Self-Improvement thread: This thread is for those who are tired of losing, not being able to get laid, depressed, etc... Stop blaming the world and wallowing in self pity. Take action! Learn a new skill, practice your social skills, learn how to dress attractively, etc...
For all the user's out there male or female, come share your personal advice on how to improve yourself and be a better person!
You're gonna die.
On your deathbed, you can be surrounded by people you love, and people who love you. You can be joyfully recalling memories, genuinely enjoying each other's presence. You have no regrets, you lived your life fully and wouldn't have it any other way. You embrace death without fear, content with the life you've created.
OR
You're on your deathbed with a few people you kinda don't care about. No one wants to be there. The atmosphere is heavy and uncomfortable. Everyone is silent and sad, secretly wishing they could leave, but would feel guilty leaving you alone. You regret not doing all those things you wanted to do. So many dreams unfulfilled, trips not taken, relationships unpersued. You feel like a complete waste of a human being. You would give anything to do it over again. You fear death, but know you can't do those things you wanted anymore. You die unhappy, and unfulfilled.
Choose you death friend.
Not everyone is lucky enough to get to "choose".
>implying I won't die alone
If you're able to visit this board then I'm pretty sure you're one of the lucky ones.
You are probably 20-25, priviliged enough to have internet and time to waste on Jow Forums. How is self improvement beyond you?
The majority of what's considered the free world has some sort of access to the internet. I'm not wasting my time here right now because there's nothing "productive" to do outside of metaphorically enslaving myself to someone/thing. I'm not going to get the first "ending" because there is nothing I can do to get someone worth knowing to become close to me, because I'm not worth knowing, nor can I become that person.
The only thing I hear from a lot of you is to just "succeed or die trying", when I'm telling you that there is no possibility of success and you might as well be telling me to undergo a series of humiliating and pointless endeavors to not-so-obviously and not-so-successfully secure a semblance of normalcy for myself.
How can you be so sure you can't improve? If you afre already an oracle with the vision of the future then I'd say you are doing pretty well.
Improve what?
My social skills are relatively on par with just about everyone I meet to the point where I haven't had an awkward interaction in years, I have a decent career, own a home, and most of my priorities are in order.
I'm just that stereotypical guy that get's picked last for everything. One person told me it's almost like a tangible aura, they feel the energy of that "loser no one talked to in high school" from me.
I'm really trying not to sound like I'm complaining, but this is only response I can come up with to the "just do it, faggot" meme posts.
>Improve what?
Maybe your, I don't know, "aura" would be a good place to start?
I mean, you are clerarly unhappy, or else you wouldn't have made you initial comment. Improving your quality of life, your friendships, or whatever else you are unsatisfied for could be a good project, given that you have nothing else to do with your free time.
>"just do it, faggot" meme posts.
It's not "just do it". Change is hard, and long. And it can't start until you decide to start it.
I can't "start with my aura", because I don't know what that means, I don't see what to improve. Even the person who told me about it was skeptical as to how to go about fixing it. I'm getting the feeling you're interpreting everything I say as deflection and excuse, but it's just the reality of my situation. Also you're assuming I've never tried, which honestly annoys me the most.
I'm unhappy because I can't get the things my brain feels like it's screaming out for, I'm not really capable of improving my quality of life any further at this moment, and despite my attempts in the past, no one I've ever met considers me as a friend, because I'm simply not worth it. I simply don't have it in me to get to the required baselines of interesting, funny, personable, et cetera, as if they're set beyond my hardcoded limits.
Finally, I'm fully aware of the effort required to change your life. I'm just saying that at my (and a certain number of individuals') level it would take too long to ever take advantage of.
>Also you're assuming I've never tried, which honestly annoys me the most.
I'm sure you have tried to reach the "required baselines of interesting, funny, personable, et cetera", but something is still working against you. Have you tried dealing with the source?
Becuase without self reflection, change is meaningless. Building an image in your head of what you should be is worthless if you don't know wh you are.
Please enlighten, O Wise One, what is the source of my metaphorical struggle?
How do I clear the field that is blocking me from the truth?
I can't tell you. I don't know you. That's why I asked. Have you tried dealing with the source of your frustrations instead of the symptoms?
The source of my problems is that my brain longs for things it cannot ever have. It almost physically hurts sometimes. Science has not advanced far enough for me to turn off biological programming.
It can also be said that I'm the source, which means you're telling me to kill myself?
>which means you're telling me to kill myself?
Well, if you weren't a fucking edgelord, you might say "Are you telling me to change?". So pick whichever option you think I would pick.
>The source of my problems is that my brain longs for things it cannot ever have.
What do you want?
Holy shit, what part of there is nothing I can change for the better that you can't comprehend?
Do you really delude yourself into thinking that everyone is born with the capacity to be happy?
I just want the irritation/pain/reliance on coping mechanisms to stop.
>Holy shit, what part of there is nothing I can change for the better that you can't comprehend?
I can't comprehend because oyu haven't explained it to me yet. All you talk about is an "aura", but that could mean your clothes, your looks, your general attitude, your vocabulary, your expressions when dealing with people, etc etc.
You need to dig deeper. If you have been trying for so long you should have something to say about all of this.
It's like, a few days at most if things are really drawn out. Preparing for 70+ years about a few days of bullshit just sounds like a bad investment to me. I can lay there high out of my mind while I wait to expire without other people.
I assumed all those avenues being explored already was a given.
I don't look good in any style of clothing, my sister told me there was an "uncanny valley" feel to me every time I decided to give one a try.
I've tried more things than I can count with my looks. Hairstyles, facial hair growth/style, clean skin, I'm not obese, and for the while that I decided to try lifting/working out, nothing changed either.
I honestly doubt people find my vocabulary to be the thing that's sub-par.
I've already said that I can hold a conversation, I just don't interest people worth talking to.
I have a lot to say, there's a 2000 character limit.
>I don't look good in any style of clothing, my sister told me there was an "uncanny valley" feel to me every time I decided to give one a try.
What a bitch. Do you realize she is basically telling you not to try new things? That's not a helpful attitude.
>I just don't interest people worth talking to.
That's something to work on, right? Why do you think you are boring?
She never told me to "do" anything, and has "supported" me to the extent she can living 2000 miles away. Maybe I explained it wrong, her point was that I did not look natural in anything besides work clothes and loungewear.
I'm boring because my life experience consists of me figuring it out by myself. I have no experience with the things that are currently on the minds of people around me. I also don't think "faking it till you make it" works when trying to make legitimate friends that you're supposed to trust.
The point is, we're so obviously radically different that the gap between us is irreconcilable.