So recently I met a guy and at first he seemed very nice. We share a lot in common. Going forward a week, he is always blowing up my phone and writing PARAGRAPHS. Mainly about his recovery and himself. He tells me he misses me multiple times a day. He never directly asked me to be his gf, he assumed it. He tried to invite himself to my trip to montreal to see my friend.. after 2 weeks of knowing each other. He buys me gifts all the time which is nice but all the time is a litthe too much. Whenever we have a conversation, he interupts and starts talking about something different mainly how he's a changed person. Basically he just rants at me. If I don't respond for a bit he blows up my phone. I tried to have a conversation about not liking clinginess or someone interupting a conversation, etc. With him last night but I don't think he gets it. I feel like he is very emotionally clingy and Im the opposite. I feel very over whelmed. Is it commitment issues or am I right to back off a little and say it's too fast paced for me? It kin of feels like love bombin. .. forgive me for the misspelled words. The keyboard on my phone is shit
So recently I met a guy and at first he seemed very nice. We share a lot in common. Going forward a week...
You see what happens when you lead them on?
I'm not leading him on. I was straight foward about getting to know each other and taking it slow.
Ditch him quick he’s gonna try to control you and mentally abuse you trust me my friends boyfriend was the same way I (male) couldn’t even talk to her without him flipping out and we were strictly friends. Dude sounds like the same person. she left him eventually but would talk about how he was mentally abusive and it start just like yours
An example
You need to get out. He's got a lot more to sort out before he's fit to date. Keep pulling busy excuses out or something
Honestly seems like he'd fall into being a stalker after but I've got no idea what he's like, so.
Dude sounds like a emotional pussy seriously any guys that says shit like that will always have some stupid emotional drama going on
He sounds nuts. Ditch him now.
go outside and have regular human contact
Just cuck him.
He sounds very cuckable.
t.cuckqueen
I probably sound like a complete fucktard but if it didn't come out then itd come out sooner or later so i don't understand the big deal about a guy being emotional ... like to an extent id understand but literally people complain about being either TOO EMOTIONAL or being literally a rock
I think its completely fine the way he is reacting just as long its just sometimes NOT 247 TYPE OF STUFFN
More examples please
It's 24/7. These rants happen all the time
From a Guys POV he will not get respect from other guys for being this emotional and if they don’t respect him he’ll just get pushed around if you like men like that cool but op seems like she wants a guy with more balls and independence
If your questioning things now after knowing him for only 2 weeks it’s not gonna get better
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Ex-addicts are the biggest fucking narcissists ever
Post more for my fag folder pls
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As a maleanon who also does tend to write paragraphs in texts messages (and basically any other form of written text. I was that kid who would literally have to *cut* pages out of essays because he wrote too much shit)
OI.. what da fuq man?
Overshare. I’ve done my own cringeworthy text dumps... but this dudes not even talking *to* you, he’s talking *at* you.
>I probably sound like a complete fucktard but if it didn't come out then itd come out sooner or later so i don't understand the big deal about a guy being emotional
Contextually though... it’s been two weeks... nah dude.. that’s more like 20 weeks level of sharing... inappropriate and kind of self absorbed since 95% of the content is about himself and anything else that’s even about her, is actually about how he feels about her...
Not that I have experience with addiction, but sounds more like he’s trying to substitute his addiction/obsession for drugs with his obsession for her (or at least the idea of her).
Unhealthy as fuck.
I actually had a friend who was with a guy who was like that. Slightly different in some ways but he was an addict, and half a year in, when she was done and more than ready to bounce and told him so, he’d start doing crazy shit like running in to closed doors hard enough that he’d cut skin and pretend to act concussed to the point she’d take him to the ER (which was especially fucked up because she’s an EMT and has trauma because her friend recently died from an untreated concussion) all so he could guilt her in to staying.
Nah man... this dude clearly has issues, and he needs to sort them out by himself before meeting anyway, because using other people for it is still just another form of using and abusing.
Drop him, he sounds like a faggot.
Oh fuck OP I sent a single shorter message like this once to a girl and got ghosted on the bat. Just tell this guy he needs to calm the fuck down, get out of his own head, and find some shit to do and that he doesn't make you comfortable when he's like this. Tell him to look up Jordan Peterson while you're at it.
Sadly I don't think this is a case where he'll understand you so you might want to cut off contact after giving him closure if you even care to at this point.
lol what happened in your past? alcoholic dad? you sounds codependent as fuck to allow this bullshit to continue
he doesn't actually care about you, he just likes the sound of his own voice and wants a sounding board.
he probably genuinely believes he loves you, but that's because he's a narcissist whose definition of love is "having someone who'll listen to me rant for hours on end"