering him, I know you would’ve stopped. Sorry for you both that this happened.

through but we aren’t going to get into that.

>Granted, I should’ve known better considering there are quite a few incels on the site.
You did know better. You didn't just forget that Jow Forums is a shithole for a moment. You put his image out there to get back at him.

And now you're trying to paint yourself as the victim. You should be locked up for everyone's safety.

Well OP besides everything else you said your biggest mistake was making this guy identifiable through a photo. If you really wanted to satisfy people another way you could've said "he looks like [insert name] and that's all I can say for privacy reasons". What's done is done, just drop this guy entirely the only thing you're going to do is keep hurting each other.

Honestly, if he would’ve just said something about why he’s upset this couldbe gone way different. I’m starting to realize that he may never talk to me again and it hurts like hell.

I wasn’t trying to get back at him. Not everyone is an asshole like that.

You're right, not everyone is. But you are.

I can be. I wouldn’t try to intentionally hurt someone though.

>Can be
You are. And you would. And you did. Leave him alone.

>locked up for everyone’s safety

Let’s not get dramatic. I’m already aware I fucked up big time.

You don’t know me.

Yes I do. You've shown your true colours.

This

My true colors?

Yes. You are a bad person.

True, nobody here does, just drop this already and leave the guy alone. Move on, it's going to hurt for a while but that's the only way to really do things now.

I’ve done some fucked up things but im not a horrible person.

It’s a common fatal flaw. Let’s assume that he hates it when people vent to him. Now let’s assume that whenever you vented to him, he thought to himself “Ugh this is so toxic BUT I’ll endure it just for her” and then his reactions imply he’s not bothered. It conditions you to think that he’s okay with it. This is commonly overlooked because he’s not trying to send that message on purpose. Sadly because he wasn’t aware of this, he was unaware that he was enabling you to think you weren’t being toxic. Subliminal messages are a real thing, I’m sorry this happened to you.

I can’t move on completely until he lets me know how he feels. If he’s still not speaking to me by the end of the summer then I’ll get the queue.

I’m too autistic to understand subliminal messaging I guess then. You made a good point.

>stalking ya ex
>posting his picture online for other people to see
>refusing to give him space after he obviously needed you out of his life
You're wrong user. You're terrible.

It’s called she made a mistake. For all you know she volunteers at the soup kitchen and invites 300 homeless families over for thanksgiving while sending charity money to your blind grandmother in Vietnam.

I wasn’t stalking him. Read above. Sure, it was too soon to try talking to him but the damage is done. Nothing else I can do. Haven’t tried to contact him since. He knows where i live, he knows how to contact me

It's called she's a fucking mentalist.

I'm sure Ted Bundy was nice to someone once but it means fuck all if he was still a psycho at the end of it all.

That's fine but make sure you do get it if he doesn't change his stance. You're going to end up tearing yourself apart if you insist for too long.

I’m not a psycho.

I know, I’m just afraid of moving on and then one day he tries to contact me and the feelings for him are gone.

Don't worry. He won't contact you, psycho.

She may very well have undiagnosed issues that she’s unaware of, issues that if she knew, she’d get help for and be okay. There’s nothing that implies that she can’t learn and grow from this experience, she’s only in her early 20’s. Her actions are understandable, I can pinpoint the reasoning behind every single thing she has said. Although she could be wording herself better Her intentions are largely positive. I’ll gladly break it down for you if you’d like.

Listen dude/woman you don’t know the entire story of what went on okay? He’s done this before and although I fucked up he hasn’t been mr. perfect either. So calm the hell down and like i said him making the edited photo from my discord is mental. Both of us are fucked up in the head for different reasons.

I just started speaking to a therapist. I am aware i have issued that I’d like to get taken

>There's nothing that implies she can't learn and grow from this
Apart from her repeated denial throughout the thread and declarations that there's nothing wrong and she's the good guy?

See? She's irredeemably mental.

Him changing his profile picture is not mental. You calling that action mental only further proves that you need to be in an institution.

Instead of condemning her, we should focus on getting her help so that she can not only recover, but also gain life skills and therapy to become the best person she can be. This doesn’t have to be her final chapter, it can be the beginning of OP version 2.0 if she lets it. Mistakes are for learning.

I’m gonna try and be the best I can from this point moving forward. I’m hoping my therapist helps me

She said she just started therapy. Recovery isn’t an instant magical pill. And the very decision itself to seek help implies that somewhere inside she does want to grow stronger from this, and she’s turned it into an action. Look, I said her actions understandable, I didn’t say they were excusable. And, again, this isn’t either of their faults. They are victims of invisible miscommunication. All he needed to say to her was “Don’t do that.” If she ever did anything to displease him. It is not okay for the person you love to lie and say they’ll keep in touch and then bail. Who wouldn’t be furious?

He fucking blocked her. That's all the communication that was needed. He wants her out of his life. She insists on forcing her way back in. She's fucking nutso and so are you for defending her.

I wasn’t blocked before the whole photo situation. I was distancing myself because I knew he needed space. I thought that by me being unblocked and just deleted that he was planning on communicating with me at some point. He’s just very angry with me right now. Rightfully so, hopefully he will come around at some point. If not I know I’ll need to move on. I just don’t want to right now because I still love and care about him.

Hopefully he never talks to you again.

Is this bait? Or are you actually this retarded?

You need to takea step back and reflect on how you've been acting and what you're really trying to accomplish here. And by the way, it doesn't matter what he does at this point. You are responsible for your own behavior, don't use him as an excuse to act foolish. And no one here cares if he's acting odd. It's over. Get over it.

That would be absolutely terrible. I’d want nothing more than to work this out with him. Both of us are trying to improve ourselves separately though. Which I think was long overdue anyways. We can’t be together if we both have issues. Them being depression and mine anxiety.

I've been wanting to post for a while but was side-tracked by yelling at idiots in other threads. me but lets break down exactly how OP is nuts. Any further argument after this is obvious denial.

>saw that he said he was developing feelings for his coworker
>this wouldn’t bother but he told me he thought she was ugly and wasn’t attracted to her at all
Why is this any of your business? Who cares. He moved on. He probably told you before that she was ugly so you wouldn't think anything was up when she was acting flirty. I've done the same thing before, like call a girl ugly behind her back to my gf so she wouldn't get jealous.

>post his photo in my discord server because people wanted to see what he looked like
I don't care if you "quickly deleted it", you should know better, if not then maybe the internet is not the place for you.

>he then blocks me a couple hours later
Seems legit, if an ex of mine posted my picture online to a place known for trolling and I started getting messages and shit I'd be pretty mad too, blocking is a no brainer.

>add ex on discord
>adds me back
>says “who dis”
>i reply with “insert discord name” example: interstice
Hooooly crap here's where we go off the deep end, you just added him and expected to have a normal polite conversation after him blocking you?

>says “OH” “do I know you from somewhere?”
>i say “yes”
>he goes “from where?”
>I say “Um”
This literally made me laugh, you didn't have anything planned to say here? Really?

>he quickly says “oh I know where see ya”
Blocks you AGAIN because you SOMEHOW didn't get the message the first time.

>Why is he acting so childish instead of communicating with me like an adult about our relationship?
If by "childish" you mean moving on and blocking ex's that post his easily traceable picture back to his FB for him to be harassed.

1/2

I don't care what you want. I care that you don't ruin his life more than you already have.

>It wasn’t my fault his face got posted on there.
See: your OP >post his photo in my discord server because people wanted to see what he looked like

>Stalking him how? This makes no sense.
>You're mental.
>This doesn’t make me mental
YES. Yes this fucking does, and it's made MORE disturbing by the fact that you are in denial about it. This many people agree: >He's venting. People vent on anonymous sites because they're anonymous. There is literally no way to identify OP from "my ex was a stupid cunt, here's the story about her".
This person's point is spot on, again, who the fuck cares what he's doing, is it affect your life in any way to be talked shit about on a random ANONYMOUS message board?

I see you're in therapy, and part of recovery is admitting that you have a problem, in fact I think that's the first fucking thing you learn. Stop the denial, learn that you went way overboard and are acting indeed like a psycho.

2/2

Do you have multiple personalities?

I haven’t ruined his life.

Leave him alone, psycho.

How does this post imply I have multiple personalities?

Is that all you’re going to keep saying? Because it’s not helping.

I’m not in denial. I already know I fucked up. We established this. I’m not a psycho though. That I will not admit to.

Do you think you're getting back together after you both magically fix yourselves?

That's not realistic. If your relationship was toxic you should accept that and move on. Keep improving yourself and find someone you can be yourself with. Some people stick in your brain and it's hard to not want to be with them, but you need to remember that you're better away from him.

Not denial of fucking up, denial of being a psycho

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For real though I'd probably date OP, I like them a little clingy, and I mean that in the best possible way.

You still single OP?

Of course I’m going to continue improving myself. In the back of my mind though I’ll always wonder if we can work this out again. I’m human, and I can’t turn my emotions on and off.

I’m single but I’m not dating anyone at the moment. Not until I’m over my ex. I’m also still holding on in

hopes that he’ll get in contact with me again. Plus, im not in the right state of mind to be dating in general.

Cucks like you are the reason why there's so many shitty, clingy girls out there who ruin relationships with their bullshit.

Protip: no matter how much you give them it's never enough. They will always find a reason for you to give up more of your autonomy to assuage their insecurity until you become a shadow of your former self and they leave you because of it.

how do i get a crazy gf like op fellows?

I assume you’re implying I’m this type of clingy girl. I’m not. But continue

I’m not crazy.

sure you're not sweetie. now tell me how he woo'd you

Trust me. I had someone like this in my life. It took over a decade to get her mostly out of my head and that was only years after our relationship imploded. It's hard, but you have to remember the reasons you two don't work. Thinking about him is only going to prevent you from building new relationships. You'll meet someone else eventually.

With his giant hairy penis obviously.

I don’t want anyone else I want him.

He’s just a really nice guy. We got along well for the most part, but there were certain things he did that I just couldn’t deal with. What I should have done is had a long talk with him instead of breaking up with him. I wouldn’t be in this awful desperate looking position. This is karma though. So it’s ubderstood.

He went non-contact and is venting on an anonymous image board

Why did you bump this has been covered already....

I'm serious though OP gimme them digits I could use a crazy girl right now, other anons just mad

fuck this thread gibs weird feels

Yeah

No.

How so?