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How do I stop getting angry at the fact that I can't find a good girl to be my companion? I don't want to say girlfriend because I wouldn't want to fuck her until I knew I was going to stay with her forever.

Before you all say "durr hurr you're not entitled to anything", yeah I know, but I'm a fucking male human, I'm programmed to want love. Why is it wrong to get frustrated when you can't find it?

I try talking to girls but they just seem uninterested or not engaged at all. Just yesterday I talked to a girl on the bus. She was sitting all the way at the end so the engine noise was really loud. We talked a bit but she seemed not that into it so I didn't press, and said that "Talking on the bus is pretty terrible idea, no?" and she said "yeah haha, I can hardly hear you" and I just ended the conversation there.

all the girls I cold approach it doesn't go anywhere. Either we don't have enough time to chat for them to get familiar, and as such they don't give me their number or contact into before parting ways, or talk in an unengaged sort of way, or just flat out say they have a bf.

I think I'm not a sperg, at least not the r9k type, I've managed to get a girls number and hangout but I didn't like her so I was the one who cut it off.

I literally just want a female to hangout with and cuddle, and talk about stuff with.

Any advice on how to acquire, or cope. (Or if you're a femanon who wants a friend, feel free to say so)

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Women need to see your potential and value, if they don't see either you're gonna be ghosted. Treat women like you would a job, once you're married you're effectively the CEO running the place ( her ).

looksmaxing is never a bad thing
but other than that, cold approaches almost never work. most people get laid either through connections with friends or on a dating app like tinder/bumble. cold approaches are not only unexpected, but they've become an unpleasant surprise when people would rather think that you're just talking because tinder didn't work out for you

get into some clubs/classes/activities and you will meet friends and eventually a few nice girls

Yeah, I want a friend dude who is attractive, has social value, and has a life and hobbies, but I wouldn't touch you with a ten foot pole because you don't want me personally/aren't willing to put in the effort it takes to make a (healthy) relationship happen, you just want ANY woman to fall onto you and magically fall in love so you can take, take, take. Kill yourself. Also be careful what you wish for because a woman like yourself that you're in danger of attracting is also going to be a taker.

I look like a typical skinny nerd, but I'm fairly fit and I'm not passive. I can't really prove my potential or bring up my monthly salary when I meet someone, if we get talking I can tell her all the shit I've done and I'm planning on doing.

I can't fucking find any. It's so messed up. In my class from college the girls are mostly older than me. The one girl I *WOULD* love to date fucking disappears during the break time, so I can't talk to her. Plus she comes in late and leaves right as the class ends. I have talked to her a bit and have her number but she doesn't seem interested either.

Are you cute?

>attractive
I've already failed your expectations lol
>social value
Basically money? I guess I have that.
>Life and hobby
Oh boy! My time to shine! I got a shit load of those, plus lots of funny stories to tell.

>you don't want me personally
I don't fucking know you. How can I know you? You're just a random person. So is your classmate, teacher, coworker etc. You have to let me TALK to you to know the kind of girl you are.

As I said, I've managed to have one girl go on a date with me, I found out more about her and realized she was not what I want. At this point I just want to MEET girls and get to know them before jumping into a relationship.

>ANY woman
lol why are you assuming I'll take ANY girl? Wrong assumption.

>take, take, take
I mean I'm the one paying for the food and shit.

I'm attracted to women who are conserved and working on their lives. Like myself.

Eh, not really no. I'm not hideous but I'm not prince charming either.

I do however look and act a lot older than I am IRL. Had a few qt3.14's guess my age is 6-7 years more than in reality.

Do you have straight hair or curly? Dog or cat person?

My hair is stubbornly spikey like me. If I don't comb it for like 30 minutes after a shower it'll look like the back of a porcupine. After combing it looks pretty good actually. It's straight.

I like both, but if I had to pick one it would be a doggo.

>not curly-haired cat-lad
Farewell user, we were never meant to be.

What the hell are you talking about

i think a bigger issue is you're trying to cold approach random girls and unless you're chad smooth cock it's going to be really difficult for that to be successful, even if you are chad smooth cock it's still really difficult for even them. Start socializing more, learn to be social, learn to be genuinely friendly nice, girls will throw themselves at you in the right environment and you understand how to behave. Obviously even if you get to that stage there is still the difficulty of finding the RIGHT girl but that just takes time. Don't be so strict, you can develop a relationship it doesn't need to be 100% complete from the beginning.

goodbye princess, maybe in the next life.

also what kind of a psycho judges people by their HAIR and pet preferences?

yeah you're right. But I just feel alone. I moved so basically no social circle. It's hard to find people to connect with, especially if you're going to kommunity kollege.

>also what kind of a psycho judges people by their HAIR and pet preferences?
We all have basic preferences, user. That's hardly a psycho trait.

I dunno lassy that logic doesn't seem to follow through with me. Hair type is wayyy down on my list.

It takes a long time and a lot of effort for most of us. What you're experiencing isn't unique. There are just going to be a lot of failures for every success you have. You just can't give up.

I'd suggest making it less of a priority right now though. Focus on other stuff in your life. If the opportunity is there, then take it, but don't spend all your time trying to find someone. Getting a girlfriend/partner/whatever you want to call it isn't going to magically make your life better, and maintaining a relationship requires a lot of hard work itself. It creates it's own problems you have to deal with.

Try and get to a point in your life where you're happy without a relationship. It not only makes you more attractive, but if you eventually don't find anyone, you'll still have a happy life.

Couple of things: Cold approaching random women you'll never see again isn't working for you, why are you still doing what doesn't work.
Maybe you are unknowingly projecting "only companionship" and its coming off as you just want a fuck buddy or other degenerate shit. Reading between the lines the type you're looking for has expectations like you. I seriously doubt being a companion is what they are looking for.

Get fit if you're not, not required but it will help especially since your having issues. Work on social skills, one date is almost meaningless but you're at least trying. You definitely can filter someone but make sure its actual not assuming something about them. and

Can't argue with reason.

But there is another reason that I'm in a rush. A lot of girls get their first relationship at around 16-18, if I grow older it will be harder to find a virgin. Yes I want a virgin, no im not an incel. I come from a different culture and having sex with more than 1 person is seen as being a slut. We don't respect it.

Eh, guess I'll just keep at it.

accept that you aren't entitled to it. you say you know you aren't entitled to it, but then you act as if you are. its like those guys who say 'hey im an asshole, but at least i admit it'. no. all you're really admitting is 'i am entitled to a woman, even though people say im not'.

and thats NOT a bad thing in and of its self. its not a judgement from me. as you mention its normal to want a woman in your life. its literal human nature. the problem is you're hitting an unhealthy loop that could corrupt its self over time. your approaches are brave, but you gotta just as its in your nature to want a woman, its in womans nature to put up a fight. as such women are not going to be universally into you. its up to you to do what you have been doing to find the right girl.

that beign said, your approach, while old fashioned and better in my opinion, isn't how most people meet their partner these days. more than 50% of people meet their partner via either online dating, or through friends. maybe refocus your efforts there, though 'online dating' doesnt have as much of a romantic spark for me. through friends is possible though.

I tried tinder, got a few numbers, but not a single date.

any other suggestions?

don't give up on anything just because you didn't get the end game yet. tinder is not some single walk in experience, you gotta keep using it over the course of months and years and be pretty into it, not just casually.

and the other suggestion, meet girls through friends.

>You can easily find one in a Catholic church
Bwahahaha you seriously know nothing about Catholic girls. They all go cock crazy the moment they can because Catholicism is so repressive.

If you want a virgin, definitely avoid Tinder.

naw online dating is stupid imo. The kind of girl I'd like wouldn't use dating. It was dumb of me to use tinder at all.

>The kind of girl I'd like wouldn't use dating
you'd be surprised. in this day and age, everyone uses it. but thats fine, just know that it can add years on to your journey.

okay, so which ones aside from tinder do you recommend? I live in socal if that's important

You sound boring and passionless.

Go out and find something to live for, find meaning.

It's not wrong to get frustrated, it's just counterproductive
It's a numbers game. Anyone coulda told you that. We all have to "keep trying" just the same as anyone. So do you

Don't ever expect anything and you'll go much further

socal here as well dude. and i just recommend tinder. its the most popular which yes means theres a lot of trashy instagram hos looking for more followers, but it also means eveyone else in the city is on that app too. people try to go to more niche apps to escape this, but realize that almost everyone is on the mainstream app. so whether you are a good catholic girl looking for husband or just some instagram ho, you're going to be on tinder. so your best bet is tinder. feel free to check out other ones as well. just try not to write people off until you meet them.

None of those are true. I think you're projecting.

Will do.

Alright. Are you in LA by any chance?

>I wouldn't want to fuck her until I knew I was going to stay with her forever.

but why do that

> I literally just want a female to hangout with and cuddle, and talk about stuff with.

you could pretend to be gay and hang out with a bunch of fag hags where they'll invite you to sleepovers and cuddle with you and put make up on you I guess if that's what you want


alternatively: join a hardcore religion where even cuddling is forbidden before marriage so you can get your virgin snowflake that way

hollywood brother

The only advice I can give you is to stop hinging your happiness on factors like the approval of women. You're going to be miserable and that misery will further ruin your chances with women. Also: being awkward and kind of spergy isn't the worst thing, seeming desperate, however, will destroy any attraction a woman has for you.

why do I get the vibe that you're Armenian?

I can smell your roast salty vagina from way over here. Maybe fuck another half a dozen guys will make you feel better?

>I can smell your roast salty vagina from way over here. Maybe fuck another half a dozen guys will make you feel better?

Did you reply to the wrong post or something

I'm dead serious. If you want a virgin "partner" that also doesn't want to fuck until marriage then your only option is to join a religious community, but even they'll think that cuddling is too perverse.

I think you're retarded if you believe all girls want dick like crazy that they wont wait til they know for sure they'll get married to the owner of the dick.

I already had a girl like that. I'm sure I can find another

>why do I get the vibe that you're armenian
cuz i said 'brother'? i do that a lot but im not armenian. pic related.

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>I think you're retarded if you believe all girls want dick like crazy that they wont wait til they know for sure they'll get married to the owner of the dick.

I didn't say that at all. There's loads and tons of girls who abstain from sex and sexual activity until marriage. They also go to church or temple or mosque every saturday or friday or sunday.

>I think you're retarded if you believe all girls want dick like crazy that they wont wait til they know for sure they'll get married to the owner of the dick.
This is not how western women function. There's fuck all encouraging them to not have sex and pretty much everything from their friends to ads telling them to get laid. Your best bet is either girls from religious families or super sheltered nerds, even then early-mid 20s is often too late.

cause you sound like a massive faggot.
Why would a cute girl want a massive faggot to cuddle with?
Imagine being the left girl in the pic. Wouldn't you wanna cuddle with a cool guy who makes you feel safe and desirable instead of annoying you with his faggot insecurities?

Oh hey bobcat or something, we've talked before. Hows your friend with the cancer?

Nope. If I was a girl I'd much rather have a level headed smart guy who was pragmatic.

he passed away almost exactly a month ago.

oh.... sorry to hear that my friend. You have my sympathies.