Anxious about my boyfriend

He gave it up before me.
Even so, what does that say about him? I feel bad for his ex.
I am completely uncomfortable with him having pictures of a random girl.

Why would he stay faithful to a girl he knows he’s going to leave and isn’t satisfied with? “Honor”?

Come the fuck on. As if women actually respond to “honor.” yeah OK.

And why would he block a slut that’s giving him something he wants that I bet you his (now ex) girlfriend wasn’t giving him?

Furthermore, why are you so interested? You already chose to date him... obviously you didn’t care about “honor” before you took his dick now did you?

That’s the thing - I don’t fault you for wondering these things, I fault you for acting like it’s actually a big deal to you. If it were, you would have figured this out before you said yes to his penis.

Second of all, yeah your boyfriend sounds weak. The second he started connecting with another girl he should have been honest with his girlfriend. So yeah your boyfriend doesn’t really care about being “good” to women he’s no longer interested in. ... One day if you’re the one he isn’t interested in, expect that he’ll cheat. Because he will.

That being said, you need to cool it with the “slut blocking” and “porn watching” shit. Could you be any more hypocritical? That slut probably sounds and acts a lot like you, you just don’t like to see it.

I know that and I love him so much. He says he’s never loved anyone the way he loves me. I just can’t be with someone who did what he did. I know it makes me sound stupid, and I know everyone thinks I’m overreacting, but I just need someone who always has been and always will be faithful not only to me but to all the women he’s with.

That porn bit was uneccessary.
If that bothers you, then you have some growing up to do.

>Even so, what does that say about him? I feel bad for his ex.
Him being a normal guy says that he's a normal guy. You being like this says you're probably psychotic.

He should’ve left her then. Immediately. I knew about the thirst traps, just not the timeline. I was told they were sent after he and his ex broke up. And no, I don’t act like her. I don’t even send nudes. The most I’ve sent him is a bikini pic that I also sent some of my girlfriends.

You want someone perfect. People aren't perfect.

I somehow haven’t done the shit that he’s done and I’ve been in multiple relationships.

What you think he “should” have done doesn’t really matter because you don’t get to tell other people what to do Ms. Morals.

Also, please see my point about how you’ve already taken his dick... you apparently only care about his dishonorable past after you’ve already gotten your dick fix. Hypocrasy at its finest.

You obviously have issues with feelings of insecurity. I'm guessing this also affects other parts of your life. If you have access to a counselor, now would be a good time to give that a try.

OP is in all probability retarded but not wrong. He should have blocked the whore.

For fuck’s sake. I was told something that wasn’t true. It’s not like I hopped in the sack then bothered to ask about his shit.
I’m going to because it’s eating at me. I still stand by my opinion that this was shitty, cheating behavior.

That’s the thing that bothers me most. Why in the fuck didn’t he block her? Boys have been blocked by me for much less. Either he was a pussy or thirsty himself but it doesn’t matter. Whatever the reason, it’s not good enough. He’s asleep right now so I’ll see what he has to say about his reasons tomorrow.

So either you were lied to... and are now asking if you should stay (obvious answer there).

OR.. like I said, you didn’t bother to figure this out before hand.

>Why in the fuck didn’t he block her?
I can think of two possibilities (which aren't mutually exclusive, either):
-He just forgot to block her
-He liked the pics and wanted to keep them

While you have a point that it's very questionable behavior, the other guy ITT is right, that no doubt you've whored yourself out to your bf anyway. As far as relational transgressions go, keeping not-actually-nude-nudes you didn't ever respond to is pretty far down on the list in terms of severity.

I don’t want to call it lying because I didn’t specifically ask him about the entire duration of the picture-sending in relation to his relationship. I just asked when she was doing this, and he said at the beginning of this year. That technically isn’t a lie because she was doing it at the beginning of the year, she also was doing it last year and over the summer though and he didn’t tell me that. So I think it was more withholding information. Either way, it was wrong

You’re the scum of this board. Can you please leave jfc

>’m going to because it’s eating at me.
Great!

>I still stand by my opinion that this was shitty, cheating behavior.
It's ok to feel that way, it's not the issue you need help with.

>Wouldn’t you block someone who sent you explicit photos while you were in a relationship
nah
he didn't reply to her. maybe he blocked her when he started dating you and didn't block her when he was dating girl Y because girl Y may not have been so great. Besides, I'm not gonna block someone just in case my prospects change.
You're not thinking like a guy OP.
also chill the fuck out.

Okay but the real question is what do I do with him? Is this worth ending the relationship?

>Is this worth ending the relationship?
Normally I'd say no, but it might not be a bad idea so he isn't with someone so dramatic.

He has told me he went out with Girl Y because he was lonely and wanted his first girlfriend. He had been attracted to me since he met me and had feelings for me for a while before we started dating.

The issue I have is I think he should’ve been a fucking man and not toyed with Girl Y. She’s incredibly innocent and would be devastated if she knew. He was selfish as hell and I hate that.

>He has told me he went out with Girl Y because he was lonely and wanted his first girlfriend.
I did that too and learned from my mistakes. give him a fucking chance. I haven't dated for two years because I essentially took advantage of a girl who loved me and I still feel fucking awful.

Not an argument.

When will people realize they can’t use others because they’re lonely? How would he feel if I fucked with him?

>How would he feel if I fucked with him?
not too great.
but if you're contemplating that, you're worse than him. Like I said, it sounds like he learned his mistakes from girl Y so I'm still not a hundred percent sure why you're so crazy.
Have you tried talking to him?

I messaged him. He’s asleep right now. I have very bad trust issues from a previous relationship in which I was actually cheated on by my ex with my ex’s ex from work. My boyfriend and I were friends before we started dating and he promised and promised me that he was going to be different. But if this was his past, I can’t trust that he won’t do it in the future.

This is what I sent.

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You're freaking out over clothed pictures that he ignored? You're crazy

>Okay but the real question is what do I do with him? Is this worth ending the relationship?
Once you've figured out yourself , that one will be easier.

They weren’t clothed. They just weren’t fully nude. She was naked but drew over certain parts

>But if this was his past, I can’t trust that he won’t do it in the future.
but he didn't actually DO anything, except the RIGHT thing by blocking her when he got with you
>He’s asleep right now.
poor guy. at least he won't have to deal with this till morning or later.
holy fuck

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i dont think op is ready for a relationship if they are freakin over clothed pics

What do you mean figure out myself? Do you mean learn to not care about my boyfriend looking at another girl’s nudes while in a relationship?

See

seen...
ops logic would be that emma watson is cheating because she has dick pics in her dms

Look, I was in a relationship that started with provocative pics from my ex’s ex. I ignored it and brushed it off. Then it got to the texting, again I ignored it because I thought I was crazy. I year in I found out they were doing shit at work behind my back. I’ve been burned before.

Except my boyfriend isn’t famous and this girl was the only one messaging him. She followed him around in public and told him she loved him. This was an isolated incident and it would’ve been very easy for him to block her out of respect for his girlfriend.

then fuck it just end it holy shit you're so fucking neurotic I'm done with your shit OP and I haven't even met you

Your bf, from what I've seen so far, doesn't seem to be giving off any indicators of being unfaithful, even if he made a stupid mistake. You're right to be concerned in itself, but as a general tip for the future: making accusations or behaving in a confrontational manner is almost never healthy for a relationship. If you do have an issue with your partner's actions, then you should phrase it in a way that simply asks them to do something to help your worries.
Here, you would have been much better served by including only the first sentence ("The main thing I care about...") and the last part from "I'm very panicky". As it stands, it comes off like you're already pissed and he will probably dig himself in.

OP stop worrying it isnt a problem stop worrying

I’m just losing my mind right now and I don’t know how to calm down. I know everyone thinks this is funny but I’m actually upset. I feel like I can’t fucking trust anyone. How hard is it to want someone who can just commit and not do this dumb shit

OP just sit back and chill. in reality this is a very small problem that clarification between you and your bf can fix. Just try to take your mind off things

I know a woman who thinks somewhat like you. She's still dating looking for someone she can "trust" and she's almost 60. She'll inevitably flip her shit over something she finds out about every guy she dates, and then it's back to the drawing board. Don't be like her.

You're not necessarily wrong to be cautious, as there is no shortage of human garbage walking around, but there is a point where it is no longer healthy and crosses over into the absurd. You have very little to worry about from your bf as is; a quick discussion without any accusations would be enough to settle the matter.

I’m hoping he explains more tomorrow. I’m literallt praying and hoping and wishing that she didn’t send him anything while he was in a relationship. Honestly I’ve had guys send me thirst traps. When I’m single I just ignore them until they quit. It’s the relationship thing that bothers me so much.

How do I distract myself? It’s 3 am here

I know, and I feel crazy and awful but at the same time justified in my fear. He’s much more relaxed than I am and hopefully can clear this up with me tomorrow.
In my defense, I tell men I’m crazy because of my ex when they try to get with me. So many of them don’t listen and then I get put in this position.

Go to sleep.

Listen to music?
or ya try sleeping
also if he did receive them while in a relationship keep in mind that He didnt ask for them

I know he didn’t. And he never even responded to her. He always found her to be obnoxious.

I’m going to try music and maybe meditation videos. I just have an anxiety disorder that exacerbates things and now I’m literally pacing and feeling out of control

if you can try getting outside for fresh air it might help

It just hurts so much. I love him, he’s one of my best friends and favorite people but this will eat at me forever. I hate myself for being crazy but I can’t stop.

try not to let it bother you its a very little thing. Also i dont think your crazy. From what i see it seems like a trust issue type of thing dont worry and try to get some sleep

You are overthinking this. If you continue down this path youll run your relationship right into the ground.

Either trust him or dont and break up.

Perhaps you are too immature and insecure for a relationship right now and need to be single and sort out yourself for a year or two.

Bait
Kys

>I said this to every girl I was with
>I meant it every time
>it wasn’t true

>I’m a crazy bitch
>I can’t control my craziness, someone else caused it
>ima take it out on bf

i bet if I called him a chad you'd start saying things like Noooo hes super sweet and shy and plays nerdy games like skyrim!

what did he say OP

Your overreacting. Who gives a fuck if he watches porn too. Your probably very self conscious

So you're worried he was jerking off to photos from X I take it? Maybe he was, why would he willingly receive photos from a girl he wasn't dating right?

This all sounds really complicated OP but I understand what you mean, in the end it's up to you. If you can't let something from the past go then talk to him about it and if he says it's nothing then you can choose to let it go. However, if it happens again then I would be suspicious.

holy shit leave it to women to have a panic attack over literally nothing.

so a girl sent a gjy sexy photos, he ignored her. he isnt obligated to block her. he got into a relationship with you and blocked her out of respect for you, what more do you fucking want? most men watch porn on occasion, it has nothing todo woth you so stop making it about you.

chill THE FUCK out

acting this manic around him is only going to push him away.

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You are the product of a single mother.

Hopefully he dumped her crazy ass

Yes, save him the trouble of putting up with you.

Yeah I kind of hope he does just so he's spared from more of her bullshit.