Should I ruin my exes relationship or not? The guy was a mentally abusive jerk to me and revenge would be sweet...

>maybe instead of caring about his life you should move on with yours, he clearly already has
Yeah, true

Bump for yea or nay

Yea

Lol thx fuck him hes a piece of shit

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Bump

Imagine an ex-girlfriend contacted YOU with incriminating information.

Wouldn't you just assume she was a psycho bitch?

I would assume my bf was the psycho for secretly staying in contact with his ex, flirting with her, and telling her literally every iota of our relationship desu

There was a thread the other day with the exact same premise except it was someone with an ex-girlfriend who was wondering if he should tell her current boyfriend about what she had told him behind his back. He also said that she was manipulating him to try to get him to love her.

Why do I feel like this is either an experiment to see how people react when genders are flipped

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I mean if he's told you stuff that only he could possibly know, maybe it's worth it
but I repeat you are putting yourself at considerable risk. if this guy becomes unbalanced he knows where to find you. You do something like this, maybe 20 years down the line he'll decide you're the one who caused his life to go the wrong way.

Nah it was an ldr

You say he was mentally abusive, and yet you are the one contemplating "ruining his relationship" with "gossip."

I dont doubt that he was an asshole. But it seems to have rubbed off onto you

An eye for an eye nigger

It'll backfire, she will see it as you trying to get back with her/make him look bad and will instead only make her like him more seeing as he's not doing childish shit like you.

that's very petty and I don't even think it would work. if you had some actual dirt on him, it could.

No. My ex was a cunt to me, and then not a cunt in future relationships.

Sometimes it's a chemistry problem. You might have not mixed well. Hence the expression "brought out the worst in each other".

For all you know he's actually a decent dude you just rubbed him the wrong way and brought out his most terrible qualities. It happens.

It isn't your business at all is my main point.

Hmm true

He would constantly brag about their relationship and run back to me telling me every little detail about them. He was also mean, manipulative, and abusive. I think it would be good revenge but I'm not sure.
I have a lot of dirt, yes.

Yep. Sounds like an immature cunt to me. I'm not disagreeing there. But same time, who knows.

I'll ask this though. Why the fuck haven't you blocked him? Pretty integral part of a breakup.

So the thing with dudes like this is that they are very into controlling the narrative about who they connected with and why because they get off on control and, like, there's no better way for people like this to get off than rewriting history to suit their self image

So you need to create a new narrative with a new person because the truth doesn't matter. The truth does not fucking matter. It will keep you out of harm's way and let you tailor your message to prevent a future victim.

You get to snap his ass in half and save someone at almost no cost to you. Do it. Ruin him.

I did, but he searched endlessly for me on social media and added me back as "just friends". We fought alot after that and I told him I needed a break again and he completely lost his shit, spammed me a ton of times (over 300 txts) then said "we no longer understand each other" and blocked me lol.

Jesus.

Right? I was thinking this. Our coversations were either 50% him blabbing/bragging about himself and their relationship (including their feelings for each other, their uos and downs, future plans, sex life, etc) or 50% making fun of me and my lifestyle and the fact that I was single. He would literally spend 2+ hours picking apart every miniscule detail about my life and mock me about it. He's a fucking asshole and deserves only the worst. On occasion he would flirt with me and ask me sexual questions.

He's insane. I seriously think he has bipolar or bpd, and is a narcissist. One of the last things he said was that he is going to manipulate this girl and "make" her love him, seemed really proud of it too.

I think fucking with a guy who has proven to be abusive and unhinged is the dumbest idea. Just be thankful you got out with little more than hurt feelings and move on.

Pirate "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" and "The Gift of Fear". Google narcissism too

Do you think he'll fuck this relationship up all on his own? He doesnt seem to care too much for it and said he'll probably break up with her in September anyway

Thank you so much, this explains a lot of his bizzare behaviour. He even admitted once that one of his "techniques" of manipulating me was "building me up" with compliments then "tearing me down" with insults as a form of control

Tbh my dude you're thinking too small. If you fuck up this relationship he'll just move on to the next vulnerable lump of flesh he can move and control.

Weeds must be pulled up by the root. He needs to be exposed. This is much easier and safer in the wake of the #metoo movement.

You aren't responsible for the sins of some narcissistic asswipe. This isn't, wasn't, and never will be your fault. He's over if you want it. Know that you have your foot on his windpipe and you can stomp down on him any time you want it. Reclaim your power.

Thanks this means a lot. Idk, she is first ever "real" relationship (others were a few one night stands and one other ldr) and he was single for at least 6 years before meeting me (and we were just ldr). So this girls relationship with him is pretty heavy. He said theyre "both scared of messing things up". They apparently really love each other even tho its only been 3 months so idk. She's a huge skank who slept with a ton of guys before him and was willing to fuck him on the first night they met. Oh and apparently she sucks at sex and just lays there like a log lmao

Don’t even stunt, hoe. You know you still want him.

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Hell no, that dumbfuck can piss off

You have a legitimate reason, perhaps even a duty to warn people what kind of a person he is... but the reason you're giving is revenge and jealousy? Your main concern isn't preventing abuse to others, but ruining his relationship?

What the fuck OP you need help

Because I don't know if he'll be the same with her. Though I do believe she could do better.

Warn everyone about his true nature. Mentally abusive behaviour is not normal and for all you know he could be a recidivist predator who gets off via destroying things.

Then: realise that he has rubbed some of this off on you. You already set out to destroy things out of spite. Do you have any idea how good it would make him feel to see you try this?

Get professional help. Do not underestimate mental health.

yeah man, get up all in her biz and fuck with her life. That will totally show her you've moved on and that she was completely unjustified in breaking up with you.

>he could be a recidivist predator who gets off via destroying things
Yeah he is.

>Do you have any idea how good it would make him feel to see you try this?
Not if it fucks up his relationship and she leaves him

So should I fuck up his first real relationship or not?

You're no better than him, vicious twatflap.

Informed consent is for everyone. you have to do it, ITS THE LAW. Provide proof not hearsay to the girl.
Do it nao!

Don't give two shits, it's karma baby