So I slapped my boyfriend in the face and he's acting all funny towards me now.
What had happened was that I'm a non smoker while he's a heavy smoker. We have been dating for 4 years. I told him, just don't smoke around me, I don't wanna breathe in secondhand smoke. Over the years he doesn't listen and lights up in the car or even in his bedroom while I am there, and I'm kinda asthmatic so I struggle to breathe too. Usually I tell him to stop and he does, but one night he lit up a cig again in his room while I was there, and I told him to go into the backyard. This time he responded by blowing smoke into my face on purpose and my hand just flew out and slapped him.
He kinda just stared at me wide eyed like I did something really horrible. Tbh I feel bad for putting my hands on someone as it's something I usually never do but I feel like it's warranted. Opinions ?
He sounds just as dumb, what the fuck. You're asthmatic, that's harmful to you Honestly I'd just get mad and tell him if he wants to play funny because he was an asshole he can fucking masturbate on the couch til he finds his self some smoker hussy
There isn't just disrespect there but a clear boundary crossing that he doesn't appear to care about even slightly, which is disturbing.
I am very much trying not to recommend you dump his ass hard because he honestly deserves more than a slap if four years with an asthmatic doesn't smarten him up. Seriously
Robert Morales
He should've beat the shit out of you. Equal rights deserves equal lefts.
Easton Richardson
You 100% did the right thing There's a very good reason kids have been slapped for millenia, sometimes it's the only way to knock sense into someone
Jace James
I agree with you but I also think it might be culture, because he's Chinese and they all smoke like chimneys and think it's not a big deal. I stay with him because he's really nice in all other aspects so I just dealt w it. But he's acting like I'm an abuser now lol
Dylan Gray
You should be glad he didn't turn into Rey Mysterio in this bitch and give your bitch ass the 619
But forreal tho leave him
Jose Kelly
You're both garbage. Sounds like you belong together.
Andrew Ward
You should be arrested for felony assault.
Juan Richardson
If it's not okay for him to hit you then it's not okay for you to hit him. That being said if someone blew smoke in my face I'd fucking break their jaw because I can't stand cigarettes either.
Gabriel Flores
Chinese are disgusting lol, and culture isn't an excuse for anything anywhere. If they're shitty they're shitty. It's time to dump him, I'd just say "if you wanted me to hate you just say so" Out him as the cause. But it sounds like he's never the type to admit doing wrong so you might be fucked, and again being Chinese sounds worse. That country is fucking atrocious, down to the core, and they constantly shove blame away from themselves
Ian Perry
>if someone blew smoke in my face I'd fucking break their jaw
Suppose that person is larger, quicker or trained in fighting more than you?
Joshua Phillips
I'm a chain smoker and I'd do the same if someone blew smoke in my face.
Landon Barnes
>wahh I only start fights I am sure I can win otherwise I'm fine with my respect being blown to bits.
Benjamin Kelly
are you white?
Brayden Jackson
Oh well You either eat your pride or live by it Mangez bitch
Sebastian Russell
>But he's acting like I'm an abuser now lol You are lol
Evan Carter
I'm Middle Eastern lol Technically my country smokes a lot too though
Henry Peterson
And he's innocent She should have swung harder. Maybe Chinky would have learned something
Charles Price
>my pride is only worth defending if it's a fight I know I can win Soiboy please go
Brody Bell
I mean, I'd expect a slap for that shit. >He kinda just stared at me wide eyed like I did something really horrible. And he kinda sounds like a faggot. "Oh look at me. I'm a real worldly manly man who smokes because he doesn't give a fuck! I've just never gotten a cat scratch before."
Levi Cook
The difference between Chinese masculinity and American masculinity is that American masculinity is actually something I can understand a woman wanting. Every Chinese guy wants to be the fat old man in hentai for some reason.
David Richardson
They think they can scam their body out of getting fat
Christian Morris
How small is his penis?
Cooper Jones
isa-issa so smaru
Brayden Cruz
Every abuser thinks what they do is warranted. Every guy that hits his wife because his dinner wasn't warm when he got home thinks the same reason. Congrats on being no better than that.
Julian Perry
>muh pride
Let's be honest, you're on a Mongolian animated erotica forum, your pride isn't that big of a deal.
Levi Phillips
Every abuser drinks water too.
Like "most" domestic disputes, this situation is mutual. He could call the cops, and they'd just tell whoever doesn't have the deed in their name to go sleep somewhere else for the night. Even Hockey's got two minutes for instigating, and whew BOY if that ain't instigating. I can't think of a more arrogant and invasive thing that fucker could do to her shy of violence. Fucker needed more spankings.
Dominic Barnes
How is my existence here even somewhat relevant to whether or not I'd be ok with someone openly disrespecting me like that? You might be a fucking loser ok with someone treating you like that but I'm not
Chase Reyes
Who the fucks smokes cigs in their house that's not a cheapo apartment?
Camden Brown
You're a fucking idiot for dating an extra chromozoned retard like that in the first place.
OP, he shouldn't had blown smoke in your face. You shouldn't have slapped him. You are both wrong in that way. The fact that he continues to do it in front of you just screams the fact that he doesn't respect you and knows you won't leave him. I suggest you leave him and if he doesn't fix his shit, you are better off without him.
Austin Torres
You could just stop associating with that person, you wouldn't even get physically fucked up by doing it.
Levi Clark
If my bitch hit me I would dump her. That shit is disrespectful. My ex hit me before when she was drunk. Kicked her to the curb. If you don't respect me then you must not love me, and I don't need you.
Nicholas Wood
If you're referring to your partner as "your bitch", you're probably not suited to a mature relationship.
Cooper Bennett
He deserved it. Also, stop dating a smoker. You're still getting infected by second hand smoke and if you ever marry and have children then it'll do the same thing to them. Not to mention they'll be at a much higher risk becoming smokers themselves. Save you and him a lot of trouble by moving on.
Caleb Sullivan
So I slapped my girlfriend in the face and he's acting all funny towards me now. What had happened was that I'm a non smoker while she's a heavy smoker. We have been dating for 4 years. I told her, just don't smoke around me, I don't wanna breathe in secondhand smoke. Over the years she doesn't listen and lights up in the car or even in his bedroom while I am there, and I'm kinda asthmatic so I struggle to breathe too. Usually I tell her to stop and she does, but one night she lit up a cig again in his room while I was there, and I told her to go into the backyard. This time she responded by blowing smoke into my face on purpose and my hand just flew out and slapped her. She kinda just stared at me wide eyed like I did something really horrible. Tbh I feel bad for putting my hands on someone as it's something I usually never do but I feel like it's warranted.
Jacob Jenkins
he assaulted you with smoke so you assaulted him with a slap. you slapped him; your hand did not do it on its own. now your relationship is changed, but maybe not in an extreme way.
congrats
Brayden Myers
Are you really that angry about a woman slapping a man?
Alexander Cook
You are absolutely in the wrong for hitting him. That is NEVER okay. You need to openly acknowledge that to him and apologize. Him being an asshole is not an excuse. You can tell him "I know it's not an excuse, but I was very upset when you blew that smoke in my face since it is bad for my health." DO NOT RATIONALIZE YOUR MISTAKE TO HIM. The way you wrote it just now is too "he deserved it".
Physically striking a partner is never okay. Never ever. Even if they cheat on you or give you an STD or something. NEVER HIT YOUR PARTNER
Ryan Flores
If copying and pasting then editing a few hims and hers means I'm angry, then you do not want to see what I'd do were I to get furious.
My text would turn mean and green.
>You bitch!
Easton Morales
Look, man It doesn't matter If you blow smoke in someone's face you're asking for a reaction, and honestly there are people who'd probably swing a lot harder than a slap. If you don't like being hit, I suggest you don't ever do things that could get you hit. Me, I kind of have a stiffy for a certain threshold in pain, so being an asshole works out pretty well-- but that being said, I still wouldn't fucking blow smoke in someone's face just like, fuggen wynaut
Nathan Cox
>Physically striking a partner is never okay. Never ever. Even if they cheat on you or give you an STD or something. NEVER HIT YOUR PARTNER What kind of logic is that? If someone gives you HIV, you are very much allowed to hit them. This anti-violence stuff defies all logic.
>Oh you gave me aids >I'm just going to call you a mean word
Isaiah Cooper
If another man blew smoke in my face like in the OP's situation, I'd punch him in the face.
If a woman blew smoke in my like in the OP's situation, I'd smack her good.
There are times when measured violence is appropriate.
William Diaz
I'm not necessarily stating that her boyfriend didn't deserve it.
My point however, is that sooner or later we'll hear the opposite side of this, and being of the generation where I've been labelled sexist for refusing to punch a girl (just because she called me a name - wouldn't even hit a dude for that), I'd prefer to see people saying "Yeah, fuck that cunt, hope you knocked her block off m8, well done innnit". Y'know, for equality reasons and such.
Luis Perez
We'll, if someone gives you aids you can sue them so there's that. Also I'd imagine you would not want to maintain a relationship with someone who gave you a life threatening illness so yeah punch away. But in a RELATIONSHIP that you intend to continue, you NEVER HIT YOUR PARTNER out of anger.
What, can you not control yourself? There are many, much more effective ways to respond to when your partner is being an asshole. Slapping is not ok.
Dominic Miller
eye for an eye is usually not legal though, so youre giving outside the law advice
Ryder Jones
>allowed to hit them Okay but on the other side that's not going to solve their HIV, or yours; it might give you some comeuppance but more likely you're just picking on someone equally vulnerable, equally lashing out.
I think if someone got me the aids or another stdses, I sure as fuck wouldn't be eager to touch them again. Hitting them once already got me a fucking disease, if I hit it twice I'm gonna grow an extra fucking foot or something.
The problem is doing shit that is clearly irreverent and careless of other people. If you don't care about other people, don't date them. And besides, he's a fucking Chinaman so he's probably got as much ethical fabric as Made-in-China clothes have actual fabric. Let's not forget the elephant in the room, that we're dealing with someone who inherently considers humans as objects beneath themselves.
Isaac Hernandez
>What, can you not control yourself? There are many, much more effective ways to respond to when your partner is being an asshole. Slapping is not ok. Measured violence is perfectly okay in the right context. It's not about a lack of control, it's a conscious decision. Anyone who preaches complete non-violence is delusional. You're telling me you wouldn't fight for your life? An extreme example, but it points out of the fallacy of total non-violence arguments. The guy blew cigarette smoke in her face. That's infinitely worse than a slap.
You won't face any sort of serious consequence for such a limited act of violence. Couples get away with a lot worse domestic violence every single day.
Nathaniel Adams
If someone blew smoke in my face they would be licking the floor, I'm not asthmatic. Smoking in his car and room with you after agreeing (presuming he did) is a shitty thing to do, blowing smoke in your face is another thing entirely.
The relationship isn't healthy if your partner is going to blow smoke in your face knowing you have asthma.
Aaron Gonzalez
>Okay but on the other side that's not going to solve their HIV So? Neither is suing them. According to you, nothing whatsoever should be done. "Wow? You gave me aids? Okay. Btw let's stay together."
Gavin Cruz
>He kinda just stared at me wide eyed like I did something really horrible. That's the look a bully gets when their shit gets pushed in. Good job standing up for yourself. This was not random, unhinged violence. You told him time and time again and he knows that it does to your health. He obviously wasn't going to get the message any other way. See if he does it again. I bet he won't.
Grayson Myers
I'm not preaching non-violence. I think violence is absolutely appropriate when a stranger threatens you, or even if a friend crosses a line in some circumstances. I also think it can be effective when used properly in raising children. With a partner, though, it is never ok.
The guy blew smoke in her face- maybe his dumb ass thought it would be funny. Is it rude? Yes. Is it deserving of a slap? If he were a stranger or a friend, sure. But as her partner, she should have handled it differently.
Gavin Hill
>it's okay to hit your children >but not okay to hit your partner >even if they are literally breathing poison into your asthmatic face Yes, it was completely deserving of a slap to the face. This is probably one of the cleanest, easiest examples of deserving a slap to the face. A slap is literally nothing. Blowing cigarette smoke into a asthmatic person's face is far more abusive than a silly slap. Holy shit, get your priorities straight you're insane.
Cameron Rivera
He didn't do it to induce her asthma, and didn't do it thinking of hurting her. He likely did it just to mess around playfully and get a "ewwwww go outsiiiide!!!!" reaction out of her. HENCE why he was so bewildered when she slapped him.
She hit him with the intent of hurting him, and that is why it isn't "fair" to slap him. Also, while calculated/controlled violence is appropriate, this is clearly not. When you discipline a kid, you obviously hold back and don't hit out of anger. You are hitting out of the desire to teach a lesson, not out of a desire to inflict hurt and suffering.
Because OP reacted out of anger, it was not a calculated use of force and was not appropriate. Violence should never be used between partners. Slaps turn to punches, which can escalate to even more. Where does the line get drawn? If she'd want to inflict pain on him over this, what else would she justify hitting him over? Marriages and relationships are full of stressful times and issues. You can't resort to violence to address the problems.
Andrew Williams
>He didn't do it to induce her asthma, and didn't do it thinking of hurting her. >She hit him with the intent of hurting him, and that is why it isn't "fair" to slap him. It doesn't matter what he thinks. All that matter is what he does. Besides, you aren't clairvoyant enough to know what his intent was.
Daniel Turner
I disagree. If they're together they'll breed.
Ryder Butler
If he was intentionally trying to harm her health then he deserves both a slap and a breakup.
I dont know what his intentions were, but I'd imagine from the way OP described the situation that he meant it to mess playfully with her and get a reaction.
Also, intention does matter. That is just a fact.
Cooper Torres
>arguing with holes: deluxe edition "If you don't stop you won't fuck me ;))"
Christian Moore
>I didn't mean to beat the shit out of you >that's what counts, right?
Ian Gomez
you shouldn't be in this board. intelligent people are not allowed.
Joseph Gonzalez
Intention is not the end all be all, but it has an impact. To deny that is incorrect.
A child who has been slapped by a calm, controlled adult who is trying to teach them a lesson has a different experience than a child who was slapped recklessly by an infuriated adult. To simplify it to "they both got slapped so it's the same" is just not accurate
Owen Reed
>A child who has been slapped by an adult is an abused child
>advocating literally hitting children >but vehemently against slapping a fully grown man blowing cigarette smoke in an asthmatic's face You're seriously insane.
Isaac Lewis
Not sure exactly where the lines are between a physical hand and physical smoke but it sounds like he assaulted you first
Nolan Cook
OP here. I actually don't know what his intention was to be honest, because what he did was rather out of character. Usually his sense of humour doesn't involve trying to 'mess' with me. He had a bit of a smirk on his face when he did it, so no I don't think he was trying to HARM me, but I think he had a spiteful moment because he thought I was too naggy about his smoking and wasn't taking me seriously.
Tbh I wish I had slapped harder
Matthew Kelly
You deserve better than a rice dick that smells like an ashtray.
Jordan Nguyen
male perspective. if a friend would do this to me, it would have been my fist in his face. Your boyfriend should be even nicer to a girlfriend than a brofriend. so fuck him . he earned it beeing inconsiderate at this level.
Jonathan Edwards
I think you're 100% in the right, OP. This is a male perspective talking.
Mason Howard
Punishment isn't always about undoing the crime, but to prevent future crimes from occurring. Slapping someone for doing something to you makes them less likely to do it again.
Nathaniel Rodriguez
lol imagine if a guy slapped his girlfriend because she blew smoke in his face. And after he thought about it for a little bit his conclusion was that "I should've slapped her harder".
Yeah, you're kind of a cunt. Now don't get me wrong, he's a cunt too, a huge one. Much worse than you. How fucking disrespectful must you be to smoke when you're in the same room as your asthmatic partner after she repeatedly asked you not to do it? But this doesn't justify violence. Or, rather, violence will only bring more issue to the relationship, as you should be able to notice, with him acting like you're an abuser.
You think you did good by slapping him? Keep doing it, see where what comes of your relationship. Go talk to him about it, apologize for the slap, but tell him in as many words as possible that what he's doing is not only bothering you but also messing with your health. And keep reminding him of it. Don't just tell him "Go smoke somewhere else", but say why you want him to go smoke somewhere else. If he has any kind of decency in him and gives a shit about you he'll listen to you. If he doesn't ... well... you know
Aiden Peterson
That's what you get for dating "the bad boy" you could have had a superior gentle skinny boy but no you had to go for the muscular chad. Serves you right for thinking with your bad instinct, but no little baby, its too late, we the real good ones, the ones that are beauty of the brain will not take your roastie ass back, you made your choice, unless you offer free sex first your people makes a national sport out of abusing women and i love it cause theres no way to deny it and it drives the leftard crazy, thank you for so much. Please stone a girl on your way home.
Joshua Barnes
I'm a middle eastern man and I consider slapping barbaric and something a lesser person would do, lol. All these people saying it's okay to slap are a lot different than me. I'd probably retaliate by throwing out his smokes instead or some shit like that.
Henry Rodriguez
I was a douche to a girl one time for basically no reason and she gave me a good quick smack. I was mad at the time, but honestly I deserved it. If I had acted the same way to a guy who wasn't a pussy, it would have been a fight and I knew it. She was not a violent person and it was the only time I saw her do such a thing. In a way, she really made me check myself and I understand why she did it.
Ethan Carter
>my hand just flew out and slapped him
You should get that checked out. Hands usually don't have minds of their own.
Jonathan Rivera
Disrespect begets disrespect. He asked for it blowing smoke into her face ya permavirgin.
Aiden Carter
Amen.
Connor Russell
>smacking someone once for blowing smoke in your face makes you an abuser Sure does smell like PUSSY in here.
Luke Ross
>So I slapped my boyfriend in the face Hot. I'd have to hide my boner if I was him.
Slap him again.
Tyler Richardson
Weak ass manlets saying the dude didn't deserve to be slapped. If a larger dude would do that to me given the same circumstances I might have even gone apeshit on him. It's like saying misbehavior doesn't deserve punishment. It's like saying that there are no solid consequences in life.
Jordan Barnes
Ikr
Grayson Miller
Let's see your partner do that to you after years of telling them to fucking not to politely and see how angry you get It's easy to say "I would do this" but it's not reality when things get heated
Ayden Taylor
The most important lesson we learned here is that he absolutely earned that slapped.
Christopher Russell
Yeah, you are an abuser.
Nice.
Bentley Gutierrez
Hahaha
Benjamin Myers
Weak
Adrian Nelson
Yes, because when a woman does something that bothers me when told not to it is completely fine for me to slap the piss out of them and it isn't abuse.
:/
Colton Davis
People don't like to admit it because of new attitudes nowadays but men are different from women. Men have more force, if they hit a woman it's like hitting someone physically weaker. Again people are saying everything is equal, no it's not otherwise the genders would have same genitals and body capabilities lol That's why it's more fucked up if a man hits a woman
Austin Hughes
What makes you think her boyfriend is a 'muscular Chad'?? All we know is that he is Chinese and he smokes
Oliver Garcia
This person apparently also believes the entire Middle East is just one country too. Lol.
Ethan Cook
Well she said her man is Chinese so she might be bigger and stronger than him.
But that doesn't matter because one has a dick and the other doesn't. So one has to responsible for their actions and the other doesn't despite being just as likely to physically abuse the other person.
Justin Morris
You’re dumb, you have an incompatibility issue, it’s not going to work out.
Benjamin Torres
Wait, it's not? Is Middle-istan not even a place.
Tyler Anderson
>he blew smoke in his face and you slapped him so it’s over you’re not white, are you?
Levi Moore
My generation is full of whiners and it bothers me. You think the pre-Boomer generations would give a damn about a well deserved and ultimately harmless slap? She would have been widely applauded. The flip side is that the men wouldn't hesitate to slap a woman if she deserved. No, it's not the same as actually assaulting someone. Stop cheapening real abuse with that weak comparison. As long as it's not a truly damaging or hurtful slap, I don't see the problem. Sometimes people need the shake up when their behavior is sub-rational. If getting a petty little slap because you were an asshole is the biggest problem in your life, then you need to pull the silver spoon out of your mouth and toughen up.
Nathaniel Rivera
Well people think spousal rape is a thing now too.
Cameron Young
If a woman tells you no and you do it anyway, that's rape. It doesn't matter if she has a ring on her finger or not.
Tyler Torres
Like I said, people think spousal rape is a thing. Times are different.
Until around the 60s absolutely no one considered it a thing because the whole point of marriage was basically a license to have sex as unmarried sex was kind of taboo to outright illegal.
Cooper Baker
Yeah and people today think it's okay to have children undergo HRT. There's always crazy laws and going-ons no matter what time period. That doesn't mean we should ignore the sensible parts of those times. It would be inane if people ignored the sensible values we hold today because we also had nonsensical things like faulty gun control and contentious immigration laws.
Tyler Bailey
Is the existence of the concept of spousal rape a good or bad thing? Why do you feel that way? Do you think it is societal conditioning that makes you feel that way?
As an aside, I'm married and would never force myself on my wife. I just like playing devils advocate in these situations.
Anthony Murphy
You're not playing the devil's advocate, you're just fallaciously forcing another subject. It's pretty dumb.
Brayden Perez
Oh? Okay.
Back to the topic at hand, when the OP decided to commit felonious battery against a minority and felt justified in doing so because of gender discrimination.
I think she was wrong in doing such a thing and should be charged with a hate crime.