So, I there is this guy who has been my closest friend since kindergarten and throughout middle school. We went to separate high schools and that's when he started ignoring me. Not in a sense of not answering my messages or calls or something like that. But basically, him spending time with other friends (ppl with whom I've hung out with as well) and with his gf. In the past 3 years we've only hung out a couple of times and it was on my behalf 90% of the time. I get the feeling that he doesn't think of me so fondly anymore.
Today he called me to come over to his house and I want to have the talk with him. The talk that we are basically not friends anymore and that we shouldn't talk for a while. But I don't wanna do it in the dude's house, it seems kinda rude to me. But trust me, this is the only schedule he has for me so it's now or never. And as for texting, I don't want to have that kind of talk over text, you get me?
Now, should I have the conversation at his house or not?
People grow apart. I've never broken up with a friend the wind just takes them away so to speak. Also I wouldn't advise having a break up talk. Just hang out and enjoy the time you do spend with eachother.
If you two have been together since kindergarten then of course he will always love and remember you. Why do you want to shit all over that precious thing?
Matthew Myers
>friend doesn't spend time with me >friend has offered to spend time with me >I don't want to be friends anymore
What do you actually want? Because you seem to be confused.
Caleb King
Because he never had time for me, not even when I was in my most depressed state and when I started taking drugs.
Elijah Morris
It's not healthy to be dependent on one person this much
Colton Bennett
You're acting out of an emotional response. That's not a good thing and nobody is going to tell you this is a good idea.
He didn't fuck your girlfriend or anything. There's no reason to become a total nutcase and throw a temper trantrum.
Christian Lee
It's not throwing a tantrum. I just wanna end the friendship for the time being.
Ryan Watson
It's not reasonable to put relationships, platonic or otherwise, 'on hold' and expect to be able to pick up where you left off. If you cut this guy off, don't expect him to be there when you need him again.
Samuel Harris
Fuck it, I'll find a new friend.
Jaxson Hill
Then just ghost him like a normal person and don't go over to meet him to spill spaghetti everywhere, which yes is a tantrum.
Elijah Cooper
You're a sociopath.
Levi Stewart
If you only have this friend, then you should be finding other friends anyway. That's the root of your problem; you've held on to this one friendship while he's moved on with his life like normal, well-adjusted people do.
Austin Morris
How do I undo it?
Robert Clark
I'm probably not well-adjusted. And my therapist surely didn't help.
Dylan Hughes
By loving people and appreciating them for who they are. Not by holding people to your own arbitrary standards.
Jeremiah Morgan
If people did that for me then I would've done it for them as well. But for now, I just don't wanna talk to him ever again.
Oliver White
Don't be an autist. If you don't want to see him anymore, just ghost him without any cringe-worthy "we're not friends anymore" speech.
Jason Anderson
But isn't leaving in silence much worse than saying it?
Brody Murphy
No, it just happens. Friends often grow distant with time. Do it gradually, like respond to him less and less until you stop. That's how it normally is.
Matthew Clark
bump
James Wood
user, friends often separate unintentionally due to circumstances in life. It can be frustrating when a good friend leaves but you but you have to learn to move on if your friend chooses to ignore you.
Did you ask why? He might be going through a lot.
Julian Rivera
I'd laugh my ass off if a """friend""" came to my house and "broke up" with me. Like nigga get the fuck outta here we're not women Just don't talk to him anymore, you don't need to make it official
