Am I an asshole for just not wanting to talk or engage with anyone at work?
Am I an asshole for just not wanting to talk or engage with anyone at work?
No. But it's in your best interest to be on good terms with coworkers.
Do I have to not be myself all the time?
Not necesarily unless you're completely anti social with no remedy. Maybe make it clear that you don't give a shit about socializing and that it's not personal. If you want to have more opportunities in life, you'll want to work on having connections with many people though.
Well I think I’m doomed for life eh? I’m never gonna be successful. I can’t make friends, I can’t connect with people, but at the same time I’m also really sad that I’m really lonely. I’ve even gotten too comfortable with talking to myself and fantasizing conversations.
I think I’ve made it clear to everyone that I’m not very sociable and I don’t long for social contacts. But when there are new guys in the office and the old guys are being friendly very quick with them, it just makes me sad. It makes me unhappy, I’m not happy with life in general. I have no goal and I don’t want anything.
You are not an asshole but people will dislike you because it comes off as arrogant if you don't want to talk to them.
You're not doomed. You don't have to be the most sociable either, it's just easier if you are. You are who you are though. It's normal that you feel lonely, we're social beings. Ever asked why it makes you unhappy to see others being friendly with each other? It may be that you actually DO want to talk with others, but you can't because you're depressed and stuck in this pessimist thinking. I'm just guessing though, idk shit. My advice is to try to learn more about yourself. Ask why it is that you don't want to socialize, if you don't already know. Also, has it always been like this or was there a time you changed?
You sound like you could be an introvert like me. Extroverts get energy from socializing, introverts can socialize but need alot of downtime to recoup. If you are constantly needing to socialize at work, you wont have energy to socialize. Can you find a more solitary job?
Don't feed that defeatist crap to OP. He feels lonely, he wants to engage. giving up won't make him feel better.