ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything - Princessfag Edition ™

ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything - Princessfag Edition ™

GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

>I'm an insecure/suicidal/anxious person who doesn't leave home
Watch these and follow these channels:
youtu.be/S8CNAiKZEEM
youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_K7XH1AIG8wZtQSM56Tyc-CR9ypvCbrF

>Guys insecure with their 4+ inches dick
Fuck off

>Why is there no new thread?
Create one yourself. You can use these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2

Welcome, princesses!

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This isn't exclusively for females, anyone can answer, I just didn't want to make a whole new thread for it.

I have no motivation anymore. I don't want to do anything I used to enjoy doing. I don't game as much, I don't work out as much, I don't bike as much, I don't cook as much, and so on. Even if I am doing something I enjoy (gaming with a friend, cooking, whatever) I just don't want to, I can feel myself not wanting to. And then I just sit in my room, doing nothing. Watching a video or listening to a song, but never really paying attention. I don't know what to do anymore.. I don't know how to push myself to do something (even if I do push myself, I don't care anymore, it feels lazy, forced, and boring), how to gain back motivation to do what I want or enjoy to do. It also doesn't help I have no drive to go after women in anyway, but that's beside the point and not the focus of my problem as I'm more worried about not enjoying anything I do at all.

What can I do? And please don't tell me to go to a doctor for depression. I know I probably have it, but I don't want to be some pill popping sadboy just to feel normal. Especially because I have no insurance and barely any money.

Read this thread >And please don't tell me to go to a doctor for depression. I know I probably have it, but I don't want to be some pill popping sadboy just to feel normal.
Pills aren't the only option doctors offer and if you go on pills, unless your depression is caused by a preexisting chemical imbalance, the goal of them is to temporarily make your depression less bad so that you'll be able to work on the things causing you to be depressed and then taper off. If you have a chemical imbalance it's fixing your brain so that it is healthy. It won't change your personality, would you refuse insulin if you were diabetic on the basis you want your body to be natural and unaltered?

>Especially because I have no insurance and barely any money.
This is a much fairer concern. Sliding scale payments exist with therapists as well as the option of looking for one who is still in college and training there. Both are markedly cheaper options although they can still be pricey. Therapists and psychologists also cannot prescribe medication, only psychiatrists and doctors can.

My dick is 4 inches long, how fucked am I?

Odd question but this seems like an okay place to add.
I'm not the best looking, and I'm in average guy shape. My gf keeps on talking about "hot guys", obviously to make me jealous. Which I have been pretty much trying to stop, since it comes off as immature to me. Anyways, I say fuck it, and started working out. I have been making it a routine and want to keep going with it.
Now, my gf and I were spending time together, and I had to excuse myself to get my short workout done. She didn't take it well. Kinda started giving me the silent treatment over the fact that I went took about 45 minutes to workout and shower.
Did I fuck up? Because she's trying to make it seem like I don't care about her. "Feels hurt" as she has put it.

I don't feel bad about this, but I really rather not have to go to bed like this.

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Are you overweight and if so are you measuring bone pressed? Because if you are overweight and aren't measuring that way, that's not actually how big your dick is. If you lost weight there'd be more visible length, and even if you don't it's still usable length.

Either way how fucked you are really depends on how much of your self-esteem you let ride on the length of your dick. No one's going to fuck you if you reek insecurity and/or never approach women for fear of them responding negatively.

Not a girl but this she sounds petty. Why doesn't she come and workout with you? At the very least she should be supporting you. There is more in working out than vanity.

Is 6'5" too tall for girls? I workout too but I'm not ripped

I am overweight but ive measured it fully, 4inchs max.

Sounds like a huge toxic cunt you should drop (after getting ripped)

What should I do on a tinder date? I honestly have no fucking clue how I get so many matches with my cringey bio and I have no idea how to message girls. My other tinder dates were awkward. Do we just chat for an hour and leave?

Is trying worth it? I've never really had any positive experiences and I mostly steer clear of women for a variety of reasons.

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Unless your/her bio states otherwise tinder is for fucking. You're supposed to meet up, grab a coffee, then go make the beast with two backs.

>make the beast with two backs
Wtf?

benis in bagine

It means pork her.

a girl sneezed when i entered the room
does this mean she wants to breed with me

you should kys
fuck you chad

My ex broke up with me almost a year ago. Have had 0 contact since then. It wasn't a bad break up, took me 4 months to get over her. Had a 6 month relationship inbetween. All is good now.

She just messaged me this afternoon. We talked/joked about some shit we used to do. All in all, chatted for few hours.

She just being friendly? We both mentioned how we're periodically are reminded of each other in our day to day lives, so it was a little deeper than small talk.

It's not ideal but it isn't bad. Depends a lot
on her height too.

Women
Would you ever fuck a male cousin? maybe after a few drinks, if you knew he could properly handle it? Specifically if you don’t know the cousin that well and rarely see him. Asking for a friend.

Yes. Or she might have had troubles with handling Chad, so here's you, as her emotional tampon. If you are not bothered, then proceed. Despite numerous faggots who yell "BLOCK, NO CONTACT", you may as well keep contact, just don't expect much.

I doubt im being used as a tampon. Just reactivated facebook after 11 months, and I still have her number blocked haha.

Hell fucking no. Stop thinking with your dick, don't ruin your family, relationship with your cousin, and yours and her social standing. What is wrong with you?

God no. That's gross.

Whatever. If you don't care about the girl, then you would definitely not care about being an emotional tampon either. It only matters if you want to get the girl as your sexual/romantic partner.

Erm, gf is being cute with me and doesn't realise I actually want my jacket back.

I live in Australia, so it's currently """"""winter"""""" here. I brought my jacket with me when we went out last weekend and didn't end up wearing it, but she got cold and asked for it. I dropped her home and she was still wearing it, thought I'd just claim it back when I saw her later in the week, but so far haven't been able to.

I know she thinks she's being adorable but I do actually need it back. It's a nice one and the only jacket I own since we only get a couple of months of cold weather anyway. How do I get it back without bursting her cutesy bubble and turning it into a fight? She probably really doesn't understand that it's literally my only one since she owns lots of clothes and I kind of don't.

Say that. 'Genuinely I really don't have any other jackets at all and I actually need it back asap.' You explained yourself to us, explain yourself to her.

I did... She is teasing me saying it's hers now and she won't give it back because it smells like me etc. I asked her to bring it when I saw her last night but she didn't because then she wouldn't get to keep it, and I messaged her before offering to come by and get it after work today but she claimed she wouldn't be home.

Cute af desu

I know and she's like a kid, you laugh over her antics once and she knows that it's a good game to play. If I push too hard though she'll get angry at which point she'll behave like if I wanted it back all I had to do was ask and I am choosing to be an asshole about it instead.

girls

I have way to strong of feels for a girl i'm friends with, but I'm very sure she we only ever see me as a friend. But every time she speaks to me i get this idea maybe there's a chance, how do I stop thinking this way, i've been thinkng of telling her to just let me down hard so I can move on but then I feel like that would make this friendship awkward which I don't want since i do value the friendship. What do?

I'm really jelly bro. I wish I had a cute gf that did stuff like this. She's clearly really into you

>she's like a kid
Enjoy the ride, she's happy right now. If woman acts like a child, she's on top of her happiness.

Maybe ask her to knit you a sweater.

So I squared up and mustered the courage to ask a guy out and got rejected with "you don't want to go out me. You're too good for me"
Ayyy if that's what I thought I wouldn't have bothered
He's been sweet and a real gentleman and always kept me in mind when it came to things I liked
What's the deal?
He really shut me down so I don't want to push it

Either he's a total, ultimate "beta", and you don't want that, since sooner or later you'll start disrespecting him as he's unable to take responsibility (and I am one hundred percent sure you don't him well), or he's trying to get rid of you politely, and you don't want that either.

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Does anyone have a link to the Jow Forums discord server? I forgot to set my account to an actual email account and my computer updated, so I lost access.

I feel I'm developing a crush on a guy I met once on a card game pre-release. There is another one coming up next month. What would be the best way to approach a person like that? People are generally focused on their games and making sure the event runs as smoothly as possible. I don't want to be "that" girl if you know what I mean.

Card game pre release?

Give him clues. Initiate the conversation, stay closer to him while talking, occasionally touch him, make a small present like a bar of chocolate, flirt, and hope if he gets it. Or start to assault him, if he does not until rejected.

>I don't want to be "that" girl if you know what I mean.
Whatever, I knew girls who managed to get sex within twenty minutes after they met someone.

Men, which do you prefer, having your cock sucked or having sex?

Sex most definitely

My boyfriend pulls the same crap on me sometimes. He's fucked in the head, like - seriously.
Unless he's 10/10 perfect and you're willing to take care of him and help him out, don't.

Get into the game with him. Ask him for advice deckbuilding or something. Just get involved.

Have you ever had really good head?

Magic The Gathering, YGO, Pokemon ring a bell?

Lol there wont be any alcohol involved though! Anyway, thanks for the tips, though I'll definitely try to stay on the subtle side, he could be taken for all I know. His FB page is unfortunately almost completely empty and I don't have his other social media.

So I'm the guy from the last thread that wondered about that was seeing advice on that chick friend who asked me to sleep with her when I got back.

I asked her out to dinner and she said no, so turns out it was drunk her being stupid according to herself. So I feel foolish, but glad that I asked her out.

But question is now will she be awkward with me about things or what?

Deck building tips is a pretty good idea actually, he's one of the top players in our area! I'll try to keep him interested.

I slept with only 2 women in my life and both of them "suck" at blowjob (no pun intended).
As good as it looks on porn, getting my dick sucked doesn't feel nearly as good as having vaginal sex.

>Magic The Gathering, YGO, Pokemon
That's what I thought. Believe me 90%+ of the nerds at these events would be ecstatic a female is interested in them. You have like 0 risk here, just have fun and as the other user suggested give him attention and subtle clues you're interested.

Sex. I'm not going to pretend like I've slept with dozens of women but every blowjob I have ever had has been totally boring. As in, I'm having trouble keeping it up because this feels like exactly nothing. The problem seems to be that women don't understand they actually have to apply suction and use their tongue, so they kind of just put it in their both and bob up and down like that's supposed to do anything.

*put it in their mouth and bob up and down

Not sure how I typed that wrong.

If that's the case she was probably going to be awkward anyway after propositioning you and really not meaning it.

Remember that thing about drunk hears speaking sober minds or something. She is attracted to you on some level, maybe she just thinks she'd rather be friends than gamble it on trying to date.

Sex, without a doubt.
While fellatio is more convenient, since it means less cleanup on my part as well as less pressure over performance or other things I'd worry about in sex, sex is more pleasurable. And it frees her mouth so I can kiss her.

My gf judt lies down immobile and expects me to do the movement myself.
It's fucking depressing.

>make new female friend
>she's cute but extremely dull
>think to myself that I bet she's a total star fish in bed
>she dates a guy I know briefly
>ask why they broke up
>he tells me that the sex was awful because she just lay there, no sound, no feedback, lights off socks on kind of shit

Girls

Let's say you have a great and loving boyfriend/fiance/husband who loves and cherishes you for years and you are having great relationship.

What if that person would suddenly tell you about his fantasy of you sleeping with another man?
What if he would offer an open relationship, where you guys can sleep with other people?
What if he would tell you, he wants to try a threesome with you and another guy?

Would you accept or deny it? If possible, expand on how you would feel and why would you feel that way, and what would you do in that situation.

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they feel different for many reasons. If I had to choose, I'd pick sex of course, but I always want them both, starting with sucking

It's a difficult one. I couldn't be unhappy with him sharing his sexual preferences with me, and if he was just telling me that he gets off on the idea of a man then I would try to accept it.

If he was telling me that he and an unavoidable urge to sleep with another man, and was likely to do this, then I would probably suggest that we ended our relationship and he sought to do this.

Really? She made it painfully obvious that it wasn't "just because I'm not attracted to you or don't like your personality" but something else about having accepted something or other than she will never feel love or attraction.

So what do I do now? And if she really does like me what do I do? I'm just really confused on the issue cause I care for her so much.

Hell I owe her my life, she was the only person who came over and stopped me from killing myself after a really bad breakup.

She sounds depressed.

I'd feel betrayed and disappointed. I'd try to be nice if I loved him, because him sharing himself with me would mean the world to me, but shit I'd want to dump him right away.

Is there a point of dating if you have autism?
It is like girls smell it and disregards you immediately or keep you as betabucks wallet (which even I understand is a shit deal and bailed out)
This constant feel of inferiority is getting on me and I'm just thinking would it be better that I just delude myself that it'll be better if I stay alone and dont bother women anymore but this time just permanenetly.

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I'm dating a guy on the spectrum. We have been together for 2 years and we are happy a shit.

It's not always terrible, I promise.

She basically is which is the trouble. She helped me out so much after that breakup just by being there for me as a best friend.

I'd give her however much of my life she wanted if it would make her happy. While drunk she sent me the cutest snapchat of herself.

And I felt my heart stop at that cute drunk smile. I want her to be happy...

girls,
what are some delicate, gentle, modest sexual things one can do?
I mean stuff like breathing warmly onto a neck, etc.

Those are some heavy sentiments for someone who thinks that they will never feel love to have to deal with, I'd keep those to yourself.

Girls
If your guy was eating you out and suddenly went down on your bum what would you do? I want to try this on my gf but I'm afraid she'll think I'm weird or perverted. Maybe I am those things, but I'm just so into her and so attracted I want to pleasure her in every conceivable way and explore every part of her

A drunk woman's actions are a sober woman's thoughts. She said no be cause she thinks you're just trying to bone her

Just hang out with her normally and slip a cheeky kiss in

I had a girl off bumble who wanted to have sex today but I passed. I'm not a virgin and I've slept with a number of women but the idea of straight up sex without getting a drink or coffee first doesn't appeal to me. I'm kicking myself because I know most guys would love this opportunity but I passed it. Is there something wrong with me? I'm in two minds thinking I should have just done it and another part of me is thinking did the right thing given I don't want a quick hookup

You have morals. That isn't a bad thing.

>but I'm just so into her and so attracted I want to pleasure her in every conceivable way and explore every part of her
You're on Jow Forums. You don't need to lie to us. We know it's nothing to do with love and everything to do with the ass eating meme pervading social media.

guy here.
I really like anal and I always have to check out if the girl is into it as well.
You need to listen to her body. "accidentally" put your finger on her asshole and watch her reactions. If she gives you a sign of pleasure, do something more direct. and proceed gently. If she doesn't stop you, she definitely likes it.
If she freezes or gives you any other sign she doesn't like what happened, leave her hole alone. Also, give her clear signs if she happens to get close to your anus

she probably sleeps with tens of guys, you probably missed an opportunity to get an STD

I'm not exactly looking for advices, but I'd like to hear your thought

eat healthy

What the fuck, sometimes I hate being phoneposter myself.
>be depressed shit univ students
>4th year
>there's this qt I've stalked in social media for quite some time
>different faculty
>finally decide to say hi, online
>have mutual hobby in creative writing so I have some excuse of happened to find her blog
>things went smoothly
>held back and only chat her two-three times a week, tried to not giving impression of a creep
>never really approach girl romantically, I'm fine if this attempt failed and we only ended up platonically
>skip to end of 4th year
>she graduated with cum laude and started working with non-government organization to quite literally make the world a better place
>while I'm dropped out at the same time
>decided to let her know
>gave some pleasantries like "please keep your spirit up etc"
>never replied to my messages ever again, not even my merry christmas greeting.
I fully realized I should give up. I'm just thinking maybe I can get some more insight here.

I am the same, probably even more hard line. Casual sex does nothing for me. If I don't have some kind of feelings for the girl I don't want to put my dick in it.

If you actually wanted to pleasure her you'd ask her what she likes.

Thanks user, this makes me feel better

Apparently she just broke up with her bf so maybe not?

I don't mind sex outside of relationships I just have to have some level of connection with a girl. I don't want to hangout with this girl with sex being the sole reason we meetup. I'm glad I'm not the only one though

Well, it would mean he lied to me all these years because I would have asked him about that earlier, so that’s not good. I have boundaries when it comes to monogamy that I establish in the beginning, and I don’t think I could compromise that value.

That's not a bad thing, or wrong. You do you.

>American education

Maybe so... but I don't I'll try to slip a kiss in anytime soon.

Sadly what I'm thinking. She's the best friend I have so I might as well not ruin what we have any further.

Girls, how do you make a shy/introverted girl open up more?

Here's some context:
I'm not looking to get into her pants, I just wanna be friends with her and we are sort of pretty decent friends but in a weird way. Whenever we hang out, while sober she's extremely quiet and I have to try my best to keep the conversation going. But when we go to a bar or have something to drink she opens up a lot. That's well and good but unlike her, I don't have high tolerance for alcohol. She however can go through 10 shots of vodka and still be fine while I'm trying not to puke.

What a pussy.
There are 16% shots for people like you.

fingertips

I'm pretty emotional about sex, i want a healthy relationship with a girl... But we don't always get what we want.
So i've been talking to a few friends about it. And they fall in either of two camps.
1) "You need a girl who'll be right for you, and you really shouldn't waste your emotions on girls who don't fit that."
2) "You need a nympho fuck buddy who will fuck you silly, that will help you be less clingy and more open in pursuit of further relationships".

The first one is generally the sentiment of friends who i've known for a long time.
The second friends who've known me fore a year or two.

I know clinginess is not good, and that it's off putting to girls. And i feel like i need to overcome it, even if it means changing myself.

So i want to ask you guys and girls, what should i do?

It's a test.
If you quit she knows she owns yer ass

overcoming clinginess should become your goal indeed, but fucking sluts wont help it (as far as my experience goes at least). Talk to wise people, consider therapy or psychedelics if that's your thing. stuff like this can give you the needed perspective on life.
and in the meantime keep an eye for the dream girl of course

I know you asked girls but I don't really care. You lightly bite their lips when you kiss them. You massage the inside of her hips while you kiss them below. You glide your fingertips around so they get goose bumps.

thanks, user

I dislike wasting boners on blowjobs.
They are nice but I'd rather just have sex.

Blowjobs either happens because my gf takes the initiative or because it's one of those days where you only have sex and some variety is nice.

Good luck in your endeavors.

>So I squared up and mustered the courage to ask a guy out and got rejected with "you don't want to go out me. You're too good for me"

He’s either got insecurity issues/leads a lifestyle which he himself isn’t really proud of.

Or

He thinks you’re sweet but isn’t really all that in to you (possibly because you just lead two very different lifestyles).

Sorry you got rejected, but it happens. Thems the breaks. Still better than sitting on your ass wondering “what if”.

>I feel I'm developing a crush on a guy I met once on a card game pre-release.
Is it a big event or a small one? You doing “pods” or Swiss event play? If pods, just sit near him, say hi again, you’ll be grouped, and you’ll have a chance to chat.

If Swiss, just walk up and say hey again.

>I don't want to be "that" girl if you know what I mean.
I don’t. But who gives a flying fuck really. That shits mostly in your head. Guys don’t tend to think that far in to other people’s intentions to begin with.

>Men, which do you prefer
Huh... that’s kind of tough... Sex is the no brainer, it sometimes a bj is just exactly what I need.

The root of of clinginess is basically insecurity, anxiety, or fear.

Insecurity that you’re not good enough
Anxiety of being getting it wrong.
Fear of abandonment.

So if you don’t want to be clinginess, often times the fix, is to fix your own mentality.

If you’re problem is that you’re afraid to put yourself out there and still fail, so that makes you “cling” to *any* opportunity you have when it seems like it’s going well, then *maaaybe* an intimate encounter with the opposite gender might help you out because it gets you to realize that failure ain’t that bad. Or maybe not.

It all completely depends on what exactly it is that you’re afraid of.

Figure that out for yourself, and then take steps to face and address those fears and insecurities.

I need some advice on how to go about this...

So I met this guy. We had 2 dates, a couple of "online dates" playing games online, and we really hit it off. Last time I want him, it was a pure coincidence at a 7eleven, and he was wearing a ring. Just a regular gold ring, but I hadn't seen it before. I asked what that ring was. We had a cup of coffee as he explained the full situation. He hated his current *wife*, and wanted to cheat on her so she would divorce him.

This is absolutely insane, but I am at a loss for what to do. We have done nothing other than single kiss, but I do not want to see him again. I just have no idea how to proceed from here. Do I just... Ignore their existence? Or do I approach his wife and tell her... What, exactly? That he cheated on her with me? That he wanted to cheat on her? That he wants her gone?

This whole situation seems insane. I have no idea why he is not breaking it off himself instead of doing this super autistic attempt at getting divorced. I know where he lives, and when he works, so it would be easy to go by when he isn't around, but I need some ideas on how to approach this.

I've been going out with this girl for a week now. She recently broke up and I haven't had any for a looong time, so we are both in it mainly to have a good time.
Yesterday she invited me to her house and it was obvious it was heading for sex. We had a lot of fun at first, and I gave her some good foreplay. Unfortunately, when the time came I couldn't get it up, no matter how hard I tried. We chilled for a bit and then I left.
There are plenty of things I could blame it on: being tired and on the run for the entire day, being stressed the fuck out, having had a couple of beers, performance anxiety, not having any for years etc. Both her and my bro reassured me that it happens, that I shouldn't dwell on it etc. I really need some tough anonymous love right now though: Is it actually common? How would a girl feel about it? Given that it isn't really a romantic relationship (at least yet), will she be up for a rematch or was it a total buzzkill?
Any advice is welcome, this was pretty much my biggest sexual fear ever since I started having sex, and it eventually fucking happened.

It's not a fear of being rejected by a girl, that i overcame...
It's a fear of getting close to someone, and having the rug pulled out under my feet. Of being abandoned without knowing why, or the girl even giving the slightest framework to fix it.
And when that happens i get stuck in a circle of thinking something must be profoundly wrong about me.
I can say that my first relationship was damaged by my insecurity about being romantically and sexually inexperienced.
In the second one, i wasn't insecure at all... until i sensed that she was slipping away... and i didn't try to hold on, for her sake, because it was the right thing to do (or at least that's what i keep telling myself). And i hate myself for not trying to hold on while the thing i wanted most of all was the opposite.

Inform the wife.

anyone?
halp anons