LD GF is too scared to let me visit

Hey guys how do I get my LD gf to be okay with me visiting her? She feels like it’s hard to be herself in front of others because she’s used to being fake to everyone. She’s not even ready to talk on the phone with me. Anyone gone through something similar?? Also I’m not being catfishes I have a bunch of pictures and videos where she talks to me about lots of relevant stuff we talk about.

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You two skype or facetime or she sends you these vids?

>Hey guys how do I get my LD gf to be okay with me visiting her?

If she is not ok with, she is not ok with it. You can't change her over chat. She probably never wanted to actually meet up. Move on, my dude.

I remember when I thought I wasn't being catfished and I ended up being catfished.

>long distance
>girlfriend
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she played you like a fiddle

She sends me videos. She also sends me a bunch of voice recordings of her talking a lot
I’ve seen her parents fb. Pictures of her as a kid. Videos of her when she was younger. We spend almost everyday talking all day. We’ve had night we’re we go 10+ hours plus talking. She’s just has a really shitty life and family. If she’s cat fishing me idk why she’s getting nothing out of it

>If she’s cat fishing me idk why she’s getting nothing out of it
No man, she's getting your time & attention. She sounds like a damaged person, sane people don't fear casual phone convos with their partners. This relationship wont work out so bail when you sill can

Dude we’re dating what are you talking about? We love each other. Of course she wants to see me. We have a bunch of plans made for when I see her. She’s just not ready mentally. Hence what I need help with

>dating
>never interacted with each other irl
How long are you two """dating"""?

She is really damaged. She wants to talk to me she’s just not mentally prepared for it. Another reason is her mom is crazy, borderline skitzo so she’s scared to talk to me around her

Technically dating for 3 months. But I kid you not we’ve been talking everyday all day for 9 months. We’ve even had a bunch of nights where we stay up for hours talking and chatting. We’re perfect for each other. We love the same obscure things and have great chemistry

>trying to date a mentally ill girl from abusive household whom you've never even met
You are a fool. It's not love, it's all the attention she gives you. I get why it's so intoxicating, but she is a walking red flag and likely will never meet up with you. She will just string you along for years and years, cause you are naive and desperate enough to let her, and she will use you as her own personal emotional tampon and support pet. And you will live in delusion that it's a real relationship and you two are perfect for each other.

>video chats
>Wont phone call

What? She sounds retarded. Trust me op, you dont want a damaged girl. Youre naive. You think dateing someone with emotional issuse is solved by stroking their hair and saying "itll be okay, I love you".

Nope. Enjoy emotional fallout and all the personas of people that have wronged her being projected on you. Enjoy being loved one minute and hated the next on a whim. Enjoy feeling on trail constantly for shit you didnt do and counting yourself lucky when you get through a day with her with no major incidents.

First gf was damaged and it fucked me up. Started dating a sane tomboy and omfg I couldnt even go back to none tomboyish women at this point, women are already mostly creature devoid of accountabilty. It was like slowly becoming sane again, their insanity rubs off on you because you keep trying to see things the way they do.

It's a catfish you absolute moron

you stop wasting your time, dump her, and find an IRL gf nearby that you can actually have sex with.

LDR is a scam. Sorry you had to find out the hard way. For all you know, she maybe isnt even female...

bruh....

>LDR
>Doesn't want you to visit
>Emotionally fucked up
>Abusive household

I don't recommend staying with these kind of people. They make you feel extremely guilty when you don't pay attention to them for whatever reason.
>inb4 you don't understand user!
Nah trust me buddy, I've had my fair share of "I'm going to kill myself!" It's not worth it, you won't fix them and they can turn on you at any moment if they feel any sort of change.
LDR usually don't work.
>inb4 it'll work for us, we love each other
OP, don't do this. Especially if you live in different countries. LDR either end in fallout or you realize the person isn't who they seem to be.

Were planning on moving in together next year

Dude, get out now, before it's too late. You've never spoken with her in real time and you're planning on moving on together? This is the same old story and it always ends in tragedy. She's either going to milk you for all you're worth or completely flip her personality on you once you're properly committed to one another. She refuses to talk to you on the phone and you are planning on moving in together. Say this out loud to yourself. You are being manipulated.

Holy shit that number

Okay, let's ignore the fact that anything could happen in the span of a year.
This is still a terrible decision, OP. You've never met her IRL, you've never had a skype call with her (unless I read that wrong), yet you're planning on living with her. What if it turns out you don't like her IRL, or the opposite happens? What if it turns out she doesn't want to work at all and you have to take care of her? What if she has terrible B.O., or she a hoarder, or she doesn't take care of her environment very well (cleaning)? I could go on.
So many fucking things can go wrong, yet you choose to discard all of it.

Stop this. I'm telling you OP, it won't end well. She's not emotionally well. As much as you want to, you can't fix her.

Finally, I find it concerning that you've responded with "we're planning on moving together". Am I supposed to change my opinion? I don't really care how "serious" you guys are, it's still a bad idea.

If you can't even speak to her or have a video call I honestly don't think your relationship will last. I'm sure your fantasy is really nice, but please don't get dragged into a super long relationship with a possibly fake girl, being able to talk to you is the LEAST she can do--though you should know that even if she has a "girl" voice when you speak to her she could still be a guy changing his voice

I assume you will ignore this like you have others, but you should think about this: there is a reason people believe your relationship is suspect, you probably already know this but aren't willing to admit it

>not posting the image

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