How do I get a girlfriend who is equally the same amount of loser I am?

I think that you underestimate how media shape our understanding of reality. Dysfunctional women are constantly romanticized and impressionable people (especially people who don't interact with other people much and I assume that is a part of what makes OP think that he is a loser) often fall for it. I might be too presumptuous, but I want him to really know what he's getting himself into.

Check people on Jow Forums. Real life it’s hard to find. But people on the Internet may not live near you.

>but I want him to really know what he's getting himself into.
What exactly would I be getting into? I have no point of reference. I'm not trying to romanticize loser girls, but I do require they not be insane.

When I look at /soc/ all I see is dick pics

you dont, ppl who obsess with loser/winner dychotomy and happen to be female will replace you with a winner

sure temporarily some will be with you, but you being a loser will never be ok with them

So is it impossible for a female to be a loser because they all could just easily get a winner? Because if a female can get a winner then that means she's not a loser.
Although I'm not after loser girls because they're the same level as me I just think they're personality would be more relatable than your average socialite girl.
But when I say loser girl I don't mean self defeating depressive self destructive. I just mean someone who is socially inept and has no friends like me.

Then by all means, you'll be able to inform him better than any of us since you were actually there. Being informed never hurts.
I do agree entirely with how fantastic media's portrayal of this kind of woman, shyness and passiveness in women are seen as desirable traits after all.

Would you say Tomoko is an example of what you're after?

Tomoko has those traits, but she's also a cute anime girl so most people would say yes they want a Tomoko like gf. I'm not after anyone who fits any character archetype specifically, just someone who's relatable to being a loner, loser, social retard.

being socially inept is a positive though. well, at least asocial is.

"Losers" are a nice group of people to be with. They have experienced failure in life and have usually grown from it. As a result they know what's important and isn't important in life. Even if they can't relate to your specific problems they won't judge you for it. And that's the thing, there are many different ways to fail; more than you probably imagine.

Not sure what advice to give you, though. It should be pretty easy to tell if you can relate to someone and if they can relate to you. Just meet new people online and offline and let your loserdar do it's job.

A girl by definition can't be a loser as long as she's not fat and wasn't born with a massive disfigurement or something.
So, you basically want a fat dyke catlady gf, right?

I can't speak for all loser girls but ...

Maybe lower your standards?
I think thats the main issue with most loser guys, they dont even notice us.
His ideal girl could be right next to him but he would still be looking at Stacy.

Actually try to approach us?
If you're still in education maybe walk over to that girl sitting somewhere on her own.
I'm too autistic to approach you and I probably want to talk to you too.
The best place to approach someone is away from groups of people.

The best places to find a loser girl?
Online, trains, buses, outside?, conventions maybe?

What to talk about?
I'd recommend asking them if they have any hobbies / what theyre interested in.
Once you find a common ground keeping the conversation going wont be hard.

How to actually girlfriend her?
Once you're both comfortable with each other and you can tell she has feelings for you - confess

I think thats how it works

Girls always want to date up and being a female loser typically goes hand-in-hand with crippling insecurity. What that means is as soon as you hit a lull or roadbump in your relationship she is likely to cheat with another man because she can't stand not having constant validation/approval. Also you have to deal with the fact that you may very well help her improve her life only for her to decide she's outgrown you and move on to a winner. The nature of women doesn't change because they're in a certain social or economic class.

they all want to be popular and accepted, they are not fine with a few good friends, or you a loving boyfriend, should she get enough attention she will start thinking "hey im better, i deserve better" and that will ruin you in ways you dont imagine

God damn is it really true that females can't be pure of heart or loyal?

I disagree.
Although it is true that loser girls are insecure about their looks,
I think that's also the reason most of them don't care too much about the looks of their partner.

For me personally what matters is to get someone I can get along / have things in common with and that's much harder to find.
So once you find that someone you can be fully comfortable with you wont want to let them go.
I mean, why would you? Loser girls, at least in my opinion, are not looking "for fun" but for a real relationship.

You think there's absolutely no validity to all the memes and outrage at women around the internet?
Where there's some there's usually fire user.

But you're judging all women based on some girls that even loser girls can't stand.
That's like me saying all men just want to fuck you and dump you and no guys want to have a meaningful relationship which is just ignorant.

No, you don't understand.
Women are bioligcally coded to be like this. It's in their nature. Women subconsciously are always looking for the best genes to fertilise them. They might not believe this, but it's how nature programmed them.

Do girls who are interested in history and have a really specific taste in music that I happen to also have and who are generally quiet in class, do their work weeks beforehand, not have many friends and are easy to talk to once they open up count as loser girls?
I give very specific example, but are they?

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Woah, stand back everyone we got a fucking expert here. Tell us more about this biological predestination of yours.

Yeah, I guess I don't understand.
Even so, the only guys I was ever into were not what you would call "the best genes to fertilise me".
Therefor even if you're right and we are subconsciously doing it, we wouldn't leave someone for reasons we don't understand.
If that makes sense, sorry me bad english.

Well, I don't want to judge on who's a loser and who isn't,
but yeah, I think so.

Where do I meet loser girls like you online, user?

I guess it depends on what you're looking for.

Maybe Jow Forums or other imageboards and forums?
- Jow Forums has more girls than one would assume tho it's a depressing place.
- Threads like this also seem to always have girls joining in.

Discord probably?
-Tho discord is a botnet so i wouldn't recommend using it in general.
-Also be aware of traps and guys pretending to be female.

Dating sites?
-You can easily tell an autist apart based on their profile.
-Same issues as discord tho.

This, but also I was with two girls from online. I met one on a game years ago called "Transformice" and the other one I met through a YouTube comment, so I guess you can find them anywhere really.

>the other one I met through a YouTube comment
Holy shit, love does find a way.

Oh yeah, didn't even think about mmos,
that's a great way to meet someone with similar interests - obviously.

It also makes a cute love story i think.

>Jow Forums has more girls than one would assume tho it's a depressing place.
Is it really that bad? Never been there.
>Threads like this also seem to always have girls joining in.
Certainly, but it would be in poor custom to flirt with someone while some user is asking for help. Not to mention even without that it's not really the place, I can't really flirt with you, for example, can I?

Multiplayer games, MMOs, online communities etc are the exception, not the rule for meeting a girl. Sure, it has happened a few times, but it's super-rare.
t. shut-in guy who's spent all his 25 years on this world playing online games.

>Is it really that bad? Never been there.
Maybe it's best you stay away from it then.
At first it feels like you found a place where you belong and it feels comforting,
but in long run it makes you feel even worse about yourself but you still keep coming back.
It's not healthy.

>Certainly, but it would be in poor custom to flirt with someone while some user is asking for help. Not to mention even without that it's not really the place, I can't really flirt with you, for example, can I?
I mean, you could. But it wouldn't get you anywhere considering I'm already in a happy loser relationship.
I'm just here trying to help out other autists, if I could make it, anyone can.
Aside of that, I don't see why this would be a bad place to find someone, I actually found my bf on Jow Forums as well.

I suppose its not the best way to go if you're looking specifically for a relationship, but hey! Its still possible!

Could you go into detail on how you met your bf on here user? Being the autist I am I can't imagine the exchange that would go on to meet someone on Jow Forums unless it was in a thread specifically meant for that purpose.

It's not an interesting story, really.
He said he was looking for friends and he left his contact so I messaged him.

Chase a fat chick.

You'd be surprised how many fat girls are overly confident and just mean.

Stop thinking that you're a loser and be proud of what you are and do.

>At first it feels like you found a place where you belong and it feels comforting,
>but in long run it makes you feel even worse about yourself but you still keep coming back.
>It's not healthy.
Sounds a bit like Jow Forums in a nutshell.

And I'm happy for you! I understand this is a personal matter and you're not under any obligation to tell us, but I believe that relationship could be a helpful reference. How did you get together?
Again, if you're not comfortable sharing, there's no need.

no

>Jow Forums has more girls than one would assume tho it's a depressing place.

LOLOL. That's just wishful thinking, Jow Forums has exactly the amount of girls you'd find in a board that houses misogynists, misogynist-homosexuals and homosexuals. I'm partly convinced that Jow Forums 2.0 is some sort of social experiment to see the effects of no female contact on beta males.

Thank you, user!
I don't mind sharing stories as long as someone is interested in reading them.

It didn't go too well at first, when he found out I'm female he was somewhat rude, calling me a trap and all.
I didn't have much else to do that day so I kept talking to him anyway.
With time we realized we actually have a lot in common and we have the same interests.
We started talking to each other on daily and while I was away I genuinely couldn't wait to talk to him again.
It didn't take long for us to end up in a long distance relationship.
He confessed first and asked me if I would want to go out with him and I obviously said yes.
A couple of months later we decided to meet up, I was very nervous that he wouldn't like me irl
or that I would be too autistic to even talk to him ( I never properly spoke to a guy in my life before ).
However, it all went pretty smoothly, fast forward couple of months and he proposed to me.
Soon Ill be marrying my first and only boyfriend.

So yeah, that's the whole story.

Idk, I've met quite a few females on Jow Forums over the years.
Around the US election time is when they started appearing more often.

You do have to keep in mind most girls don't mention they're female when shitposting on Jow Forums, I know I don't.

As a loser myself: don’t look for a loser girl. She will constantly need attention and will jump to another dick when you’re not around. Or at least that’s what my ex did to me

Become a winner and you can have everyone

But what does "a winner" even mean?

Winner: A male who has above average income and who is successful socially. The first one is relatively easy as long as you are not depressed and can study/put in the work, but the second one is the real bummer for me and I can certainly say I'm one hell of a big loser and can't give any advice on behalf of that

That's sweet, thank you. How often did you talk at first, before going daily?

>when he found out I'm female he was somewhat rude, calling me a trap and all.
>Women? In your imageboards? It's more likely than you think

>Idk, I've met quite a few females on Jow Forums over the years.
There'll be some inevitably, but not more than you'd assume.

>You do have to keep in mind most girls don't mention they're female when shitposting on Jow Forums, I know I don't.
You can usually tell who is female or not on Jow Forums.

The other thing is, most of them are teens or in their early 20s, which annoys me somewhat but I guess most of Jow Forums is in their teens or early 20s.

Well we spoke every day from the begining just not as much as we did later on,
when I said we started talking daily I meant we started talking to each other for hours, as much as we could.

>You can usually tell who is female or not on Jow Forums.
Can you actually tho? What gives it away?
At least in my experience no one was ever able to tell, people online just assume I'm a guy from the get-go,
and if I do tell them otherwise (which i usually never do) they don't believe it.

>The other thing is, most of them are teens or in their early 20s, which annoys me somewhat but I guess most of Jow Forums is in their teens or early 20s.
Yeah, I believe most Jow Forums users are either in their teens or early 20s as well,
what is it that annoys you about it? How old are you?

Developing a sense of self-worth and moving onto better people isn't a lack of loyalty, m8. That's the best outcome.

Don't like it? Tough shit. Either grow with your partner or lose them.

>Spend time and effort developing a relationship with someone
>They leave you the moment they think they've found someone better
How is this not being unloyal? No one said you shouldn't grow either but why even be with someone who's just waiting for the chance at someone better than you?

>t. some retard that uses half memories of sixth grade biology to rationalize doing whatever he wants, and projects his shitty mentality on everyone else to feel better about it
Even if you are right (you're not,) people that let muh body/muh biology dictate everything that they do are pathetic, weak-minded failures. Being a retard knows no sex, race, or creed. Please don't breed, some people want our species to advance.

lulz

So is that how we treat partners? Find someone good through trial and error? Sounds lovely.

>Can you actually tho? What gives it away?
Their tone usually softer and less antagonistic unless the thread is one of those "opaque" shit posting ones.

>what is it that annoys you about it?
a) The problems all these kids have will be solved by time and some effort
b) They *have* time
c) There's a level of disconnect between me and them.

>How old are you?
28.

>They *have* time
?
>28
You're still a kid yourself.

>?
They have the time to fix things.

>You're still a kid yourself.
Arguable but there's a reason the "old" user threads start at 25 and wizardhood starts at 30. When you haven't passed any of the usual milestones by 25, you're kinda fucked.

Ah alright, I suppose that does make sense.
I feel that way too with some anons, like we are not on the same page.
Perhaps those anons are under 18.

Im only 20 tho so I must ask,
Is there anything you wish you did in your early 20s and you didn't?
Or is there something you would tell your 20 year old self now if you could .. what would it be?
I'm sorry for going off topic, just curious.

>Is there anything you wish you did in your early 20s and you didn't?
Join the anime club.

>Or is there something you would tell your 20 year old self now if you could .. what would it be?
Join the fucking anime club.

I hid my powerlevel when I was younger cos there was no place to talk with people about that sort of thing. I should have ventured out of my area and looked for it or at least gone to forum meetups when forums were still for losers and weirdos.

Hell, if I joined the furries I would be in a better place than now, since they seem to be doing relatively well for themselves.

Bee urslf user. As dumb as it sounds it's useful advice when you're young. Find like-minded people, socialise more, get out more, don't try and change yourself so can hang with the cool kids, it doesn't work etc.

/thread

Now kiss

She's taken, mah boy.
A chill gal, she seems like good company.

How do you know she's taken?

She said so later on.

Oh well
At least it gives losers hope that they can get a happy loser relationship

Yep, that's what we should get out of it.
It's all a matter of giving it a try.

Maybe when i go to university i can become friends with that one lonely loser girl who is just like me
Just my sad fantasy

As long as you have something to drive you, it's a start.
I've personally hit rock bottom and I'm finding that music, singing and such is really helping me keep a good mood.