My girlfriend just gave me a heapload of shit for what I believe to be nothing. I enjoy my beers, so often after work I have a beer or two. She kicked off because she doesn't like me when I have a beer. Now bear in mind I've never been drunk in her presence, only tipsy once or twice.
Is there some hidden clue I'm missing out on? Should I just stop drinking? I mean I can easily stop drinking, no worries there. I just like to grab a beer every now and then. I honestly have no fucking clue on what I should do. Any kind of advice is appreciated.
How many times a week do you drink? How many beers per drinking session?
Cute pupper by the way
Liam Nelson
5 times a week. Never more than 3 unless I actually go out. I work as a waiter. So I just have some beers with the team.
Dylan Martin
Sounds like you are on your way to become an alcoholic. Five times a week, that's a lot. Your gf is probably concerned and I can see why. I would advise cutting down on your alcohol consumption.
Ryder Morris
This. I know I'd be annoyed if almost every single day I'd have to deal with my boyfriend tipsy.
Connor Smith
Oh also thanks mate. If only she was as bright as she is cute.
Joshua Hill
Coming from an alcoholic who has been sober a bit I can tell you even the first few make you a completely different person. My ex could tell just by looking at my face after a couple.
Cameron Sanchez
But I've been doing that for around 7 years now. I never really get tipsy, only at events. Literally 3 small beers, not pints.
But 3 small beers doesn't make me tipsy. I mean I don't think it does. Literally still allowed to legally drive...
Ethan Harris
It doesn't matter. I'll put it a different way. Unless she is drinking with you, you are excluding her from an activity you do 70% of the time after work, which is the prime, precious hours you have to spend time with your S/O.
Brandon Adams
>denial Ok then, find yourself a girlfriend who won't mind your unhealthy habits. Just so you know, if you've been drinking like this for 7 years, five days a week, you've already formed a dependency. And the fact that your standard dose of alcohol - which would make an average person somewhat tipsy - doesn't influence you at all just means that you have higher alcohol tolerance caused by years of abuse. And how big is small beer in your country anyway?
Jacob Price
If he's really an alcoholic he isn't going to tell you the truth.
Brody Young
But what I don't get is. Would it be different if I had some 7up after work? It's literally just finishing a shift and talking about shit guests and what not. I just don't like sweet drinks...
Ian Smith
Hold on. Are you having drinks at home, or are you going out with your coworkers five times a week to the bar after work?
Xavier Long
>only tipsy once or twice. I have literally never met a single person in my life that doesn't describe their drunk self as "tipsy".
Anyway I'm sure there is some level of validness to her point, maybe cut back on the drinking. If you genuinely don't think you have a problem it should be easy, if you do have a problem cutting back then you should understand it is an obvious problem. I also understand drinking is a good outlet for stress, you should probably try to find out why you're so stressed and what healthy thing you could do to improve if you can?
John Miller
user... drink is alcohol, 7up is just sweetened garbage. They are both unhealthy, but only one will give you alcoholism. In your OP you said that you can easily stop drinking, now you keep coming up with excuses and mental gymnastics...
Jack Johnson
0.25ml is a small glass. I never have more than 3. Doesn't mean I have 3 every shift. Sometimes it's 1, sometimes none.
I have a beer or two after work at the place I work at. A hotel I work at. I never drink at home unless we invite people over for dinner. We have wine when we do.
Jack Lewis
And does your girlfriend work? Is she home when you're out doing this? Does she ever go out after work with her coworkers?
Jose Clark
She works as well. I'm usually home before her. She often has a glass of wine after work. But according to her it's not the same.
Connor Edwards
This depends what you consider to be "tipsy" and "drunk". Drunk is not the same as paralytic, which many people consider to be "drunk".
Are you sitting around doing nothing when you have a beer? she might be more annoyed that you do nothing and veg out.
Nathaniel Carter
A drink or two a day is literally fine. You're not in danger of being alcoholic for having 3 drinks a day. My dads drank 2-3 beers every night for 60+ years, he's fucking fine
As an actual alcoholic, you pussies are fucking stupid. Be concerned about his alcoholism when he's drinking a 6 pack every night and starts blowing entire weekends with booze
Isaac Johnson
realistically how often is 'often'. more than you or less than you? i feel like wine gets people more drunk than beer. I can have a whole beer and be fine, but a small small glass of wine will make me full on drunk.
as for whether or not you are different, it can be hard to tell when its you. I am pretty sure you ARE different, but i dont think its as intense as she says it is, or as little as you think it is. the answer is generally somewhere in the middle.
I'm new to this thread and read it with fresh eyes instead of the bias that everyone has put in. at the ned of the day none of us can really know whats really happening at home, and it sounds like there are bigger parts to your life stories that we are missing out on that would give us some answers, in particular you seem to feel that too in the whole. The question isn't why she is mad, as you noted, but rather why is she NOW mad and not mad before.
The easy answer is that after 7 years she finally got tired of it. she might just be jealous that you get to spend time with these friends instead of getting drunk iwth her. its hard to say. more info about your life. but perhaps talking about her long and deep without anger or defensiveness might help get the real answer... especially if you get her drunk first.
whether or not you are an alcoholic is beside the point. most people are addicted to something in some sort of way, but they have a handle on it. everyone has a 'vice'. we can't all be perfect beings. and until something becomes destructive its generally better to just let that be your vice. hell even after it becomes destructive, its often better to let it run its course until it becomes MASSIVE imo.
Ethan Rivera
If you're not aware, in the restaurant industry you are provided with what is called a shifty, where you are given a free alcoholic beverage to do while you're doing your closing work (napkins, silverware and shit), pretty much every server takes advantage of it, and spending 15-30 minutes at work socializing with your co workers is literally not a big deal. Fuckin white knights man
Nathan Anderson
I rarely ever drink at home. Let's say once a month I have a glass of good scotch and read a book. The beers I do after work with co-workers. Literally just having a chat about work. My dad was an alcoholic, so I know I'm not an alcoholic. Alcoholism and a few beers. Lel these days people think it's the same thing.
Xavier Robinson
Well on a personal level I think she might be scared I will turn into my dad. He was a massive alcoholic and died a few months ago. But for the 5 years we've been together it has never been an issue. I mean she might have something going on she hasn't told me about? But it's all a bit weird and vague to me. I know man, it's surprising people don't get it to me. Having 2/3 small beers will not get you wankered. Even lightweights can pull that off easily.
Xavier Moore
You are a textbook example of an alcoho in making with denial issues Why even post on here if you expect echo chamber? Just stop drinking so often for your gf if you care about her
Charles Nguyen
the base definition is just someone who can't stop drinking. but people are being extra judgemental. most people are addicted to something negative in some way. but until it really starts destroying your life its not THAT bad. there are functional alcoholics. most people are functional something-holics.
Xavier Allen
Haven't even gave it a shot you bitter barbara. Just asking for some advice. I smoke like a chimney. I'm addicted to cigarettes. Wouldn't consider myself addicted to alcohol. Literally just asking for advice. Not asking people wheter I'm an alcoholic or not. I'd go to fucking Reddit if I was asking about that.
Brandon Foster
The advice is clear. You drink pretty often and your girlfriend doesn't like it. Stop drinking so much. That's it, nigga.
Liam Reyes
yeah man its vague to us too. its hard to say why people change their mind on something. most people don't change their minds, they just reach a breaking point. you never really answered the question about how much wine she drinks though.
i dont agree or disagree with you being an alcoholic. I'm just trying to highlight that if your story as is is true, or even within 20% of true, you aren't enough of an alcoholic to worry about it or call yourself one.
I'm agreeing with you that everyone else is being melodramatic mightier than thou bullshitters.
Joshua Wilson
Aye fair enough broseph. We both work as waiters. She drinks one or two glasses of wine after a shift. Red or white depending on what she feels like.
Joseph Scott
I have food addiction myself. most people wouldnt think so because im not displaying negative side effects like weight gain or bad health. but yesterday i ate >cereal for breakfast >bagel for second breakfast >lamb steak and mashed potatoes for lunch >ice cream for snack >resses cup >half a milky way bar >a full snickers >half an almond joy >pizza for dinner >then more pizza rolls when I got home.
still only 125 pounds and i do this very regularly and have lost all control. but until it takes over in obviously negative ways, its just another guy with another vice that he needn't think too much about.
as for your story with her, we really don't know man. the answer you seek is only one that you could find. whats her deal? she may just be a hypocrite. there may be some underlying issue. the fact that she says you have a problem but hers is different might be the REAL issue, shes projecting to protect herself.
Easton Morales
Is there some hidden clue I'm missing out on? YOU HAVE A PROBLEM SO BAD YOUR GIRLFRIEND CONFRONTED YOU, GET HELP. >Should I just stop drinking? Yes but not necessarily immediately, you might need to wean yourself off since this is long term abuse. I met a guy who had a stroke and ended up in the hospital from going cold turkey from years of daily hard alcohol abuse. wikipedia.org/wiki/Alcohol_withdrawal_syndrome >Now bear in mind I've never been drunk in her presence, only drunk once or twice a week. FTFY. BTW Tipsy is loss of balance as a result of inebriation aka drunk. Buzzed is drunk, etc.
First of all, you should stop drinking. Whether or not you will, is up to you. Second of all, that is not how you have a talk. You should ask her when she is mad not "why" but "how does it make you feel" and then ask why. Women want their feelings acknowledged first and foremost. Finally, your idea of who you are when "tipsy" or "drinking" may not be entirely bound to reality.
