So how exactly am I supposed to handle other girls hitting on my boyfriend? We're both each other's first, both of us were virgins when we started dating, and while we both are somewhat average in looks and we both work out, he gets a lot more attention (please don't misconstrue that I'm jealous of him getting more attention and that I want other guys hitting on me, because I'm not and I don't) when he goes, with or without me. The boldest girl that hit on him pretty much flashed him her tits while I was there with him in the park, which was right after she told him he'd have way more fun with her than with me. This was in public, in broad daylight, but she did it fast and maybe only one other person saw it, but them being a guy, they didn't give a shit about a free show.
I want to make it clear that my boyfriend doesn't invite this sort of attention and he always rebuffs them, though he tries to be civil about it. The harshest he's been was with a former friend of mine, who basically tried to trash-talk me behind my back when they happened to hang out together (in a group) while I wasn't there, and he pretty much told her, verbatim quote, "You're an ugly bitch" (she's not actually ugly) and walked away. She tried to spin something from that, but my other friends saw through that shit and we moved on.
Anyway, I started feeling anxious when we go out, I start discreetly looking around who's eyeing my boyfriend, even though I have no real worries that anything would happen. And he's been helluva understanding about my increasing anxiety. Ultimately, I just want to stop giving a shit when some cunt hits on him, but I have no idea how to do that.
tldr boyfriend getting a lot of attention from other girls, even when we're together, and it's getting to me, what do to get over it?
>We're both each other's first, both of us were virgins when we started dating
how old are you, 13/14?
Robert Harris
Sounds like the problem is that you two are both a bit too civil. I sympathize with your situation but imagine if the genders were swapped. It would seem pretty pathetic. I think maybe it would be good to tell him to man up and tell these women to fuck off, and if he won't then you should get involved. If a girl is flashing tits at your boy, you shouldn't count on his reaction to affirm the relationship. Get nasty with her and don't take that shit dude.
Owen Howard
27 now, we've been dating since we were 19.
I worry about causing a scene and coming off as crazy.
Nathaniel Brown
Just prepare yourself mentally for being cucked
Hunter Perez
You sound about 18 years old. This relationship won't matter in the long run and you should just enjoy the fact that women are queuing up to fuck your bf, yet he only has eyes for you.
Bentley Davis
Joke's on you, we've been together for eight years now.
Benjamin Miller
I get what you're saying. But picture a movie or something where a bunch of dudes just keep hitting on a guy's girlfriend, and it escalates to one of them whipping it out in front of her and the boyfriend stays quiet. That's cuck stuff, girl. You can't let that happen anymore.
Angel Lopez
Believe me, I wanted to iron that slut's tits, but in the end, I could end up in trouble over physical violence. I mean, I get what you're saying about reverse situations, but damn, that shit could just bounce really hard back at me.
Xavier Moore
>some thot publicly flashes OP's bf and OP just takes it Wew
Levi Hill
I mean you could just tell her to fuck off without throwing paws and going to jail. If not, maybe it's best to just ask him to be less nice and more absolute with these thots. If he says no or is upset, it's possible that he cares about them (or the attention, or even both) more than you believe, and it might be expedient to consider other options.
David Martin
Is he better looking than you?
Jonathan Cox
>This will never happen to me >I will never be able to make my gf laugh by rearing back and screaming "SUFFER NOT THE THOT TO LIVE! REEEEEEEE!" while the girl walks off wondering what fucking condition I suffer from and why gf puts up with it
Ryan Garcia
Guess I should have clarified what I mean by him being civil. Here's an example, from two months ago. We're out in this cafe, just sitting and talking and the waitress comes over when we call her to pay the bill, and she's looking at him and not even subtly inserts her phone number on the bill. I mean, she was just point blank writing it down in front of me. Boyfriend tears it up the instant she hands it to him, tells her "Not interested" and we walk away.
I'm not really sure how to quantify that, I never could. To me, he's fucking hot and if it were up to me, we'd be just stuck in our apartment and having sex 24/7. He's clearly very attracted to me, given how often he pops a boner around me, be it in public or private.
Michael Price
If he is objectively more attractive than you are, other women probably feel like you don't deserve him and it will be easy for them to steal him from you, so they shamelessly flirt and such. Nothing you can do about that really. Just enjoy the fact that he is faithful for now.
Dylan Reed
Well actually, the jokes on you because you're almost 30, not married, with no children and if he's getting this much attention, it's inevitably going to be from younger and more attractive women in the near future. The fact you were both virgins when you met makes this even more worrying to be honest.
Just out of interest, what kind of advice are you actually looking for? Other than "deal with it" you don't have much of a choice.
Owen Brooks
you watch his reaction first and foremost it sounds like he shuts this sort of thing down, which is good for you. if he didnt, it would mean you probably couldnt trust him and should probably find a new one. when it happens in front of you, and you feel that your bf shutting her down is not enough, you should laugh at it while looking directly at the girl. this, combined with your bfs reaction, will probably piss her off or embarrass her. lay on the pda for added effect
Chase Miller
Not much of a joke when we both agreed and set a timetable for getting married and children, I just didn't feel like that pertained much to my question.
And why would us being virgins when we started dating matter? Or rather, why would it mean he, or myself, would ever want another? No, really, I'm curious. Our parents and grandparents are the same, they knew each other from when they were young, were each other's first and got married. In a weird way, I guess you could say we're continuing the family tradition.
>Other than "deal with it" you don't have much of a choice.
No shit, yeah, but just saying it doesn't make it happen.
Jeremiah Gutierrez
Many of the threads on this site are from men who met their partners in their late teens, lost their virginity to them, then hit their late twenties and realise they want to experience other things.
You seem like the kind of girl who would welcome an open relationship in order to keep him, so might not have any issues. You're being rather defensive for very little reason. Searching for answers from a bunch of bitter man children on Jow Forums isn't going to solve your issue.
For what it's worth, it sounds like your boyfriend is incredibly respectful of your relationship, to the point where he's just downright rude to the women who show interest. This in itself is a really good indication that you're safe and should be happy that he cares this much.
Nathan Rodriguez
>You seem like the kind of girl who would welcome an open relationship in order to keep him,
Absolutely fucking not. Fuck that shit. People who want their partners to fuck other people are mentally ill. If my boyfriend ever brought it up, I'd lose all respect for him and he would literally start to disgust me. If I brought it up, he'd be disgusted with me as well. It would end up in breaking up with each other.
>For what it's worth, it sounds like your boyfriend is incredibly respectful of your relationship, to the point where he's just downright rude to the women who show interest. This in itself is a really good indication that you're safe and should be happy that he cares this much.
He is. He's never been the source of my worries. That's all on me.
Carter Ross
One mindset that I've heard that deals with this pretty well is "You might be flirting with him, but he's still going home with me tonight". Then just look on in amusement.
