How do you handle an open relationship emotionally?
I've been with my gf for a year and she wants to make it open. I know for a fact it's not because she wants a particular person and she's not a slut. I actually feel less jealous of anyone after she proposed the idea.
I don't believe in complete monogamy, I had cases where I could go for attractive people at a parties and being allowed to do that makes me feel a lot free. However imagining her messing with others makes me uncomfortable. I feel like I'm way too introverted and not socially active to fully accept this kinda relationship. I don't want to break up and lose contact with her. I'm overly clingy and I want to change that.
So other than suggesting breaking up, I'd like to hear ideas or experiences from you if you've ever been in a similar situation.
Open relationship?
cuck
>she's not a slut
>she wants to fuck other people besides the person she commits to
You good OP?
>i dont believe into complete monogamy
>i cant handle open relationship
The word you are looking for is called adultery / cheating. Simply keep it secret from each other.
And no, i would break up the moment my partner would tell me they are considering open relationship.
>she's not a slut.
But she wants to sleep around.
Seems like she is just too afraid to break up with you so she is hurting you until you break up with her.
Open relationships are a meme.
They can only work under very specific circumstances and this doesn't seem like one.
>I don't believe in complete monogamy
What does that even mean?
You don't believe it will ever work out?
You don't believe she would be faithful to you under any circumstances?
So I don't see a reason to suggest breaking up, she already did that.
Sorry but either break up with her or out right refuse the open relationship deal in a way that she will break up with you. This relationship is clearly out the window, if she wants to sleep with only one guy it means she is willing to risk the relationship between you two just for one night with someone else. If it was so she could have one night stands then you might as well just be friends with benefits.
She's already broken up with you. She wants to keep you around for emotional support while she finds a better partner.
OP here. Thanks for the answers. It seems pretty clear. I don't want to be a fucking cuck.
I envy my brother though. They never said it out loud with his gf that they're together but they seem to love each other very much without commitment. I guess that's just not for me.
>cuck
Funny how bitter virgins always use this word even when it doesn't apply. Open relationship goes both ways, he is also free to fuck other girls.
That being said it's not a good sign to turn a relationship from conventional to open. Open relationships work best when they start as such.
>I know for a fact it’s not about a particular person
You are so naive
200% of the time when a girl says she wants an open relationship she means she wants to fuck another guy and not feel bad
>she's not a slut
She wants to fuck someone other than her boyfriend. She’s a slut
he is free in the sense that she says "yeah youre free gl have fun"
she knows he wont find anything. and if he does she will find a way to control it, break them apart so that he returns to his place. all she wants is his wallet while she sleeps around.
don't fool yourself
I knew a girl once who was in a relationship. She was often in a pouty moods. One day she told me she’s frustrated because she’s trying to convince her boyfriend for them to have an open relationship, but was confused why he kept saying no. She literally didn’t understand. She told me “it’s not fair. I love him so much. I do so much for him but he doesn’t want to do this for me”. I asked her why she wants it to be open. She told me he’s an “amazing lover. But I just want to experience different men. I want to be able to see what different men feel and taste like. Im like, so curious. I want this experience. You know?”
I'd want to experience other girls too while knowing I have a loving gf to go back to. Why is it wrong? After a few years you surely will get bored of your partner in one way or another.
C-U-C-K-E-D
>Gf wants an open relationship
Dump them. They're looking to find someone better but still keep the door open to stay with you if they can't find someone better.
This is what happens with Jewish media. They constantly post shit about “why open relationships are good”, “why you should give polygamy a go”, “why cucking isn’t a bad thing”. So bitches see this and they get curious, and they think it’s hot shit, they go fuck random dudes, their boyfriend leaves them, now they’ve created a whore, a beta, and ruined a good relationship. It’s the most jewish shit to ever exist.
Because that’s the point of a relationship. To be only with that person.
This
I see news articles all the time “Why polygamy isn’t actually a bad thing”
My best friend was in an open relationship. Her bf wanted to try it and she was crazy in love with him so she agreed. In the first week he fucked 3 different girls and honestly this alone made my friend nearly suicidal but she kept quiet about it. Then he slowed down a bit but still went on fucking random girls and because my friend remained faithful he got kinda upset and spent about 2 months convincing her to have some fun too. So she finally said fuck it because at that point their relationship was a joke and spent a night with a guy she crushed on before she got together with her bf. So for about a month her bf kept going out with different girls and she kept seeing that old crush. Her bf knew about that and at first was ok with it but with time it started to bother him and basically long story short, he came home one day, totally drunk, and told my friend that he can't handle an open relationship and will kill himself if she sleeps with another man ever again. Then it turned out he caught gonorrhea from one of his side girls.
Obviously not all open relationships go like this but some do so maybe think it through and see if it's worth the risk
This OP don't be a fuckstick. You'll hate yourself if you do this. I've been where you are and I wish I had just walked away.
My best friend and I are in a poly relationship with one woman
The jealousy is there from time but it's less about being bothered that they're having sex; it's when our schedules misalign and one gets less time with her due to work duties. She essentially spends nights back and forth with some leeway due to scheduling. It's hardly perfect but it's worked for us so far.
>She wants an open relationship
>Says you can also sleep with others
>Knows you won't because you're an introverted male
This is a classic story mate. The moment anyone in a relationship even mentions sleeping with others is the moment you know it's gonna happen sooner or later. Dump her or become forever a cuck.
Look at this incel projecting. You will never be able to get a girl, so you think nobody else will either.
OP here
Just broke up on a mutual agreement. Everything went smoothly, however she's spending the night at my place. It's hard to resist touching her and I keep doubting myself about my decision, but she told me it's the right one.
what a fucking mess.
You did good bro.
I didn't read the whole thread, so I may be repeating other anons.
Asking for an open relationship is a huge bright red flag and almost always means the relationship is already over.
Open relationships never work. She will quickly get a higher body count then you by virtue of being femw alone, you will feel awful about it.
Besides that fact, if she wants it open, then she already either doesn't love you, or isn't sexually into you.
Leave her and stick your decision 100%
sex is meaningless. I'd only worry about stds if she wants to sleep with other men, advise her to get the hpv vaccine.
Sex doesn't damage a woman's body. Natural birth does.