ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

Because many men have proved to be immature fucks who will hurt you if you deny them what they want (in this case, our presence). I've had men threaten me with suicide because I rejected their advances. I've had men trying to follow me home despite my disapproval. It's easier to just ghost them. (Mind you, I don't actually do it because I'm too hot-tempered and I always go into the confrontation mode automatically, however I understand why so many women do it.)

This. I'm a dude who has NEVER acted creepy/threatening/whatever to girls who rejected me and even I understand why so many girls do it. And yes I fucking hate when girls aren't straight up direct with me.

Firstly, who is "the rest of us"? If you mean men then you're sorely mistaken. Men can be just as flaky and distant as women if not more so depending on the situation. Secondly, the "honesty and open communication" you're talking about is called rejection. I don't know if you're familiar with the concept but not everyone is super comfortable with rejecting people and confronting them with the fact that you don't want to have a relationship with them anymore. I knew a girl once who rejected a guy that went to the coffee shop she worked at a whole bunch and he responded by setting her car on fire in the middle of the night. These kinds of things have a way of discouraging people, women in particular, from just straight up rejecting people. Women can be just as shy, socially awkward and lack just as much confidence as men.

You be both assumed I was talking about romantic rejection for some reason. If I was talking about rejection, I would've said rejection.

Don't be obtuse. We all know exactly what the wording of your question implied.

Perhaps read a self-help book on communication.

Im not beibg obtuse. I meant what I said and I said what I meant. Your outright refusal to believe anyone could be being anything but direct in their questioning is a perfect example of the indirect behaviour I'm complaining about.

For the record, I was explicitly thinking of a girl trying to fade out of my life after she was rejected.

So she's trying to move on? Are you implying that a man wouldn't try to move on? It's a common practice to distance yourself from the object of your affection when the said object doesn't share your feelings. I fail to see how this is a gendered issue.

More of a story than a question I guess
>have a slight crush on a girl
>I think she just wants to be friends but not sure
>actually I'm not even sure how much she values me as a friend but that doesn't really matter here
>hanging out with friends including that girl, I shall call her Denko
>some time into it Denko points out that she knows what I was talking about with a friend some time ago
>I told him that currently there are two girls I could be interested in:
> - one that I'm not really attracted to physically but I like her personality
> - one that is very pretty but her personality doesn't really appeal to me (although I think she is cute)
>back to the main talk: Denko wants me to tell her what girls are these (by names)
>try to avoid the question because she indeed is one of them
>she and her friend keep pressing on me
>I'm starting to think it would be pretty fun to say it outright
>"So one is XXX...."
>try to keep the conversation around that girl
>Denko wants me to tell her the second name and get back to the first girl later
>"Uhhhh..."
>"Come on user"
>"Denko."
>everybody goes like "Shieeeeet"
>Denko goes to a restroom
>my friend congratulates me
>everybody starts clapping
Okay, people didn't clap. I guess we'll stay friends tho. I think she explicitly stated that we are friends later on but I'm not sure because I was drunk.

Because of her "okay, but we'll still be friends, right?" followed by her trying to fade out of my life.

Are you retarded? You're so hung up on being offended that the question was directed at women that you've managed to dodge answering it the entire time.

Nobody?

>thinking that "let's be friends!" after a refusal is anything but an empty phrase and calling someone else retarded
I'm lmaoing at your life, son. Btw, people wouldn't be snappy at you if you didn't ask your question in an obviously insulting manner.

>women implying insult where there isn't one
I can't imagine having to live your life.

>Why can't you be open and communicate honestly like the rest of us?
>not insulting
I can't imagine having your social skills.

i'm a little bit aspergery and don't do the social situations all too well
>work as a chef
>one of the other chefs last day was today
>had afterwork drinks
>had a few drinks, normally we're only allowed 1. the manager got out one of the fancy ass bottles of whisky that's normally like $30 a glass
>one of the waitresses that's here on a working holliday was sitting next to me real close
>kept brushing her leg against mine and bumping her hsoulder into mine
>when we were leaving she asked me to walk her home
>it was fucking cold so i gave her my jacket
>she held my hand on the way to her place
>walk her to the backpackers place she was staying at
>she gives me my jacket back and kisses me on the cheek
>we said good night then i walked home
was she willing to fug and i blew it or am i overthinking? i was feeling quite a bit buzzed and she wasn't exactly able to wlak straight

this is common as fuck here. doesn't matter who or what you're specifying either. and yes they're retarded. that's the only conclusion that makes any sense. anyway. your girl is a massive pussy and selfish and her feelings are hurt so she's running away to protect herself because she doesn't value people when they cause her discomfort

kys

>You be both assumed I was talking about romantic rejection for some reason. If I was talking about rejection, I would've said rejection.
>For the record, I was explicitly thinking of a girl trying to fade out of my life after she was rejected.

Are you brain damaged?

How should I ask the girl I've been having sex with if she's down to be fwb without it looking like I've caught feelings when I message her out of the blue?
I don't want to date or have a gf but the sex is good

Did you tell her if she was the ugly but nice one or the pretty but bitchy one?

>that's insulting
How the fuck have you not killed yourself yet if that hurt your feelings?

Are you? The posts I was replying to explicit explained why women refuse to reject men directly. Completely irrelevant to my question and my situation. Don't embarrass yourself like that again.

You're probably under the assumption that I'm crying because of your comment, but that isn't true. I'm literally just replying in the same kind of tone because I'm gonna be bitchy if you act like a little bitch. Maybe watch what you say if you can dish it out, but not take it.

I don't know if you picked up on this but you're not making any sense and everybody in this thread thinks you're an asshole. You just chastised me for claiming that you were talking about romantic rejection and then in the very next post openly admitted that you're talking about romantic rejection. Seriously, are you concussed?

>how can I prove this guy us a total jerk for wrongly implying women are petty, insecure and afraid of direct confrontation?
>I've got it! I'll imply insult where none was given, adopt a bitch little tone and then make insulting implications of my own!
Lol. You're a walking stereotype, love.

it is pretty obvious that you have no feels for her if you want to be fwb instead of a couple

>i speak for everyone itt and we all think
unironically kys, you and every other pompous fucking ass who takes shit personally in these threads and then pulls this horseshit you're doing now. fuck off and drink bleach

Again, you must be illiterate. Must be that peanut woman brain of yours. Let's play spot the difference, shall we?

>women don't openly reject men because of X, Y, Z
>I, a man, am the one who rejected therefore X, Y and Z are irrelevant
Can you see it? Give those 2 brain cells of yours a good run together and see if you can do it, sweetie.

>talking to girls you don't know is creepy
>going out of you way to avoid talking to girls is creepy
>pretending they don't exist too is creepy

How do I avoid giving my class an impression of being an antisocial creep when I actually am one, can I transmute these opinions into ones of similar nature like being shy or anxious instead?

Attached: 1087 - 1hW3dkz.png (303x566, 163K)

No one needs to prove that you're a jerk. You do a great job of advertising that fact loud and clear. Its become quite clear that women avoid direct confrontation with you because you're an unbearable cunt and avoiding any contact is a hundred times easier than trying to have a conversation with a waste of space like you.

>unironically kys, you and every other pompous fucking ass who takes shit personally in these threads
So you get all bent out of shape when you act like an asshole and then people call you on it, huh? How is that jello spine working out for you?

>I'm not talking about romantic rejection
>Here is a post where I'm specifically speaking about romantic rejection
How is that wet tissue brain working out for you?

My gf broke up with me a week ago, because she was tired of giving me chances to get my shit together. We still talk, and can be friendly, however she constantly brings up bad stuff about our relationship such as "my friend's boyfriend does x good thing, it's a shame you didn't do that".

I told her I'd win her back by getting my shit together with the only stipulation that if she hooks up with anyone I won't be getting back together with her. She still loves me, but complains that her keeping the door open for me is essentially giving me another chance. I told her she can do whatever she feels is right for herself, and repeated what I stated above.

Meanwhile, I am working furiously to get my shit together and do everything in my power to improve myself. I ideally want to win her back, but her breaking up with me gave me a wake up call that goes beyond her (should we not get back together).

Am I handling this correctly? Is there anything I should do/not do?

Attached: 4k-picture-Is-4K-Wallpaper.jpg (3840x2160, 1.12M)

>make a negative generalization and wonder why people might be insulted
>proceed to whine and bitch for hours when someone reacts to it as a consequence
>claim that calling someone out is somehow avoiding confrontations/not communicating honestly
You're surprisingly emotional for a man, maybe calm down a little?

Triggered as fuck lmao. As I said, you're a walking stereotype. Women like you are directly responsible for the embarrassing perception of women that so many men hold. And ironically, you perpetuate it in your PMSing bitter attempt at shoiting those perceptions down.

Yeah you said that already, remember? It was right before I explained the difference to you. Shame women are too brain dead for basic English comprehension skills, eh?

>n-no u-ur the mad one
Don't come into these threads if questions aimed at your gender send you into a tizzy, sweetheart.

no no. drink bleach. what part are you not understanding?

What of your shit wasn't together?
What steps are you taking now to fix?
How does this time difference from all the previous failed attempts?

Pretty but bitchy. Not really bitchy, just not outstanding. I'm not sure how she actually received that but she did ask me about it and was saying like "... because I'm so bitchy, right?" (not really annoyed though, more like teasing) so I tried to explain/mitigate it but I don't know how well I managed. Actually my friend has much worse opinion of her and I can't say he's unreasonable. It doesn't trouble me though. In comparison what I liked about the second girl was how she makes effort. I actually dance with her in pair so I really appreciate that.

>being so triggered that you're reduced to zero arguments and condescending remarks
You're on an anonymous forum. You could easily shut up and just pretend to be someone else, yet you insist on embarassing yourself further. Pathetic.

Open to both

>state gender
>what are some little problems in a potential partner that you personally consider to be huge red flags (e.g. drink too much soda, can't cook, etc.)

femanons, are there any circumstances under which you would date a short (like 5'6) & ugly (shitty face) but otherwise confident man?

>not realizing you're talking to several different people
>thinks anyone who doesn't agree with you or calls you on your shitty behavior is a woman
>is so juvenile you actually think constantly calling people "sweetheart" and "sweetie" is some kind of sick burn
>says contradictory, insulting things then has a complete sperg meltdown when people snap back because your ego and spine are about as structurally sound as a sheet of rice paper

full wizard alert, anons. this entire thread has turned on you. you're just embarrassing yourself at this point.

>n-no u
You have done nothing but bitch with condescending remarks since reading the question, dear. Do try not to embarrass yourself further.

Quote where I addressed you as if you're all one person.

I'll wait. I can quote the one where you assumed you only had one person calling you out for being triggered wwhile I wait, if you'd like.

Ps. "V-virgin" was pretty much the only stereotypical reaction you hadn't hit yet. Looks like someone just got themselves and Insecure Bitchy Woman BINGO

CONGRATULATIONS

>instantly, 2 autistic walls of text are posted
Looks like he hit a nerve, lmao.

Sorry, but no. I could date a short man, but not an ugly one.

Honestly, I personally wouldn't. If I was ugly too then yeah, but I'm above average so I get prepositions from attractive guys too.

>I've had men threaten me with suicide because
Why does this even work? Let them off themselves.
Male
There are no insurmountable "little" problems, by definition.

It doesn't work lmao, I always told them to proceed and they never did.

Male
Believing in astrology and star signs.

how do i reply to a girl on bumble that says, "are you sure you want to see me im really not all that"

Attached: 1498171390349.png (493x373, 58K)

Ez just say "Lol I'm capable of making my own decisions". Or you could say "I'm a man who knows what he wants".

Just say
"We'll see, no fat chix tho"

Female
Listening too much to others' (friends, family) opinions instead of their own

Who keeps making these shit threads? I honestly don't believe anyone on here is a girl without timestamp...

Do you really want to date someone with such low self-esteem?

its a "fetish" if you will

Only time I lurk in here is when the board is slow and I'm frantically refreshing to no avail

LADIES, why do your standards go up as your options get wider?
An ugly man will never find an ugly woman attractive, he will always find a hot woman hot and his standards wouldn't change according to his own looks.
I mean sure, a guy will date a landwhale because he actually settles, but his taste in her attractiveness wouldn't change.

But women change their actual TASTE in men as they become hotter, lose weight, etc.

It makes me really distrust women knowing this. Men settle, women's tastes change.

The reality of the pragmatism of intersexual relationships is jarring

Dating is in favor of women. It takes very little to be an unfuckable man, arbitrary physical traits will exclude you from love and relationships altogether, while men who are average will still have major struggles with getting sex. Meanwhile disgusting, genetically unfit women can easily get average men with almost no effort. The can use makeup to fix their fucked up faces, heels to make their short legs harder to notice. A man get's none of these tools, and if he dares to use them (shoe lifts, makeup) he gets ostracized and made fun of.

How do I get over being sad over my gf always being the one to end our dates? It seems like we're both having a lot of fun, enjoying each other's company, but she always wants to "call it a day" before I'm satisfied. If I talk to her about it I'll seem like a clingy faggot, so how do I deal with it?

Attached: 1381544431702.jpg (290x350, 27K)

A few hours ago at the gym I had this middle aged guy keep asking me if I needed I spot. I told him no every time but he kept asking. I didn't get any gay vibes from him but was he hitting on me? I don't really care but it seemed a bit strange

So I've been friends with this girl for ~9 months, and in the last month or so I've caught some major feelings for her. Recently, I'm almost positive she has too and it's been fucking amazing. I've been so happy. But the last week or so anytime she tries to tell me how she feels or the topic comes up, she either ghosts me or comes up with some reason why she has to go. I know she's single and I know nothing is really going on. Why would she do this?

Attached: 1497220925883.jpg (1024x1024, 133K)

>was he hitting on me
Either that or he was a turbosperg trying to practice social skills. Bets on the former.

Are you from /x/?

nope

She's scared you don't feel the same. Tell her you've been having a lot of fun with her lately and want to take her on a date.

Just tell her how you feel about her user, if she feels a similar way that should help her open up to you

He seemed pretty normal socially. I guess either a persistently friendly person or hitting on me. I'm not sure which one but if he was hitting on me I'll take it as a compliment lol

I'm glad you met her, and glad you two can be friends! It sounds to me that either she has feelings for you and is afraid to tell you, or maybe she doesn't but doesn't want to hurt you? Either way, she cares about you and likes you! She would only try not to hurt you if she cared about you! I think the best way to deal with this is to confront her directly and be blunt yet kind and patient about it. Even if you get nervous, I'm sure everything will work out! I personally wish you a lot of good luck user! This Anime girl believes in you, okay?!

Attached: shebelievesinyou.jpg (480x471, 75K)

>tripfag
>optimistic tripfag
>animeposter

Attached: disgusting.jpg (240x320, 15K)

I know it can feel disgusting to see people act overly optimistic and nice, it can feel like they're stupid and naive and even if you did let them get your hopes up, they'd just be led down and you'd be even more miserable than ever, but me being so optimistic and nice doesn't have to be disgusting.

how young is too young? a 17 year old (legal where I live) girl has been super flirty with me, messaging me good morning every day etc. i'm 26. are people gonna think me a pedo if I reciprocate?

As long as you two really do like eachother, it'll be fine, considering its legal! Its nice that she messages you good morning every day, she must care about you!
It might be a little bit looked down upon by some people, but what they think doesn't matter as much as what you think, and it doesn't matter as much as you two being happy! Good luck!

i want to fuck my co-worker really bad wat do?

>It might be a little bit looked down upon by some people, but what they think doesn't matter as much as what you think, and it doesn't matter as much as you two being happy!

I mean I would agree in 90% of situations, but being branded a pedo is a life destroyer.

Do you know when her Birthday is, user? Perhaps if its soon, you could wait a while to announce your relationship? Or, you could just only tell close friends or family who will support you. Either way,I don't think you'll be branded a pedo.

Straight guy here. I think I might be aromantic (for those of you who are retarded, imagine being asexual but with romance). I am absolutely not asexual, but I’m also not into casual sex. What the fuck do I do?

>I am absolutely not asexual, but I’m also not into casual sex.

Think thats called being in a relationship, buddy.

Forgot to mention, I’m also pretty sure I don’t want to date either, relationships/dating feel like something I *should* do instead of something I *want* to.

Then you're fucked. How do you expect to experience romance if you have no desire to enter a relationship? Romance is what people do as a means to an end, not the end itself.

Read . I don’t want to date or be in a relationship. And regardless, you need to have romantic feelings to be in a relationship. That’s why this shit is confusing.

I never said I *wanted* to experience romance, I don’t even think I CAN. I’m just confused as what I should do.

How old are you?

19 turning 20, 2 prior relationships. Both times I never felt anything deeper than sexual attraction.

I don't mean to be patronizing but you're at an age where you've no really any idea what you want. Issues forming deep connections isn't uncommon. Honestly though, seeing a shrink might be better. They'll have much better insights into it than any of the incels and neets on here.

Have you actually tried casual sex? I've done it a couple of times and it was alright, but the biggest issue for me was that no romance was involved. I'm very romantic person.

If you have tried it, can you pinpoint what you disliked? Or if you haven't, why do you think you might not be into it?

Also ultimately maybe you just didn't find the right person to have feelings for. How old are you?

I have, I've hooked up with tinder girls twice, it just left me feeling bored. For me it wasn’t the lack of romantic feelings, it just felt extremely impersonal and vain. I didn’t like how I felt after orgasm and on the way home lol.

I’m not having issues forming deep connections, I have issues forming ANY connections romantically. My feelings for girls are either and have only ever been either nothing, friendship, or sexual attraction. I’ve never even had a shitty “crush” in grade school/middle school.

femanon here. my brother and dad have a lot of tension between them because my dad is very traditionally masculine and stoic whereas my brother is sensitive and somewhat effeminate (though he's straight). they don't know how to deal with or understand each other so they fight and use me as the middleman. they're both good people and i don't want to change who they are or express themselves, but is there any way for me to help them foster a good relationship? or is it best if i just leave it alone?

She's just scared to face the outcome. How old are you two by the way?

dude here, i wanna fuck my co-worker halp