Got in a fight with my boyfriend this weekend. Some of my dresses ride up when I wear them with a backpack. I don't really care. It's 2018. When other girls aren't wearing bootyshorts with their ass cheeks hanging out, they're wearing paper-thin leggings that are sometimes so tight you can see their vulvas. Also, young dudes around here still sag their pants so low that you can see their boxers and their asses hanging out. So I figure if someone sees my bare thighs, or the black mens boxerbriefs I wear, it's not the end of the goddamn world. Except older women approach me and tell me to fix my skirt all the time. They even yell it from cars at intersections. They act like they're doing me a favor, but I think they're just trying to police what I wear. I told one lady who walked up behind me and lectured me about my skirt to eat shit and my boyfriend yelled at me about it. I think yelling at your girlfriend in public is way worse than telling a stranger to mind their own fucking business. I know these women would probably be too chickenshit to tell a 25 year old man to pull up his pants, so they should be afraid to boss around 25 year old women too. But my boyfriend is convinced I'm an asshole and he still won't apologize for yelling. Am I being reasonable?
Got in a fight with my boyfriend this weekend. Some of my dresses ride up when I wear them with a backpack...
You're both wrong. She shouldn't have yelled at you in public and you shouldn't have told her to eat shit. Don't ask him to apologize. You both did wrong.
This pretty much.
You’re probanly going to ask what gives them the riight to “police” your shit. And I’m going to say they’re probably assholes and in the wrong too.
I am going to try to find a way to set a boundary with these strangers without seeming like a rude asshole. I think saying "You're welcome beautiful' might work.
Funny thread. I concur with the general wardrobe protocol message. I wear what I am comfortable with PERIOD, and the very last person who's fucks I give fucks about is strangers' fucks. BUT, while I fully support chewing out random civilians over unacceptable public behavior, the use of explitives in my retort would be self defeating. Telling someone to fuck off is generally unacceptable in public, and disruptive, whereas a glance of thigh, a hint of side boob, a dance of midriff, should be tolerated, and celebrated.
Her skirt is riding up in a way that probably does not seem like it's intended to. The strangers "lecturing" her are probably just trying to help. The victim complex around issues like this is just insane.
I'm not a victim, I just want strangers to leave me alone. I'm also aware that the standards for what needs correcting vs what doesn't need correcting are complete nonsense.
If you know it's an issue, why don't you just change your outfit or your bag. No one wants to see your ass anymore than the other asses you mentioned in your post.
The truth is, you're all being disrespectful.
Instead of cursing out some person who probably was just trying to keep you from embarrassment, you need to tone it down and say something like, "I'm good, thanks," if you don't want help with your underwear showing problem.
Also, eat shit and die, why someone as bitchy as you even has a boyfriend is beyond reason.
Sometimes, it depends. I mean if you got thick thighs, them shorts be riding up, and people got shit to do other than pull their shorts up all day. YES there is a difference between bitching and trying to give help, but most of the time, us ladies know the difference (18yo+)
I don't know the shorts struggle, butiknow the tit struggle. Some chicks wear a PADDED bra, so that no one will see their nipples. Men have nipples, I have nipples. If my nips are chill and people see them through my top, I dontgive two shits. Everyone, children, men, animals of all kinds, can bare nipples through the public square, and I'm supposed to triple layer unless I catch a chill? Fuck yourself.
"Umm excuse me if you don't want strangers' will imposed on you why don't you anticipate their needs and bend to fit their standards in the first place?"
Because fuck 'em, that's why. My dresses look great.
While I agree that women are whores, I don't agree that it makes it okay to just acknowledge that your dress rides up when you wear a backpack in public and exposes your underwear, and do nothing about it. That's stupid. It's easy enough to put shorts on underneath. Underwear is underwear, I don't care if it's boxers.
Yes they are trying to police what you wear, because there is this concept referred to as public decency. It's a concept that people who aren't degenerates employ and follow for the sake of the people around them as a form of respect and cooperation of the will of society. Like it or not, some people don't want to see your underwear. For the men, nobody wants to see theirs either, but the constituent group that typically employs that style of dress is also known for their aggressive and physical nature, so other citizens are less inclined to potentially engage in a conflict that may escalate to a physical confrontation.
Is boxers accidentally being shown from under a dress particularly wrong? No, but not correcting the issue is. Understand that policing isn't about the restriction of personal freedom, but controlling crime. These unspoken rules, while not law, exist for your own safety. It is important that we do what is in our own power to prevent crimes from being acted upon us. If you wish to dress scantily or naked, it's best to do so in a private setting, not in public.
Have you tried going outside on a hot summer's day, my dude, because I'm pretty sure you'd get a case of the Boner Vapors. Bare thighs are nothing and so is your post.
Anyway, does anyone else have a non-hurtful dismissal that isn't "you're welcome" or "I'm good thanks"
So, even though this girl wears shorts under her dress, to confront this very issue, this is not enough for you.
The fact that people are irritated enough with seeing her shorts under her dress, is cause enough that she should change the way she dresses?
Should she be wearing leggings that go to her knees?
Look lady...no one wants to see your ass, your boyfriend thinks you're rude. What you're doing is not attractive to him or to strangers. If you're ok with being a socially inept bitch, so be it.
However, the query in your little blog post was "am I being reasonable," and the answer is no.
Unless you live somewhere like NYC where it's normal to have to shove through the sidewalk and yell, "move it or lose it," to people just to get down the street, then you're out of line.
If a stranger gives you a hint that your underwear is showing, you don't have to curse them out. There is a polite way to tell people their comments/suggestions are unwelcome without sinking to the most uncouth level possible.
You're entitled to your little wardrobe malfunction, but you don't have to add insult to injury when someone points it out to you.
Now, fuck off because you clearly don't belong in advice. The advice you receive here will not be in agreement with your world view.
It's no wonder the occurrence of rape has increased so drastically in the past 5 years.
Enjoy your ignorance.
She's wearing men's underwear dummy
The publics view of this women's chonies, and her boyfriends shouldn't really be related. If he had a problem with how she dressed, he should have dealt with it before some rando on the street says something. If I am hanging out with a guy, and some stranger talks shit to me, and then he says "yeah, that random person on the street is right, you look like shit" I'd be like, when the fuck were you going to tell me???
The reaction was more aboutOPS man being embarrassed, than him having an opinion. Sad.
These people are right, nobody wants to see your ass and you sound like one of these Tumblr bitches who think they can do whatever they want and expect people to put up with their shitty antics. Social norms dictate that when you are out and about you should be clothed decently. And walking around with your skirt eternally hiked like a ready to go prostitute isn't very decent.
Yeah, boxer shorts or briefs. In case you're new to underwear, they cover a lot more than regular women underwear. BECAUSE THEY ARE SHORTS.
Your boyfriend hates that you dress like a dumb basic slut but he's too much of a bitch to say anything about it.
The lady only gave him the bump over the edge he needed.
There's something cheap and tacky about walking around with your ass hanging out (shorts or no shorts). The lady and your boyfriend aren't right to say that to your face or to yell at you, but you're just as trashy.
Underwear are named what they are for a reason. They are not shorts. They are not undershorts. They are underwear. That you wear, underneath your everyday wear. Thus the name. Not shorts. You retard.
ACCEPTABLE
Her boyfriend is upset (understandably) because she was so rude to a complete stranger.
UNACCEPTABLE
You guys realize how dumb this is right
In a fitness setting, yes.
Notice how they lack a frontal flap for urinating, and are constructed of a thick and durable material?
We call these, "Shorts".
Go ahead and change the majority of societies minds then! That will solve your problem. /thread
These are gym shorts, I don't think bitches wear them on daily basis unless they are jogging or something. I usually see girls in pic related
This is semantics. Does it make a difference to you if a girl is wearing boxer-briefs under her skirt or bicycle shorts? There isn't any real difference. You're nitpicking.
I'm unsure. I find the swearing at a stranger in this case overkill, but the general message of piss off, I agree with.
Telling old biddies to mind their own business doesn't necessitate the changing of a cultural tide.
Those are also really tiny! At least when my skirt rides up the fronts of my legs are covered, so I technically show less flesh than the girls who wear these booty shorts. None of these standards make any goddamn rational sense. I'm not embarrassed, and I need ways to quickly brush these people off without hurting their pwecious feewings. Does anyone have pointers on how I can swiftly shut this bullshit down without being unnecessarily hurtful.
"Thank you very much, I appreciate your concern, but I've actually got some shorts on underneath, so I'm not that worried about it."?
Just say "oh thanks" and fix your goddamn dress. They will be satisfied you took their advice and leave you alone and your dress will hike up again in a second anyway so its a win/win
Well you don't have to cuss at them, I would just be like "if my shorts aren't sufficient coverage you can just turn away" but at thatpoint I would have to use profanity. I'm not used to my man having any kind of problem with anything I do.... Because I'm a boss ass bitch.
OP is the new age girls we see walking around.
>People react to her indecent exposure.
>Won't acknowledge nor adjust her clothing.
>Goes on Jow Forums to rant and expect sympathy.
Poor op slut, society keeping you DOWN.
norms and rules are such a BUMMER.
Whaaaaaaaa!!!.
I can already picture your appearance/general attitude,yuck.
Being a slut is socially aceptable in 2018
I'd probably act how I acted when I had an oil leak that made my car smoke.
People would be like "Your car is smoking!!!!" And I was like "Yeah. I know. It's cool!" And give them a thumbs up.
Look. If you don't want to deal with men catcalling you or giving you *attention* or do you want the attention of conservative older women, then you know what you have to do. Start dressing a notch more conservative in 2018 standards. Which means, stop showing your ass cheeks, vag, and tits for the world to see. Can't you wear pantyhose/leggings/or a gym short under your loose dress?
>go spend 50-100$ on marginally different underclothes for the benefit of strangers.
Nah. Just give less fucks.
Why exactly do you need help figuring out what to say? Are you retarded?
You aren't willing to change, and it's not like it's the same person asking you each time, so really the only choice you've got is to appease the person in the moment.
That's a fairly fucking obvious thing to do, but that isn't the problem here. The problem here is that you're being approached in the first place, and you're starting to get annoyed by people coming up to you all the time.
You. Cannot. Change. Society.
So either fucking compromise, or deal with it.
This and also my shorts look like . Nothing is "showing".
It's not about giving less fucks. We're all fucking animals, christ, lady. If you're showing anyhing: thighs, ass, tits, and vag to me, then I will look. It's biological. I can't help it. Why do you want to dress provocatively? Whether you care to admit it or not, you're doing it subconsciously because you're biologically programmed to want attention.
This is you thinking it's all about you. You walk the streets drooling in search of skin to salivate over. Summer is hot. Skirts have glorious airflow. If we are wearing shorts under them, it's because we really are not chonie flashers. And you know what? God bless the chonie flashers, they enjoy the full measure of a summer breeze and if you see it, then God bless you. Have you ever felt a cool summer breeze on a sweltering day under a skirt? Because it's amazing.
Fuck I hate summer, but a good breeze in your skirt makes it totally livable.
Y'all are both on some bizarre tangent. I didn't say anything about dudes. Men leave me alone or I yell at them until they do. Not a problem. If they get all hot and bothered it is not. my. problem.
The problem was "well-intentioned" older women who need to mind their own business. And I've gotten a scattering of good advice in that regard:
Goodnight weirdos
Clearly if you are wearing something thin, very short or with a very low waist you are doing it on purpose. If your dress goes up, you are not. Most people would be embarrassed by having their underwear showing while they are outside and people have reason to assume you *don't* want it showing since you're not wearing something that is meant to show your underwear.
People who approach you and tell you that your skirt is up are not policing what you are wearing, are just trying to save you from the embarrassment they reasonably assume you'd feel. Just tell them "I'm good, thanks" or something, instead of being rude.
You've been a bitch. Your boyfriend was rude, too.
>I'm incapable of controlling my responses to outside stimuli
You deserve prison where normal people will be safe from you.
Yes, god forbid people get looked at. Oh no, what a travesty. Quickly now, hide your women and children, we've got a looker on the loose.
Eat dicks and die.
Lol you're some fucking attention whoring bitch gn
I'm not a woman, so I'm physically impossible of empathizing with your want of enjoying a summer breeze through your skirt.. If It's hot outside, then I'll wear a knee length gym short and a tee or polo.
I understand it's not about me, but you seem to fail to understand that despite how much you think it has nothing to do with showing off your sexuality, there is some underlying biological drive to want to flaunt it. Anyway, I'm done.
If you're still reading, then just invest in some god damn "Spanx" or whatever they call these things. That way if your pretty little dress rides up, then we won't see you mooning us. You should still enjoy a summer breeze with this spandex crap.
Gessh, I can't believe I'm having to educate women on how to dress without calling unwanted attention.
Simple solution. Get a new boyfriend & tell the old women to fuck off & mind their own business.
She literally said she wears shorts under her dresses you absolute mansplaining retard.
She said she wears mens boxer briefs for some reason. I'm sure they can see some ass cheek (on a woman) with that. They ride up pretty high. Her problem as far as I father, is that she's showing too much skin. She can either not do that, and sacrifice some "comfort" or she can get all the "unwanted" attention that will come her way. There's a cost to her actions, and instead of owning up to her action, she would rather call out society and people like me for not being sensitive to her needs. There's narcissism and lack of self-awareness with this chick.
I think she left. So I'm wasting my breath here. Later.
>men's boxer briefs
>showing ass cheek
Confirmed for retarded, thanks for playing, please don't reproduce.
Did you unironically call me "mansplaining" on here of all places. Sounds like you need to go back to Ieddit.
>It's 2018
You're laying it on too thick. Don't be so blatant with your hair next time.
>>Huuurrr durrr shorts like these. Not other shorts!!
What a fucking tard.
you are too young to understand but dressing as a whore isnt rebelling or expressing yourself, you will learn that via a few humiliating experiences, so suffer well
>wearing shorts under a skirt isdressinglike a whore
Have you ever actually seen a whore?
Wearing a skirt so short that you can see what's under it is whore behaviour.
ive slept with them too, what now little shit
That's not really how skirts work. If you're riding a bike through the city, or climbing stairs, or doing any kind of physical activity whatsoever, you're risking the skirt moving or flying up. I mean, have you ever watched a 6yo girl in a skirt running around a playground? If you have, it likely reenforced your prejudice, because you felt offended by your own husbands bulge. Otherwise you'd note that free, recreational movement exposes the crotch of all active beings, which is why active girls wear fucking shorts under their skirts, if they give enough fucks to not wanting you ogling them.
OP said she was literally just walking. Stop trying to justify your whore behaviour, whore.
Was theharlot in a summer dress when she seduced you?
I genuinely don't think any of this is about her being a whore or people "policing" her clothes.
I tell people when their underwear is showing if they are wearing a dress that went up because I wouldn't want people to see my underwear. Like I once told a girl she had a blood spot on her ass and got her period.
Like I once told a girl she had a blood spot on her ass and got her period.
This is what living in a rape culture entails
>Some of my dresses ride up when I wear them with a backpack.
Is literally what OP said. You sexist fuckwit. I get it, you hate women. Fuck off now.
Exactly. She was just walking and her skirt rode up with her backpack. Hardly sounds like she just had her cheeks on display
I get your point, but if a girl is wearing shorts under her skirt, thise aren't panties. If she is wearing shorts,it's because she would rather have those showing than panties, and she knows showing them is a possibility.
The whole point of wearing the fuckign shorts is so people see them instead of the panties. So if you see them... Good for you
You quoted that as if it would prove me wrong or something but all you did was agree that she flashes her arse just by walking with a backpack on. She's a whore.
She admits to knowing wearing the backpack rides up her skirt but not caring. That makes her a whore.
Not caring that people see shorts on your butt makes you a whore.
Well ally ackbar, mr jihad.
I sure hope youvenevervisited a beach or a pool or a college campus in your life.
Literally how?
If she is wearing shorts, I wouldn't say anything, no.
But I don't think the old lady who tells her was trying to police her, simply thought she was being helpful.
OP was very rude.
Cute that you screech about muh sexists when you're an islamophobe. Bit hypocritical, whore.
Why can't you just wear knee length skirts? 1-2 inches above the knee should be the absolute maximum you would want before going into "asking for it" territory like OP. Does having a skirt length 4 inches above the knee into your inner thigh really make all the difference in he world, in terms of comfort?
>accidental wardrobe malfunctions make you a whore
And you're a sexist dickhead. Cool.
Not accidental. She knows it happens and doesn't care.
>walked up behind me and lectured me
>lectured me
Assuming OP wasn't overly exaggerating, I have no patience for old people who treat young adults this way, but yes, telling her to eat shitmay havebeen overboard. Hard to tell, really IMO. I'm a what now? I recognize fashion standards varythroughout the world.
Why can't you just suck My nutsask ? ThisisAmerica. The length of the skirt isn't really relevant, is it. I mean, in this situation, the skirt is at least longer than a pair of workout shorts, a woman or man, running down the street in these shorts would not be harassed. A glance of them under a skirt should raise no ones ire.
In your worldview, sure. But if you want to be treated respectfully, why don’t you just fix your fucking clothing issue and stop being a stubborn child?
She explicitly states that she knows it will happen and does it anyway because she doesn't care. It is not an accident, you illiterate whore.
You're just a whore out to hate on Muslims.
>This is America
No it isn't. This is an international board and you're making shit up. You dumb whore.
>nutsack
Are you a ladyboy?
Because it is America, then you have to suffer the consequences with respect to the way that you present yourself to the outside world. You want a mini skirt or dress that shows up to your inner thighs and exposes your butt with a gust of wind? Fine, go ahead. It's also my right to cat call and stare at you. And it's also the right of more "modest women" to slut shame you. This is the end of the argument. Because of the nature of human sexuality, this will always remain an issue. You cannot dress attractively or "comfortably" without bringing sexuality in the picture. It's impossible to separate the two.
The big tell here is that OP isn't bothered by men reacting to what she is wearing, but by other women.
Bitches.
You're taking the side of bitches.
Of course, if you're receiving backlash from all sorts of places, maybe take a look at what you're doing, but if it's just old angry bitches? Fuck em. They getmadabout everything.
If you want people to leave you alone stop dressing like a whore.
>I'm right, it's everybody else that's wrong about what constitutes something that is socially acceptable!
>whore
>mfw
you're a retarded whore plain and simple. it's hard for you to look decent in a way that isn't explicit because you're an immature rebel. it sounds like you are 12 years old too. you should probably kill yourself.
You are one oblivious dumb whore LOL
Oh pipe down, whore. You're a dumb whore who got called out and now you're redirecting to fucking reddit? You couldn't announce yourself any harder as a pathetic newfag dirty whore that only found Jow Forums a week ago if you were actively trying.
Hang yourself, whore. Nobody loves you.
OP, I agree its nobodys business but your energy is misdirected. I'm calling you out for wearing a backpack with a dress. I would never, I want to look good and the backpack is not a fashion accessory.
Show off that dress and ass OP. The same faggots who are calling you a whore are probably the sames ones who couldn't even talk to you without stammering.