Lacedaemonism

>date the nicest girl I’ve ever been with for 3 years
>she’ll give you the shirt off her back >always asks if people are hungry so she can feed them
>supports people’s dreams and efforts all the time
>feels compassion even for social outcasts & gruff people
>find out my old foster brother got into a car wreck
>visit him and reconnect, feel bad for not interacting much since I was in high school
>seeing him in such a condition broke my heart
>tell my gf that I hate feeling helpless like this in life and kinda unload about my emotional distance with my loved ones that I wanna close
>don’t bawl but shed tears over it
>she becomes distant herself as time wears on
>about a week and a half ago she takes me aside and tells me that the time we spent together has been amazing but she just doesn’t feel the same way about me anymore and can’t bear lying to me about it
>I gracefully bow out but sulk a bit when I’m alone

I know it’s my fault for breaking the illusion that I’m made of stone, but I just wanna understand WHY it is this way? Every time I express my hurts or weaknesses women walk away from me.

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Open up to bros, not hoes. Neither care but dudes won't give you shit for it.

I hope you learned two things from this. 1: keep your problems to yourself, no one is gonna help you but you or a therapist. 2: women have 0 compassion, the second you get sick or some shit is going on in your life, and she can't exploit it to make herself look like a better person, she'll drop you like a hot potato.

I don't think she broke up with you because of that. She was probably having doubts about it for a while.

She never acted like that at all before. Even she said that this feeling only occurred shortly after I broke down.

You never unload your feelings onto a hoe no matter how much you think she'll understand. The only woman you can do that to is your mother because she is the only woman on this earth that will love you. That is unless she doesn't love you, and yes it's either or no in-between. If that's the case then nobody loves you. It's okay for women to unload onto men because we're stone. If men do the same then we're fucked because women are weak. They're not sensitive or compassionate for anyone besides they're spawns. This is known, fool.

Fugg

I told my last 2 exs that I had depression and life was rough (I was this stone character, always happy and supportive but dying on the inside)

Got dumped by both a week later.

I feel you OP

I agree with this person, but I want to supplement the post. It's possible for a woman who isn't your mother to love you as if you were her child, in that she's emotionally confused about your role in her life. It's not possible for a person to simultaneously consider you lovable as offspring and as a suitable partner, however. You get one or the other from women. It's true that the only person to ever truly love you is the one who considers you their offspring.

ITT: Men date a couple of shitty people who appeared to not be shitty. Must be every woman.

Every boyfriend I've had has cried in front of me, I loved them all very much. I was dumped by each one, the last one was kind of a mutual thing but still. Grow up, not every woman is a cow and or thinks that men are "''''stone."""" I swear if I dated someone who never opened up feelings I wouldn't stay with him, the hell kind of partner is that? It's 50/50 not 25/75. I don't want to feel like I can't open up nor can he, that isn't a relationship.
Get off Jow Forums ffs

There is an old adage of the Asian man that I think most people could learn from, and even remind myself every now and then.
>I have three faces. One is the face I wear at work in the professional setting. One that I share with my family and loved ones. And the last face is the one with my most personal and intimate thoughts, that no one else sees.
You should never breach these faces with the wrong people, and you showed her your most soft face.

Still, she seems like she just wants some fantasy macho he-man with no emotions, so I wouldn’t stress too much about her.

If a girl is ever into you for the “mystery” factor its bound to fail soon as you open up.

They dumped you because you were their mother. You were not their equal partner. You were their replacement mother. That's why they dumped you. Because they realised they didn't fucking need another mother for the rest of their lives. Hello.

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t. Man

I honk most men would be inclined to stay with a mother and intimate figure gf.

>it's another dumb cunt pretends that she's the exception post
Kill yourself.

They didn't leave me because of this but super true I did have to be Mommy a lot. Not like they ever admitted it, but yeah I would do chores/cook/pay for a lot of stuff. Not with my first boyfriend though that was 50/50. Still it's not like they were cry baby bitches, just would show their emotions at times

I don't think I'm the only exception, I know many woman like me who would never want 'le stoney stoic' man.

I think most of you show how much of a little bitch you are but you think you don't, so the girls you're with grow tired much before you show "the real you."
I'm trying to give solid advice, get off Jow Forums and get some real help. You're jaded by nothing. You're like a teenage metalhead, you know nothing about metal but pretend you're the most unique different metal head out there and you bleed black.

this

I don't think it's because you showed emotion dude, been talking to this lovely dame and she's willing to support me through hell and back, all insecurities and whatnot. I feel like people need to up that perception skill because desperation for something to work skews judgement. It did for me at least. Before finding some random dame find someone you can talk to or drink with or some shit like that.

They find out you pretended to be someone you're not, lied to them the entire time, and you're surprised this is the outcome.
You should be yourself, but if you're such a weak guy that you have to lie never stop lying.

That is the most stupid perspective you could possibly have on this scenario.

>I think most of you show how much of a little bitch you are but you think you don't, so the girls you're with grow tired much before you show "the real you."
Lol you just invalidated your whole point.

This.

Women are expected to wear make up, we're expected to do the same personality wise.

Good on you for taking this L like a man though bro.

Ya. Women are fucking garbage, they don't really care. If they do they feel bad for you and that changes their view about the relationship with you.
Most of them aren't mature enough to be capable of dealing with an honest and open man. They prefer to live in a world full of cotton and candy where you don't get hurt, see or hear bad things.

I wish it wasnt. But it is the truth. Never ever show a woman even a bit of weakness. Be a stone.

I opened up and got dumped soon after. The strong stone is actually a human with feels? EEWWWWW

Dont you dare say muh she a bitch etc. She is the softest most moral and vurnable woman I ever met. Still cold hearted to men. Like every woman. It is their nature. Otherwise humanity would have been breeding weaker till we died out. Nature gives no fucks bout emotions. Be strong or die.

It's not a perspective, it's what happened. He was pretending to someone else.

You are on crack

You're either lying, seeking to be seen as unique or male

And you are sadly dissillusioned. I cried in front of my gf a few times. We got married anyway and I still have privileges to fuck her half to death. It’s about the girl man, and you would know this if you bothered to really know some of them.

This. You can't say you're a mother then call the people you're being a mother to 'little bitches'.

You're probably rich and she's staying for the dough.

diff user here. also grill. also could've written that, almost word for word in fact. op is kinda like one of those dudes who will profess his undying love for his best friend after hiding his feelings from her for months or even years and then be confused and disappointed when it kills the friendship. the way phrased it could've been less shitty i guess but it's spot on in terms of what's happening.

>””””the nicest girl ever”””” >compassionate to everyone but her own man

She sounds fake as fuck dude. Sounds like she’s more wrapped up in her outer image than knowing how to genuinely empathize people in need. This some sociopath shit

When you showed her you needed some of her compassion, you called her out on her bluff and she bailed knowing she’s actually a piece of shit.

She was only interested in impressing you with her superficial appearance of being the “perfect, sweet girlfriend” probably so that you could give her the attention she wanted but she couldn’t follow through her lies when it counted lmao. You got scammed good, you didn’t date a human you dated a cold hearted reptilian

Next time date a genuine girl, not some ghandi mother Teresa bitch. They the fakest

I've cried in front of my fiancee once or twice. It doesn't make me appear weak, it makes me appear human. I should mention, however, that I was under the influence of shrooms one of these times so there wasn't a whole lot I could do

The marriage will be called off or you will get a divorce because of your blunder. Just you wait, user. Just you wait.

do not under any circumstances believe this THOT

don’t cry in front of your girl, not even if she says shit like this

Because of societal norms, men are only allowed to pour their hearts out to their family, or other men. If you don't have a chick locked down, pouring your heart out turns them off because it's seen as "feminine"; that's what women do. Men are suppose to be the rock in the relationship.

Sorry dude.

Thiseth

This is actually insightful.