My coworker is a really cool dude and I befriended him...

My coworker is a really cool dude and I befriended him. When he learned I have a boyfriend he got all aloof with me and cold. Should I call him out or drop it?

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drop it, he probably liked you and decided to step back because of the bf

Most likely he was attracted to you and decided to do the right thing and cut you out since you have a bf.

Drop it. Most people are mindless animals and will react as such. If they perceive it as you attacking them they will lash out like a wounded animal and start doing spiteful shit to soothe their ego. You can't fix stupid, and that person has a clear case of the stupids.

Some guys are only nice/friendly to some girls because they want to get laid. Sounds like that's what he was after, so you can assume whatever "friendship" he was showing you was based on that. Take that as you will

No, he’s friends with basically everyone in the office. Very much a people person. This was totally new.

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Ok. So why do you think he's all of a sudden cold and distant after learning you have a bf? What conclusion could you draw from that other than that he was interested in you romantically??

Women and men cant be just friends. He wanted to make you his gf and then he found that you have a bf. Also if you were flirtatious with him, he now probably thinks very low of you or that you are a whore, since you acted as if you were single while you have a bf. This is speculation tho.

>should I call him out?
what do you think, this guy owes it to you to be your friend? he interpreted your behavior as indicating interest, and now his feelings are hurt. let him deal with that, when he cools down maybe he'll start talking to you again.

That’s the thing, I wasn’t able to get anything out of him. Just restraint and half sentences.

it was a rhetorical question, dumbass
he wanted your butt

When a guy is nice to you, then finds out you have a bf, then suddenly stops being nice to you - it means he was only interested in you romantically and has no interest in being just friends.

That's all it means. Move on

Why do you think you're entitled to his friendship?

why the hell do you even care unless you had other plans for the really cool dude coworker?

Seriously, you care way too much for someone with a bf.

He did the right thing and its working to perfection. You were flirting with him as if you weren't in a relationship, he assumed you were interested (you are) and shocked you have a bf so backed off. However, he knows you'll pursue him since you are interested and you are pursuing him. I feel bad for your bf.

This, that guy will be balls deep in you very soon OP.

ANSWER THIS OP

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The man's got a point OP

This guy knows what's up.

OP was baiting this guy along.
whores will be whores..

Just drop it. Let him be. Why does that bother you?

This, I'm not sure how long it will be before this becomes common sense among women. I feel like alot of it is willful ignorance.

I feel like something cut a little close to home and OP bailed on the thread.

Why would you need attention/company from a "cood dude" if you already have a boyfriend you presumably love? Stop pretending not to know what's going on, and stop collecting orbiters. Would you like it if your bf started to collect "cool girls" around him?

Don't worry about it. I do that everytime I get along with a female coworker or someone else.
I'm not going to risk complicating things later down the road for her, her boyfriend or myself. I like to avoid unnecessary drama and other bullshit so the only way to avoid that is to cut off people who can eventually be causing it.

Leave him alone. He distanced himself for a reason. He doesn’t want to be a friend zone toy you can play with.

I don't befriend women with boyfriends. It ALWAYS ends in drama I don't want.

If she gets in a fight with her bf and she talks to you about it, now her bf hates you and you get dragged into a battle between those 2 of who's cheating and all kind of nonsense.

If she ever hangs out with you and her bf isn't around, there is always jealousy and rumors and drama gets started fast.

I just stay away. There's no point in befriending women in relationships.

Don't be so entitled op

OP wants to bang the office Chad's brains out.

He probably wasn't doing well in his own life so when a girl tried being close to him then says she has a bf, it really hurt. Its good that you told him instead of stringing him along, but there no reason to "call him out", that would be borderline psychotic. Just drop it, he'll probably get over it and you might become friends still. Just note that its difficult for men and women to just be friends if they both don't already have partners.