ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

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Why do women?

Why not?

Girlfriend works at with someone who's become schizo and regressed hard, harassing all of his coworkers and sending dick pics and such. Hes known to be super spiteful and damages peoples cars and shit.

Girlfriend wont cut him off because he knows where she lives, so every time he messages her she pretends to be friendly with him because she is afraid he will visit and fuck up her car or worse if she blocks him.

I tell her to just report him to lab management or the cops and be done with him, but she says she doesn't want to ruin his life.

Am I unreasonable for not being okay with this setup at all?

Sounds like it's reasonable for her to want to stay in his good books, to be honest.

>lady keeps asking how I am doing
>Refers to me by name both in hellos and goodbyes
>Directly smiles and looks into my eyes
>Shares snacks with me
>Giggles when I tell a meh joke
Should I go the next step or no?

I don't think it's reasonable for her to not want to report him to the cops though. He's already done plenty of fucked up shit that would get him fired anywhere else (groping coworkers and sending them dick pics) but nobody wants to do anything about him because they're trying to be sensitive about his schizophrenia. I get that but I'm worried they're being way too lenient.

What do you have to lose?

If he hasn't done anything to her, I don't see why she should report it. The police aren't going to be able to do anything if the actual victims aren't cooperative and don't want to press charges, and if that's the case, then not only is she ostracising herself from her coworkers who have decided to keep it to themselves, but she's also risking pissing him off.

She's an adult, let her handle it.

Fair enough, but I want to do it in privacy. I dunno how to do that when we share a lunch room with entire groups of people.

All I need to know is how to sneak in a date while people are around and that would be all.

I might be able to sacrifice privacy if it meant getting to know her better.
I dunno if she wants to pursue or to smash, but she's doing this stuff and I figure I should hit it. Maybe coffee.

He has, dick pics and groping and telling her he wants to fuck her in detail and that kind of shit. Through instagram and in person.

Okay, well it's still her decision whether she wants to do anything about it or not.

That doesn't really help it sit well with me.

That's something you're going to have to deal with,

Well, fucking how? I have to lay there every night knowing my girlfriend says "haha thanks" to someone who tells her "your pussy looked great in those yoga pants yesterday" that she works with every fucking day. How do I know he's not going to do something worse someday?

I don't fucking know, go and talk to her about it or something

Not sure if this is the right thread for this question, but here I go
>contacted by a nice girl from /soc/ contact thread about two weeks ago
>chatting back and forth for about one week, we have lots of common interests and we seem to have chemistry
>it sometimes takes her day or two to respond because of her outdoor activities, but she always responded with lengthy well thought response.. until now
>suddenly just stops responding, it's been over week now and she hasn't messaged me

I'm not super upset about it, it's not like we were dating and we only knew for bit over a week before the radio silence. I'm just wondering if I should give up and stop waiting for her and try make new contacts. I don't want to juggle multiple girls at the same time, even if they're "just online contacts". She might be talking to multiple guys at the same time for all I know, but she seemed like a honest type of person who would at least respond to me if she had the time. But it's been over one week now and she just disappeared. Didn't remove me from her friend list or anything, she's not online, but she just doesn't message me.
Should I wait for maybe another week in case she comes back, or should I just move on and try again? If I make a new post and she sees me post, she might think I'm collecting internet girls, but then again if she saw me post that then she must be online too which means she's intentionally ignoring me. I don't know what to do.

>inb4 meet girls in real life
Sadly I don't live a very exciting social life and I don't know where to meet girls in real life. Internet is currently the only place for me to talk with girls.

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WHy don’t women here want to talk about how they like big dicks and how they can bootycall someone only because of their size? I start to think that most women (even those who say it doesn’t matter) like big dicks. This is scaring me. And depressing at the same time.

Why do you post this same shit about big dicks in every thread?

>don't want to juggle multiple girls at the same time, even if they're "just online contacts".
That's not juggling, you haven't made any commitments. You're just chatting.

Of course we like big dicks. Big dicks make guys look more manly, and guys with big dongs are usually much more confident too.

I know I'm just chatting, but I don't see wooing multiple girls at the same time online much different than wooing multiple girls in person at the same time. I don't think the girl would like it if I sweet talked with other girls, or at least I personally like to concentrate on one person at the time and I would be offended by it if I found out I was unknowingly competing against multiple other guys.

Ok ditch the confidence because that’s easy to fix.

Do you think men with small dicks are doomed? Do you think it’s fair that no matter how hard they compensate for their lack of size, women will still be turned on by the idea of other men being well endowed? Is it a turn off that a manly, assertive and confident man has a below average dick? YOU, please answer. I need it from you, no one else. You have to answer this, this is important for me.

Is it a meme that guys don't like or don't want to eat girls out?

I did have a boyfriend who was against it, but otherwise with all three other guys I had sexual encounters with, they did in the first time entirely by their own will, I didn't ask. I just trim too so I doubt my vagina looks appealing.

What about you guys? Into it or would rather not?

I think I really hurt a friend of mine. She really put herself out there a few months ago to tell me she has feelings for me and I said I felt the same then kinda just left her hanging.

How do I appropriately address This?

I’m against it, but as long as you can be loyal to me and you can accept all of my lackings, let’s say penis size, I’d learn to like it. If me learning to like it will make you feel guilty about naturally liking better men, then I’d do it. Even though I don’t like it.

>Girls
How do I make feel not threatened by me?
This happened yesterday and it still bothering me
>be me
>5'10", 170 lbs
>going back home late at night
>take my usual shortcut through slightly dark park
>notice the woman in front of me keep looking back at me and start to walk faster
>she take the same turns as me
>we walk out of park and call for help to a near by police officers
>police officers drag me to police station and spend the night in there

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My crush said he's busy the next couple of weeks when I asked him out, only now I see him constantly chatting away on social media, going to movies etc. Generally not very busy at all.
We chatted at Discord yesterday for hours tho, after which he liked my new profile pic on Twitter.
What gives?

Is it possible to start something romantic with someone who you've been friends with for 7 years?

There’s the friend zone. Is there a no sex zone?

Do you not consider plans with your friends as you being busy?
Why would you assume he is lying about this?
Maybe he just need to figure things out.
Did you ask him for something general or something specific?
Just try again.

I don't see why not, my now-fiance and I were friends for three years before we started dating.

To the guys: how is sharing an apartment/house with other guys? Is it fairly chill and unproblematic?
I've lived with two different groups of girls at this point. With both groups, there would always be at least one girl who would throw shitfits over the most minor things throughout the lease. Also, said girls would always start up drama when it's about time to move out. I'm a person who likes to keep to myself, so I'm pretty fed up at this point.

>police officers drag me to police station and spend the night in there
>This happened yesterday and it still bothering me
Well yea, what the fuck?
Why were you arrested?

I feel like you should just explain to her that you meant what you said but after you both confessed you didn't know what to do about it and you just wondered about it to yourself instead of conversing with her about it for whatever reason. Then admit that you feel dissapointed by how you reacted and you're sorry for leaving her hanging and you hope they can forgive you enough to try again (if that's what you want, if not you can just change your reasoning why. I think it's important for you to say something like that to her because I've been in her shoes before and I always wished I had some sort of explanation as to what happened and why. She probably just feels crummy like maybe it was her fault your friend ship kinda ended, so reassure her that you feel bad about it and regret how you acted.

Because in reality women don't care that much about these

Guys are not that complicated.
If there is a problem, they might have a physical fight, but that is rare.
Problems you will see though: lack of hygiene / cleaning, stack of dishes etc.
Call them out on it and they usually do better.

She lives too far away for me to talk to in person and the rural area she lives in has awful signal, so phonecalls are basically impossible too. How do I broach the subject over text?

Not arrested, only detained.
They let me go the next morning.

This girl goes out of her way to talk to me but never touches me. She touches other guys but never goes out of her way to see them. What gives?

But why were you being detained?
Were you drunk or something?
They can't just lock you up for a night if you were just walking.

Nope, I wasn't drunk.
I was detained for a background check.
IMO it's just an excuse to detain me, because that girl asked them for help.

Reply please

Bumping for women

Do girls consciously present themselves as certain archetype in say, their Instagram posts? Art hoe, classy, stoic, motherly etc?

My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago and we have been arguing ever since. We still love each other, however she does not want to give me another chance because I broke my word so many times before. She does not believe that I can get my shit together and improve myself. However she wants to be friends to see how I'm doing "on the off-chance you do improve yourself". She said she doesn't want to see anyone else, since she knows that would upset me. This is both of ours first serious relationship, and we were together for a year and a half.

I'm contemplating just ending it properly and agreeing not to talk, or accepting her offer, but I want some certainty that we're not just going to stay friends. I think that some kind of intimacy is needed to keep that spark there (not necessary sexual). She doesn't want this kind of thing, and only wants us to act like friends during this time. My impression is that she feels like she would be giving me another chance if she did (if I hadn't improved myself).

Do long-lasting relationships come out of this sort of thing? Could someone give me another perspective on my situation, and perhaps offer a similar instance?

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>Is it a meme that guys don't like or don't want to eat girls out?

Mmm... kind of?

I feel like most guys are turned off by it, are turned off because of poor hygiene (aka smells) and weird taste (poor diet).

It’s not like guys don’t have similar issues but it’s somewhat curbed by the fact that:
1.) the trend of circumcision guarantees that it’s significantly easier for guys to stay clean
2.) the taste of men doesn’t actually tend to kick in until the end (I.e. when they cum) whereas it’s ever present with women.

Add that to the fact that the female hormone and reproductosry system is *significantly* more volatile and delicate than men’s, and it’s easy to see why a lot of guys could end of eith bad experiences.

I actually love giving oral, but I’m also prone to sinus infections, so if a girls pH is off when I’m going down on her, that’s two weeks of antibiotics and an ear/sinus infection for me.

>implying we know why we do

so she keeps you in place, holding out the prospect she'll let you have the pussy again while she's out there everyday and night fucking the guy or guys that will replace you.

>1.) the trend of circumcision guarantees that it’s significantly easier for guys to stay clean
>2.) the taste of men doesn’t actually tend to kick in until the end (I.e. when they cum) whereas it’s ever present with women.
Mate, you've obviously never sucked dick. My circumcised ex's dick was often disgusting. Men don't even wipe after they pee but you're trying to convince me they're somehow cleaner? It's just that men are whiny and women are used to doing things they don't want to do.

Just ask her if she's busy and that you wanted to talk with her about something when she has the chance

>Is there a no sex zone?
Thats called being married

And when she inevitably says no because I've hurt her this year?

Girls, how tall guy is too tall for you?

5'11"ish and taller. I'm 5'0".

>My crush said he's busy the next couple of weeks when I asked him out, only now I see him constantly chatting away on social media

Didn’t you post about this yesterday?

His desprrssed ass either:
A.) Is too fucked up to date
B.) Is just stringing you along for an ego boost.

Give it one last shot if you want... But the smart is still to just move on.

how is sharing an apartment/house with other guys? Is it fairly chill and unproblematic?

Depends on the roommates. Some are chill, some are not, there are always funny be people that are too high strung, too much a slob, too inconsiderate to give anyone a heads up before they move out. It ain’t a gendered thing, it’s a personality thing.

in this case?
>stop walking
>sit down on bench or rock or grass next to footpath
>pull out phone, dick around with game for 5 or so minutes
>resume walking home
alternatively you could've taken a wrong turn and doubled back on purpose to put some distance between you and her. in general, don't give the appearance that you're pursuing lone women in secluded places under cover of dusk.
immigrant by chance?

any flirting?

Start dancing.

>endangering myself by being alone in dark and showing expensive goods
Why would I do that in the first place?
>don't give the appearance that you're pursuing lone women in secluded places under cover of dusk.
How would I do that?
>immigrant
Nope, I just have dark circles around my eyes because of shitty night shifts

>This girl goes out of her way to talk to me but never touches me. She touches other guys but never goes out of her way to see them. What gives?

Not a chick, but maybe she’s just trying to be nice and talk to the guy everyone else seems to be ignoring, but also knows you’d probably be sensitive and likely to overthink it and eat the wrong idea if she gave you physical contact, so she’s avoiding it?

As a dude... I’ve ironically had similar problems in the reverse where... I see a girl off on her own seemingly being ignored and I kind of want to bring them in and have a conversation so they’re not being left out, but I also have to be conscientious of my own actions because I have a girlfriend and I don’t want them to get the wrong idea.

The funny thing is... there was even this one time where I *wasnt* being contentious about my actions... but I was right next to my girlfriend, literally holding her hand.. and she *still* somehow took my attention as me wanting to have an affair with her and took it as an invitation to start trying to flirt and play footsie with me...

That’s not even a humble brag or whatever the fun, that’s just a case in point of how fucking retarded communication between the opposite gender can be sometimes be, and goes towards explaining why sometimes some people might go out of their way to try to act differently at times.

Don’t go full Jow Forums on us bro.

Sucks you got harassed by the police for no reason, but they do that.

I once got yelled and nearly detained by a cop because I parked outside my own house (the address of which is on my drivers license). He stated shouting at me asking what I thought I was doin here, and I’m not allowed to be here, and I don’t I have a parking permit (which I was about to get because it was my gfs car), and well go fucking get your permit then!

Assholes gunna be assholes. Especially the cops.

ah yeah fair point. skip the phone part then. just sit and do nothing and enjoy the night air until she's out of sight. or do the wrong turn thing. or, if you can pull it off, call out to her and jokingly say something lighthearted that 'disarms' yourself and reassures her.

Should I go to some group I'm not interested in, that has people I'm not a huge fan of, just because some QT I talked to twice is there?

>pouring oil on fire
The best approach would be to walk faster and pass her.
She's self entitled bitch.
One time, I got into problem with a police because a girl come on to me and I told her she's not my type.

>if you can pull it off
also
>pick up pace
>already nervous girl thinks you're giving chase, panics, shrieks, and starts running away from you
>not pouring oil on fire

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I've just noticed I become more guarded around men I like. I've been too clingy and pushy in the past, especially in the beginning, so now I guess I don't give that much of myself. Could this be the reason why men don't seem interested after a while?

Yes

How can I tell if a girl is a slut and not just dressing or acting weird. I've never had a girlfriend so I absolutely don't want a girl who does casual flings and gross shit like that.

6'3" is absolutely too tall

Look what she posts on social media and see if she is a feminist, if she is one then she is a slut

Sorry, meant 6'3 which would be like 6'5" from what I see

In normal system it would be 195cm

Yes. You need a balance.

Because my penis tell me to.

I'm into it.

Yes, lots of flirting between us. Not so much the other guys.

Why its too tall for you?

you both single?

Yes.

Is it possible to be in love with someone without knowing and/or expressing it?

Good for you breh. Was there ever any awkwardness or tension between you before? Because we have that every once in a while, and I'm not sure if she's already too weirded out. Especially since nothing has happened after all this time

she's waiting to see if you escalate. touching the others is such a mindlessly casual nothing act that it barely registers when she's doing it. she doesn't touch you OTOH because it *would* register to her since there's sexual tension between you two.

I suppose it's possible to not recognize you are in love with someone especially if you're a busybody or don't introspect much, but you are still going to inadvertently express it when you interact with them.

nope. love manifests as expression of what's felt, one way or another.

Im not talking about myself here btw. I really do like this girl. She has expressed her affection toward me, weve had our ups and downs, etc. But i feel like she loves me but her mental illness prevents her from being straight forward about it, for lack of a better word.

You're thinking about lust or attraction but not love.

love is not a real thing anyway since no one can agree on a definition of love

Is it normal to have a fetish for gloves? And I don't mean "fetish gloves" but like average winter gloves women wear on the street. I asked yesterday but got no replies.

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Whats is love?

Like, does it get you hard or do you just like it?
I mean, I thing certain articles of clothing can make a girl absolutely adorable but I wouldn't call them fetishes.

her mental illness is interfering with her being able to feel what would otherwise be felt. by all means, if she's worth it to you then pursue her. just know what you're getting yourself into.

Actually you should be the one answering this if you are that other user. I think romantic love is just friendship + sex so it's not "real" love and that "real" love is a general form of love that applies to friends and family, where you would be willing to accept the other person with their flaws and you are willing to sacrifice part of yourself or your whole self for them if it's ever required. This definition cannot be separated into romantic and not-romantic love so I assume romantic-love is just friendship with sex. If you are not afraid to be who you are around someone and that person accepts you the way you are without judging then it's love. But this doesn't require a romantic relationship.
Otherwise you get people arguing about what they call love and what they call lust or jealousy and it's too arbitrary so it misses the point.

What kind of mental illness?

Yes it gets me hard. You can't imagine how hard (no pun intended lol) it is for me to go outside during winter, I get uncomfortable and awkward boners constantly because of this.

>babby dun hurt me
not that guy but your answer is incorrect

What is the correct answer? (unless you mean the answer is literally baby dont hurt me)

Is his dick bigger than yours?

Girls. Which one is more important to you, getting orgasms or feeling “stretched/filled”?

Love is something you build and create, not something that appears from out of thin air. You spend time together, share personal things to each other, being honest, listening to each other, and experience things together.
And while love is long-lasting, it's best to keep up "maintenance" on it. Even when you've been married for years, still experience things together, still be honest with each other, etc etc. A relationship is something you perpetually work on.

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you nailed it

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guys, what's your honest opinion on a woman who's 26 and still a KHV but not obese/religious? asking for a friend

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Experience doesn't matter to me

I'd assume she's asexual