How to make sex better in a 7+ year monogamous relationship with 2 kids?
- things were very freaky before we settled down for me (not necessarily for him) - traumatic incident had diminished sex drive approx. 4 months before becoming pregnant 1st time - occasionally have amazing sex - most of the time too darn busy and tired
He's honestly kind of a jerk. Doesn't make an ounce of effort to be romantic. The "I don't give a crap" attitude was reverse psych sexy before kids and marriage--now it feels kind of lame. But in all honesty, when I'm horny he's exhausted and vice verse. We both work full time.
Lately, he's been complaining every other man in the world has more sex. We get in 3 times a week, primarily on the weekend.
Both my husband and I work 50 hours week, have 5 kids and still have sex at least once a day. It's about effort . We place importance on sex. There are night's we are tired but that time is important for your relationship. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel, maybe have a date night a couple times a month. Have some fun together.
Tyler Cooper
hey rephrase this post please
Carson Young
>Sex with kids KEK
Kayden Reed
>5 kids Y tho?
Ethan Jenkins
That title is so misleading, rephrase that shit
Caleb Martinez
Sex with kids is against the law ma’am
Bentley Richardson
It tell us you are the OP autistmo
Andrew Cruz
The absolute state of Jow Forums. This thread is a disgrace
Easton Perry
because they have sex every day. you tarded?
Levi Bailey
Sure is reddit in here. If he wants to have more sex he need to put in the effort. Also 3 times a week with working full time seems pretty good. Maybe set a time slot where y ou both agree to have sex? Not exactly romantic but things get more complicated with kids and work.
3 times a week is pretty good. Basically every other day.
You also need to be open to the possibility that what makes women happy is a constantly moving target that guys have a hard time hitting, and that's your fault. Maybe he's the problem, but you need to be open to the fact that women make it really hard for guys to do the right thing.
Connor Richardson
My wife and I have three kids and we've been married about 8 years. Sex is getting better lately because we flirt a little bit during the day with playful touching and words. Also, slipping a little bit of tongue when you give that quick kiss goodbye when you leave to run an errand might do some good. It gives me an instant tingle downstairs.
Something we've found recently is that when I choke my wife during sex, she orgasms. Not like a strangle but just a good squeeze to the throat. Will that work for you? Maybe, maybe not, but try something like that.
Do kegals a lot. It makes your vag tighter.
Adrian Gray
We don't even have any kids and after 8 years we have sex maybe 6 times a month? We might go 2 or 3 weeks without sex sometimes, but then fuck a lot for a short while.
We both work full time and we both do other shit so we are in the house together from about 6-7pm and on weekends? Shopping, cooking, chores etc take out a fair few evenings a week and while there is always the weekend at least a few of those per month contain big plans.
So as awful as this sounds, I'm kind of confused as to how people get 3 times a week with 2 kids and working 50 hours a week and every day? Like kids get up early, so I guess you can do it in the evening if you aren't tired and you don't have other shit to do? Every day is quite exceptional, I just assume you don't eat a cooked meal or something after working all those hours.
Bottom line is you've got to prioritise sex for sex to happen. I totally understand that, but I'm unwilling to put the time and effort in because there are other things I'd rather do.
The whole 'husband refuses to be romantic' thing is pretty obvious 'husband refuses to put the time in to make sex happen'. Don't get me wrong we do a bunch of nice stuff together and spend a lot of quality time together and I can see how it leads to sex. For me the key is doing it because you enjoy it, not because you think it is going to lead to sex. Then it isn't a chore, it is just something you enjoy doing, making your partner happy and having a good relationship.
Jose Sanchez
Why the fuck did I enter this thread >we're in a long term committed relationship that's fulfilling sexually and emotionally
Yeah I was expecting the opposite. > long term relationship are never happy , they all end badly Instead i get >they can work really well with just a bit of effort.
I guess just my dumb ass didn't figure out how-to I really loved her and she moved on, I need to "move on" too. Ill be okay, griefs not linear,I'm not dying,ect ect.
It sounds like what you need is more romance. Ship the kids off to Grandma for the weekend and go someplace nice just to be together alone. If great sex happens, great. But just rediscovering each other will make things better later
Adam Howard
Try living with fibromyalgia. I need "sex" on average of twice a day (physically incapable of penetrati so it's more mutual masturbation or foreplay than actual sex.) My wife is a fucking saint because her sex drive is nil. My sex drive minus the pain is maybe 1/10th what I'm getting.
Try bringing this shit up with him if it bugs you. Being an adult means solving conflicts, not stewing over it like an edgy teenager.
Grayson Flores
If this isn't just a LARP can you explain to me how you keep it fresh?
I feel like there are only certain things I can do:
1. I undress her 2. We kiss 3. Appreciate her body 4. Go down on her 5. Then we fuck
This is the gist sex every time. It's not identical every time but what you can do with sex just feels very finite and I struggle to think of ways to surprise her or make things new.
Like at some point kissing slowly down her stomach won't have the same level of suspense.
Nolan Phillips
Depends what she is into. Is she vanilla or more kinky?
Anthony Foster
Dress up, light bondage, blindfolds, teasing, edging each other, sending nudes, being spontaneous, doing it different each time. We don't make it routine. There are many times in the middle of the day we will pull each other into the bathroom for a quick bj or fuck. This is the person you should live out your fantasies with.
