My girlfriend is into S&M and asked me to cut her with a knife last night during sex. I told her no because that might cause lasting damage. She got mad, and this morning before going to work that I was basically saying I have more say over her body than she does. She couched it by saying that what I did didn't reach the level of abuse, but is a warning sign that I might be a controlling person.
Is she right? Pic related, that's me.
Hope this is bait. If not, run away!
Instead of saying "no because that'd hurt you" you should have said "no because I'm your master and I don't feel like pleasing you unworthy scum" or whatever shit you BDSM sick fucks are into.
You looked more like a pussy, not like a dominating master. I guess that's a turn off for her.
I'm not really into it at all. I just play along because it's her main kink.
jesus christ if my girlfriend said that to me id be out the door in seconds
To be honest I'd be skeptical that she's trying to create evidence of abuse.
The request for cutting, or the anger at having the request denied?
cutting is one thing but the anger and logic used to attack you is its own warning sign of crazy bitch syndrome
user, run.
Kinks are great and cool but if she's forcing you by guilt to participate in a kink you're not comfortable with, she's not taking your needs into consideration.
If you aren't comfortable doing it, she needs to respect that.
source: im kinky and my boyfriend is not.
She's not. If she wants to cut so badly that's her business, but she can't force you to participate. She should understand sex has to be consensual, and that includes any fetishes you mix into it.
As someone experienced in BDSM, that's a red flag. Hard limits, from a sub or dom, are to be respected, not questioned, and never pushed. Call her out on her feeble attempt at manipulation and tell her that shit's not okay.
But as a male, you DO have more say over her body than her. That's what makes you the male: you decide. She is to follow your lead.
say it's your right to choose not to cut her with a fuckin knife, and then call her a fucking retarded bitch, and then stab her
Lol yea, to the knofe store
>to the knofe store
My fucking sides
> I might be a controlling person
No, your girlfriend is the controlling person and a nutball. You did nothing wrong.
Reading this made me crack up.
>She got mad, and this morning before going to work that I was basically saying I have more say over her body than she does.
nope. if anything she's the one who thinks she has more of a right to your body than you do, since she's the one demanding that you do something to her. and if she can't respect your limits, then she really shouldn't be engaging in BDSM activities with you.
I'm not saying she's fully in the right, OP, but she does have a point. At the least this isn't as cut and dry of an issue as most here make it out to be. If she's okay with something being done to her body, it's not your choice to second guess her.
Run like hell nigger and don't look back.
Cutting is one thing, I don't relate to it one bit, but kinks are kinks, but getting pissed at you for not wanting to cut her? that's a huge red flag.
And what a dumb sounding excuse, you're not trying to say you have more control of her body than her, you just don't want to cut a person with a knife, you know, like a reasonable person would.
To reiterate, GTFO ASAP
It damn well is if she's asking OP to do it to her. OP has the final say over his own actions, and if he doesn't feel he can do it safely, or that it is safe, it is his choice to veto it. Especially since he is the one who would be legally culpable for anything if it were to happen.
If she wants to do it to her own body, it is her own choice to do so. And if she doesn't like that OP won't do it to her, it is her choice to break up with him and find someone else to do it for her. At either of those points, if OP stepped in, it would be controlling on his part. Right now the only controlling person is OP's girlfriend and she's massively out of touch with reality as well.
>have a point
>cut and dry
She is guilting you into it, if you are uncomfortable with it be assertive that you dont want to
From this alone this person sounds manipulative
This is true and right. I wouldn't be comfortable with abusing a woman like this during sex. Smacking an ass, a little light choking, tying up or pulling hair I could do...but knife slashing...idk. I mean maybe if I was with her for a long time and trusted her, but idk.
Two words.
RUN NIGGA!
Bdsm is all good but once it reaches actually dangerzone it is not professional bdsm. Real bdsm is actually very safe.
What your girlfriend is doing is danger zone.
One day she might ask you to do something wirst and you might accidentally kill her you idiot.
RUN AWAY THIS WOMAN IS DANGEROUS!
Also before you run tell her she is putting herself in danger.
>knofe store
homie is already halfway out the chair
"He raped me at knife point! Look at my cuts!"
Fuckin bounce dude
Someone who does not respect your right to say "no" to something you don't want to do and then frames it in terms of you being abusive or controlling to them is someone you ABSOLUTELY CANNOT TRUST.
You don't bail because she's got some fucked up shit in her head that makes her want to get cut, you bail because you are endangering your life and freedom by continuing to be with her.
OP, how can you say you love her if you won't slit her ducking throat?
Is this real?
Are you retarded? She's asking him tomusenhis body to cut her with a knife. He can decide what he wants to do with his body can't he? Maybe he isn't into that weird shit.
Red fucking flag. There's nothing controlling about exercising your own right to consent. In this case you chose not to consent to fucking cutting someone.
Get out before she cuts herself and publicly blames you for being abusive. She is clearly unhinged and crazy. What she did is gaslighting and is one of the most toxic behaviours to be around. You are not safe around this person.
Nail her hands and feet the floor and proceed to rape
It's time to leave. She's not into S&M, she's just fucking crazy.
You're dating an abused girl who is now using you to fetishize and reenact this abuse in your sex life. This girl is extremely damaged but I think you already knew that. Its your business if you want to date psychos but it might benefit you to just be honest about it with yourself and perhaps not be so flabbergasted when the emotionally unstable girls you choose date do things that are, well, emotionally unstable?
Get rid of her.
She’s absolutely right. You arent being respectful of her body, you should be ashamed. When she asks you to respect her, you better do it.
Every couple draws their own lines. "Not drawing blood" or "Not leaving scars" is a perfectly legitimate line to draw if going further would make you uncomfortable
Bail, she sounds unstable. I like some rough sex from time to time too, but bitches that want to be cut are on another level of crazy.
get. out.
Bailsky my brother, that's crazy you went and put your dick into. If she wants her body to be cut she's fully capable of cutting herself, this has nothing to do with control over her body. She's trying to manipulate you.
Hello there OP's girlfriend. Holy shit, you scare the fuck out of me.
Thanks for the replies, everyone. Once she came home she apologized for "being unreasonable." I won't break up with her since it's a first offense, but I'll consider her to be on thinner ice than I would otherwise. I'll bolt if too many things like this stack up.
Hate to admit that I've been in this exact situation. I love masochist psycho bitches, and that's my fucking problem, but I understand how scary it is if she asks you to cut her. I felt the same way you did, and desu, you should find a way out. Like, NOW. You won't be sorry.