At what point did you find out you were attractive?

Chad here. I found out early in middle school when i could have gotten away with anything with the girls.

In high school, EVERYONE that was popular wanted to be my friend cause of my looks. That was it. They did not like me for me. Freshman year was the point where i was bitter when someone tried talking to me for no other reason than to have the girls or guys think they are my friend. To the girls, i was "mysterious" for keeping quiet. Dumb roasties.

I dated a 10/10 Stacy in my Sophomore year and it was hell. She wanted us to match colors, go to parties, you know, "popular" kid stuff. She was also emotionally abusive and had me redpilling everyday and i had enough and dumped her. Another confirmation was when people called her a slut and a bitch for "cheating" on me(she didnt) all because of a rumor started by her jealous friend. Students gobbled that shit up like it was coming out of Jesus Christ himself.

They could not believe it when i started dating a textbook "dorky" girl. The type that just looked cute with her glasses that she legitimately needed, wore Adventure Time shirts and the such, played WoW and Dota religiously, she had braces too and i was a sucker for them. Just a nerd, ok? To me she is a 10/10( for you guys she would like a 7 looks-wise)cause she genuinely showed that she cared about me and was willing to give me space if i needed it. When people came over to talk to me cause they saw her as "insignificant", i told them to fuck off cause im talking to her. The rumors they made hurt her, but it led to social splits with guys and girls who orbited me vs those who just wanted to be me

She made me enjoy company again. Glad she stuck by my side these last 6 years

Well, "found out" isn't the right term for me. I just developed that way after I turned my back on my bullies. Got a whole new non-childlike wardrobe of clothes, started having a normal social life, experimented with hair colors and I've been brunette ever since, let my hair grow out longer so I could experiment on braided hairstyles - that was enough to get me noticed. I've always been thin but meek looking, so I started exercising, then began to strictly follow my own workout routines once I realized how good it felt not just in body but in mind too - my hourglass figure completed with cadillac-booty and thicc thighs made me a head-turner (especially in summer). The only stuff I won't touch is makeup, after leaving a makeup artist studio to learn how it's done properly there were literally guys spawning in front of me who wouldn't take no for an answer. Now I only wear some foundation and concealer and very little eyeliner.

Unfortunately some inner scars remain, I'd sooner set myself on fire before I even consider opening up to someone via relationship (and despite great confidence I have low self-esteem, ugly duckling effect I guess). But at least my old female bullies have almost all gotten fat and are seething when they spot me, and old male bullies regretting having fucked up their chances. Strokes my ego every time.

by middle school

after id started looking ugly again

Ha

I dunno about "damn hot", but I realized I have nothing but positive interactions with most strangers and I get away with a bit more than I should.

>feel ugly through all my teens
>then feel hot in college after more girls started giving me attention, looking out for me, and even called me hot to my face
>now I'm like a zero again, no one ever compliments me even though I put more effort into my clothes, body and hair
Feels bad, man :(

Can't tell if it's because I'm too serious and they always knew with my new style rather than when I was lazy and didn't give a fuck, or what, but it bums me.

thanks
its not like i havent heard that before or anything

OP....life is fucking weird. Through high school the only women interested in me were hamplanets and this one slim black girl that i dated for three years and was later married to for eight years.
Fast forward to my thirties, still a fatty magnet, but there's a 49 year old slim black woman interested in me. We're all gonna make it

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Yes

I legitimately thought I was ugly and unlikeable for many years, something about helicopter parents, religious upbringing and all male high school. That sort of upbringing pretty much ruined my confidence and self esteem for years.

I made a tinder when I was 21-22 and after a while it turned out that I was actually attractive, many girls calling me ‘cute, hot, attractive’, some even as going as far as saying I’m 10/10 or 15/10, a fair few times being straight up proposed for sex, or even to cuck some girls BF in front of him, being asked why I’m there when I’m attractive, ‘as I could easily meet girls IRL’. Cute seems to be the most common one and often girls will say it out of the blue. I’ve even had a friends GF say I was attractive, even had some random dude come up to me at a bar, grab my cheeks and say ‘now that’s an attractive guy’, I think he was straight or closet homosex.

I would even go on sites like omegle for validation and girls would be calling me hot, cute etc and have camsex with some of them.

It feels good but it also makes me feel regretful to know that had I been raised in a less controlling way that nurtured my
confidence and self esteem, with less tradionalist parents and went to a high school with girls, I probably would’ve had a lot of sex and fun relationships and experiences with girls when I was younger. I don’t blame myself for it as I was essentially a ‘victim’ of my own upbringing, but it still hurts a bit to think about it.

For me I had shit confidence and decided that the South Park sterotype goth kids was my group and fat people was the best I could do, then suddenly popular people started to invite me in their groups, ask me for hair tips, etc. I got my first “oh my god you are so sexy” and off to the races we went date wise. For the record I still think I’m hideous and unlovable but the local public disagrees

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Aye and it's weird and good at the same time.
I'm currently 27 m and I can see a decent looking guy in the mirror. When I was a teen I was chubby and ugly so it makes it pretty awesome. Now along with being alright looking I'm thin (and working out) halfway thorough medschool, lots of hobbies and confident. Just need a job to be able by my standards to get a gf.
Life is getting better.

Based chadposter

Good luck to you Chad. As a /soc/-confirmed 4/10, I can't even match the fat chicks on Tinder. I'm legit screwed and no cute nerdy GF is in my future.

I didn't. I'm ugly as fuck and majority of people I've met / hit on have told me so.

Make a dating profile on a more respectable site than tinder and see what happens. If you really are what you say you will have women lining up for you.

when random dudes on the street stopped harassing me for being a tranny and started harassing me for being a girl

My personality keeps most people away. Rose with thorns or something like that

after I accidentally made a reeeeally pretty girl fall for me, which I didn't even realise untill she practically forced herself on me.
Too bad I can't unfuck my hairline and skin back, wasn't really paying attention to that in my teans since I thought I was uggo anyway.
I know that might sound like bullcrap but you should try mindful meditation or an analogue, cold contrast showers works really good too (wim hof is legit). Like, you gotta realise that the stuff you think is importnant is really not, and the stuff you wouldn't even think about was the actual point. I was the nerdiest motherfucker back in my day, but after I got it I became a fucking shining-ass star, man.
Shit, if not larping I'm seriously happy for youboth, m8.

What's a better site than Tinder?

Any site where you write more about yourself than 3 quirky lines. I don't know what's big in your country. Legit dating sites that you might have to pay for instead of simple hookup fabricators.

I guess in the last year or so? I decided I was tired of being shitty and alone so I lost weight, got a new haircut, got new clothes, started working out etc. In the last year I've had 3 girls ask me out and more flirt with me

... But from years of being completely alone and never having a girlfriend, I'm still crazy insecure and very anxious. I've been trying for a month to ask a girl out and I haven't done it yet because I'm scared.

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I am currently fat (126kg) if I was attractive at this weight would people still fall for me or not?

If not, if I slim down will I have an increased chance of people falling for me?

Six years old when mom started talking to me about modeling and why.

No one likes fat people. Lose weight and take care of yourself fatty.

So even if they are the most handsome man on the planet, if they are fat women won't fall for them?

If so then could that apply to me?

Guys who get asked out/approached by women: where does it happen?

I'm confident in my looks, my friends complain about their SOs gushing over me, and I get attention when I'm at events but I really only leave my cave a few times a year. I'm starting to worry that if I don't press my advantage, it'll fade before I find anyone. I'm a social wreck so if I can find a shallow woman who's good with me just being hot I'll have hit the jackpot.

Being fat takes massive points off the scale. Less so for dudes though, I know chubby dudes boxing out of their league.

People say confidence matters but I think you can just be handsome one way or another and there are guys that are ugly fat or skinny, like me.

Spent all my life around girls snd never much interracted with guys. Then I got a job where there were a lot of guys around and they started taking turns asking me out. I guess that's the point when I realized I'm above average.

I found out when I lost weight and began socializing with intellectuals instead of those on the lower end of the spectrum

not sure, growing up i've always been called pretty or something by parents and friends. i thought that was just a courtesy thing though, not really a privilege... plus i had pretty low self esteem.

i only truly realized i was attractive when in college this really huge amd muscular guy asked me out while blushing and shaking in anxiety. i knew he was popular and he had girls crawling all over him all the time, so i never registered him on my radar of a potential bf because i thought he was so out of my league and pretty much out of my universe really.

when we started dating and he would gush about how he liked me for a long time and how i was often mentioned as "one of the hottest girls" and relay to me that his bros agree that i'm hot (not by my request, he just randomly told me), it was like a "whoa i guess i am pretty" moment lol.

our relationship didn't work out but i thank him for the boost in confidence. i dated an abusive guy before him, and he was a really nasty loser who tried to convince me that i'm ugly and that he was the best i can get. he was rather toad-ish looking himself. never again.

pic is a trap named Sue lightning

I’ve been the official ugly girl in class during my whole secondary school. When I was 16-22 I started to get some attention, but not much, in fact very little compared with the average.
But then at 23 I moved abroad (from south Europe to a Nordic country) and suddenly I started to get A LOT of attention from the locals there. I honestly don’t consider myself ugly but maybe a 6/10 or 7/10 at max and I’ve gotten hit by 8-10/10. I don’t know if it’s the age (I haven’t changed much since my teens, and the guys that try something are now all over 26) or because I’m somewhat “exotic” here, but anyway

Brown girls are best girls. That's why

What pushed you to get your shit together?

My eyes and hair are brown but my skin is pale (of course not as pale as a Nordic person, but I’m not latina or middle eastern looking). I guess grass is always greener on the other side

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Sounds good. Be my slightly brown waifu

I did okc, but I can't have a conversation with someone via text. I also tried tinder, In 2 months I had 100+ on tinder and 60+ on okc.

Never took it anywhere though. Im also sure the pictures I used were all terrible selfies and I only had two photos on myself.

i had a very similar upbringing to you. raised by single helicopter mom (dad died) and went to an all male high school. Also ruined my self esteem and confidence, that could just be my natural character though. Count yourself lucky my man, at least you're not unattractive and short like me.

Also, try not to feel regretful about the past, nothing you can do about it. look to the future. you can still have those fun experiences and relationships now.

Let's be realistic. Most of you ITT aren't actually good looking and simply think you are.

i could post my pic right now and have girls begging to fuck me

You also could be full of shit lmao

Pic with date, time and "butterscotch" all written on a piece of paper.

>le reddit fags

>calls out obvious lies
>outdated meme and accusations of using reddit
Not an argument cunt.

>le namefag

I don't know if I'm actually attractive but I'm at least less hideous since I gained weight, started lifting, and bought better clothes. I also mostly fixed my skin and somehow developed an actual jawline and more balanced facial features as an adult.

It doesn't matter that much because I'm still an autist on the inside. Legit spend my free time playing kerbal space program, reading textbooks and talking shit on here. I can fake being normal but people eventually find out I have some issues. I usually just turn women down because I don't want to deal with their bullshit.

So the meme of attractive people complaining that one likes them for them is actually legit?

I didn't find out until I was almost 30, but my situation was a polar opposite. I was used multiple times in school as the example of why you should care more about personality than looks, people used to go out of their way to let me know I was unattractive, and in my early 20's everyone told me I looked like a violent psychopath and everyone told me that I married way the hell up because my wife is quite beautiful. On top of my face apparently being fucked up, I'm short (5'8", 173cm), I'm redheaded, and I always struggled with my weight.
Queue being 25ish, and suddenly everyone starts telling me that I'm actually good looking. By the time I was 27, women were going out of their way to flirt with me, which is fucking awkward as hell because it just feels so disingenuous.
Apparently this is called "glowing up". Funny thing is that my wife did the same thing, but she's always been at least Plain Jane adorable. Whatever, we're happily married and have been for going on 7 years, but it's really effectively 11 years. At least I can stop worrying about my kids being ugly.

>At least I can stop worrying about my kids being ugly.
not how genetics work

People told me im hot because this girl has a giant crush on me and I wanted to fuck but she was acting all autistic so idk I dont pay attention to this shit anymore, Im a libra I need to have sex man.

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I could not bear to take a picture of myself until i grew a beard.
What's weird is that i liked the way i looked in a mirror, but i hated the way i looked on pictures.

oh, and this was in my last year of high school. i put on a shit ton of weight

That's why you only wait a few messages till you ask them on dates. Texting fucking sucks.

why the fuck is there so many attractive people on this site

I was really shy throughout high school.

Once I went to college, I started going to parties and girls would just approach me while ignoring all the other guys.

It was the best moment of my life when I realized I was much hotter than the average guy

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Perhaps there people are more attractive than you think. Maybe you're attractive user. Who knows?

When I swapped glasses for contact lenses, started wearing make up and got rid of acne. So by about 22-23 I think. Everyone also always said I have a really nice smile but I never noticed it until I started looking at my photos for more than a split second.

no because i don't get people outright approaching me trying to smash/date which they told me was rare even if you are attractive but apparently not!!

Third year of college, I lost some baby fat, got a better haircut and some better clothes.
A lecturer pointed it out during a class he was teaching, taking the roll call would show our id pictures from first year.

Shame I still have the personality of a shy beta or I would be drowning in puss.

I grew up in a very religious household in a closed knit community, I was into athletics but I was shy and didn't really have any social connections.

I decided to make a tinder profile and I got over 50 matches per day with many girls asking me out. That's when I realized I was hot

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Losing fat as a man is a sure fire way to become more attractive. Best bodyfat is between 10-20%. As you lose fat you get a more defined and manlier face. Fat makes it round and soft which is rather female. Your waist will become slimmer. A smaller waist then hip is attractive in men and women. You'll sweat less, smell better. All these things add to your attractiveness, fat takes it away

It typically happens at bars/clubs, basically any drinking establishment where there's drinks and dancing involved = lowered female inhibition and a good excuse to talk to a guy i.e. ask him to dance or complement his outfit, style etc. that's assuming you're better dressed than everyone else there.

Yeah except I stayed 5/10 throughout my entire weightloss process.

>anyone else find out their good looking later in life?
Sadly not, I found out I'm average at best. My face doesn't seem to draw on women, I'm generally slim, so when I wear clothes I'm pretty unremarkable. Underneath my clothes I've got a nice body from years of doing sports though, but not in the Jow Forums sense of bulky muscles. Women seeing me topless makes them more open towards me later on. I'm a male butterface.

So I'm most of this happened when I was around a lot of women, HS , college and college parties. Outside of that it's kind of rare once in awhile a girl at my gym will chat me up, last week some random girl who works in my office building complimented my shirt(dont know what was meant by it) or an older woman who works for my company will get flirty.

I don't go out much though to bars or clubs plus as im super introverted. My friends are all pretty introverted finance people or engineers and we usually hang out outdoors or at a craft beer brewery.

These pictures were taken approximately one year after each other. I honestly have no clue what happened. I didn't even start working out or anything. It may have just been delayed puberty. I skipped a grade, so I was always developmentally behind my peers. Then, all of a sudden, girls figured out I existed and were asking me to be their date to events. It's been five years since that last picture was taken and I've just been getting consistently better looking. Sometimes I look in the mirror and am genuinely astonished.

Most memorable one was at an all-you-can eat sushi restaurant. Girl just slipped an empty chopstick packet with her phone number written on it and let out a little moan as she left. Went on a couple dates with her, but it didn't work out because she was a stripper. She said that she really respected how I had the confidence to go out to restaurants by myself, but I suspect that's one of those things only good looking people get credit for.

I also get a lot of free drinks from girls, but don't really like bars and have always been a bit of a social recluse. But nowadays it's mysterious rather than pathetic. Basically, I'm in the same situation as you and it's my own doing. Still remain confident that a woman will show enough initiative that I won't be able to fully sabotage myself.

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I always knew. I just never thought anyone else knew.

This is pretty nice, Chad

It was about junior year of highschool for me.

I was never good at maintaining friendships or the like, so people weren't the nicest to me when I was in middle school and early highschool, to be fair though, it was partially my own fault for not being too polite at the time.

But I grew up to be tall, have a nice face with a clean complexion, good hair, etc.

When it all came in, people started treating me better from the get go, and I guess it boosted my confidence a lot.

This thread is interesting

Sort of same for me, sort of different. I remember being made fun of for my small dick in school showers etc which made me insecure about it for years, but now I’m a little bigger than 8x6 inches and I only in the last 3 years realised it isn’t actually small. Still sure it damaged my confidence for good

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This is what I'm talking about. You're not hot. You're completely average, even below average, looking.

I still can’t tell, but I suspect I’m becoming more attractive as time goes by now.

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Progression from boring kid shy guy to cute athletic young man with nice eyes and jawline.

Doesn't come off as hot, but easy and fun to spend time with. Potential husband material.

Sexy eyes

I looked like a weird incel guy when I was a teen but when I started to mannish up I didn't exactly become your typical twinky european young adult basedboy. Instead my face and body got really intimidating and I looked about 30 when I was 18.

This was nice

Guys, if you are athletic/fit and get a nice body, you're automatically a 7 no matter how your face looks.

If you're not fit, your face (maybe height) can carry you, but you have no control of that.

When I routinely had six digits in my bank account, no debt, and I found out being just under 7 inches in length and as wide as can of red Bull is enough to satisfy any woman sexually.

How true Is this?

Gay

I'd like to know this too, similar weight. It would give me huge motivation to lose weight.

Same question, how true is this? I am 125kg atm, if I lost all this weight I'd automatically be a 7? I'm considered a 6 despite my weight at the moment.

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Fuck my life
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>remember being 15
>considered myself a frumpy teenager who liked to draw and watch anime and play video games
>remember one time I went to Atlantic City with parents
>was wearing baggy jeans and baggy sweater, no makeup, etc
>at hotel, I stand by the wall near check in desk holding onto the suitcases while waiting for parents to get the room key.
>40+ year old man with Italian-New York accent comes up to me and starts talking to me. Tells me how pretty I am and starts asking questions as to where I'm from
>just give one word answers. Feel flattered but nervous.
>Finally see parents come by, I yell out "Oh hey mom!!" and the guy walks off.

I'll never know if the guy actually thought I was attractive woman and didn't know I was 15, or he was a pedo.

Anyone?

He's fucking 40, he's obviously a predator. The fact that you didn't have makeup on and everything probably enticed him further - he probably thought you were a runaway or vulnerable girl that he could take advantage of and abuse.

I can tell you when I knew I was unattractive. I’ve sent messages(real messages not hey girl) to over 50 women, and swiped right over probably over 200. And how many responses? 1. Both this I thought I was moderately attractive. It’s the strangest thing. Been alone thinking I could have was freeing. Being alone knowing I can’t is literally the worse pain I’ve ever felt

I want this to be true