Dr. Feels is in the house

I know its sounds superficial and not as important as other life questions out there, but how do i get over the fact that i’m a tall female? Im about 5’10 and I know it’s not freakishly tall, but it feels like it.
Ive been to multiple therapists and therapys (not for this reason, abuse from family) and im tired of hearing the same, you have to love yourself/being tall isnt that bad its good/embrace it and other people will too/etc
Ive done these things, and it still weighs on me and causes me trouble in daily life. I can joke about it to people and make fun of myself with friends but by the end of the day I just feel really bad about it and like im destined to not be able to do the things I want in life

Works kind of shitty at the moment cause I broke up with my bitch ex. It's really hard to completely get over it cause I have to see her every week when I want nothing to do with her.

not big of a deal, sure some average height guys might be jealous that you are almost their height or taller, but most men aren't like that

Are you only into taller men? If so, it may be a bit harder to find a guy you're physically attracted to, but that's it really. Lots of shorter guys might get off having a taller gf desu

Thats not my deal tho friends, my bf at the moment is two inches shorter, it doesnt really affect anything
and i dont think id want to date a guy who only sees my height as a fetish either

>Was there any single moment in your life ever since you become sentient to that, where you've felt true joy?
I'm afraid not.
But I drag on forward, tired. Perhaps this grand epic of nonsense we call life will one day shine a ray of ironic truth to make it seem, illusorily of course, worthwhile.
Thank you for listening. It's a brief respite but a respite nevertheless.

First of all, I apologize for taking long to reply!

First of all, of something that is 'your own' is very important to you, I'd try all sorts of classes - Martial arts, music, painting, yoga etc. I'd suggest stuff you learn in a group (Martial arts, dancing) since it's a great platform to make new friends.
However, if you constantly soak inspiration from all different kinds of people, you could be like a cocktail of personalities! Think of Long Island Ice Tea: Each of its components are a thing of their own. But together they have a ubique flavour and a much stronger effect!

If it bothers you, it isn't silly. Could you point out what bothers you about it? Personally I know the opposite end, as I feel short (Male, your height or a tiny bit shorter) and what helped me is looking for badass 'hot' celebrities that are my height or shorter. Jason Statham, Johnny Depp...

As for you, there's Taylor Swift who's hella feminine and gorgeous, or Jordyn Sparks who's like 5'10 and has a wonderful thicc figure. Look up '5'10 female celebrities and find your inspiration and role model!

As for it being a fetish, it may be to some, but to others it may be just a trait they prefer! Like how some women want their men skinny and long haired while others prefer the bald, burly Dwayne Johnson type.

Where/Why are you seeing her? I can try to guide you further when I know that, but one thing I can tell you: With time, it'll get better. I hated people in the past, I had my heart broken twice and still see one of those who break it every now and then, and I eventually got over it. It's gonna be okay, I promise.

Two things I can suggest doing:

>Look for the thing that sparks your flame
Try shit out. High level cooking, sports (of all kinds), tabletop games, sewing, anything!
Something might just rekindle your joy. I found mine, I bet you will eventually find yours! While you're at it, though...

>Spend the time you feel bleak in, helping others.
I mean, it's gonna suck anyway, right? But it doesn't have to suck for everyone!
Help a friend out, or better yet, go volunteer somewhere. Preferrably with animals or with people in need. Hearing a genuine "Thank you, user." just kinda does something to you

A fag was hitting on me today.
Bothers me very much.
Makes me so angry i want to kick the shit out of him.

Homophobia IS real!

I can't find a job in my home country and it's starting to wear me out. I want so badly to start saving for my wedding in March but as of late, I keep getting rejected time and time again from everywhere I apply to. I graduated with honors and get along well with people.

I'm also considering going back into the Navy, this time as a Reservist. I did five years active duty but I'm not willing to live that life again full time... I suppose I'm just feeling desperate at this point and a little bit down.

>Look for the thing that sparks your flame
I've tried. The things you've listed were just the beginning.
I looked so far and wide that there's only a handful things in the entire world that I haven't yet tasted.
And frankly I doubt they are to my liking, or are very similar to something else that I've already thoroughly exhausted.

>Spend the time you feel bleak in, helping others.
I do that. It's the only thing I do nowadays. Doesn't make it me feel any better.
It's a struggle against a tide that can't be surmounted. What use are my two outstretched arms against a living avalanche of grabbing hands that drag everybody down?
What use is that tiny footing I can provide, if the very next day it all topples as if it was never there?
It's useless. I still do it because it is my duty. But it's utterly useless.

A phobia is fear.
I just hate fags

I'm not great at my job and I'm afraid I'll get laid off eventually. Then I'll be thrown into a terrible job market. Yeah I have savings but I really want to get a house but it's so goddamn expensive and yeah there's smaller down payments but you're going to be paying more monthly plus there's closing costs and house insurance and maintenance costs. I'm a complete failure when it comes to dating. 27 and never dated anybody. I don't have any energy, motivation, or discipline to try and improve myself. I accomplish small goals here and there but it's never enough. I honestly think there's going to be dark times ahead and major economic downturns so I'm trying to prepare for that. Maybe I'm just a paranoid crazy person but I'd rather have a gun than no gun and food and water ready. Sometimes I think what the fuck is the point of anything if this system is bound to collapse anyways. I just go to work and pretend everything is ok. My mind is a rattled mess and my thoughts are all over the place. I can't remember the last time I was clear minded.

it's crazy how little I actually do with a whole day and I don't really like that I've to start over again the next day.

Wow thanks thats actually some unique advice
Id say its hard to put into words, just little things compounding over time
I cant seem to shake the feeling of how much kids used to pick on me in school
Big foot, sasquatch, anorexic, etc basically became my identity to a lot of people
No body knew my name, i was “that tall girl”
By highschool when i finally started making friends id tell them about my insecurities and id get “ive always wanted to be your hight, but you can see over people/reach things, but youre intimidating!”
Like thats a good thing
I dont want to be intimidating, i just want to be normal feminine girl.
I want to wear dresses that dont become shirts and have hobbies and my own personality that make up more of me than just my hight being my identity
And knowing this is something that i cant ever fix, i cant loose weight and feel better im already underweight, theres no plastic surgery thatll fix a bad nose or teeth
I just have to learn to live with it but how can i when its the first thing people mention when they meet me

I dreamt my ex. She was kissing me, hugging me, crying, saying she shouldn't have left me.
I'm not ok.

Same here.
I hope I'll have a job in the future where I have to travel to give speeches to introduce a product or something.

Longtime Fwb with my best friend

I fell in love with her she rejected me. Kept having sex.

1 year later she falls in love with me, I reject her. 8 months no contact

Reconnect in May. She says no sex, we ended up hooking up once already

Finally I say if were going to do this I want an exclusive relationship

She says she started seeing other guys over the 8 months we spent no contact and she's having sex with other guys.

Absolutely devastated. Stopped talking to her, she just wants to be platonic friends and misses me. I can't do it.

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Californians moving here and now our housing is fucked along with the prices of everything else. I try to fuck with them every chance I get but one man can only do so much.

Why does it bother you, friend? Try to locate why it angers you and tell me, please.

I see. At what point do they part with you? Face-to-face interview? CV?

First of all, you have appreciation for volunteering, user!
For you it has no value, perhaps. And it is okay to feel that way. Not normal, but understabdable.
But for that homeless guy you just saved, a single more day is like an entire lifetime. Your seemingly-little effect the work of angels, for them.
Now, it sounds like a more severe thing. Are you seeing a therapist?

What's wrong with your efforts at the job? Are you not 'good enough', or are you not putting enough effort into it?

As for 'prepping', it's always better to be prepared, but one who sets his ironsights at an enemy 300 meters ahead may be stabbed by the bayonet of the enemy 2m ahead. You catch my drift?

(Cont. for other posters.)

my dreams torment me nightly. not op, just reaching out to say you're not alone and tell you to stay strong/hang in there

godspeed fren

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What prevents you from doing so? Are you working with a well-defined, exact objectives each day? You should!

Glad I could help!
Where do you live, that it's considered so tall?
And what hobbies and personality traits you currently have and wish to emphasize, or rather, wish to develop?

Something that is... Well, not mandatory but I want you to try out for a while:
When someone goes "Oh wow u so tol!!!", no matter what you think, thank the person. As if he just said your eyes are gorgeous or you have a nice figure. This might just 'rewire' your brain to accept your looks and find it to be a good thing.

And remember - Looks are important, and nice, for like the first 30 seconds or so. After that, the personality you wanted to emphasize comes into play. I've been around 8-9/10 girls so dumb I couldn't bare to exist by them and 5-6/10's I was completely fascinated by.

That's very tough, user. I'm terribly sorry to hear. Did you just wake up? Is work before you, or is your day free?

(Will answer the rest soon enough!)

I dated someone who I thought was the love of my life (cringe in retrospect) and we had such a terrible relationship. Thought we'd help each other with our respective issues, ended up making everything worse. He said he wants to take a lot of time apart and potentially get back together in future. I was all for that but then he made me feel like worthless garbage by telling me how much he missed me, instigating us having sex and then going completely cold/emotionless on me until he moved out. I helped him move despite the fact he kept snapping at me and making me feel like shit, then right before he left he looked like he was going to cry and said "I hope the next time we see each other isn't too far off".

I have no idea where his head is at or what he wants. We're doing no contact properly now and it's so difficult because part of me still doesn't want to move on but I know I should.

I've fallen in love for the first time in my life with someone who can never feel the same to due thier bad past experiences.

Loneliness and being deprived of starting a family of my own

I've been struggling with my mind for years. Being unable to think like the others, in the sense that, I can't stop thinking about bad things that are said to me. One thing is being offended, other thing is completely being unable to take those words out of my head, and when something goes wrong, it all comes above me, and I get into depression-light (I call it this way, cus it doesn't really last for long, and, usually, doing something I like, takes care of it easily). I got myself a girlfriend somehow, a girl who actually likes me for taking care of her, but we have always had problems, especially with my lack of understanding on regular people and what they do to have fun, or talk to each other. She had some recent problems with her 'friends', and it seems like she's starting to get tired of people who never change their minds.

Well, I got diagnosed with asperger (not fully diagnosed, but my psychiatrist said it was either that or a traumatic episode, but the traumatic episode seems too unlikely due to my more regular approach to the asperger-ish behaviour and my need to explain everything in full detail).

I think she's tired of me as well. It's true that I haven't been able to fully understand every single thing that has bothered her about me in the past, but the fact that, this time, it seems like, what she's mad about, it's something I can't change, or fix in any way (remember, asperger ain't a sickness, is a condition, for life), it's making me really anxious, and like, if I say something weird, if I care for a friend that happens to be a girl, or if I do something that will look dumb in her eyes, maybe it'll be the end, and I'm scared. I'm more scared that I have ever been about my relation.

(Pt1) I never knew Jow Forums had a word limit.

(Pt2)

She has had some problems in her life, particularly, a divorce where she was left behind by her entire family, and had to deal with both of her parents saying bad things to her, in one way or another, and I feel like, that led her to need attention and a more stabilized relationship than what we have now, but my own life is a disaster. I fucked it up by myself, because what I choose to study is not making happy, at all, it's way more though than I thought, and every single wrong step just takes me further into thinking that I will screw everything up again, but I can't take those feelings out of my head.

What am I supposed to do here? How do I explain to her what I'm feeling, when she gets mad everytime I overreact to something? Am I overreacting? Should we both take some time before continuing with our relationship? or should we just stop. Maybe we aren't suitable for each other at all, maybe we both need somebody else, maybe I need to get some operation or something or to drop out everything, or grow up, but learning new tricks hasn't help me before.

What can I do?

her parents had the divorce, I feel like I need to specify that.

Also, we're both on our 20's.

Basically I have cheated on my girlfriend who is my dream girl and I cannot see myself with anyone else but her.
Problem is that while I had no feelings for the other girl and she was and probably still is desperately in love with me, now she's kind of ignoring me and "leaves" me then comes back to me couple of days later and I cannot say no to her because I think I've fucking fallen for her. She knows I'm in a relationship and is semi ok with it but I guess some of her girlfriends told her it's not a great move and now she's acting weird. While I should be happy that she gave me a wild card of "get the fuck out of this asap" I still fucking want her attention. Sex was good, but she has nothing that my gf doesn't but for some reason I still cannot fucking stop thinking of her while we haven't spoken in like 3 days.
How do I get rid of these thoughts and move on with my life?

My best friend's girlfriend fell in love with me and got him to agree to a poly-relationship. We've all been living together for a year but I've been part of the relationship for a couple months. I think it was just to keep from hurting his feelings as they grew apart before me and even more so since; he just doesn't treat her well at all. Blames his shortcomings on his depression and promises to change. Does better for a month and then falls right back into it. I don't hate him, I don't think he hates me. Things were really good over the last couple months.
Last night he told her he couldn't do it anymore, seemingly out of nowhere, despite stopping me from moving out (out of respect) to add me to the relationship. I think it was supposed to be an ultimatum for her but she chose me and now I'm in an odd spot.

Bros before hoes and all that but he gave me his blessing and I love her. I think we're going to be moving out together soon; she says she can't live with him anymore let alone be in a relationship with him.

>hot girl I work with comes over to my office
>closest thing to a friend I have at work
>we chat a bit
>she’s inching closer to me
>eating a few oreos
>ask me if I want one
>before I can say anything she says “ahh” and puts Oreo in my mouth
>can feel myself turning red and getting sweaty
>start laughing
>she starts laughing
>she hugs me and rubs my arm and goes away

Help, I’m married and I think she is too

you answered yourself.

Bros before Hoes. This is the type of girl that can't have just one slice for herself, she wants the whole god-damn cake. Maybe your bro is on something man. Abandon ship as soon as possible.

Sounds like she is just looking out for herself...never loved anyone else other than herself...fuck that bitch... how long were they together for

Go away James!

I get dates and shit but I am in love with my old coworker. We used to talk about being in a relationship and shit once we stopped working together and she moved out of her parent's house but now we only chat like once a week and it's not as fun.

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Took me a minute lol

Part of me wants a gf, but other parts of me don't want one, sex, even to be touched by women, or deal with other people. What's going on?

That's completely understandable, user. We should be cutting things from our life that make us feel bad.
Sure, it may be difficult for her, but she should understand and support as your friend. Once you feel better you two might reconnect, but it's okay if that won't happen as well. IKTF user.

I'm not fron the U.S., perhaps one of the Amerianons could help. I'm not sure I understand - You moved in and then they changed your rent?

The fact you identify the problem, understand it and know what to do about it is like 50% of the way. Make yourself a mantra. When I broke up with one of my Ex's, knowing it didn't do me well, whenever I wanted her back I just chanted "She was no gem. She was no gem. She was no gem." and reminding myself her flaws and why I left. Your mind will let go slowly, but it will.

Did you ever have a serious talk with her regarding your condition? Note to her that you may not be able to explain it the best, but you'd like to give it a shot so she could understand you better, since it's important to you.
Tell her what you just told me. See what she says and look at her reactions to that in the following days to conclude wether she got it, begins to understand or didn't get it at all.

(Will answer more a little later!)

>from our life that make us feel bad.
>Sure, it may be difficult for her, but she should understand and support as your friend. Once you feel better you two might reconnect, but it's okay if that won't happen as well. IKTF user
I am really hurt about it too. I want to win her back and make it work. I can't just be platonic friends with her. Even girls I dated over those 8 months I never considered getting serious with them

He's not onto something; he broke up her previous marriage with the same thing so it's not like he was blindsided by the poly stuff. He just doesn't know how to conduct himself as a person let alone a boyfriend. The problems she's had with him I've been having with him since we've lived together, I'd just fallen in a spot where I didn't really care as long as I had weed to smoke, food to eat, and vidya to play.

Now, I care.

>Your seemingly-little effect the work of angels, for them.
You're right of course. To them, that tiny spark, even though it fades away so quick, is more than than just a brief flash. But that's not the reality.
It just saddens me greatly to see the bigger picture. To see that objectively it amounted to nothing. It may be a lot to them in their view, but it's nothing to them in the grand scheme of things.
It's just a drop that evaporates before it even reaches its destination.

The world lacks structure, goals and supports. It's chaos. An optimist among us would call it a journey. But it's not that really.
It's more like a lonely ride in the passenger seat.

I'm sorry I'm taking your valuable time with my pseudo-philosophical rant while there's others seeking your advice while I don't really need any.
Thank you again for this opportunity to share this handful of words with you, hope I haven't dragged down your mood too much.
Alas, I should not waste any more of your time.

Good luck and thank you for being a fellow volunteer, both here on Jow Forums and elsewhere in your life.

I've come to the realization that I suck at holding conversations. I've been trying at work, online, and at the fighting game tournaments I go to, but most interactions end up awkward. I don't live near friends from college so it's hard to keep in touch with them. I'm lonely

The day was free, as free as it gets. But it was also rainy.
I know that i shouldn't text her. I keep telling myself that "not bothering her" was the right thing to do. But letting her walk away without trying anything is eating me out inside.
My darkest thought is that she decided not to try because i didn't do anything, that she interpreted it as me not caring.
It's been 3 months. My best friend always cuts this topic short by saying "it's over dude, please don't think about her".

Hey doc. I'm feeling a bit down. Is it normal for a 22 year old smart-ish guy to get upset every time he finds out he's not actually the smartest in the world? Should I get angry at all the "you can be whatever you want to be" that was shoved down my throat since I was 2? Or is it just human nature?

In the end it wouldn't even matter that much if I wasn't such a hopeless nihilist. I can get along just fine if I have fun studying my stuff and feeling satisfacted with what I do, but as soon as I realize I'm not actually THAT good at it I start asking myself what the point of it all is.

Even more, the events that trigger the realization are so mundane every time. How did I even convince myself that the scores in university exams matter? It didn't take long to figure out that they're not really a good way to measure anything, but somehow I make a huge deal of them anyway. Teaching myself not to care doesn't really sound like a step in the right direction, I'm already apathetic enough as it is. I guess maybe it's because I don't have any other goals to care about? If yes, I really don't know where to find them. I have plenty of interests and things I like doing, but none of them come even close to be "meaningful" to me in the sense that I can go to sleep fully satisfacted just because I did them sorta well.

The sad things about social interactions is that even if you're willing to work hard and fight for it, sometimes it's not within your control. You shouldn't blame yourself for that, either, if you do.

If you really want, you can try after some LONG time. But the healthier thing is to work towards leaving that behind and going forward. Ironically enough, it gives you more chance as well.

I want to reply to you, but I need you to tell me you're still around.

I do that willingly and my time shouldn't concern you or anyone else in this thread, as long as you understand my replies take time. I appreciate your concern and gratefulness though.

Fighting games are neat! What're you playing?
And conversation, like any other, is a skill! Keep practicing, and more importantly - Reflect on how to get better each time. (Within healthy limits - Don't overthink it!)

If you'd like, I can help you with 'technical' methods for keeping basic conversation running.

Everything feels dull.
I don't have the energy to pursue hobbies and just enough to do my job.
I have no energy to change my career and have less motivation to change my life that is slowly suffocating me
I have no desire for women any longer, they arr rook same and it's an alien feeling to talk to them since I managed to not unsee how horrible they can be while smiling with their faces.
Doesn't help that I lost any attraction to the fairer sex while my parents try to tell me to get married.
Life is a pain I can't get used to.
I can't even stick to something and lose the motivation after one time.
I have a huge amount of bottled rage inside me that I have not even the power to use, even transmute into something productive.

All I want to do is lay on my bed for months, being left alone and not nagged again and again to do something.

I just want to rot away.

Got a bad medical prognosis, realistically I'll probably be fine, at least for the next few years. Supportive family and friends, no significant other, no job right this moment, but I can't complain much to be honest.

Except that I can't shake the feeling it would be easier if I just faded away at the end of all this. Getting killed by whats ailing me isn't exactly a noble way to go but I can't help but feel it's a better end than if I have to keep going after all of this.

As much as it hurts, the best thing to do is to avoid getting it. It's the past.
You should spend that day off, or the next one, to just have a fun chill day and treat yourself. Try to relax, not to think about anything and make yourself feel any better.

While it is not normal, it is completely understandable. Is there anything you want to be and you feel you cannot?

As for ypur intelligence - Look up, but remember to look down as well. I know you may feel like you're not THE smartest, but you're probably certainly fairly intelligence.

Also, do keep in mind that while your starting spot is important, the way and effort you make are like 90% of your achievement.
It sounds to me like you should find yourself a solid, well-defined goal in life to pursue.
Supposing you could be anything - What would hyou choose to be?
And what are the things you mentiomed you enjoy?

I’m 18, prime of my life and all I’m doing is sitting in my room browsing this place

First love ex giving me massive anxiety messaging me.
Haven't opened or replied to any of it.

She's not worth the stress and I want to focus on myself.
Don't have time nowadays for bullshit relationships. Too busy working and travelling anyways.

Please respond

I saw some dumb lofi simpsons shit post of Lisa staring out the window while sad music plays. It made me reflect on my childhood and how I was hated and ostracized by my peers for arbitrary reasons that I didn't and still don't understand. It made me think of all the cruelty in the world and i wound up sobbing over it.

My grandmother is also dying right now. She wasn't a good person. She was abusive to my mother and burned every bridge she had. She was absent for most of mine and my sibling's lives but a few years ago, she made an effort to be a part of our lives and make up for what she did to my family when she was diagnosed with cancer. My siblings still hate her though but my mom doesn't want her to die alone so she's going to fly out here and see us again. I just don't think I'm ready for it. I feel guilty and I don't know what to do. She ruined my mom's life but the thought of her dying alone fucking ruins me.

At this point in my life I crave social interaction, not with boys but with a girl. I haven't talked to a girl my age or in my grade for about 4 years, back then I had the idea that i would talk to a girl and have the goal of getting laid but now I dont even think about sex.... or porn. I haven't masturbated in 3 months, I just grave social interaction with a girl but I really dont know how I would start a conversation with one

Thanks doc

2 months ago my friend provoked an argument and she said a lot of awful things and forced me to apologize for it. Everything seemed to be okay until 2 weeks later where she provoked another argument and humiliated me in front of a classmate on Snapchat.
I feel so manipulated because I was always there for her and being her shoulder to cry on. I wasn't always the best but I really tried.
She told me she doesn't trust me and doesn't want to be near me. Those words ring nonstop in my head. I don't want her apologies. I want her to disappear.

Well, you sure have a lot of work, but you can make it user. I truly believe in you.
I'm going to give you two tips and we will roll from there, okay?

The first - Choose one aspect you'd like to iprove and focus on it.
Think of it like a house that hasn't been cleaned for years.
What you're going to do is pick one room and scrub it until you can see your gorgeous face on its floor tiles. Then, you move to the other.

The next one is a Japanese method I think called Kaizen, which I personally use in my life and it does wonders. The point of is doing something little every day which will eventually amount to something great.
For example I hate order and cleaning (Ironic, using my metaphore lol), so I put a four minute timer and start putting things in their place at leisure. I don't get a lot done in one set, but after X sets my room is hella tidy!
The classic example is where a doctor is telling a woman she needs to start exercising. She's really reluctant about it, so he tells her to wear her running shoes and stand still while wearing them, at home, for just 30 seconds.
Child's play, right? The next step would be walking for 30 seconds, then for 40, and eventually she would run a marathon if she's persistant. Try it!

First of all, I'm terribly sorry to hear that user, ans while you may not like it, I hope you get well soon!
What would make you happier in life? Is it the struggle with the illness that upsets you and makes you wish it was over?

Supposing I give you the choice to become anything within your potential (So not 5 inch taller for example, but a medical expert), what would you become?

(Cont in a few moments!)

Maybe I should just leave him forever. My ex is super mean to me, he thinks doing things for me= love and affection. I originally left him because he was starting to make me feel shitty about myself. He kicked me out and was just messing with my head and I was starting to feel suicidal again. I started to see someone else so he fucked with that relationship, so that is broken now. When I came back he said he’d be nice to me but that only lasted for a month and we started to fight again. He makes me feel like a burden and I do feel suicidal again. I keep going back to the other guy only because he is really caring, I don’t really like him but I do feel really depressed and I like being comforted because I rarely get that. But honestly I just don’t wanna deal with relationships anymore.

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I started in my first job ever exactly 1 month ago. Every day I think about resigning. It just feels so worthless, and I feel so disillusioned about all jobs in the CS industry.
Should I quit now or wait another month or two? I haven't yet done shit, but that feels completely irrelevant.

As far as I know, it might be your hormones fucking around with you. How old are you? And you want a GF for the lovey dovey stuff, the sex, or both? How do you feel about an FWB?

Did you tell her to stop messaging you? What does she want from you/why does she message you?

(I hope to get the time for another reply soon. If not, I'll be back in a few hours or so. Stay strong and keep it up everyone, I'll get to you guys soon!)

sorry I forgot about this thread. I do have plans for how my day should go, but somewhere in there I feel exhausted or overwhelmed then I say fuck it and start doing useless shit. waste my time mostly on TV or browsing.

I've wasted most of my life and haven't accomplished anything I've set out to do. I can still improve myself but when I think about how old and how many years behind I am on what I want to do, it makes me sad. I'll be in my 30s before I'm anywhere near decent at anything. I hate my life.

I’m too shy to start a conversation with people I just met or that we know each other but never talk.
The only way I can do it it’s if I drink alcohol.
And when it comes to social media, I just can’t talk to anyone unless it’s a close friend or the other person starts the conversation.

I’ve been like this for many years, but lately it’s making me feel worse.
I see the people around me being social, meeting new people, they’re always on the phone texting and I rarely do that.

I feel like there’s something wrong with me. I overthink too much.

I fear death every day for no reason. It's just so fucking scary to me because there is absolutely nothing after this.

I always make myself feel like I'm too ugly to look at people when I talk with them, especially girls, like I want to avoid their eyes in case they look at me with disgust even though, objectively, I may not be unattractive. Its been bothering me because I become self aware of it and stop listening to people when they talk to me so I end up looking awkward trying to come up with a response.

When I was 18 and did nothing about my life I used to be much more confident. Now that I'm working on fixing myself up, it seems to be doing the opposite to me than making me more confident. Maybe its because I'm 23 now? I don't know but I feel shit every time I get reminded of whats happening to me and the things that I do

I don't know what to do anymore. I feel lost.

I'm 23 and can't support myself. I sit at home playing video games. I tried to get an education in IT and failed. Its been six months since then.

If I look at the positive I'm a good looking guy if I put effort in (I never do). I finally got a job last month. Its barley anything but its a nice job helping old people. I have friends and a good family.

On the negative side is that I have no idea how to put myself into a position of self sufficiency. I don't know how to get that high paying job or how to find a place to live. I figure I'll try the aged care industry. I know it isn't highly paid but it should put me in a safe spot. But I do need to move on from there eventually. I can't afford to get a certificate so I might have to wait until I can. Time is not on my side.

My social life is deteriorating. I don't go to events anymore and when I do I don't say a word. Most of my friends are familiar with me so its OK. But for those that aren't I come across as weird .

>How old are you?
22
>And you want a GF for the lovey dovey stuff, the sex, or both?
Ideally both. I might actually be less inclined toward sex, but I can't say for certain
>How do you feel about an FWB?
I'm definitely not opposed to the idea

I attract insecure, damaged and emotionally unavailable women to me like flies on shit. Don't get me wrong, I come to care about these women but after a while it feels like I'm just there trying to prop up their self esteem and walk on eggshells to not offend them. And they always seem laid back and cool in the beginning, then they start getting snippy and demanding and it's just I dunno

That I would never be emotionally stable enough to create a family. And that I wouldn't find a relationship with a person who is not into relationships because of the love story but for being in love itself.

I'm in love with my husbands father. From the first day I met him I felt my heart swell but thought it was stupid and it would go away but it hasn't. I stay away as much as possible but I lose it when in the room with him. No one knows and cannot tell a soul. Not my friends and not my family. I have no joy.