I work as a youth worker and am always interacting with teenagers (of both genders).
What are appropriate terms of endearment for girls that don't sound weird? For guys, I can say "dude, bro, brother, man," etc. There just doesn't seem to be any for girls. Sometimes I say "girl," but it sounds weird.
call them by their names. if you dont remember their names say "hey you" and ask what her name was. unless you want to be a creepy perv that is your only choice.
Yeah, that's what I've been doing - using the names. Anything else does feel pervy or inappropriate. Maybe that's just how it is.
Most girls are fine with being referred to as dude, but I would ask first. Just tell them exactly what you said just now. "I've been thinking about it and there aren't any casual terms of endearment for women without sounding like I'm demeaning you, and I don't want to do that. Would you mind if I called you dude?" or something like that anyway. Some girls don't like it and that's fine.
If that would be too formal and weird or it doesn't work out, just continue using their names.
That's very good advice, on both points - thanks. I think I felt like it would be too formal or weird in my head, but it'd only be that way if I made it that way. It couldn't hurt to ask.
Thanks again.
Saying - and remembering someone's name is the music to their ears.
Very true.
"Thot"
Never ask if they like to be called something, way too creepy.
Call them dudes once jokingly, gauge their response and then move on.
They will correct you if it bothers them and that is fine. If they don't, they move on.
Otherwise see what they call each other.
I never use names with my male friends, so just observing that 13 yo girls call each other by name all the time is interesting.
>"dude, bro, brother, man,"
Don't individually address as girl, like hay gurl *wink*, but when referring to a group girls is fine. Protip: You're screwed.
Have fun with everything about women being sexualized.
'Mein neger'
This is literally how most guys interact with each other, who tf says their name anymore way too formal imo
ladies
mesdames
womanpersons
This, its fine to say girls or ladies to a group of girls, or even just two girls, but individually hell nah
Just don't. You're taking a huge risk by going into this line of work in the first place, when dealing with girls in particular you need to be 100% formal at all times,
comrade
I'm a young woman. Even when I was younger I didn't mind Miss or Young Lady. Sexist men use terms in a degrading way but the tobe of voice makes it obvious you mean well. Also it is important to ask if they are comfortable about any female topic like menstruation rather than assume, and don't act weird about it.
If I said I had a woman problem and needed to talk to a woman you could tel them you'll get someone for them very calmly. And you could say "sure dear" it a kind way.
Fucking winner
"Pussycat" "My little puss puss" "Pussy"
you can't really open w/ the last one you need to have gotten them used to a variation of the first two. it needs to sound like you mean well.
Jesus, you cowardly cunts would probably end up killing yourselves if men didn't help you out with everything and protected you.
Hon, darling, sweetheart, but does depend on context
thank (You) user!
Not true. Probably varies person to person but I cant stand when people use my name when they don't have to, it makes me hate them by default. Same when they put their habd on my shoulder or something
I wonder what is must be like to be ao full of hatred you somehow manage to find and pull it out of thin air and rant all day on an anonymous board. You must be one of those strong males you keep going on about ;)
Instead of a brofist hit them with them sisknuckles na mean senpai
I hear it's hip and trendy to call a woman "slag" or "woman".
If you call guys dude bro man just do the same for girls. If they don't appreciate it then just call them by their given name or whatever.