Supposed to get married in 1 week. 7+ year relationship. I do not want to marry him, but I need to be on his health insurance for a few months.
Help!
Supposed to get married in 1 week. 7+ year relationship. I do not want to marry him, but I need to be on his health insurance for a few months.
Help!
Lol what a cunt
This is an interesting mixed flavor.
No, actually he is a total asshole.
I thought I wanted to marry him, but I see clearly now he is a jerk and will never stop being a jerk. He is an underachieving asshole who acts like a little kid and never cares who he inconveniences as long as he's having some sort of juvenile fun.
In fact, he GETS his kicks by inconveniencing people. He thinks it's funny.
Then don't marry him? What the fuck do you want us to say?
You should be an adult, get a fucking job and get your own insurance.
If you're that fucking lazy and manipulative then this is exactly the quality of partner you deserve.
Go fuck yourself.
>replying to bait for some reason
It took you 7+ years to figure all this out?
Then why did you stick with him for 7+ years then? Why didn't you sort this out with him BEFORE you agree to marry him?
Either this is b8 or you're a tard.
and you stuck with him for 7 years? a bit daft are we?
I do have a job.
A better job than his.
I am transferring to a new company and have a 3 month lag on insurance.
Also, keep in mind we have been together almost 8 years now. It's not like I just met some guy and am trying to marry him for 3 months of health insurance.
Read below.
It's one thing to be with someone and not be married. He proposed a year and a half ago with no plan to actually get married.
Then this temporary problem came up.
It seemed like a good time.
However, as the date approaches, I find myself terrified of the idea of actually being legally wed to such a shitty person.
I'm not lazy. Quite the opposite.
I'm very motivated; he is not. That's just part of the problems between us.
>still replying to this bait
> I do have a job.
>A better job than his.
Then get temporary insurance. How do you have a "better" job which I assume means it's decent and not know you can get temporary insurance? inb4 i cant afford it, then you have a shitty job.
You sound so fucking insufferable.
Leave him and start the long, difficult process to become a decent person, or fuck off this website and take the easy option of a conveniant marriage that will inevitably end in divorce.
Of course I can afford it.
What don't you get about the situation. We've been waiting over a year to set a marriage date.
This came up.
Seemed like a good opportunity.
Am I just getting cold feet?
Everyone seems obsessed with just trying to find some way to cut me down.
wanna marry me? my company offers insurance to spouses. i expect bj (otphj at the very least) every night on the dot goddamnit. and you better let me eat you out mmkay?
>I DO NOT WANT TO MARRY HIM
>HE IS A TOTAL ASSHOLE
>HE IS AN UNDERACHIEVING ASSHOLE WHO ACTS LIKE A LITTLE KID
>>everyone just seems so obsessed with trying to find some way to cut me down
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU
YOU DO NOT WRITE THESE THINGS ABOUT SOMEONE YOU'RE SETTING YOURSELF UP TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH, YOU STUPID, STUPID CUNT
YOU ARE EITHER UNDERAGE OR PAINFULLY UNAWARE OF HOW FUCKING STUPID AND IMMATURE YOU SOUND
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU
Well it's pretty hard all the sudden to go into this after being NOT married for so long.
I spend time with him now and just feel like .... oh no.
Have you gotten married?? Is it just super simple and easy and you didn't question it one single time????
Why don't you just marry and then divorce him and take his money I mean you're already taking his insurance
He doesn't have any money to take.
Jeez does no one here work?? You think 3 months of health insurance is that valuable?
You caused your own problem and now you want validation from us saying its okay to leave him, we all know you will yet you stayed with him for seven years?
Ugh // that's part of the problem.
So example here:
It's my birthday and he only has money for some discount flowers. I bought us both season passes to the water park and want to go to celebrate.
At the park, someone accidentally printed his name wrong on the pass. He throws it on the ground, gets very upset. Cursing. Wants to leave.
In my head, I think "wow... I just dropped money on these nice passes. He is throwing a child like fit over something meaningless and easily remedied."
Out loud, I say "This is supposed to be my birthday celebration and you are kind of ruining it for me..."
He says, "it's your own responsibility to have a good time. Don't put that on me."
So forgive me if in my heart I am concerned about marrying a guy I have been with almost 8 years because it's one thing to have your own life and date someone who is just at the start of a career and you are well on. It's another thing to marry them and constantly have to deal with tantrums and ruining your fun.
I just see that marriage is not going to be easy to walk away from.
I'm an independent person. I care for myself. I don't need a man to buy me things. Here was a chance for him to come in and offer me something I needed. After all, it seems like the logical next step.
I just don't know I want to take it now.
Maybe he is getting cold feet too because the past 2 weeks have been awful.
Everyone around us just laughs it off though as if it's normal before a wedding, but it feels awful to me.
You choose to stay with him for seven years. if a dog bites you after you try and pet it are you gonna try and pet it again? No so why are you asking whether to stsy with him or not are you actually dumb?
I don't get the analogy. Does it mean run away or stay because I have already been bit so many times?
>ignore people straight up telling you you're a fucking retard
>continue acting like a retard
lol
Run away you said you've seen him act like a child multiple times
>You think 3 months of health insurance is that valuable?
Says the one who's trying to freeload 3 months of health insurance. The irony is oh so sweet.
Why do you need health insurance for 3 months; are you a tub of lard w/ diabetes or 50 years of age+?
Why did you date some guy for 7+ years then suddenly realize weeks before your wedding "oh, uuuhhhhh, ur an asshole mayn"?
Women are the greatest form of unintentional comedy, I can assure you that.
Marrying a retard just for 3 measly months of insurance that you don't need/can fix yourself is just...why
Lurking in one of the worst threads I've seen today
Don't be a gold digger, thats just wrong.
>3 month lag on insurance.
Go uninsured and be careful, dumbass.
>Everyone seems obsessed with just trying to find some way to cut me down.
We are reacting to YOUR post. YOU CHOSE to be batshit insane. Don't marry a good person, because no one can fix you. Marry the jerk. Those matches are fair to both partners and often work out well.
come up with a legitimate reason to postpone the marriage until after your new insurance kicks in then break the engagement. You need to act enthused about marrying him to delay.
>all these incels who can't deal with women having free will
It's her life, she can do whatever she wants. If she wants to marry him and divorce him, it's none of your business.
>its none of your business
How fucking retarded must you be to say that when she's asking for advice on the topic on Jow Forums of all places, she's literally making it everyone's business
Neck yourself and throw your phone down a well
We all hope you die before the wedding.
Say I don’t when the priest asks you shit
Well aren’t you brain dead. Here’s your shekel.