What are the lessons you learned throughout life? Maybe, the hard way?

Don't fap with shampoo.

I learned to be more humble. I learned that if you wanna have success in any field you need to be smarter than everyone else or you need to work harder than everyone else.

Developing the capacity to be a monster, but restraining it outside of appropriate circumstances, is necessary for life.

The real life lesson is to avoid these kinds of people, and that these people are 99% of people.

They will steal from you and use you and blame you for everything as if they have no responsibility whatsoever and then make themselves the victim every time.

Life lesson: don't trust people easily

You decide how you feel. Don't let others control your emotions. Once you can do this people have no power over you. And once they realize this they show their own weaknesses.

Another user already said it but you can't trust anybody but yourself because even the most trustworthy, kindhearted person in the world will probably end up betraying you at some point

not until you actually ask, anyways..

This.

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>Life is an ironic bitch and you should never take it seriously. After all nothing matters.

Literally NEVER trust nigerians. EVER

deceit is essential in warfare

>everyone says they would never cheat on you, saying that doesn't make them more trustworthy
>keep making friends, having no sense of belonging makes everything seem pointless
>keep doing sports and working out

Same, except HIV

exactly as written in 'the clockwork orange':
if you commit a crime and get justly punished, the society won't ever forgive you anyway.
learned the hard way all right.

desire can blind you to the most obvious truth

reality consists of everything, so claiming the world/people/anything is good/bad/whatever comes just from ignoring some of the facts

funny, I don't agree with most of the advice given so far.
many anons itt have clearly been hurt and never healed

Enlist where? In the army? How is that gonna help?

>being this enlightened

around blacks, never relax

>get into a routine of exercising
>your parents are idiots and will project themselves on you
>DO NOT put all your time, hope, dreams, and effort into a relationship even if you're obsessively in love with each other. Anything can happen where it can end and you'll be left completely shattered full of regrets
>friends come and go, people slip in and out of your life. If you or they lose interest, don't feel guilty
>travel as often as you can but try to avoid tourist traps

Youre either too young to understand, too rich to have any of these problems, or a woman.

of the three, only the first one could possibly apply, yet I am speaking from experience here.

you're not as smart as you think you are, but you'll never appreciate that until you've spent years going in the wrong direction.

> The most important skill you need in life is sociability. It's needed in every single area of your life. Doesn't matter if you are a genius, super athletic or even rich if you aren't well socialized.
> Always make plans and evaluate what you expect of everything. If you expect nothing, doesn't matter the outcome and it drains your motivation even if you are successful
> If you want to marry and have kids, do it before 30's. I know it's hard...
> Save fucking money and always keep track of your expenses. You shouldn't live paycheck through paycheck, save at least 3 months (the ideal amount is 6) to survive if you lose your job

being an adult sucks

There are only a few people you can really trust in this world. Rely on yourself. Save some money, but also have the experiences. Don't use credit cards too much, if you don't have the money now, you won't have it later. Don't settle, the right person is out there, you just have to wait for the right time

Kill them all, if given the opportunity.

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Kindness isn't a weakness.

I'm learning this now. I've recently got my first full-time job and I've been going through unbearable anxiety for a bit now. I'm 23 and I've never lived outside my parent's house and the idea of moving out gives me this substantial fear that makes me not want to do anything at all. I've told my brother and he helped me realize that the idea of 'getting rid of that fear' before I move out is simply impossible. He said that even though I'm frightened and have no confidence, that's all the more reason to jump into it and just fucking do it. Life is scary. Growing up is scary, and not everything goes as you'd think it would. I've tried to 'eliminate' that fear and now when I'm finally in a position to move out and try to grow, I'm paralyzed with fear because I tried to eliminate fear of the unknown.

Never love and trust women. They are not capable of either.

Never love and trust men. They are not capable of either.

I can get down to that dragon energy

eliminating your fear is nonsense, user. fear is natural and universal. the point is to accept fear and not let it dictate what you can and can't do.

Very legit, that's how things have worked for me so far

Maybe I'm not interesting enough, or people lose interest on me real quick, even though most of them say I'm nice.

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I've learned that now. There's ways to make things less fearful, but I learned that change is just scary. It's impossible to eliminate fear, and me trying to do that was ridiculous on my end.

When things end, they end abruptly and without forewarning, and EVERYTHING ends.

The easy life isn't the lazy life, it's the life committed to your passions.
Also, talent is mostly a myth. There are the 5% of absolute geniuses/prodigies, and there are the 5% of complete hopeless cases, but for the other 90% of us, it's pretty much a combination of how much money you have and how hard you work, the former being more important than the latter.
>>your parents are idiots stop trusting in them
I thought this for most of my young adult life, but in my early 20s I realized that I ignored a lot of wisdom my parents were trying to give me. Don't listen to them blindly, but be open to what they have to say, they've been around a lot longer than you and almost always want the best for you.
>All friendships are temporary.
Eh, I've had a group of friends I've known since grade school and we all still talk to each other and hang out when we can. They're basically family at this point, maybe even closer than some of my blood. I can't imagine just not talking to them.
I laughed.
Nihilism is no fun my dude, I hope you find a way out of it.

My dad doesn't know how to raise a man
I've learned more in the past 5 years than I ever learned at home

Not true about the parents part, you're probably in your late teens/early 20's, their lessons won't always make sense when you're younger. Wait until you hit mid 20's at least.

Condoms don't protect against Herpes as it can be spread through skin to skin contact.

Also even getting a bj from a one night stand can give you an STD, don't be stupid, only sleep with girls who can give you a valid STD test. Source, I got chlamydia once by being a dumbass.

>Having money is not everything, not having it is
>It is not too early to start saving for retirement
>Do not compare yourself to others
>Be nice to everyone
>Don't stick around this place too long, it's an echo chamber and is unhealthy
>Admit when you're wrong, it goes a long way
>The odds of there being an afterlife are extremely slim, this is more than likely the only time you'll be alive, enjoy it, and don't get so stressed out.
>Where successful men go, women follow. Don't change yourself to conform to what a woman says she likes, be the type of man an attractive woman would want to be with.
>Women are sex objects, men are status objects
>Being a man is playing life on hard mode, suck it up and deal with it.
>Do not have kids unless you are financially ready to support them, if you're living paycheck to paycheck, you're not ready. Kids need constant care to turn out great.

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Hedonism is the worst way to live your life.

Why?

Once you're an adult, nothing happens automatically. You can to claw and bite and climb and work to get anything you want.

Girls won't be into you via feeling sorry for you. Always be strong to women. I don't mean PUA bullshit "all women like assholes" or whatever, but unlike other social situations, you cannot get by in generosity.

If you're depressed, reach out. Things won't get better otherwise. Your problems are worthy of therapy.

It's easier to do things if you make them obligations, i.e. get a gym buddy

Fashion/presenting yourself a certain way isn't vain, it's smart

If you use it at least once a week, spend the money to get a good one. Appliances etc.

Always try to be aware of your own flaws and try to improve them.

Women are awful and dont think anything like men.

Honestly after coming to terms with that, and thay my dads words were always correct about them hurt. I never got along with him, and i honestly hate things about him. But his views of women are a direct result of just how awful they treat men.

Oh, also, this was the hardest for me to learn and moght be the most important. And most people outside of places like this don't want to admit it:

Learn to be selfish, and learn WHEN to be selfish. It's a valuable skill. Giving bad people the advantage only ensures they'll win. Be a good person, be a champion of justice, give people the shirt off your back, but when it comes time, be ready to play dirty, press your advantage, and make an enemy.

This is true in business, in romance, anything where you're competing in some way. The other person likely does not share all of your values, so don't act like he will.

this

>All friendships are temporary
yeah, if you're a fucking asshole. Many are, but not all of them. You have limited friends because people hate you and that's your personal problem.

Get outside and have some actual life experiences that allow you to develop brotherhood and camaraderie with others instead of projecting how much you hate yourself over the internet.

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You shouldn't be getting unsolicited advice from Jow Forums.

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He's literally soliciting it.

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Don't eat the yellow snow

Hate of others is projection of self hatred
Money isn't everything
Two ears and one mouth-shut up and listen
To love others one needs to love themselves first
Blood isn't always thicker than water

>People rarely don't suck
>Shit's not going to change on its own

>Blood isn't always thicker than water
Can't emphasize this enough. Being blood relatives to someone doesn't automatically mean they care about you or have your best interests in mind.

Your girlfriend, no matter what she may say, doesn't want you to have any weaknesses. Anytime you bring up a weakness, an insecurity, something that makes you sad or depressed, it drives her a little bit away from you. It might not seem like it at first, she may comfort and give love and talk about how amazing it is for you to be open and self aware, but subconsicously its driving her away, the more you show the more it drives until one day she will just realize "she doesn't really love you anymore" she wont even know why, because logically she'll tell herself its not you admitting weakness because that would make her feel like a shitty person so she hides that deep down inside. But its that. Women want a strong man who causes no problems and only provides love, laughs, support and sexual chemistry. They don't really care how human you are.

>Focus on securing a relationship before finishing your education due to all of the above.

Agreed, only not due to the above but due to how fucking hard it is to meet decent women once you are out of school and working full time. Unless you get introduced through friends its basically down to "go do cool hobbies and hope that maybe an attractive single girl your age will be there too." which is a complete crap shoot.

This. I've made the terrible mistake of crying in front of my girlfriend, and being emotionally open with her.

She never gave me anything except pure love and joy. Over time, however, being emotionally open led her to stop loving me.

I intend to never make this mistake again.

Same here man. Same here. The worst part is once the damage is done it can't be undone. She doesn't even know why or how it happened she just knows that she doesn't feel "into you" anymore. And that's something you can't come back from. When my ex left me all her friends and family were shocked and kept asking her why? And she couldn't answer because on paper we were fucking fantastic. No problems, no fights, got along great, friends all liked eachother, families liked eachother, living together, good jobs. Marriage was pretty much assumed by all, she had even suggested it in the past before. But when she just lost that feeling that was it. Told everyone she just thinks she doesn't want a relationship in life, that its just not for her. Because even she didn't know why it happened. It took me some time but I eventually realized what I did, how I drove her to stop being attracted to me bit by bit over the course of years. And I hate myself for it more than anything now. She'll always be the one that got away, wife material, and I ruined it.

you are treated badly because of your own fuckups or bad choices.
being his son, you probably copied his terrible behavior which led you to gathering bad experiences. Don't blame half of the population for this

Never before has a set of posts made me want to give up as much as these three have. Like there's no vitriol or hate here, just despair, and that's what scares me.

She's in post-grad to become a doctor. I was her first. We only ever have been open with eachother. The single year of being with her has been one of the happiest of my miserable life. I can't believe I fucked it up by thinking I could be sad in front of her. I even asked her before and she said it's fine, she wanted me to only be emotionally open with her.

I'm so far beyond pain. My chest just feels hollow. I'm too numb to think, sleep, or eat.

I wish I was dead.

Damn it's such a catch 22. You can't be emotional in front of them, but they want you to be and you can't tell them why you won't be, since that would reveal that you're hiding your insecurities.

This make me realise how much I fucked up my school years

>all this melodrama
>over a relationship that lasted a single fucking year
Yeah. No. She didn't break up with you because you messed it up, she broke up with you because she never loved you in the first place and it took a year to let the hormones die down.
Get over yourself kid, itll get better when you grow up.

>wife material, and I ruined it
Not wife material, if you can't be yourself around her, user.

I have a similar tale as the one you just told.
The word 'perfect' gets used a lot these days, but that's literally what that relationship was - until she just up and left one day, couldn't even give me a reason. And I don't mean she didn't want to tell me why, she genuinely had no idea.

It took me a while to accept the fact that you don't want someone like that in your life anyway. Even though I'm single these days, I take comfort in knowing I'm at least not wasting my time with someone who makes all their decisions in life based on emotions they don't even understand.

Happened to me last year. Had an amazing relationship with my GF for 3 years, until things started to get downhill for me, and made the mistake of getting emotional support from her. She ended up cheating on me and dumping me for one of my friends.

I now know that someone that can't be with you on your dark days isn't someone you want to be with for the rest of your life. But the humiliation of getting your girl taken by a dude you used to call your brother, who went to your house in you birthday and gave you a hug after spending the whole day banging your GF, who hugged you friends and parents while singing Happy birthday. That shit will be with me for the rest of my life

>wife material
no such thing

>Not wife material, if you can't be yourself around her, user.
So marriage is just not worth it? You can't ever be yourself around women, unless you happen to be the statue they imagine.

It doesn’t matter how smart you are unless you’re a legitimate genius or sociable

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I'm 25 lmao

>So marriage is just not worth it?
Correct.
Only a retard would choose to get married in this day and age.
People change. Why sign off half your shit to your ex wife if she gets tired of you at some point down the road?

>So marriage is just not worth it?
Not really. Don’t get me wrong, if you’re lucky you can hit that “I feel trapped but I’m scared of being alone” spot. But overall it’s actually been proven that unmarried cohabitation produces the same benefits of marriage without the drawbacks.

Lots of guys everywhere, very few men.

accutane fucks you up

Same with friends. People don't want to hear you ranting or complaining about your life. They have enough problems.

Yeah man, but I don't have to be a fucking stone around my friends and they don't ask me to 'open up'.

Not him but yeah, you're a kid

Disagree, I want my friends to tell me about their problems, and I want to help woth them and often do. But I'm very lucky and am often in a position to help.

I was myself around her though. Thats the worst part of all this now. I realize all the insecurities I had all the shit I showed to her. That was all just my bullshit that I needed to deal with. It seemed important at the time. But now that she's gone I realize all that shit didn't matter. Anything that bothered me then is nothing compared to the pain I feel now that she's gone.
I'd give my left nut to be able to go back in time and just do it over again and learn how to deal with my shit on my own and not bother her with it. Because other than that I've never met a girl I could more be myself around. I shit you not she was my best friend. And this is from a guy who has a large group of close friends that he has had for 20 plus years. Of all of them, she was more fun to hang out with, I was more able to just be me.
I feel like that was my one shot at true happiness and now everything else will just be settling.

Christ, and people are surprised that the suicide rate among men is so high. This "Be yourself, but bottle up your emotions or everyone will think you're weak" shit is awful.

Not really, male freinds are much more supportive and male-male freindship is generally genuine.

desu the only real friendships are intra-sex friendships.

It kills me when people can't see why incels and the like are the way they are. Those kids just have no one to turn to.

I mean, I get it. It doesn't excuse shitty behavior, but I get it.

Of course not, but it seems like people don't get that they're partially the product of the world and part of the solution has to be the kind of change that starts with empathy. It's like the whole 'nice guy' thing, they all start as normal genuinely nice guys, but they spend so long not getting any love that they just fester. To deal with all these bad people, we have to understand that they weren't just born awful.

Love isn't forever. It takes more than "love" to sustain a lifelong relationship. Be comfortable with yourself first, and acknowledge what you're getting into. Marriage and child-rearing aren't for everyone, and it's possible to live a happy, single life.

Most of the things you worry about daily are unimportant or unchangeable. Learn to let go of these things. The community at large doesn't care as much about you as you think, and everyone's youth is littered with mistakes. Most of the time it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission (within reason).

Mental illness leads to self-sabotage in all areas of life. If you're struggling with anxiety, depression, addiction, etc, put everything else on hold so long as you can go to therapy. It should be your number one priority to get better. It makes all of life easier. The more you wait, the worse it'll get.

The more friends you have, the easier life is. High-ranking jobs are obtained through networking and connections, not (just) merit. It's not the nicest thing to hear, but it's true. Be open to meeting new people and don't discard them based on first impressions alone.

The world is full of monsters. There are people accustomed to living a double life, lying to everyone, and stepping on others to succeed. In order to achieve a high-ranking position (social or economic), you have to become accustomed to living like this. If you're unwilling, don't get in over your head. No matter what, you WILL have to deal with people like this, and be aware that for them, social interactions are fundamentally transactions.

As long as you have money to fall back on, it IS worth chasing your dreams, within reason. Always know that your life's value isn't determined by your job or position in society, and love yourself regardless of your missteps. It's not worth living a life of self-hatred.

The problem is nobody gives a shit about young males. Not even other young males themselves.

Everyone has issues with their parents, and it's not worth holding a grudge with them. You WILL miss them when they're gone. Unless your parents were abusive or negligent, learn to forgive and understand that they did their best as the flawed humans they are. The same goes for siblings. Listen to your family's opinions but don't feel beholden to them, and always remember you are the only one who truly knows you.

Friends are great, and it IS possible to make friends even if you spent your youth as a hermit. But be aware that socialization is a skill like any other, and you'll have to learn through experience. There will be awkwardness and embarrassment, but nothing will change if you never show up to the party. The worst that can happen is still pretty inconsequential in the long run.

Nine times out of ten, if you're in a relationship for 6 months or longer and you still feel unsure or uninterested, it's better to break it off. 6 months is enough time to know if you want to get serious with that person. Be considerate but firm when you break up with someone. Don't try to be "friends" if you know there are still feelings involved.

Nothing in life will just happen to you. Your dream job, body, or girlfriend won't drop into your room one day. You won't wake up one day with superpowers or an alluringly beautiful girl who just moved in next door and is inexplicably attracted to you. The more you expose yourself to the world, the more opportunities will appear. It's painful and scary, but necessary for all.

Some things that are a total drag but worth doing: regular exercise, quitting smoking/drugs, drinking alcohol responsibly, wearing earplugs to concerts, keeping in touch with old friends you never see anymore, making your bed in the morning, cleaning your living space regularly, getting enough sleep, reading, talking to your family regularly, and flossing. Yeah, flossing.

I feel like it's kinda the opposite, we give too much of a shit about young women. If you'll let me put on my Jow Forums conspiracy hat, the treatment of young men hasn't changed much over time, but young women are being coddled like children so much that it's indirectly hurting their male peers. Like everything is always directed at men to change how they treat women, and women aren't being told to change the way they treat men.

Never do something sketchy or questionable just for sex or money. It's never worth it. On that note, casual sex is a hollow and soul-degrading practice. Everyone goes through a phase like that but it's important to leave it behind at some point. Whatever relationships you have, sex should be meaningful.

And finally, don't take this board seriously. It's an echo chamber full of people with little life experience who cherry-pick the anecdotes they see here in order to support their worldview. Everyone is dealing with their own demons, and the advice they give you can come from a place of narcissism more than selflessness. Always let you be the final judge, not others.

t. a 46 year old

Not to believe anything would work out because someone said it would.
Not to ever trust anything on a piece of paper.
Never give yourself away to the point where you cannot stand on your own.
Family is the most important thing in the world, You will not understand this until death stares you in the face and takes away what you loved and thought would always be there.
Hair is fun, it grows back, do whatever the fuck you feel like with it.
Never stay in a career or job that you hate or even dislike.
Joy is greater than money.
Give love away, it comes back to you.

Whoever is reading this, I love you, I appreciate you, and I would hug you if I could.

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Expect the worst, hope for the best and accept the inevitable.