How do I stop overthinking, needing a lot of things to be perfect, and excessive procrastinating?

How do I stop overthinking, needing a lot of things to be perfect, and excessive procrastinating?
It doesn't get in the way of work, however I spend most of my freetime just sort of waiting for "the right moment".

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It's called OCD and is a serious condition, if you let it get out of hand it can really fuck you up.

It's not OCD. A friend of mine has OCD and we're no similar. I don't go around and quintouple check that I locked a door or need things to be in one place.
My perfectionism is almost all about needing the right moment. I can't do things for example play a game I know I like because it's too late to get started or because I haven't prepared enough or whatever.

The only difference is the gravity of it, it is the same disorder.

>overthinking = rumination OCD
>needing a lot of things to be perfect = perfectionist OCD
>waiting for the "right" moment = magical thinking, OCD

You're free to think whatever though, I actually have had severe life wrecking OCD and I got over it to the point I can live my life normally. So I know it has a wide range of severity. My advice is that you should ignore those urges and don't give in.

Huh... Really.
What is it worth looking into? I've been this way for maybe a decade now, however not when I was younger.

OCD is a serious medical condition based around a sense of unrealistic, impending doom. Ex: if I don't turn the light switch on and off 6 times my mother WILL die.

You're just afraid of failure.
The easiest way to fix it is to go out and fail. Repeatedly.
Don't make the same mistake twice, learn from your experience, and keep pushing forward.

Well. I don't have any of those compulsive needs.
I don't think it's OCD.

Your brain makes you feel bad if you don't follow those urges because it is glitched into thinking something bad is going to happen if you don't do it, even if you don't acknowledge this consciously. This can lead to being uneasy, anxious, etc. The only way to get over this is rationalization and "riding the tiger" i.e. ignoring it and not giving in. The more you give in, the more serious it becomes, it forms an habit and you can start developing more kinds of OCD since that magical thinking is borderline schizophrenic and will lead you to making wacky justifications for doing new OCD rituals.

tl;dr: Ignore it, develop mental strength, it can be extremely hard depending on the severity of it. Don't attempt to "not think about it" because it will make you think about it even more, the thing you have to do is move on and do other stuff, divert your attention.

Once the brain realizes there is no danger in not doing those things, it'll stop feeling so anxious and bad, so it'll become more and more easy to do so. Also, once you have this, you do for life, so know that you're prone to these things just in case you find yourself doing non-sensical rituals.

Oh user I am not just afraid of failure, I hate it more than boredom. Like I'd rather be bored and safe than to spend my time on something and then feel the misery and embarrassment of failure.
I think it's come to a point where if I don't immediately believe I can do something decently, there's a very low chance I'll even try.

Exactly. So go fail. Ask out a woman who''s an 11/10. Apply for a CEO position. Try to run a marathon with no training.
The easiest cure is exposure.

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What about smaller stuff, like... drawing?
I used to love drawing. I told myself and my friends that I'd be a great artist one day. And at some point it vanished ans turned into anxiety.
Because I can't draw good enough for my standards of "okay", I can't muster the energy to even pick up my things collecting dust and even just doodle.

Start with anything. The important thing is to start. Just do it. Build on it. You might shut down. You might quit. You might cry. Then start again.

Basically "just do it" huh.

Same as you've done with anything. You waited to send out a resume to get a job, then you just did it. Now you have a job. Why is that any different than hunting failure?

I actually never sent a resume to get my job. I just got lucky. Pretty much anything good in my life comes from me "working my hardest" aka do what I think is bare minimum, and to genuinely pretend that I'm helpful and positive (it's become a separate work personality for me, and I am nothing like it outside work).

So? Doesn't change the fact that you still have the ability to do something more. You just chose not to

ayy the cheef, u watch the new episode yet bro

What is it you are "waiting for the right moment" for? Writing? Drawing? Learning something?

Best way, not easier, but best way to deal with it is to do it every day, just 30 to 60 minutes, just one drawing, just one page, just one word. It doesn't have to be good, that comes later, the mona lisa wasn't painted in a single afternoon.

I thnk I have an answer for OP but I'm going to have to think about it for a while and might not get back to him for a while

not him. anti sjw commentary was a bit on the nose, made me feel like I was listening to some sensationalist shit.

I would really like to see some SJWs getting torn a new one, but instead it was a halfass scene where a guy is like “safe spaces yada yada” and slap a sticker on it and call it satire.

looking forward to more scenes with the monster/virus in it, though. that villain is cool.

Is anyone still making Machinima? Either way, Jon might be the best around. The Space Odyssey recreation/parody was incredible.

its absolutetly ocd-like. I think if you descended into madness you’d definitely be doing weird things like turning lights on and off.

Familiarize yourself with the concept of practice. For example, somebody who draws or plays an instrument knows they must spend many many hours practicing their craft. There's no perfectionism in practicing

this. we’re always improving. we’ll never meet perfection.

perfection is basically the idea that something is as good as it can get, which is really just a matter of personal preference and interpretation.