It's my 3 year old daughters last night here before she goes back across the country to her mom's. God knows when I will see her again. And I'm stuck working the night shift. I HATE everything my ex-wife did to me for that decade. And helping me make a baby girl just to take her from me. I have only seen her for 2 weeks. It's been 6 months since I seen her last. I have been fighting tears for the past 2 days. The biggest part of my life is being ripped away again.
There is no way I can afford to live in cali. Hopefully if I stick it out with this job a few more years I can get a management position close to her. But for now I'm just fucking heartbroken
Luke Roberts
My ex-wife took me to her country. It was supposed to be for one year, but she refused to move back after the one year. Ended up staying there for 10 years. Sadly she couldn't have kids. Now I'm back home with 2 kids to a woman I don't nearly love as much. Funny thing is that she is jealous of my life but I truly only want to be with her. So much is fucked up in this post.
Camden Martin
My ex cheated on me multiple times while I was in the military and going through my own trials after watching the death of a close friend. She ended up cheating on me with one of my best friends while I was in rehab when she was pregnant. We divorced a bit after. My daughter has been calling my old best friend daddy now.
I just don't know what the fuck to do. I want to lash out but I have to act like a grown man
Lucas Johnson
>And helping me make a baby girl just to take her from me. What, do you really think you'd be able to look after her yourself? You work night shifts.
Colton King
Maybe stop thinking having control over whether your child is with you or not is the greatest thing ever? Having kids is already a bad idea (had 3 when younger and they're all toddlers now) and having them with someone you don't get along with is worse, so I feel for you, but you know kids are a huge responsibility and it kind of sucks. You realize how much freedom you have?
Oliver Barnes
She's living with her mom aunt and grandma in a 1 bedroom. Yes, I'm one of those dad's who would rather have his kid with him
Jackson Davis
>She's living with her mom aunt and grandma Your ex has a lot more support for them than you do. Your daughter is actually better off with them than with you
Ryan Nguyen
But you can't. On top of being a dude who has no idea how to handle relationships with women, let alone a little girl, you work all night and it wouldn't turn into some dream come true where she thinks you're the some kind of hero and always looks at you with those big innocent eyes. She'll one day start to have sex with people her age and shut you out, because it's her god-given right to do so, and you'll lose her because again, you don't know how to deal with women. The problem with single dads of daughters is always the messiah complex. She doesn't need saving, your ex isn't to blame for your shitty decisions, and you don't need a little girl in your life to make things more complicated.
Cameron Collins
Thanks fellas. I'll just walk out of my daughters life completely. Good help all
Benjamin Ross
My husband has really struggled to grow up. We had been together 6 years when I first got pregnant. It was intentional, but I had also been told by some crappy doctor I "couldn't" get pregnant b/c I used to have an IUD so it was not necessarily expected. Our relationship has changed tremendously. It was a lot easier to be with a man who was kind of a goof when you didn't have kids to support. There have been times I have thought about setting out on my own, but I know 1) I will always love him and all the money in the world can't buy genuine love 2) the kids love him and need him 3) as a family we are doing fine -- we have a nice home, big backyard, 2 cars, all the amenities. I wouldn't give up everything we have just for the chance to meet someone wealthy and upgrade my lifestyle.
My husband works his ass off now, and he was on night shift for a while, now he works 6 days a week and a side job on Sunday. I know if we separated he would have a hard time being able to spend time with the kids. He would likely not have custody because the house is in my name they would be with me most of the time. It would be heartbreaking for everyone.
So you know, counseling, church, he is doing lots of stuff to get ahead at work and make up for time he lost. In another 4 or 5 years he will finish his current program (he recently switched jobs) and be making good money and not needing to always work side jobs and we will have a good, steady middle class life for our age/area. But man, sometimes 4 years seems like FOREVER. I have an ex that makes good money right now and likes to keep in touch and send me messages and cards. Its hard not to think about how much easier life would be today with all that extra income. But my husband loves me and our kids and at heart I believe he is a good man. He just fucked off way too much up until our daughter was born.
I hope you find a way to work things out. Why did you seperate in the first place?
Matthew Price
My exwife was constantly cheating on me. Before, during, and after pregnancy. I kept trying to fix a broken foundation with elmers glue. I couldn't keep the marriage together. I tried doing right by my family and buy a house and new car. Really get that American dream going. The wife eventually decided she just didn't love me. Went to California and took my daughter with her. I fell into a depression. Started drinking, ignoring bills, the works, and finally left the military. Lost my house, put my mom in debt because she was trying to send me money to keep me afloat. I ended up having to move back in with my mom for a bit after a suicide attempt that put me in the hospital. Moved back out, picked up the pieces, and got a stable job. I've had my daughter for 2 weeks for the first time in 6 months. She goes back home tomorrow night.
Isaac Bell
Is marriage really this depressing? If you don't make shitloads of money, will your wife dream of trading you away for a richer man?
Why do women make it so hard to not be a misogynist?
You’re beginning to now realize that true love doesn’t actually exist.
Aaron Flores
Get better visitation/custody or a better job.
James Cox
Did you buy the house before or after you were married because depending on your state he still gets half the house and half of your money.
Brandon Reyes
Here in a couple years I should be able to hit the 75k first line management spot.
Zachary Lopez
lol the military
Angel Johnson
It's tough cause she's 3, can't even text yet. I had an absent dad and what was most important to me was to felt like he cared and wanted to be in my life (mine didn't) so do your best OP until you can be closer. Send pictures, videos, presents, things she can see and keep close (stuffed animal) and remember you. Call and ask for regular updates, from her and an adult, so that when she's older she's not a stranger. As soon as she can correspond independently, you start that exchange and don't stop.
Adam Diaz
>leaving behind your family to die for Israel You absolutely, 100% deserved to get cucked. Have you taken a paternity test to ensure that you're not even more of a cuck than you've revealed yourself to be?
Grayson Hall
But user, this is unironically the correct decision!
Austin James
>this whole thread almost hot damn the purge can't come soon enough
Hope the day is going well and you're staying strong for her OP. Video calling is an avenue to consider. Get your ex to set up skype or something so you can spend time with your daughter that way and keep in touch easily and whatnot. If you can get &/or keep on mom and grandma's good side, it'll make all your lives a bit easier. Keep your chin up man.
