>GF told me (when I asked) that she had a one night stand when she was a freshman in college, (about 4 years ago)
She says was very drunk and it after she broke up with her previous boyfriend for threatening for kill himself over her going to college 3 hours away. The timeline checks out, I know when they broke up, so she didn't cheat. Anyway, she says she deeply regrets it
It bothers me she had casual sex even once. Should I be holding this against her?
Don't ask for information you won't be ready to accept. Also, if you hold something, anything, against your S/O, that's an unhealthy relationship dynamic and you're probably an asshole.
Women cope with depression or disappointment by dressing up, going out, getting drug and fucking random men. You can be assured when you have difficulty or a misunderstanding and she disappears for a night she's handling it the same way. This never stops and her past behavior proves she is no different.
>ask a question you can't handle the answer to
>independent person did something before even meeting you that doesn't change anything about them or you
No you shouldn't hold it against her. OMG someone having casual sex??? The scandal! Stop acting like a sperglord virgin
You do know both men and women lie about how many. Men add and women omit. That one was likely 3 or more random hook ups. Its also possible it wasn't really random but a guy she wanted to hook up with and went for it. Also possible, she's still in contact with them.
>she says she deeply regrets it
bullshit
>Should I be holding this against her?
It depends on what you want from her: if just fucking like her previous guys did then the answer is no.
Why the hell are you angry? Why wouldn't she have casual sex? Women are allowed to have fun sometimes, they are not virgin statues that have to save their pussy just for you.
Bro, my current gf had quite a few partners and 1 night stands. I was also married at 1 point.
We didn't know eachother during those situations. Why does it matter? You're the one she picked, even after knowing how other people feel inside her. Take pride in that.
Communicate. But do not hold that shit against her.
Doubt it.
I check her shit without her knowledge. I'm very careful, very thorough. If she's still in contact then she would have to be using some burner phone she can't afford
Dude...
They used to be. Guess I was born in the wrong time
What, parinoid? I know. She's given zero cause for doubt and I'm still an insecure faggot.
I'll be honest with you op, women don't have casual sex only once. More and more episodes will come up with time and you'll have to take it one way or the other. She probably fucked a whole lot of random people
Ok, so how do I mentally deal with it?
I don't know, I quit women
See a therapist
see a therapist
Yes you should. This is a slight against your manhood that you'll never be able to forgive. Seriously how could she have been so selfish all those years ago. She didn't even consider your emotions that night, you, the perfect form of man that gave her the ultimate honor of even accepting her. Leave her in the dirt where she belongs.
>seeing a therapist will help you just get over things that inherently bother you.
here are your options
1: you have differing characteristic making you not compatible = break up with her.
2: you're so agreeable that you accept being disadvantaged = totally just accept and move on from it.
3: you're socially capable and attractive = start cheating.
4: you're socially capable and attractive = open your relationship up.
5: you're socially capable and attractive = break up.
6: you're socially capable and attractive = find some one who is more in line with your ethics and sexual activity.
You're entitled to your emotional state. There are valid reads to be upset about this. The ways to "get over it" are to increase your threshold of disgust(usually involves having sex with more people with little to no emotional attachment) and "ego control".
Generally people should stick with people that have a similar amount of sexual history.
Some what relevant information:
It's difficult though because girls have a much easier time getting sex than guys do for both objective reasons and pathetic reasons. Currently if a girl is going to have casual unattached sex with a guy why wouldn't she choose the "most physically fit and attractive" versions. And women are almost as interested in sex as guys are.
Disregard degenerates.
>They used to be.
get a load of this guy
>It bothers me she had casual sex even once. Should I be holding this against her?
Who does it bother you?
>degenerates.
have a look around this website if you wanna talk degenerates
Fucking kek
why would you ask if you cant handle it.
>Yeah dude, be proud that you get to settle for sloppy seconds and get all the responsibilities of a relationship while 10 different Chads used your gf like a cheap fucktoy she is and with no strings attached!
Get a load of this cuck.