Get It Off Your Chest

If you have some money saved up, getting a college degree could really go a long way, if you find something you enjoy and it makes a decent chunk of money. I'd go for it

19 y/o male here.

There's this one girl I used to work with that recently broke up with her bf and I thought I would give it a shot. We held pretty decent conversations while working with each other and found out that we had a lot in common such as driving the same car, liking the same hobbies etc.. however I only worked with her for 2 months until she got a different job. This was about 5 months ago now(her last day working with me). I just now heard she has been broken up with for at least a few weeks.

Anyway, so I message her, right?

1st fucking message, left on read. I honestly thought we were closer than that, that there is no way she would just ignore me, but nope. I literally only asked about how her new job was going. Maybe she wanted to forget and cut off everyone from her last job but I thought we were closer than that.

Any explanations/theories to this? Much appreciated

She was probably interested in you and you took too long to pick up on the signs, if she's going to be a cold bitch over something petty like that, I'd just look for another girl.

Hey advice gal, I got some stuff, but I don't wanna put it on here. Do you have discord/kik? or even an email will do.

whoahbailey#2540

Could I use your discord? I think I could help you out from experience.

She was with her bf at the time of working with me, they broke up sometime after she quit working where I still work. Maybe she just thought of us as acquaintances and nothing more.

Maybe? Women are a bit odd, and we'll never completely understand them. But if you try to play it smooth and pick up the signs. You should be okay OP

I'd like to hear that line of thinking applied to my ex:

I had a thing for this girl in high school and we were friends, but mostly in a "I make jokes for myself and who ever else is notices and appreciates them, but I know she's watching too and that she actually gets them" kind of way. I ask her to prom in 11th grade and she says no and so I say to myself, "okay, makes sense", mourn a little, and move on. Four years later meet again at a meeting of other friend's friends and accidentally end up being the last one there and she's still there too and then we kiss and she has me take her to her apartment and then I expect to go home and she wants me to stay and I do and so on. The next few days we see each other every day and then she goes back to the east cost for school but we don't stop talking and then we both say we're in love and then I decide to go to her. Spend a week with her and things are good until reality sets in for her and she thinks LD is no good but I'm willing to do whatever it takes. I plan to visit again shortly, within the month. I do, good again but still again there is anxiety about LD. I offer to transfer to be near her (doesn't bother me) but she says she doesn't that responsibility. I accept again but it's harder this time. I give her a few months and then reach out. Nothing. I give her a year, she sends me back something I gave her the first time I visited so that I would have to see her again to get it back, with barely a note. I respond, no response. I decide the next year will be no direct contact. Nothing. The year I implement absolute no contact. Nothing. At the end of that year, I want to check on her (I tried everything but I still care) and I ask how she's doing. Nothing. Maybe I'm the problem (please feel free to tell me this part too), but I'd also like to hear why it's not worth pursuing (she's the person whose best understood me ever and I'd like to have her back in any capacity).

If you're thinking about becoming friends with her again. Say that you've passed that moment in your life, and you just want to have a friend back. If she doesn't reply at all and doesn't see them, maybe she switched to a different account or got a new phone/phone number

I asked if she's doing okay and she saw it. I'd be happy if she said she was doing well and if she said she wasn't (which I could imagine a lot of people would not do even if it was true) I'd want to help somehow. I'd like her to tell me to not try to talk to her, I've been trying to read no response as that, but I can't seem to do it. I've been mulling over some kind of option select frame trap like "don't respond if x" that would be satisfying, but depending on what she's feeling, it might be hurtful or I might just still be unsatisfied.

So I had been hanging out with a girl for a while. We were friends. Last year we had a bad fight over her leading me on and using me for attention. I found out she had a husband. Massive argument.

We lost touch for a few months then we found each other again. This time we were just friends. Then she gets divorced. I stay as her friend and she dates other guys. We thought about it but we agreed I wasn't in a good place at the time to try. Well I started to get better after working on myself and she starts dropping obvious hints she was interested. So I asked her out.

She used every excuse in the book. And I called her out on it. We had a fight then resumed as friends. Then she flaked and we had another fight. Soon it became me just attacking her and she just went silent after saying she is worried about me. Now she won't respond.

We were such good friends, we helped each other through a lot of shit, including her divorce and me being diagnosed bipolar. Should I approach her at the bar we both regular next time I see her and apologize? If I don't I know she won't because she is timid and the first time we lost contact she said she wanted to reach back out but was nervous. Or do I cut contact and move on? She was my only friend and I fucking miss her.

I think you're really adorable, you've been the apple of my eye for a long time, but I don't have the spine to talk to you, I'm sorry.

And never mind. She just told me not to talk to her after I apologized. Fuck this world.