GIOYC: We all have issues what's yours user?

As someone who autists out about these types of things on the regular, I recommend forgetting it and maybe getting her to wear a bra when you're getting it on.
Sincerely, someone who dislikes the appearance of nipples all together.

I want to have a meaningful life but because of my procrastination I'm buried in chores and menial tasks. I think if all these obligations were removed that I'd magically be able to create something amazing but I know that is wishful thinking so I guess I just need to keep buckling down and hope something will shake loose.

I also feel like I'm failing personally to address the massive global issues we as a species are causing, and that my kids are going to inherit a world that is shittier than mine, without knowing very much of the beauty and joy that I got to experience. But, in the meantime, I have to work and pay bills.

Also, I'm pretty damn lonely but I dislike living with women because I love my personal time too much.

I don't want to die

No, I had my genuine reasons. She responded now. She doesn't seem to mind it that much thankfully. Much less than I do. God I feel shit right now. I feel like on one hand I'm rejecting someone who has finally accepted me and likes me for who I am, but on another, I know that it's for the best.

I am trans and my dysphoria keeps getting worse. I feel like I cannot tell anybody how bad I feel because I would just be a burden to others. I don't know who to turned to, I only know one person who could understand but they tend to take a long time to answer and that would probably just make me feel worse

It sounds like you did the right thing user. It's tempting to settle just because a person is nice and seems to accept you, but this isn't always best in the long run. You were brave and I'm sure you will meet someone who is an even better match for you in the future.

Honestly? I doubt I'll ever meet someone I can truly love. I had one girl like that but she eventually told me to fuck off. She was amazing and no girl has been even remotely as good as her, neither before her nor after her.

Please use your initials and theirs.

I miss you. I want to write to you, but I'm not sure if you'd want to hear from me

To who is this for user?

not the same user, but why do you think they don't want to hear from you user?

I got oneitis pretty bad for a girl for a year and a half, just this intense obsession I never really had for anyone else before. She already had a bf and that was never going to work out, so after a while of not seeing her again and a few failed initial attempts at dating I think I'm finally getting over her. I've been in a relationship with a wonderful girl going on 4 months now. Since we've been dating though, I can't help but notice she's kind of similar to my old oneitis superficially though, even their names and life goals are a bit similar. Makes me wonder sometimes just how over my old oneitis I am and if I'm being unfair to my gf somehow even though I've gotten to know her far better than the undoubtedly idealized image of my oneitis at this point.

I wish I weren't this young and full of obstacles. I know we are never going to be anything and most things that occur in my life aren't gonna last but those are exactly the reasons that makes it hard for me.
You can only just sit back and watch things vanish and observe the fortunate. I'm not even supposed to think things like these but I just can't help it. My shitty mindset caused most likely by the fighting of parents had ruined my innocence pretty early and made me think about things that hasn't got anything to do with me atleast 5 years from now on.
But still I manage somehow. If I have to name the most positive trait in me it must be my ever lasting tenacity which my pride won't ever give up on. But for now: "sigh".

I understand that people want to bring depression and mental illness to light. What is bothering me is that they keep making it the responsibility of other people.
>you need to reach out to these people
>you need to ask who they are
>be nicer and give all your money to their causes
I guess I have been around too many depressed people who just want to be depressed. They got mad at me and others for not doing everything they wanted and would threaten to suicide. Or they would get way too attached too soon and want to move too fast

I'm not a counselor and honestly, I don't want to be there for people all the time. I don't have the energy for it. And why should I bear someone else's depression for them, especially someone I just met? I feel bad I that I think like this

Most people are attracted to archetypes. Every girl I've ever dated is short, big tits, long dark hair, listened to certain types of music, etc. The first girl I was ever in a relationship with that didn't fit the mold was a blonde girl who I didn't realize was blonde because she dyed her hair.

i realized i have some unsolved "problems" in my life

one of them is: i do not feel love for my own mother (probably because she never let me see my father as a kid and i hate her for that now?) i just can't say i love her because i don't know if i do.

another is i lost touch with my grandma on said fathers side, after she called me the last time telling me he died in the hospital. she was screaming at me and crying, i was in school back then at my uncle#s and receiving such a phonecall was not pretty good for me back then. i never dared to call her again after that because i think she hates me for never trying to get to know him and break free of my mothers das-ban

i wanna work on those things but i dunno where to start to be honest, i postponed so long but i realized today i gotta solve this to be really happy and free on the inside

I'll respond if you want to guess

Why do I feel so guilty? We're not even an official couple. We haven't even gone on one date yet you make it seem like I'm "emotionally cheating" on you, like I'm some "fuck boi". You need to fucking tell me that you like me so I can settle in with you, especially after how long I've been crushing on you. All you gave me was breadcrumbs without any actual confession of feelings. At this point, I don't even know what we're doing anymore. Dancing in the dark? Playing cat and mouse? Am I just part of your meat puppet show?

To M

I have my reasons, plus I haven't heard from them for months

M?

I did it. She's gone now. I asked her to block me.

God I feel like shit. It's been the second time now. I don't deserve real love because of how broken I am. Why can't I just love and be loved like anyone else out there? Why do I always have to go through this nightmare?

What's your initials?

A lot of people have been hurt here by Ms haven't they
And just becasue you haven't heard from them in a while it doesn't mean you can't talk to them or drop them a message, most people will see it as a nice suprise, to me anyway, it depends on how bad were the terms you left M at at how much you want to message her if I were you I would do it, you'll never know where it will go if you don't.
Details user.
OP here I want to know this feel of finding another girl that's similar to my current oneitis.

One of them is G

I guess we weren't on bad terms, but it seems like they aren't interested in talking with me

Well have you shown any interest in talking to them recently user?

I enjoy the services of prostitutes because they're the only attractive women who will give me any sort of sexual attention. I fear that I have ruined myself for any possible romantic relationships in the future especially from women who have any sense of self worth. Chances are I've also contracted herpes or some other venereal disease unknowingly. I hate my life. I hate myself. I should be happy that I make enough money to even afford prostitutes but I am not. No woman will ever love me and I do not blame them at all.

Attached: 1526316547205.jpg (1258x910, 247K)

>Details user.
I'm Now my stupid brain is starting to feel something to her because "you never know how important someone is to you until you've lost them". Until the very last message she was supportive and wanted to stay friends with me so that she could help me with my depression because she's just been through one herself.

No

Being in a long-term monogamous relationship always means being subject to diminishing returns in the looks department. It does not matter how good looking your girlfriend or wife looks now, she will certainly not look as good a decade, two decades, three decades down the line.

For what seems like the first time in my life, I've lost feelings for someone I was strongly crushing on. It's a weird feeling. We were talking for a while and at some point it just stopped feeling right. I still care for her as a friend but the thought of kissing her or having sex with her repulses me and I don't know why. She's cute and fun to be around. Nothing about her behavior really turns me off it's just like a switch has been flipped and I can't even think of her in "that" way anymore.

>when the person who fucked your life up tells others how bad she's hurting and how much of a dick you are

Why not settle for a woman with low self worth like yourself? Kind of unfair to expect so much when you're shitty yourself. If the guy who I'm in love with told me he used to go to prostitutes then I'd deal with it because he means so much to me. Find a good, damaged girl like me.

The reason I feel guilty though is that I still find myself thinking of old oneitis every now and then. We don't talk other than a 'hey, how's life been' text conversation every few months and I wouldn't dream of cheating on her if the opportunity ever arose but I still think that if it was the other way around I'd want to know. And there is an important difference between them, ex-oneitis has had a kid since, while my gf doesn't want to have kids ever and I do at some point, and we've never gotten around to having a serious conversation about this and I feel like it can only blow up if this keeps going on.

>OP here I want to know this feel of finding another girl that's similar to my current oneitis.
Well, they're both sweet, kind of chubby and introverted blondes so that was pretty apparent right off the bat. It felt pretty weird as I got to know my gf and I'd be thinking 'oh, she likes x, just like *oneitis* did' and vice versa. It still feels kind of bittersweet now but developing a genuine relationship with my gf has helped immensely.

Sorry you let this chance to find out what could be slip through your fingers.

Why not user, do you have feelings for someone else. You should talk to them.

How did she ruin your life user? everyone's a jerk Ben it doesn't seem that way.

No. I fear reaching out and not getting an answer

She left me for another guy and texted me everyday after we splitup flirting with me only to reject me again. So I told her to leave me alone and suddenly I'm the asshole.

How old is your current gf? I didn't want to have kids in my early 20s but now it's a priority for me.
People, but especially women, often begin to sing a different tune when they get older about having kids.

>kind of chubby and introverted blondes so that was pretty apparent right off the bat.
user, you sound a lot like a friend of mine. to a point where I want to ask if that's you Jacob?
Even if you don't get an answer you then get a definete close to what you want to know user, do it you don't have anything to lose imo.
nuke it then, cut out the cancer and block her.
>my depression
Firstly don't use that as an excuse user, I know that feel however you need to hold yourself accountable, if she wants to help you I'd say let her, and if you are starting feel something for her the next time you see her in person or have her on a different social media/number message her and say something like
>Sorry X I've just been going through some rough times recently and I'm just acting a bit stupid, I'd like to talk again soon, hope you'll forgive me for being an ass.

We're both approaching our mid 20s. I obviously wouldn't want a kid now but for a long-term relationship I definitely would, and honestly I could see myself having a family with her. For her most of the reasons are typical, it'd get in the way of our lives and it'd be annoying having to deal with them. She does have some congenital issues in her family though that she doesn't exhibit but is worried she's a carrier for.

>user, you sound a lot like a friend of mine. to a point where I want to ask if that's you Jacob?
Nope, my heart goes out to him though, these are some interesting feels to have to say the least.

Goddamn user tell her this she needs to know.

Am I bad for wishing you'd get out of my sight? I love you dearly but you just make me feel so unbearably fucking sick. I'm filled with this searing pain whenever you open your goddamn mouth.

Why did you call me when you're already seeing someone else? If I'd known I wouldn't have given you my number. The way you carried on with me -I thought you wanted more than a friend.
I don't need anymore friends.
I need a companion.
You already have one.
Please, just stay away.

Attached: 1477720287261.jpg (2048x1365, 342K)

Tell her what? We're already not talking to each other and she's moved on to some other guy. I'd rather not start more bullshit with her and ignore her so I can move on with my life

My gf has the same situation (as far as the congenital thing goes)
Unless she's been very, very vocal about not having kids she still may want them. The default in the US is not to say you want kids because having a family "young" (i.e. before middle-age) is considered low-status. I would definitely ask her about it because the have kids/not have kids is one problem with basically no middle ground.
If you do broach the subject, don't make it a life-or-death situation from the get go. It's possible she's never put real thought into it, people being very busy and having a lot of distractions in 20XX.
If the answer is a definitive no however you may want to think about moving on. Again, none of this should be rushed. 25 is still young and there are enough reasonable girls in the world that you should be able to find someone compatible.

Fuck depression. I'm not doing this anymore. I can't do this anymore. It's not fair. I push people away and then I feel rejected. I have and bring no value. I never follow through on anything I start. I'm apathetic about everything. I'm giving in... finally. I tried so hard for so long but only because I didn't want to hurt anyone but I think now I hurt them more by hanging on.

Z I fucking like you and you probably don't, you were looking so good today too. Bleeegh I didn't even like you until you started being super kind to me. Did I ruin it by being a weirdo? I want to tell you and just move on. You were all day in your phone, do you have someone else? :( I wish I didn't get stupid crushes on my coworkers.

>Unless she's been very, very vocal about not having kids she still may want them. The default in the US is not to say you want kids because having a family "young" (i.e. before middle-age) is considered low-status.
She casually brings it up every now and then, since her younger sister did have an unplanned child just a few months ago and she herself was the result of an unplanned pregnancy. I've never directly brought up that I do want to have kids since I just don't know when the proper time for that would be.

not proving myself to my ex fiance anymore, not proving im not worthless, not proving im not useless, not proving to you that im worth keeping around

even if that means we dont end up back together

im not dealing with being questioned about why im not doing a thing the absolute most effecient way, its chore for christs sake,

I'm a jacob in a eerily similar situation
do i know you?

user to keep it brief I would prescribe you with Gym and some Marcus Aurelius and other Jow Forums related literature. You should build up yourself user, only through being strong in yourself can you start loving others, otherwise you will continue fearing you will drag them down as you currently do.
On following through on things pushes are required, write it down and force yourself to do so. Try a language.
>but I think now I hurt them more by hanging on.
Explain a little more.
Calm yourself, flirt with her and ask her out. If she's taken improve yourself, calm yourself and move on user.
>not proving myself to my ex fiance anymore.
Then do it for yourself user, it is a bad road to go down if you do not allow yourself to improve and succeed out of spite for someone else who will move on and improve their life in some form or another.
Will say I am confused by all of these double negatives.
I'm Bennett it would be weird if you are the Jacob I know.

Attached: Fitchart.jpg (4961x3508, 1.68M)

Both of these are me, just unleashed the whole story on a friend from Jow Forums ahahah, got spooked

We just broke up, she questions every single thing I do, ("wouldn't it be better to organize the dishes first?") so I'm done proving I'm of value or of worth every 20 seconds

that should make it clearer

>I'm a jacob in a eerily similar situation
I do know a Jacob but I honestly doubt you're the same one.

well of course its doubtful, but how exciting if it was true

I'm an "energy vampire", i.e. I need to have a GF that is highly energetic or I succumb into sleeping 12 hours a day and doing nothing. I seem like a motivated person who can get a lot of shit done but the moment I'm left alone I just smoke weed and go bonkers in front of my computer.

It's really weird because nobody believes I am like this until they catch me unprepared.

Last month my gf was visiting her parents, got into an argument with them and returned a day early without telling me. When she came home I was fucking my fleshlight stoned out of my mind in front of the computer and the whole apartament looked like a dumpster. She was so surprised that she thought I had a psychotic breakdown or something and it's just what I do when nobody's around.

wargarblbarbllbrl

I really wish I'd joined a law firm when I got out of law school. Solo practice is so fucking stressful. Every time I have to approach a new problem I feel like I'm on the verge of making some serious, egregious mistake and cost my client the whole fucking world, and I'll lose my license.

It's been like a year and a half since I've gotten my license and this feeling isn't going away. Consequently I barely have any work.

Any time you're both in a reasonably level mood. If you're out to dinner or just cleaning up after dinner, anything like that. Don't make it like a proposal and hype it up too much or you'll spook her.
Does she like her nephew/niece?

That is true. However I like to live in the now so not being able to have sex with currently attractive women is not a pleasant experience.

The problem with damaged girls is that they're much more of a headache to deal with. I never said I expected a woman of self esteem to want me which is perfectly reasonable. Perhaps only a damaged woman could love a damaged man such as myself but... Gosh I'm not looking forward to that. Nobody outside of Jow Forums will ever know I use prostitutes, though. Unfortunately people aren't quite ready to accept people who use the services of such women.

Lose some weight fat shits who thd fuck walks around all day as part of their jobs and still gets fat :o

>yo mama so fat just like you that any sound coming from her travels for several years before you can even hear what she said. For example you only heard her say "you gon' make it" years later after her death.

>so sad, sad lyf.

>Calm yourself, flirt with her and ask her out. If she's taken improve yourself, calm yourself and move on user.
It's a he actually. But that's funny, he always jokingly tells me to calm down. I was just so sure I had a chance but then he did a 180, so I'm bummed. Is asking out a coworker a good idea? I will try to be flirty instead of a total sperg though, thanks.

Why do you make it sound like self-improving is a bad thing? Da fuck?

I'll probably try and wait until the next time she mentions it, just try and actually explore that conversation instead of trying to deflect to something else.
>Does she like her nephew/niece?
She doesn't like her sister much in general, they don't have a good relationship so she's only met him like 2-3 times. She doesn't seem to hate kids though ,just doesn't seem particularly interested in having any herself.

testudo formation is just really fucking cute right? I'm not alone on this right? They just look so god damn comfy in there. And like... they are so synched up with one another.

If it could have been anything, it would have. It going stale is enough indication it wasn't meant to be.

Sorta

PROTIP: If your ex (or any other boy) is all of the sudden a super duper MORALFAG that hates alcohol, smoking, and drugs...

They are lying. What they really hate is me. So anything I do, to them, is the fucking worst and what a pathetic loser would do.

It's really obvious,

whats the point anymore. Everything I care about means nothing to me now. the only joy in my life is my new job. sadly that's far and few between as I work on a yacht bartending here and there.

should I even bother posting more. /sad, ugly, depressed, lonelyfag loosing it.

Completely delete social media completely out of your life. It's the god damn worst.

I wish I could make you fall for me again. Or just rewind time. I could make things so much better. I feel like no one ever in my life will shower me with as much affection as you did. Best few months of my life, no doubt. I hope you are happy now though.

How I would love to feel a girl your age.

You should talk to them.

>>Calm yourself, flirt with her and ask her out. If she's taken improve yourself, calm yourself and move on user.
Only said >she because I don't know many male names that begin with a Z user, and there's nothing wrong with being flirty with a co-worker, I'm massively guilty of that including being flirty with the gay ones, going out with them is a risky game though it really depends on their personality.
Hi, Moralfag here, there's a saying here in England, you can dislike anything you want but never trust a man who does not drink with friends.
>What they really hate is me
Please go on user.
Do you do anything else in your free time user?
Tell her user, at the very least it'll mean a lot to her and it gets it off of your chest.
>How I would love to feel a girl your age.
I think we need context user before you get called an absolute pedo.

A key difference, and it's a big one...

I don't talk behind people's backs. If I have an opinion of you, you'll know it.

I think we've both settled into being friends. I see no reason to rock that boat at this point. I really was just surprised at how suddenly I was over her when I have a tendency to crush on girls for a long time.

Then what is it (different person)

Same user, same. Gagging on that dong called depression and loneliness.

So I've been riding this wave of on-off conversing with my ex over text messages now and then, but thinking I'd much rather see her in person and be done with the weird metagames that texting always seems to have.

I had made the idea of asking her to hang out so impossibly difficult in my head, to the extent where I probably was never going to do it unless suddenly everything had gone well in my life and I felt powerful and presentable. But today she just straight up asked me, in the plainest way possible, and there were no sirens going off in my head, it was not even close to being as weird as the scenarios I'd come up with. I was kicking myself. I have such a different idea of what's "acceptable" to say than what I (and other people) actually find acceptable to hear.

I only became interested in him after hearing he's stalked other girls before. I find that really hot and I have no idea why.

Hate myself and I have no prospects or skills and I think I'm a massive fuckup. Got back together with my ex, but I just feel like I can never provide her with what she deserves. I feel like it's a matter of time before she leaves me again, but I remain optimistic when I'm with her.

I'm thinking of probably working hard for two years, and if I'm still unhappy at the end of those two years, I'll kill myself and leave all my money to her (or send it anonymously and conceal my suicide). That way at least I would die peacefully knowing I looked after her in the only way I could.

Maybe it's time to go back to therapy.

Who are you looking for?

There are a few people who I can thibk of I am looking for. N, H, and L

Yeah, just because your ex wouldn't give you the time of day doesn't mean you can message me out of the blue with well wishes and Xs.
I heard you complain that he only wants you when nobody wants him and you are trying to do the exact same thing with me.

I am not an attention dispenser, fuck off.

Attached: freddie.jpg (258x195, 8K)

I'm lost.

I'm studying abroad and I am in my fourth year and in my fourth major. I'm poor and can't focus on university because of my constant fear of not being able to pay my bills. I have zero friends. I had one, but I lost contact since I changed my major. I even had a thing - a extremly complicated thing - going with my flatmate. It ended after 1 1/2 years and after 2 burn outs and and almost suicide attempt. I'm so fucking done and exhausted. The house I am living in is built directly next to a trainstation. 4 metres to the next rails. I can hear and feel the trains, especially the cargo trains all the time. Can't sleep 2 hours through at nights. I' m so stressed out. My mother is understanding, but my father just gives me the fault. Yeah, I am at fault, but it doesn't eleminate my stress. I have to wait till sept till I can move out. I have no Idea how I wilp be able to afford it or where I'll be moving to. My flatmate I had a thing with has a new boyfriend and basically doesn't want a friendship anymore, even though we still had a deep conncetion and some crucial momements in our personal histories that will bind us forever. It's over since a few months, but we still were really close friends. The only thing I love about my daily life is sports. I gained some weight, but I still got some skills and power. But I am worrying about my health. My leg/foot pain is killing me at some times, but I absolutely distrust physicians. Most of them just want to get even richer and fail at diagnosing simple things. Video games and porn are like a drug to me. I always feel numb after warching/playing. Haven't enjoyed either in years.

Nope

I've got feelings for you and I'm scared you aren't as invested as me. But when were together I feel like you like me much more than I like you, I worry that's purely physical though and that you don't care for me past that. Fuck as a guy I feel so like such a fag typing this holy shit but I have no clue

I've been in love with my online best friend for almost 2 years. Recently it became unbearable, so I confronted her, got rejected once and for all, and blocked her so I can try to deal with it and get rid of these feelings. It's been a week and the main thing I realised is how alone I am without her.

I live a very limited life with no IRL friends. There are some other people I talk to online, but I don't feel close to them. All they want is to joke around, and if I want to talk about real shit I have no one to listen. There's no meaning to any of it.

I could try and find new friends, but I realise that half the reason my friendships are poor must be because of me. I myself don't have much of meaning or interest to offer, so how can I expect it from others?

And it makes me feel I can't talk to people. The loneliness prevents me from doing the very thing that might ease the loneliness.

Work on yourself via hobbies/exercise/education, literally anything. This gives you common ground to talk to people

I can't forget anything and it makes it increasingly hard to trust anyone. I'm fucking tired of disappointment in relationship after relationship. I went 5 years without a relationship and I think I was happier then. I think the less people I involve in my life the better.

Attached: 1411526758184.png (632x852, 47K)