So this girl at work has been flirting with me for the past few weeks and giving me all the classic signs that she...

So this girl at work has been flirting with me for the past few weeks and giving me all the classic signs that she likes me. Last week I finally flirted back, and then she backed off now. She's still sending signals that she likes me, but they are much more subtle now. And the flirting and teasing stopped completely over the past few days.
I didn't want to come off as desperate, so I backed off too. Was this a shit test? Is she trying to egg me on to make the next move?
Tomorrow at work i'm going to throw a subtle flirt at her and see how she reacts.

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>super vague non-context
I guess I can give you super vague advice
Flirt with her again and if she flirts back ask her out on a date

you don't shit where you eat

I normally don't, that's why it took me so long to flirt back, but I think I really like this girl, so i'm willing to pursue it and see what happens.
I know, famous last words.

just don't do it.

This girl is like 21 m8, with a flat stomach and a tight toned ass.
How do I say no to that?

I do that to the boys at work (23 f)
Its about keeping them close enough that they are really nice to me but still far enough away that they dont feel there is anything actually between us

One of them looks like Manuel Ferrara though so for him the flirting is real
If shes actually kinda hot and toned she will be aware of this too, she will use this to her advantage. If you arent on her level she is probably just manipulating you unless theres some actual sexual tension, sorry to say

Me again just trying to put out another possibility

If she genuinely likes you and has put herself out there by giving you all those classic signs shes into you, maybe you arent flirting back very well and it has turned her off? Sometimes you I'm interested in someone but then lose that when I get to know them better

What exactly was the flirting?

thats fucked up user, you shpuldnt play with people like that

What I really want to know is, is this just an attempt to get me to chase her, which I know I don't want to do. Is she going cold on me to bait me into freaking out about it and coming after her. Her demeanor around me hasn't changed, she always perks up and is super happy when she's around me, but i don't think she can control that. She just stopped the flirting.
I want her to chase me, so I don't want to give her too much, but I am going to try to bait her back into the fold. Wherever she needs help at work, i'm the first person she comes running to. Next time she needs help i'm going to go " Alright I'll help you this time, but only if you say please." With a coy smile, and see how she responds to it. It's subtle enough just to be slight playful teasing, so it's not like i'm making a pass at her, and I can figure out what do to from there if she takes the bait.

> bitches doing fucked up shit on purpose

Are you new to this world user???

Nah dont do this, it is really spineless
Most women want a guy who isnt afraid that they are attracted to them. Playing coy and hard to get is for women because we have way more options than men generally do
If you play coy 1) she won't like how it reflects on you 2) someone else is likely to come along in the meantime who she is interested in

Its normal and is actually pretty much exactly what OP intends to do also here:

She was being friendly, you got the wrong idea, and she backed off so you don't keep getting the wrong idea.

>Its normal and is actually pretty much exactly what OP intends to do also here
Not really. I don't flirt with people at work I don't intend to make some attempt at getting into a relationship with. Women flirt with me all the time, I tend to ignore it in most cases. My goal is to build attraction, not just flirt with some girl to manipulate her into doing my bidding.
Once i get her heated back up, I do plan on asking her out. But I want her to think she's more into me than i'm into her. I want to remain mysterious and keep her guessing on if I like her or not. That keeps her interest strong. Women want what they can't have.

As a friendly and sometimes flirtatious guy, I’m kind of inclined to agree with the potential truth of this post: Mostly because I’ve seen male friends flip out over small gestures thinking a girl is into them when they’re just being nice, because I’ve seen female friends be nice and had guys take it as a come on, and because I myself have had weird as fuck moments where I’m nice to a girl and she suddenly thinks I’m super interested in her when I’m just being civil

This was actually kind of a giant pain in the ass while dating. I ended up feeling like I lead a lot of girls on and eventually had to learn to tone it down.. which was fucking weird... even once nearly got me in trouble when an engaged girl took it as me being mutually interested in having an affair with her—while I was right next to my girlfriend. I was not. All I did was talk to her because It seemed like she really know anyone else and was kind of being ignored... literally all I did was just asked what wine she was having with dinner and flagged down a waiter that skipped her while ordering, and subsequently then she spent the rest of the night trying to play footsie and make eyes at me... my girlfriend even noticed and it cracked her up.

You never fucking know. Sometimes people interpret things one way, and other people another.

Some people are just flirty. Additionally, some people don't really understand social boundaries (you aspies out there could relate to this) and perhaps doesn't even realize that here's an overt sexual tone to her interactions with you. You flirted back and she didn't reciprocate. That is all the information you need to know. Also, stop trying to get laid at work you idiot. You're gonna fuck around and get yourself into a really sketchy mess if you continue to participate in a relationship so ambiguous at your place of business.

Should I let my bf break my anal virginity?

Only you can answer that. Just be safe. Look up how to do it. Don't rip your ass open.

Well the flirt back I gave her wasn't anything sexual or innuendo that would cause her to step back, I just said she was a little bit of a troublemaker with a coy smile. And she did respond to it at the time and flirt back. But up until this point she's always been the initiator. maybe now that after weeks of flirting with me, I've finally made a move back, she's testing to see if I will initiate, to gauge my interest in he

YEs

>maybe
>testing
>gauge

Do fuq? when did this turn in a scientific experiment? Sounds complicated a fuck.

Not everyone ever thinks and actions and tries derive meanin from every subtle expression dude...

People are lazy. More often than not the simplest solution is the best solution.

What more likely?

>She doesn’t want to give you the weonf impression, so she toned down the flirting?

A cause, creates a direct effect.

Or

She realized you were flirting back so she designed an elaborate plan to test if you really really like her, so she planned it out to see if she left you alone, you’d take the itiative to respond back, and if you did, then she’s know for sure that you liked her back?

>a cause creates a problem set, which is then proceed to be solved by an exam, which then is interpreted to find an answer to a question that is probably more or less already apparent.

Do you see how many conditionals and random workarounds that causes?

Sounds like a stretch.

Anyway, the crux my original post was:
You never stated *how* you thought she was flirting with you—because she may have not been flirting with you at all to begin with.