Me and my sister share extremely niche nerd hobbies (I probably rubbed it off on her years ago) and get along really well because of it, and while I think it's great the fact that she doesn't have any friends her age worries me.
She's a huge introvert by nature which I understand but I'm literally her only friend, and she only leaves the house if I'm taking her out or something.
Like I've asked her about it and her reply was that she's fine as long as I'm around, and doesn't bother. Thing is I know that's a bunch of bs because when I left for recruitment about a year ago I was away for a month no contact and when I came back she wasbeamingbut my parents told me she spent almost the whole time in her room or sleeping, and barely left the house.
I'm living with my parents until I can get my finances/training sorted (which could take a year until I'm accepted) and besides that I drop her off from time to time at school Honestly I can't just leave her like this but I have no idea what to do
Get her a job or enlighten her with societal interest such as politics.
Anthony Cox
You need to know this right now: You cannot change people. They have to want to change. You can encourage your sister to leave the house more, (and if you do give her some pepper spray ffs), you can introduce her to people all you want, but unless she has the desire >I want to make real life friends she will not be receptive to anything you could possibly try. Just be there for her, and remind her that you're there for her.
P.S. Try not to ask her too much "is anything wrong? You don't have any friends." People don't like to be pitied, nor do they like people to think there's something wrong with them. They already pity and hate themselves. Just remind her in your own sibling way, maybe slapping her back or patting her shoulder, >Hey if anything is ever wrong, anything at all, talk to me.
Matthew Collins
There's only one way out of this, have her make new friends or she'll end up a virgin social outcast who goes to Jow Forums to complain about normies and >tfw no bf.
Maybe starting with some online friends and then moving on to people her age with similar interests is best, but she has to believe that making friends is the best thing she could do for her future or it'll fail.
Dylan Smith
Do she have any solid career goals user?
Hudson Kelly
>but she has to believe that making friends is the best thing she could do for her future or it'll fail. I think this is the wrong attitude, user. I have about three friends, two of which I rarely speak to and the one being my girlfriend and I'm perfectly content with my life thus far. I certainly would never say that sentence to my future children, and I'm more likely to tell them that friends are nice, but it's important to be comfortable with who you are above all else.
Luke Carter
As far as I know, none. She has decent grades but tells me she doesn't know what she wants to do but I think that's fine at that age that's what I'm afraid of, she's such a smart and funny girl but I really don't want to imagine her ending up like that
David Stewart
Some people need a push,greed or shock to move on with life. never ever let anyone close to you move on with shock as its the hard way coming from me.
Jace Jenkins
>that's what I'm afraid of That's a pretty dour opinion you have of your sister. You don't think she's be capable of being happy as a virgin? You don't she's capable of not becoming a bitter NEET? All because of lack of friends? I'd hate for her to hear you talk about her like this.
Caleb Ross
Being alone does not always equals to happiness.
David Kelly
maybe it's because she spent a month being depressed and lethargic as soon as I left read the whole post, not selectively
Luis Adams
>Having friends doesn't always equal happiness. Which brings me back to >You cannot change people. They have to want to change >People don't like to be pitied, nor do they like people to think there's something wrong with them. They already pity and hate themselves. Just remind her in your own sibling way, maybe slapping her back or patting her shoulder, >Hey if anything is ever wrong, anything at all, talk to me. Wew, condescension now? And you have a low opinion of your sister? I'm not sure you should do anything at this point.
Adrian Hernandez
Jesus, is your sister tomoko? Actually that’d probably be an improvement since the character leaves their home once in awhile. Anyway, what are those niche hobbies? Could you bring her to a hobby shop for supplies for those and try to strike up conversation with other customers? Have you tried going out to lunch with her so she gets used to leaving the house more often? How about going to your local library to find books on these hobbies?
Kevin Bell
I used to be in that state of what you describe of your sister. life is hard and filled with negativity to me every time but my interest in reading and philosophy change all that as i started to grasp in what i wanted to become. after being interest in helping people i decided to dedicate my life to political career. you should open up little by little to what is she is interest in as their is a saying ''The more silent the individual, louder are their thoughts''
Alexander Nguyen
Wait until she turns 18, then get sister GF
Gavin Foster
this
Aaron Hughes
What are those nerd hobbies? Perhaps you could link her to a comm of one of those?
William Phillips
She will find her way in time. She's still young and naive, let her have her fun. Eventually when she has to go to college she will find clubs to make friends at. No amount of hand-holding will help her now.
Oliver Lewis
No career goals.
Shoot for a nerdy housewife.
Matthew Brown
>she has to go to college
She doesn't have to go to college.
Easton Davis
This.
If she is nerdy, antisocial, doesn't want a career, and prefers to just be alone or with one or two very close people then you should try to find someone with similar interests, has their shit together financially, and try to hook them up.
Ryan Gray
This. Nerdy housewife hooked with nerdy man who can provide for her and play DnD, watch animu and talk about vidya in their night times.
