I grew in a big muslim family (when I say big, it means I have around like 20+ uncles and aunts, and around 50+ cousins, I only have 2 sisters tho). Islam is the most important thing there, one of my aunts once married an atheist man, and the ENTIRE family cut contact with her, it's been 8 years since I last saw her.
I am 18, soon having my final highschool exams that will allow me to g to college. I have always been curious about religion philosophy and science, and because of that I have never been satisfied with just "god created us and we worship it", I learned the entire Quran by the age of 16 and went to the mosquee every friday, prayed every day etc, but I never believed in Islam and it would be too long to explain how I decided that it wasnt worth to believe in it.
Anyway, today my mother learned that I am not a muslim. She has been ignoring me for a few hours now and wont respond when I talk to her, or she only replies "we'll talk with your father and sisters tonight".
This is inevitable, I will have to tell them, but how can I tell them without making them go mad or some shit, I want to stay focused on my last weeks of studies before the exam and also I know that they will most likely bring me to see Imams or even send me to Algeria with the rest of my family living there, and if they do, it will probably last for a month at least and I dont want that. Im 18 since February btw.
Also, as I said, I learned literally every Quran's verses and I used to have religion classes about islam 2 hours a week at least that my parents forced me to go to, no need to tell me that Im lost because I dont know much about my religion. It's literally beccause I know too much about it that I can decide that it's not worth to believe in it.
My advice for you is to apologize to your mom, that it was a bad joke and keep your muslim mask forever for your own and your family sake. You dont want to risk beheading, do you? >pro tip Feel free to raise your future kids with different mindset, but keep the mask for now. And no, no child will ever persuade his parents. They will forever see you as their kid, not an adult.
Maybe I should keep the muslim mask on like you say... But fuck I dont want to go a month or two back spending my days in middle of the Sahara throwing rocks to snakes that try fucking eat me
Any other advices ? people who have been there before ?
Also thanks for that wiki article
Jaxson Young
Can't they kill you for apostasy? Why would you tell them?
Isaiah Miller
I would really suggest you keep it to yourself. Say that you are having a crysis of faith, and they will try to "get you back on the straight and narrow". Then let it die down.
If you don't get stoned literally when you say you are no longer part of the cult, then you are going to get stoned socially. It's best not to kick up fuss with the people that could always help you out, and all the other families yours are connected with.
Eli Jenkins
Also, god might not be real, but your family is. It's just best not to put them under the stress of their son becoming an "infidel" and let them be in happy ignorance.
Carson Williams
>20+ uncles and aunts, and around 50+ cousins
It is disgusting how muslim families are so big.
Run away from all that nastiness user, where are you from by the way?
Cooper Gonzalez
But today she literally caught me eating a full size pizza (They were supposed to work today so I decided to buy dominos since I was alone at home, but my mom came out of nowhere) And this is only the final, ultimate proof that I am actually agnostic, because Ive shown them many times before (indirectly) that I didnt believe in Islam
If I tell them Im losing faith they'll send me to the desert for the vacations and I'll have to see every fucking imam that exist and fuck I dont want that
ah fuck Im lost
Ian Allen
What is wrong with full-sized pizza? Other than it's a disgusting fat habit. Was it bacon pizza or something? Is pizza haram or some shit?
Brayden Gutierrez
French here, and yeah I dont understand how could they be able to make so many babies
Although I can not lie, we have a really good and strict education, many of my uncles are engineers working over seas and there are a lot of doctors among my aunts (my father and mother are both doctors as well). And all of this was built from nothing since both my grandparents cant read or write.. But anyway thats not the topic and it doesnt justifies their behavior toward people who leave the religion.
Nolan Walker
Forgot to mention its during ramadan sorry
Nathan Nguyen
Shiiiiiit, stupid move.
You say you have learned the entire quaran, how can you still not do your best to keep up your facade, knowing what will happen to you if you try to quit?
Juan Hughes
Because I find it difficult to hide what I really think of, I often express myself a lot about anything, reading my mind is like reading a book, my english is poor sorry for the shitty comparisons.
Actually, Al-Kafiroon (in the Quran) tells muslims that they have to respect everyone's religion and beliefs, even if it contradicts what is written in the Quran.
Jason Brooks
I was born into a Muslim family, very strict sunnis.
I hated it and ended up rebelling pretty hard. Got ostracised by entire family except dad. My immediate family have started to accept that im not muslim and they cant make me one, but man do i wish i was just born in a non crazy family.
Currently trying to fix the developmenr issues this lifestyle gave me. I never played sports bcos my parents didnt believe in socialising or skills, they wanted me to pray and be a good muslim in my free time. Now im a loser drug addict who is very alone on life and sometimes i wish i had just been able to be a good mindless muslim drone and then i would be accepted and have so many friends in my muzzie community. Instead i dont leave the house because i get looks because im know around the area for being 'weird'.
Elijah Perez
Of course nothing justifies their behavior. And its fucking sad because if they are already educated successful people they could at least be more tolerant.
Is there a teenagers shelter or a friends house you can stay in? You already fucked up twice and by now it would be hard to convince your parents you're still a muslim.
Caleb Mitchell
I do have friends who proposed me to spend the vacations at their houses, but they live pretty far now, also, how will I come back to my house ? I need it to finish my university's admission and to find an appartment.... I think
Henry Cook
You're going to hell.
Dominic Turner
LMFAO DONT. DONT DONT DONT. You might get killed by a fanatic for real. It doesnt have to be a family member. Just play it as if your mom got it wrong or it was a bad joke or something. Try to appear extra devout. Dont ever tell them you dont believe. You are gonna get yourself in big trouble.
David Long
you really think thats only in islam? its literally in every religion but no one practises because the law forbids it, unless your in a filthy wahabi state where beheading is permitted.
Jace Kelly
Even if Im going to hell, what would I win if I went to heaven ?
Islam says you get everything you want and you'll always be happy once you're in heaven, but it can not work, what if my deepest desire is to spend eternity with someone I love ? And that persone either A) wishes to never see me again or B) Is in hell, how can I be happy if my only deepest desire can not be satisfied ?
Also if everyone is happy and free and all that shit, why does the quran states that there are different Heaven levels ? means some people will have access to things that other will never be able to see. Heaving would literally be a life2.0, only difference is that you died before.
Alexander Martinez
I'm a muslim too, it's a really though situation. On one side, I dislike certain things, especially the whole afterlife situation. But on the other side, I don't have to like it for it to be true. Maybe I can't be happy and I just have to deal with that, maybe things just aren't fair. Leaving islam isn't worth it for me. I'd be sacrificing my relationship with my family for, well, something I guess. I don't know.
Jordan Green
Just tel,them your having a chrisis of faith and you need some time to work things out
John Edwards
Good for you on leaving an abusive religion behind. With that being said, you're going to lose your family and should start getting used to the idea that you won't be able to depend on them anymore.
Prosper freely, kind spirit.
Jacob Kelly
>literally every religion. No it's a pretty specific issue for Islam.
Robert Foster
My advice is LEAVE. You're an adult. Don't go to Algeria (nobody can make you). Religions that place religion above human interaction are all garbage.
Ayden Torres
islam is stupid as fuck
Joseph Nguyen
It's a specific issue for Abrahamic religions, (Judaism, Christian/Catholicism, Islam). Although it is arguably not quite as bad as the caste system in Hinduism.
being a muslim means you dont know how to socialize? >drug addict you need morals >muslim drone you were a drone before you thought you wasnt a muslim >people think you are being weird you are
question, how do you get your drugs? do you go and buy it hand to hand or how do you get your fix?
Camden Fisher
You dont learn how to socialise when you are in a community thats completely muslim, and your parents keep you inside because you need to focus on allah. Also the fact thats its a sin to talk to women or even look at them with desire so you dont get any exposure to the opposite sex. You dont know shit, fuck off.
Connor Jackson
did you spend your youth infront of the pc?
Nolan Harris
how is 'islam' taking over the west if every single person i know my age with muslim parents isn't even muslim anymore?
Aiden Roberts
muslim youth are being westernized as we speak. seen many muslims that arent fasting because work is too hard on them, and people are not fasting on holidays because they want to celebrate europic holidays.
Cooper Ward
Yes, parents dont understand the internet past emails and basic web browsing, so they got me a computer to keep me occupied and play games. My dad had a problem with me leaving the house unsupervised until i was 16
Zachary Young
But you do know how to socialize in any community. Born in a Muslim community don’t mean nothing for an up comer in the community. It’s a sin to talk to women for the sole reason of the intention of lust. You even see sheikhs talking to women. You are talking to your mother about your problems, you acknowledge your sisters presence. You don’t know much about the outside world to be safe in it, might be the reason of your parents keeping you in the one place that you know the best; the pc. Don’t blame the world for not adapting to your inability.
>parents don’t know the internet past emails and basic web browsing How about you teach them? Teach them about the world that you spend your life in. Most likely they don’t see any future in it, they rather you in the world than on the net. Do you have discord? We can chat for a bit if you like?
Oliver Miller
As a tharjafag I would appreciate you getting shanked by your extremist, clan, yet I sympathize with you apart from your shitty taste in 2D grills. Keep us informed what happens when your dad is back.
My advice would be keeping up the illusion until you are independent, then ditch them completely or at least build a safe distance.
Colton Lewis
aaaaaaaaaaaand they're bringing me to the mosquee fuck it
Lincoln Campbell
run my nigga
Parker Moore
>You dont learn how to socialise when you are in a community thats completely muslim, and your parents keep you inside because you need to focus on allah. >Also the fact thats its a sin to talk to women or even look at them with desire so you dont get any exposure to the opposite sex. You dont know shit, fuck off. LOL, fuck off. That doesn't stop most muslims from going outside socialising.
Aiden Brooks
Why do you not believe in Islam anymore? Are you atheist now?
James Smith
islam is a cult and stupid like most monotheistic cults
you're better off
Charles Ortiz
that's not every religion.
Angel Watson
It's pretty bad in Atheism too. Every seen someone get religion in a family with none? They get ostrozised just the same.
Carter Hernandez
how zealous is your family? if they are zealous wait until you are done with college to tell them. they might refuse to pay for it.
Jonathan Williams
I think you should go back to Algeria. Take your family there, too.
Jaxon Rivera
>kafir thinks he knows how strict muslim families operate
In your degenerate shithole you probably only see """muslims""" aka very good actors who put the mask on outside to keep their social status up. Find me one muslim who prays all 5 daily salat and still chats to girls or does 'socialising' with people who arent muslim.
Lincoln Howard
It's not what you want, but it's probably best to hide it for now. Wait until you're done with HS and whatever comes next (college, trade school, whatever) until you really breach the topic. Maybe try to secretly get in touch with your aunt in the meantime?
Lucas Garcia
Can we swap places? I want a desert vacation and speaking with religious wise men. I'm also vaguely interested in Islam because I grew up Christian but people of "faith" today are acting so strange. It's not even about religion anymore, it's all a social activity, women presenting themselves in slutty clothes at church, guys all acting like arrogant assholes. I love religion and God but I hate the social aspect of it.
You be an apostate in any one of these religions, and sure you're bound to be socially ostrasised, but not to the point of being killed. I'm agnostic, but saying all of these religions and Islam have the same standards is completely false.
Evan Russell
I was in the same boat as you one year ago user, age wise and everything. My advice? Please, don't try and convince your family to go against Islam. It will not work. You're parents, brothers, sisters, and every one of your family members has been brainwashed from the moment they were born to be muslim. Pointing out logically fallacies will not work on them, I'm sorry.
That being said, you should also just give in. In front of the imam, just regret eating pizza with your friends, (or just say you didn't actually bind the fast that day, and were actually planning on eating pizza all along). Don't try to convince him your point of view. It will not work.
My mother was the hardest thing when I was in your shoes a year ago... she couldn't stop crying. She thought that me leaving Islam was like me dying. Wait, no. She thought me leaving Islam was the biggest insult to her and her family. She always told me, "imagine what everyone will say, that [insert mother's name] raised a kaffir. Even your aunt because a decent muslim" (my aunt is kinda like the opposite of yours. She married my uncle and became a muslim). Telling her how she was wrong just made her condition worse.
Point is, don't try to bring them to light.
Cooper Bailey
>we'll talk with your father and sisters tonight
fucking RUN
Dylan Roberts
ITT:Infidels.
Kevin Foster
23 and I'm also in the same situation. Except I haven't bothered learned the Quran and just researched the topic as much as I good. Are there any verses in the Quran you think are ridiculous?
Aiden Wood
I should probably add what I think. From what I've seen it looks like people see what they want to see in the Quran because it's vague. To me that just sounds like bullshit.
Jordan King
Its not vague. Everything is explained, you're just lazy.
Am not your kind, but am reading about the very thing you just said doesn't exist in an app from play store.
Use your brain and read a little. Why you watching some gay wahabi looking chimp monkey off of youtube, these types are endless, their arguments are boring, they dont contribute to the argument anything.
Austin Moore
Why do you have to tell them and why urgently before your exams? People usually take the approach of just saying they are something and saying "meh it's cultural/was my upbringing". They might talk about it in private with other people who'll understand but not in public with people who wont understand.
Also why say an "atheist man", that goes down terribly. But if he was said to be "not religious and open" it would go down ok, even though it's the same thing.
Liam Murphy
>read a little You mean learning a whole different language and still not understanding the exact meaning because its texts from centuries ago. There's a reason why there are scholars dedicating to understanding the quran. You're just talking out of your ass.
Nolan Cooper
the quran was ment to be read in arabic, and reading it in different languages butchers the message. the quran is uniqe in that manner. learn language