How do I find a BPD boyfriend? I want someone obsessed with me. I'm not a fag, I'm a woman

Um no to that too. I feel like when people talk about bipolar disorder, they do not understand what Mania is. Do you know what mania is? Because... it's not happiness.

Do you know that when people with bipolar disorder become manic, they destroy their lives and relationships as well? Sexual promiscuity. Drug abuse. Delusions of grandeur. A percentage hear voices.

My mom is bipolar. So my dad being BPD, this made the cocktail of an absolute mess of my family.

Bipolar disorder is not daily. Rapid cycling bipolar disorder (the thing that everyone seems to think bipolar disorder is, the rapid switch of hyper/happy to down) is almost nonexistent. Rare.

Real bipolar disorder, is a long episode. Months of escalating mania in which the person you know is not the person you know. More like a meth addict that hasn't taken any drugs. Like a coked out person. Only they are high for 3-6 months. After that, they're depress for another few months. They can't work. Lose their jobs. You, as their carer, have to financially make up for everything they've done in that episode.

And that episode will wash, rinse, and repeat every 1-3 years or so. So, a year of shit and then 1-3 years of normal is what you get with a bipolar person...

Why don't you just search for a caring person, OP? Don't glamorize these illnesses. My parents, minus their disabilities, were kind, loving people. Maybe their kindness in their highs were illusions because their lows were so low.

Its just strange to think that someone swings on the vine to treating themselves on ideas that might capitulate an extreme from a low. Sexual promiscuity sounds a little more deranged the idea that some seek put an ideal partner by making themselves a sort of outlet to another person and run fringe experience based on that to kind ofnfull up on mania amd its promises. Drug abuse sounds right for course they may take but delusions of grandeur sounds like its fringe to the point that they can ever become more than a crazy person unless its bpd because they have it and not because someone wants them to give in to prognosis for the sake of a church or some other belief system. Thats too intense i think unless bpd is something else im not understanding. How do people like that not funnel out of society to like a point of collapsing their entire duration of the time to exploit after exploit instead of enduring that people become a sort of corpse to them instead intending on helping fruitfully depending on them in their thinking. It sounds more like multiple personality disorder.

You don't want this like everyone else has said. If you'd like, you can PayPal me don't money and I'll pretend to like you for a few weeks and then leave.

Can you paypal me money for having to think you really believe this person thinks this or does that give you the right to confirm an insult against me.

I have no idea what you are trying to say.

BPD is for people that want to ruin their lives. You're better off killing yourself.

I'm not sure why it's something you'd so readily seek
I have diagnosed, unmedicated BPD1 that tends to manifest as a neediness towards my girlfriend. It was a struggle to maintain in my teen years but I've realized myself a bit more since then and can tell healthy thoughts from the BPD thoughts more often than not, now. I try not to smother my girlfriend but still spend as much time with her when she's home as I can. I offset it by only asking periodically through her day how work, errands, or whatever else is going. I still fear that one day she's gong to decide she doesn't like all the attention.

Or maybe she finds her legit BPD boyfriend and HE kills her?

I use ecosia for just this reason

Do you really want one, with all that comes with it? I'm the obsessive type. If I fell in love with you, I would worship you, always support you, be interested in your life and tell you you're Hitler's second coming. But would you really want to be with an ivy-man who has almost no life outside you and exists to be your mirror?

Gee, shut up already.

What is it to be an Ivy man? Also if you were to describe yourself as hitler's passionate mate would make the other person der fuhrer? Is this a common thing? I was called this by someone and your whole story just held a scent of like scalding soup and I love soup but it sounds like it might burn since its so hot.

Oh yeah also does tgis mean bpf cannot collect dbtlity? Disability no pun intended

>What is it to be an Ivy man?
In my language there's a phrase "ivy-woman" that describes a woman who structures her life entirely around male partner, as in supporting his goals and dreams instead of pursuing her own. Just as ivy grows around solid structures and needs them to support itself, so such women need a man to give purpose and direction to their lives. So an ivy-man would be a genderflipped version of this.

>Also if you were to describe yourself as hitler's passionate mate would make the other person der fuhrer? Is this a common thing?
I think this is specifically my thing. I am not a National Socialist, but I'm fascinated with the Third Reich and among other things with utter dedication to the Fuhrer that was integral to the Nazi mindset. My dream of ideal love revolves such a total dedication to a person.

>You probably rejected him because he was "weird".
lol this so hard

And yes, I actually compared my oneitis to Hitler and told her I want to be her Eva Braun, being an artist she even wanted to design uniforms for future not-SS, kek. Still, she rejected me and I think I know why - such mindset reveals I don't have a personality on my own and need slavish attachment to something or somebody in order to have purpose in my life. That's why I asked if you're serious about wanting that.

>I'm not a fag, I'm a woman
Nah, you're a fag.

Go away, fag.

Im not that person I am male and someone called me der fuhrer and I pined long enough to know that i had a choice or an option but never truly realized that I being a bit slavish in my own and am going to lose out as a whole. I bought a wood cutting blade set to learn how to carve out a new spine. Hehe.

I thought maybe it was you and wanted to have send my number over this thing to get some texting going amd maybe talk on the phone.

I'm male too, so it's probably not me.

She said just long enough to meet a white man

Ywo in one day

>Bi polar disorder then.
enjoy your emotional abuse

Why the fuck are you on the internet OP don't you love me?

Needed to read this, thanks user. I'm sorry you went through that.

You're telling me. Naturally I'm inclined to disassociate with any pre-existing condition as why someome is bi-polar but without any real credentials Im spooked to relate any formative and coherent thought to the situation as a advice. I do like to believe that most of it is entitlement but then thats why i mentioned a pfe existing condition. Of course someone descrined the mani and I just cant imagine that isnt more like an issue with the brain because bpd always seemed more hormone based to me. Like when I get a rush now its a lot more like clear energy rather than warming energy like when I was younger.

lmao it's this because pete davidson? go fuck yourself if you're shopping for guys with mental disorders. chances are you'll be neglectful and a fucking cunt to him in return.

this is why I don't respect women

OP here. Maybe I wouldn't want that kind of attention after a while but you sound interesting. Do you have a bad paat that caused that?

You probably have BPD yourself.

This is the most retarded post on Jow Forums I've seen yet, even the indian guy wasn't this cringey. I doubt you've done ANY research on Bi-Polar D/O. if you had you're post would probably be more like "help I have a fetish for men with debilitating mental disorders." Good luck with life if/when you find one, then good luck with the restraining order you'll need in order to live that life.....

>How do I find a BPD boyfriend?

>Find someone cripplingly shy.
>Be nice to them once.

>if they are older, chances are they have been burned before and require repeated exposure to niceness in order to open up. Basically, they will need you to reinforce the idea that you actually want them around.
>Be nice to them frequently.

The first set of instructions will make them obsessed.
The second set of instructions will make them more likely to show it.

Yeah. The emotional high you get from a BPD relationship is like any other, but the lows are not fucking worth it. Enjoy getting ghosted/abused and left for someone they set up to be with over a small and inconsequential problem that could be sorted out with a conversation. Along the way, also enjoy the gas-lighting, projection, insecurity and infidelity as well as substance abuse. You will have good times, great times, but it all means nothing when you realize the person you thought you were connected to doesn't even exist.

is not like any other*

>Hmm, so what guy would be obsessed to the point of illness then? I think the idea is cute.
>sorry that happened to you though. i had a similar upbringing!

and yet you want back in

>Do you have a bad paat that caused that?
Well, I did have an abusive childhood, but people do come out of horrible homes without losing their soul. It likely had some influence but I don't know how much.

There are fucking tons of beta male out there. That's a fucked up questions you have way too many problems in your brain, look for a psychologist

This so much

Emma?

It's like saying "I want to date a white shark when I'm swimming on my period", the fun is guaranteed my love.

t. BPDfag

If you mean "obsessed with me" as in "obsessed with making you fucking miserable" then...