Is it weak for me to cry when having drama with my gf? Sometimes she says some hurtful stuff and I end up crying when I'm alone. I sometimes cry on and off all day depending on the situation. I feel like it's pathetic and unhealthy.
She doesn't know that I'm like this. I try to hide it. I'm afraid of telling her that she makes me cry so much. Thoughts?
Yeah, I'm gonna need context for this one.
Sometimes she gets upset with me and tells me to leave her alone. Then we don't talk all day. It really hurts to be told that. Sometimes I feel like I care more about her than she cares about me.
Well, people get upset all the time. Any idea about what you might be doing before she tells you she needs some space?
She says I pressure her too much with things I say. Last night I asked her if I could call her to say goodnight like usual. I told her I only wanted 60 seconds and won't take up her time because I know she's busy working. She said no she's too busy etc.. The thing is that she was on call with a friend of hers for 15 minutes straight prior to that. I brought that up and then she said "don't do that to me, im signing off"
Then I left her a message saying "Show me that you really care" which is when she said to stop pressuring her and don't message her.
I don't know. It hurt knowing that she could give time to another friend but not to the person she supposedly loves.
bump
Drop her like a bad transmission. You're doing all this suffering in vain, she doesn't appreciate your existence and could also be fucking another dude on the side.
Why are you putting up with all this?
>Why are you putting up with all this?
l i t e r a l l y t h i s
I feel like she's one of a kind so I put up with it.
lol
That's a pretty shit one of a kind if she's treating you that way. Just as you said it's as if you're not hers "one of a kind".
I had a female friend whom I appreciated way more than she appreciated me. After a while I just let it go, talking about it didn't seem to work. Dropped her and moved on
Nobody is one of a kind. We're billions of a kind. Every desirable trait you see in her can be found in someone else, and in a thousand other deviations.
Nice trips satan. People have differing levels of "caring" about a person, although that doesn't mean much at the end of the day as long as both people are committed to one another. That being said, look up the five languages of love.
tl:dr; people express love in different ways. Quality time, physical affection, gift giving, acts of service (think doing the dishes for someone because they don't like doing them), words of affirmation (hey bby wan sum fuk?). Sometimes it's very possible to simply not catch the other person being romantic because you speak different languages, if you catch my drift.
>Last night I asked her if I could call her to say goodnight like usual.
>ask someone to call them
>not just calling them
>your entire example where 1 single minute is too valuable to give to the person you love
You need self confidence, OP. And also to break up with her. You are right, that is bullshit.
She's not. I'm a huge proponent of love being a choice, not a state of being. That being said, there is no one of kind. 7 billion people in this world, OP. Let's narrow that down. If you're male, and dating a girl, that's down to some 3.5 billion. If we presume an equal distribution of ages, that's down to 1 billion, for not being too old or too young. I'm going to assume you're white, which as a global minority of some 2% I think, puts you at 200 million girls like her. Add in language barriers and we're down to what, 20 million? Divide that by 10 again for the hell of it and you're telling me there isn't anyone out of the 2 million people who are like worthy of matching up to you?
EVEN THEN, you said "she's one of a kind" but she treats you like garbage so let's hope she *is* one of a kind so that the next girl you date is much better for you.
By the way, it's okay for a man to cry. We have tear ducts, use them as you desire. If someone makes fun of you for it tell them to fuck off.
holy shit man
I'll take your advice and think it over. Leaving her will be a really hard decision. Maybe I'll have a talk and see if she's willing to improve on her end first. I don't actually want to leave her so I hope we can turn things around.
Talking to her about it is worth a try, but remember that you deserve better if nothing changes and improves. She's not "one of a kind" and you can find a girl who treats you better.
Yes. Any kind of relationship issue is primarily solved by communication, that being said the thing you need more importantly is self esteem. Work on both please.
You’re pathetic & weak. Have SOME self-esteem. What does she say anyway?
Well I'm jelly. I can't cry so easily and it's actually tiring because I don't have a tap to let it out.
Fuck
Well not worth it based on that exchange, or either you're too pushy..I need more context because at this point seems you're being played.
>fish in the sea lmao
Yeah but playing it like that isn't fair.
I mean, someone is indeed special for one or another for reasons.
I personally don't think it's weird or anything, it's definitely a little more than I would cry over but that's just me. Emotional release is a good thing, men should definitely cry, have rage and allow their emotions to flow but the caveat is we can never let our women see us lose it, looks like you were already smart enough to do that though. Next time she does something like that, go somewhere private, cry, get it out then talk to her about it with a clear head so that you can hold your composure and tell her how you feel about it.
You should not see this person anymore.
well i used to cry when my ex told me that i'm an emotional monster, who will never truely be able to show love. She said that she looked into the dephs of hell when she looked in my eyes once and lastly she managed to make me cry by ignoring everything i did for one week straight before breaking it up with me.
I don't know why i still love this monster of a person, but even if we had a fight like every single day, i still love her.
Fucking hell am i dumb, or just retarded for loving this girl after 3y of relationship?