So I'm a socially awkward NEET virgin girl who was molested as a kid by a family member and never had a boyfriend...

Eh, I'm not that bad. All the guys told me they loved me, I'm intelligent, attractive, kind, loving, gentle, giving, subservient... Used to work full time, lots of hobbies, I'm fit, clean, no booze or drugs, used to volunteer. The NEET thing is recent and just because I'm taking "me" time, and the awkwardness is subjective, my coworkers always commented on how out-going and friendly I was. The first relationship didn't work out because the guy wasn't looking for anything serious, the 2nd because they were bascally married but he told me everyday how much he loved me and how "awesome" I am, and the 3rd was an impossibly long LDR that would cost thousands, but the boy worshipped me.

But hey, think whatever you want about some person you've never met before. Good for you, guys.

Old fashioned beliefs of looking for "true love" to be their "first, only, and last" cheesy romance bullshit, but it's getting to the point where I'm starting not to care about this anymore

Everything but penetration?

>The NEET thing is recent and just because I'm taking "me" time
Yeah most guys are still going to treat this like a red flag. I've met a couple of women who said something similar, and they're still neets years later because they never tried to fix their shit.

Not to mention you advertise yourself as both a virgin and a bootycall which makes me think you're one of those people who think anal is a loophole. You say you're a virgin because you want to be their first and last partner yet you're apparently willing to do anything else which kind of defeats the point in my book.

I mean ultimately you do you but I would avoid a gal who told me this shit. Get a job and actually interact with people on a regular basis first.

If you did blowjobs you're not really virgin. Virgin is by definition someone that hasn't done sexual acts with anyone else, so a blowjob makes you not virgin.

You're definitely not girlfriend material. But you'll eventually find some loser without better options.

>Yeah most guys are still going to treat this like a red flag.
Meh, I doubt that, but whatever. Its not like I do nothing, I'd take charge of all the chores, cleaning, cooking, etc, I also have money saved and can provide for myself.

>Not to mention you advertise yourself as both a virgin and a bootycall
I didn't know thats what I was to him at the time, but it seems like that after the fact. I was with him because I thought I loved him. I broke it off as soon as I found out about his gf.

>which makes me think you're one of those people who think anal is a loophole
Uh, no. I don't.

>You say you're a virgin because you want to be their first and last partner yet you're apparently willing to do anything else which kind of defeats the point in my book.
Marvelous, because your opinion means so much me.

>I mean ultimately you do you but I would avoid a gal who told me this shit
That's cool, I'd avoid you too.

>Get a job and actually interact with people on a regular basis first.
Yeah, because that worked for me this past 10 years.

>You're definitely not girlfriend material.
Sure.
>But you'll eventually find some loser without better options.
Haha, you poor little child. You sound like someone who is single or recently had his heart broken. Who hurt you?

Why are you still talking to ex ldr guy
Cut that shit out

He kept saying he missed me

Try internet dating and stop making excuses for yourself.

Get some therapy, OP. It sounds as though you have a lot of unresolved shit you need to work through. If you've never received any treatment for your sexual abuse then you need it. There is no home remedy for the issues you're struggling with. You really need to get some professional help and learn how to develop some self-esteem and healthy boundaries in your relationships. It sounds as though the abuse committed against you as a child has massively damaged your self-worth and you just don't know how to respect yourself and expect the respect of the people in your life because you were never taught how. Unfortunately, this is a pretty common theme among people who have been sexually abused as children. Trauma in early development completely alters the way we think and behave forever. Its a massive blow to healthy emotional and social development. Like I said, get some help. It'll really do you some good. Don't be too hard on yourself. We're all broke in our own unique ways. However, finding a boyfriend needs to come second to taking care of yourself.

>Virgin is by definition someone that hasn't done sexual acts with anyone else
You may wanna google that.

talk to people first then think about getting into a relationship with them second.

I'm too scared and ashamed, just tried to bury it deep, but I strongly believe you're right about everything.

OP, there is something about you and your post that has me immensely turned on. How old are you?

OP, looking at your replies, you act like a total cunt. Cut that shit out.

Remember, if you're not getting the results you want then you're doing something wrong. gave good advice.

In my 20s

The denial is very very real. I've worked with a lot of abuse/trauma survivors and like I said this kind of behavior is unfortunately very common. Our brains are wired to recreate traumas for some bizarre reason. Because the sexual abuse did so much damage to your emotional and social development you're kind of stuck in this adolescent phase where boundaries, self-respect, social awareness and confidence are foreign concepts to you. Most people grow into these kinds of habits but you never got the chance because your brain is kind of frozen in the same place it was when you were molested.

>Marvelous, because your opinion means so much me.
You're the one making the thread, asking how to get a boyfriend. Why are you so sensitive when people are pointing out you have glaring red flags? I mean you can dress it up however you want but you're a girl who sells herself as a virgin but has done everything /but/ PIV sex. You can get buttmad if you want but that's basically a running joke about mormons.

VIRGIN: /noun/ "a person who has not had sexual intercourse"

Nice. Do you fantasize about losing your virginity?

>you're kind of stuck in this adolescent phase where boundaries, self-respect, social awareness and confidence are foreign concepts to you
This is remarkably true and no one has ever really talked to me about it. Thank you so much, you honestly don't know how much it means to me.. Sigh.. But where do I even start? I'm too scared to tell anybody.

Honestly, the most I did was BJ'S *shrug*

Yes all the time I'm wild lol

Do you have any fantasies?

Of course..

Care to share?

kek

>these guys are being passive-agressively rude to me, and *I'm* being the cunt

lol

It's fucking Jow Forums, what did you expect? You also didn't acknowledge the part where I pointed you towards good advice.

Take the advice and leave, that's all you gotta do. No need to reply to "rude" comments. They'll forget about you tomorrow morning and you should do the same.

Bump

Have you had a guy go down on you?

>I AM A NEET AND I AM SO LONELY EXCEPT FOR [insert long list of boyfriends who provided sexual and emotional pleasure]

Damn, being lonely for women sounds really fucking great. Where do I sign up?

>provided sexual and emotional pleasure
Nigga are you trolling? First guy didn't see me much, had to travel to see him. He didn't kiss me or hug me or even hold my hand. 2nd guy only saw me a handful of times for maybe an hour at most and I was doing most of the work and he was an awful lover anyway. And I never even fucking met the 3rd guy lmfao and he was verbally abusive and made me cry a lot

Jesus fucking Christ

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I can't talk about this stuff on a public board lolol

Okay, I am reading your post and I see that all of those guys did at least something. Now, compare that with literally no contact at all with the opposite sex. Your "loneliness" is a meme, this thread is your latest attempt at attention whoring. I really wish shit like this was a bannable offence. You are not even suffering, stop being a pussy. Just like you got all of those boyfriends, you can get another one. Don't even try to pretend you don't have experience. Heck, by now you've had so many partners you are a THOT in my book and I am laughing my ass off at the idea of a THOT being socially awkward. You are disgusting. Go back to plebbit.

Sure you can. Look I had a girl stick a finger up my ass while giving me head once and I told her "DON'T DO THAT AGAIN". That shit was unpleasant and even if I was expecting it it still would have hurt. Would not do it again.

Lmao

>Just like you got all of those boyfriends, you can get another one.
Thanks, maybe you're right :)

basically you just need to come to terms with the fact that getting molested by your family member was hot AF and that your body exists to give pleasure to the male master race

this will get you over all your psychological hurdles and prepare you for a good adult relationship

>Thanks, maybe you're right :)
You are welcome. See, this does not even make me mad. If you are a thot, you should embrace your hoeness and just be the greatest thot you can be. What I hate is when thots try to play like they are some innocent flowers when we all know they have more cock miles than airline miles.

Just embrace it! Keep being a thot, you'll get plenty of men like that. Just stop being an attention whore here. Go whore yourself out in public like thots actually do. Nothing wrong with that. More power to you I say.

Come on OP. I wanna know what turns you on!

You've obviously able to get guys, to keep them try being more dominant or find one with more common interests/goals so you can grow together

>If you are a thot
I am not, but whatever. The only men I've been with were ones I knew well and was personally in love with.

> cock miles than airline miles.
>one
K.

>Just embrace it! Keep being a thot, you'll get plenty of men like that.
I dont want plenty, just one.

>Stop being an attention whore here
Literally the entire point of this thread was seeking advice on how to find a boyfriend omfg

>basically you just need to come to terms with the fact that getting molested by your family member was hot AF
Ewwww no it wasn't, I fucking hate him. He's married and has kids now.

>and that your body exists to give pleasure to the male master race
Alright, this I'm okay with. I'm very submissive and love to please lol

>this will get you over all your psychological hurdles and prepare you for a good adult relationship
My problem is finding a guy. That was literally the whole point of this thread. How do I find a boyfriend.

Almost everything lol seriously I'm a huge pervert

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Thanks, but my problem is how/where to find them...

>Almost everything lol seriously I'm a huge pervert
Come on sweetheart, give me some examples,!

>I am not
There you go. Come on, you were already embracing you were a slut. Why go back on that? Just embrace it. I really think everyone should just accept what they are instead of trying to fake being something they see as "better" but are definitely not that.

>one
There is a fundamental inequality proven in ancient times. A result so impressive that it metrically links the multiplicative identity with the additive identity of a field: 1 > 0. That's all I have to say.

>I dont want plenty, just one.
Well, if you can get plenty of men you can get one. You are thot, you know you can get men. Stop feeling like you can't get a man. You definitely can.

>Literally the entire point of this thread was seeking advice on how to find a boyfriend omfg
You have had 3 boyfriends! Literally, do exactly what you did those 3 times. I really don't know how you can have so much experience and then come here pretending that you don't know anything.

You are a hoe, embrace it girl.

OP I was in a similar situation except that I distrust girls (Ima dude btw).

Basically it took two solid years of slowly letting myself give females a chance. I have the attitude that there are good ppl everywhere, no matter if they are in Mogadishu or the SWATS in Atlanta. You can't generalize an entire continent/city and I was generalizing an entire sex.

I am still on my toes about women playing me but since I gave people a chance I made some pretty awesome female friends.

lmao at this autist trying to sext on Jow Forums. May the gods of onions and cuckoldry shit on you eternally. It's time to go back to

>I really don't know how you can have so much experience and then come here pretending that you don't know anything

:< it was sheer luck and they made the first move so of course I ate it all up

Obviously not trying to sext with her. Trying to get her to become more comfortable with her sexuality so she can feel less less awkward about it. Not sure how you missed that based on this entire thread.

( But hey, maybe she'll through out something to jerk off to)

OP, how often do you masturbate?

Thank you :) It helps, but I feel like my distrust of men obviously stems from childhood trauma and I'm scared of guys just using me for sex then leaving me, or wose... I actually had one guy tell me if I didn't leave our casual drink we were having together (a married older dude with kids i met on a whim, just hanging out as friends) I would get "raped or molested" by him

Then let's examine what happened. They made the first move. Why would someone do that? Why would someone risk rejection and make a move? Here's why: they found you attractive. That means all you have to do is go out one day dressing like a hoe like you usually do and men will flock to you. You don't even need good social skills, men will bring that out of you because they will want to interact with you.

See? Being a slut isn't so bad. Now go out in the world and be the greatest slut you can be!

I have intense fantasies and ideas and always looking for ways to pleasure and worship a man when the time comes but idk. I just know I'll be a sex addict

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Why are people referring to this broad as a slut?
How is she a slut?

Tell us some of your ideas

Because I don't want guys lusting after me for my looks alone :/

Should have thought about that before being a hoe. No guy looking for a cute lifepartner gf will take a condom that was used 3 times already. No one likes baggage. You are used goods. But just embrace it! Just be what you know you are. Stop this nonsense.

I see nothing wrong with what you are. You should love yourself for what you are. Be confident in yourself. Live your life!

I Don't blame you

>hould have thought about that before being a hoe. No guy looking for a cute lifepartner gf will take a condom that was used 3 times already. No one likes baggage. You are used goods. But just embrace it! Just be what you know you are. Stop this nonsense.
You're clearly an idiot, lol.

Lmfao I am honored that you would take so much time and effort to troll me, hun

Ignore this loser, OP.
Now I believe you were about to tell us one of your dirty fantasies.

I am not trolling you, I genuinely want you to go out there and find men who want you. All I am saying is that your method of pretending to be a lonely NEET is pretty much disgusting. Stop pretending. You know you are a hoe. Embrace it.

Same dude you replied to here. Sounds like you just need to find some good guys. Hanging out with married dudes in a bar doesn't help you find decent dudes who won't use you as a cumdumpster. Try volunteering the good ones are there!

Was not expecting to get turned on reading about a socially awkward woman that can't find a boyfriend.
Turns out to be a sub nymph that isn't allowed to get off.
Unexpected trip to the Bone Zone!

Thank you ;)

Haha yes basically. Definitely into being submissive maybe even light pain or being tied up, who knows, I dont lol. But I wouldn't mind being in charge every now and then. Sigh. This fucking sucks.

TL;DR: Attention whore attention whores and attracts two low testosterone betas into her orbit to sling compliments at her and make vaguely sexual statements while some other dude shits on her relentlessly with some incel tier rage

Jow Forums is going down

Literally the entire reason for this thread was

>how do I get a boyfriend
>describing shitty past as to why I can't get a boyfriend
>looking for advice on how to get a boyfriend given my past and present situation

That's literally the purpose of me starting this thread

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If those were the reasons then you would have shut down those guys sexting you from the start. You are here seeking for attention and you were more than happy to get two hungry betas into your orbit.

Please leave this place. was invented for whores like you.

Go boohoo somewhere else

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I've got the same thing going minus the family abuse and being female

> abusive GF who never tells me anything that is going on in her life except when she "wants" to go out with me
> doesn't give a shit about me at all and is pretty much using me for dick or some sort of companionship when she is lonely.
> find out that she fucks multiple other guys and has been the school whore for like 2 years.
> flip my shit, get super depreseedn, get an STD check (thank god I was clean) and text her my heart saying I can't do this anymore and this is literally going to kill me.
> she doesn't reply back and I have to get my life back together from the gutter and somehow finish the semester.\
> that was 4 years ago, graduated college, but now I have the problem of intimacy and just trusting women in general.

Fuck life.

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>trusting women
just date men you faggot

>virgin
>Everything but penetration
Oh, another whore. I won't go so far as to say you deserved to get molested, but you definitely did deserve every other "shitty" thing that happened to you.

And the best advice for your kind is to get the fuck off this board and whore yourself out like you've already been doing.

The poster with strong morals is here again.

>kill yourself worthless whore I hate you

>So I'm a socially awkward NEET virgin girl
Marry me.

Well, yeah, basically. If the choice is between an unrepentant whore or a dead whore, then the latter is obviously preferable.
It's not a proactive threat, either--I'm sure plenty of the people who hate me on this board would be just fine knowing I jumped off a bridge, that doesn't mean they'd push me.

Scroll up the thread, it's just another thot playing the
>I'm not like the other girls
line.

>how to find a bf
So you have a distrust of men and a fear of intimacy, your whole life you've had nothing but bad experiences and you know you must be off-putting in some shape or form, because you yourself write 'socially awkward NEET'. How does this preconceived notion that you 'need to get a significant other' not fall on its ass, when taking all of that information into account?
>But hey, think whatever you want about some person you've never met before. Good for you, guys.
You can't backpedal on saying you're socially awkward by saying that in reality people consider you to be 'outgoing and friendly' or that you're just temporarily off work and not actually what most people have in mind, when somebody says 'NEET'. Language game is important, man, you can't communicate information proper without knowing what you're saying is right.

Just don't bother with that shit, make new friends or do something productive instead. Sort your thinking out.

I believe I speak for most of this board when I say that in the name of poetic justice, I hope the only sexual experience you will ever have is being gangraped by gay jewish niggers who give you aids.

R-rude

Because most of them age horribly so they make up for it for being super bangable until 35 on average.

Find a job you can tolerate, pursue that thing you loved doing as a kid but everyone told you to drop it because you were absolute shit at it, fuck those people, do it anyway. Give yourself pleasure without judgement and get yourself a clit vibrator that will give you instant assured orgasm because they're wonderful to relax when you're stressed. Whatever you like, go for it. When you're radiating serenity men come to you 0 problem and they will be forced to accept you rather than force you to accept them.

>I'm intelligent, attractive, kind, loving, gentle, giving, subservient..
Chances are you are none of those things
Everyone thinks they are all these things and more yet when I look at the world there aren't many people like that
You are none of those things, you just think you are those things, would an intelligent person stay a sidechick for five years? Would a kind person remain a neet?, Would an attractive girl get dumped after just two weeks?
Are you really gentle, loving, giving and subservient? Or are you just passive and you let other people walk all over you and get away with anything?
Of course the guys fucking you are going to tell you they love you and the people you work with are going to be nice to your face but you don't seem to have a life full of love and friendship do you?
You have to start being honest with yourself

>virgin girl
>bootycalls

Sounds legit.

Seriously though, do what everybody else does nowadays and meet somebody through the internet. It gives you the chance to talk and get to know each other without the pressure of meeting face to face in a public space, and you can slowly move towards this as and when you're comfortable.

Your virginity isn't really relevant unless you're wanting to date a loser from Jow Forums - although it's admirable that you're decided to keep it. Most normal people aren't that impressed by it, so I wouldn't advertise it as some kind of benefit. Just wait until you've met somebody and discuss it with them when you're ready.