Hey Jow Forums I'm not really sure what to make of this situation. I'll greentext it.
>be last year, junior in HS >friend dies (I'll call her E), suspected suicide >E had two friend groups, mine and one other with her girlfriend and others >after her death the two groups started to merge >I become very good friends with one of the guys (call him P) from the other group, we both start a club at our school together as we are both into politics >one girl (call her C) was E's ex girlfriend, yes they were lesbian >C is bisexual and starts to date P a few months after E dies >C is rather promiscuous, she lost her virginity in 8th grade and has slept with multiple guys >eventually P and C break up, P is kinda a shitty boyfriend and they are incompatible anyways
--- Pause story for a little backstory on C --- >her parents abandoned her with her grandma >lives in a small one bedroom apartment in downtown with her grandma >she has anxiety, depression, occasionally abuses drugs >wants to get help but her grandma marginalizes her issues and won’t let her get help --- Continue ---
Fast forward to beginning of senior year >C gets another girlfriend, name is B >they are dating >C cheats on her with some rando guy after a school dance >B never knows
Fast forward more to last month >My club, JSA, has three annual conventions >C is now in JSA >C and I are also good friends and both laugh about how we would never date each other blah blah blah cus it would be so weird >at the last convention of the year >slow dance together at the dance >hang out and talk alone in the atrium of the hotel >it’s like 11:30 at night >talking when my friend and another chapter member walk up and sit down with us
Continued. Lets go forward one last time to last week >find out from C that she was a few minutes away from making a move on me >not surprised, as stated before she’s promiscuous and I’m not bad looking >laugh it off, “oh my friend was a cockblock!” >start thinking about it >C is actually pretty hot >bigthink.jpg >start sending her increasingly sexual snapchat streaks >friday comes and she is wearing a crop top and ripped jeans >decide tonights the night >ask her to hang out, she says sure >she has to get her nails done after school first >say we will meet afterwards >shit takes longer than she thought and her grandma won’t let her hang out >super disappointed >send snapstreak to her where my shirt is pulled up to show my stomach/abs >she responds with a pic where her shirt is pulled up to show her stomach captioned “I can do that too ;)” >respond with a pic of me in my boxers “can you do this?” >get a pic back of her in her bra “nice try” >start sending pics back and forth >she gets in the shower, start getting full blown nudes >timeforthepenis.jpg >send pic pics >shit progresses for an hour >C: “damn 100% fuckable.” >Me: “when do you want to fuck?” >C: “tomorrow?” >continue to sext, end with a pic of my nut on my stomach saying “this could be you tomorrow ;)”
>saturday comes, we meet up at 6 o clock downtown >we don’t have a house to go to so we walk around looking for a secluded place >go to public park with a tunnel >tunnel smells >fuck, I’m not going anywhere else >she starts giving me coy smiles and looks. >walk over to her, get real close and run my hand up her leg to her crotch >one hand up her shirt >dickisdiamonds.png >pull away, walk her to some bushes next to a building >we sit down >she pull down my shorts and starts jerking me off >kissing her neck >kissing her >first kiss >she puts my dick in her mouth, blows me for like 3 minutes >people are walking by, shit >decide to postpone until tomorrow when she will be home alone >grab her ass, tits, make out for the rest of the evening >today rolls around >tell parents I’m meeting up with a friend as to not make the suspicious that I’ve hung out with her three days in a row >mom is not buying it >mom was chaperone for the convention and saw all the flirting and signals that I missed >mom asks me if me and C are a thing >nope >shitty poker face >she doesn’t buy it >i know that if I lie she will find out anyways and it will be worse so I say we aren’t dating but we’ve been hooking up >mom starts having talk with me, she knows C’s past >makes really good points >I know I shouldn't be doing this >drive downtown to meet with C >we go to starbucks then walk to a park >we talk and I tell her that I know she has issues that she uses sex to cope with >she agrees >tell her I wouldn’t be a good friend if I took advantage of it >we decide not to do anything further >go home
>thinking of her tonight >really sad that she makes all these bad decisions because she doesn’t care about herself >I care a lot for some reason >want to help her >start snapchatting her, “I’m always here for you” shit like that >we talk about how she wants help but doesn’t know where to go and can’t get it >talk to her about how I want to help her care about herself >realize I don’t know how to do that >start writing this thread
Fin.
So Jow Forums, how do you make someone care about themselves? I want to be a good friend to her but I don’t know how to help her.
i don't know what to suggest but you're a good guy, have a bump
Jason Green
Thanks.
I want her to have a good life but she never had the support to make that happen.
Brandon Flores
yeah parents are pretty important. there a school counselor or something maybe she could talk to?
Aaron Harris
I know that she talks to the counselor often, but clearly it doesn't do much. I think she talks more about her anxiety and losing E and therefore skims over her abandonment issues and promiscuity. Those she saves for her closer friends - ie me.
How do you encourage someone to cope with their issues in a positive way?
Cameron Perry
So you already want to “help” her and “fix” her and she didn’t even have to fuck you to get it.
What a pro.
Henry Kelly
I highly doubt this was some master plan.
Asher Wilson
I’m sure you do. That’s the point. Also, why does it have to be a “master plan”?
Pro tip: This is how people just act. It’s called habit, incentive, Pavlov’s dog.
She rings her bell, you come calling. Not a master plan, just animal behavior man.
Grayson Turner
Because she was hesitant to get my help and still is? And what advantage does she get from me wanting to help her? I'm not some beta orbiter who'll do anything for her - I simply offered to help guide her to make good decisions.
Logan Phillips
>I know I shouldn't be doing this And yet here you are.
Kayden Johnson
What exactly is her motive here?
Luis Cruz
how do you help? if its in their head. you cant its their issue to deal with.
but you can be there if they need a hug or to talk - dick move on your part to send her a dick pic(s)
everybody greives loss in a different way. this was her coping mechanism. she needs to talk through her greif with a trained expert one who is a expert in greif councilling
Josiah Perry
>dick move on your part to send her a dick pic(s)
That was all reciprical, and she sent the first nude. At that point I hadn't come to realize that this wasn't a good idea. Would I play it the same way again? Ofc not. But hindsight is 20/20. It seemed perfectly reasonable at the time in that context.
>but you can be there if they need a hug or to talk Thats all I can do I guess. Just be there.
>she needs to talk through her greif with a trained expert one who is a expert in greif councilling If she could see one. Her grandma denies her mental health issues - its part of the reason they exist in the first place.
Thomas Bennett
CPS
Ayden Ross
>continue to sext, end with a pic of my nut on my stomach saying “this could be you tomorrow ;)”
