My gf is obviously attracted to a coworker of hers.
He is attracted to her too (but has a girlfriend).
I haven't brought it up, because I dont want to sound like a jealous asshole. I am sure if I did though, she would obviously denie it.
What should I do Jow Forums?
Clearly the rational option is to get her fired.
That could never backfire.
What if you guys just swap partners?
Abso-fucking-lutely out of the question. His gf is hideous.
Yes, of course.
You make her jealous in return, if done right it will work every time. jealousy is one of the strongest weapons people can use.
What does "obviously attracted" mean in this context? How do we know you're not just delusional? Here's my advice:
Confront her about this in a loving way. "Are you attracted to X because when you do Y around them it makes me feel Z" Listen to her. If your relationship is built on trust this simple talk will strengthen it, if it is built on nonsense and sex this talk will make it crumble.
I wouldn't do anything other than fuck someone who can't even be honest with me about who they're fucking
She says she don't get jealous of me.
That's a lie, she's willing to continue, but regardless, it leaves me with fewer options.
That explains it
Of course that's bullshit all humans get jealous, do you work with any females ? have female friends? Just have a good looking neighbor ? Just a few comments that seem innocent but vague can go a long way.
Here is a good example. I had this girlfriend who I felt was losing interest in me and taking advantage, so I would have a female friend call me out of the blue randomly when I knew I was going to be with her " sorry I have to take this" ........... walk away chuckling at random at the witty things she was suppose to be saying.
If you don't have a female to help fake it with a guy friend, this shit works just don't take it to far
Excellent point.
I have a knack for observing body language, and shiz. Also good intuition for it.
As I said, because her body language changes to attraction. She makes me feel second. Also I have noticed her around other males, and it only happens with a select few.
just dump her, how is this even a question?
I know she gets jealous, she, unlike me, is not keen on being honest about it though.
She is also very good at disguising her feeling in that regard.
once a gf or wife has allowed it to go this far there is nothing you can do to stop it. you unfortunately are in a damned if you say anything and damned if you don't but this is what I do when this happens.
I tell a gf I am an adult and aware of their attraction to each other and don't insult me. She has the freedom to do whatever she wants with whomever she wants so she has a decision to make and so do I. If she continues on this path I will make a decision for the both of us and leave the relationship. I immediately begin to plan on leaving the relationship.
You must be ready to leave the relationship because as I said once a girl gets the hots for another guy she is going to fuck him. If it doesn't work or she is now satisfied after fucking him she will hide what she did or tearfully say it was all a mistake and she loves you and either blame everything on you or him or both.
Thanks for your input. Very refreshing stance on things.
Maybe she is doing this to make you jealous ?
I sincerely doubt it is so problematic. It is fairly innocent, albeit very annoying to deal with this.
My usual operati modus would have to be communicating. I have with life learned that that is not always the best go-to in certain situations.
It is a thought. I doubt it though, as she is not the type of person to do these things conciously.
Obviously be a jealous asshole.
I don't know who gave you any advice, but women love jealous guys. Get fucking angry about this other guy, and then fuck your girl. You don't actually have to beat him up, but get
belligerent a little bit.
I'm not even giving you any bad advise. Make a big fucking scene about it. Don't spill your feelings about how she hurt you, just rage out a bit.
What to do:
Another fucking guy? I'll fuck his ass up. Big time. Fuck that faggot, I'll wreck his day
What not to do:
Babe. I understand you're upset at me. Is there anything I could do to be a better man
You'll have the best sex of your life if you make an ass of yourself and actually fight for your woman.
Then it gives a girl free reign to pull the shit again any time she feels like she is a bit unhappy about something, fuck that shit.
Well then you obviously need to move on to the next girl, what the fuck?
Girls aren't fucking dogs, if you constantly have to do this, it's a problem. But girls like men, and every once in a while they'll give you a test. If you don't get angry and actually fight for them, then why are they wasting their time on you? Real women like real men, and they'll test you. If you fail that test, then you'll get cucked. If she keeps testing you, then...well drop her.
Maybe you should be more interesting. My girlfriend would rather talk to me and spend time with me than with anyone else. The few (thankfully) times she's been invited out by men, she just says
>Oh I'll invite my bf, user.
And then they never ask her out again.
Again. This is the wrong advice. You don't have to be a "chad" or an "alpha" to have a chick.
Every woman likes a man that would fight for them. You don't actually have to get into a physical confrontation, but just that fact that you were willing to will go miles. Now, if she continues to put you into situations where you have to fight for her, then drop her. But once, just once, every chick that you like...you need to demonstrate that you'll fight someone for her. If it's more than once, then drop her, she's trouble. But every chick likes that one time.
This is pretty sound advice really
Do it, OP.
I am always invited to outing with her and her friends (including the guy). Thats what makes this a sensitive situation and a fairly "innocent" situation.
I doubt there is obviously going anything active behind my back, and it is so innocent it can be played "off" as nothing.
It leaves me in a place where I see the obvious, but also without many options for reaction. Perhaps the question is whether or not I even should react?
Done this before, and it left me looking retarded. Perhaps I should've destroyed some chairs in the process?
But, you see, this situation is not a test.
OP, I had two ex's pull the same shit right under my nose and they finally fucked the guy. Right now she's playing you for a fool by taking you on her dates with him. It gives him cover too for you to be there since he has a gf.
It is not dates. They are three friends hanging out together sometimes. I am always invited and participate equally, even though I don't work with them.
Also, I don't think he is going to act on it. He is quiet emasculated. Nice guy really, but super shy.
I have had a gf for did something more or less straight up, so i got the experience and know when a situation is one or the other. Not shooting you down, but the situation is less dire than that, you must understand.
all I'm saying is to reaffirm a line that if crossed you won't tolerate. That's not unreasonable. However, you know her very well and why you can see what's happening and she won't stop so be prepared.
Its hard watching someone you love and you believe loves you primp and fawn like a schoolgirl for her crush.
>less dire than that
then what's your problem?
where is his gf as he hangs out with these "friends"?
Because it is obviously really fucking annoying?
But it is not so obvious/problematic that i could become enraged without coming off as an insecure, stupid asshole. Or so i think.
Like I said, just once. Remember, women think of men as stupid disposable objects. Just one time you should fight for them. You should actually be willing to fight another man for their honor.
If after that one time they put you in that situation again, they are trouble and you should drop them. Every good woman wants to know at least that you'll fight for them, but constantly putting you into situations means they are trouble and not worth your time. Even if you're the alpha chad and can beat the entire world up, if your chick is doing this to you it's nothing but trouble and she craves drama.
One time you should fight for your girl. You should know when it's time, to actually stand up and be man. If it's multiple times, or multiple times you're getting jealous, then it's time to drop her.
Guys should trust their intuition more. You know where this is going. Call her out on it or move on.
Fair point
Fuck the guy and now you get 2 girlfriends
How old are you both? If she's still young and and pretty which imply she's got options, it's wise to confront her about it in lighthearted ways. Like, tell some joke about threesome or anything. You want her to get the message that you acknowledge her attraction, but doesn't seem to be over possessive.
If she's old (like late 20's or in 30's) which limits her options greatly, and also she's been matured enough to want a man who's taking hold of her, you need to confront her also. This time act a little more possessive. Like, say "hey why do you get close with him, anything you wanted from him? or, etc, etc" Ask her questions and limit the jokes.
Alternatively just go threesome or straight up orgy swinging.
This is terrible advise. Do not cause a scene at her work. Talk to her. You will know from her reaction if you have anything to worry about. If you can't trust her you should move on
>Do not cause a scene at her work.
I never said that, what the fuck? Nice fucking strawman. Never once should you make a complete ass of yourself and go trash papers and embarrass her at her place of employment.
When I said make an ass of yourself and rage out, I don't mean be a complete fucking autist. I was kind of hoping you guys understood what I meant, not making it an episode of The Office.
we've got some cuck here
End it
I tried to paraphrase advice from "alphas" at heartiste, man. Are heartiste is now places for cuck?
Or now being full on savage that lean on extremes is necessary to not be emasculated?
Sit down, look her in the eyes and say
>if you do anything with that twig, I'm gonna pound [name of chick she hates] balls deep on our couch and cum in her pussy, and then you'll pack up your shit and leave
The only sensible way of putting it.
>fight another man for their honor
you assume the girl has any honor to defend. you fail to consider she has been wagging her ass in front of the guy behind your back
You managed to pick out one piece of what I've said. I said ONE TIME, one fucking time you should do this. Every woman likes a guy that fights for them, however if she makes it a habit then drop her.
One fucking time, what don't you get about this? All women want a guy that will put up his fists. She wants to know, "will he fight for me?". If she's dragging you into places to make you actually constantly get into altercations, then drop her. If she's constantly trying to make you jealous, then drop her. Just give a chick one time, a time that you'll fight for her. If it's not worth it then you'll know. If you keep having to do it, then you'll know.
OP here. She said one time, that she thinks he's gay (or at very least bisexual) due to the way he acted when he was drunk. What's anons take on this?
always used to try and throw you off, she's not the first nor will be the last that does. Oh, he's just a friend, oh he has a gf, oh I think hes gay, etc.
Why so sure?
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been there many times OP. most women pull this shit and a way they can keep the guy close and you be ok with it
any time she thinks you might be on to her she'll offer something to throw you off
>you assume the girl has any honor to defend
Threads like this one would disappear if all men understood this.