ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything

Some things sure but I don't think that's necessary for every single facet of life. I don't really need someone who agrees with me on everything.

Your question to me is like the same as

>I'm a vegan because eating meat goes against my values but I just found out my gf loves meat what do I do?

Nothing? You remain a vegan and she will keep eating meat. As long as you enjoy each other what is the problem?

I couldn’t be in a relationship with a vegan. I love cheese too much. That would be a conflicting issue.

Just because you have hooked up or done fwb doesn't mean you don't value being exclusive in a relationship. People look for different things at different times or try stuff with people that ends up not working out or developing into a monogamous relationship or whatever. Just because someone does netflix and chill doesn't mean they will cheat on someone they've said they're exclusive with.

What is the issue?

Or are you saying for a relationship to work out you each have to conform exactly to the other? Like, that would mean you can't eat cheese just because she doesn't? I really don't understand that.

because food is a huge part of life. Vegan is a lifestyle. They have to continuously make and effort to stick to that path. It puts many limitations. That would affect my life

Why do girls get bored of me by the second date?

>inb4 you're boring
I get that, but how do I isolate what's boring about me and improve?

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reposting because i never got too many answers
girls preferred:
ok, so i became friends with this girl, and it turns out we have like near perfect chemistry, and we have gotten absurdly close in a very small amount of time (just a few days ago, we were walking alone and bonding over our mutual self-esteem problems, for example). i have a pretty hard time being open with people, so she is quite a gem, and i have fallen pretty hard for her as a result.

i want to ask her out, but i get the sense that she doesnt have a lot of people she can open up to, and i dont wanna ruin this for her. she doesnt seem to really signal any romantic interest in me, which turns me away, but at the same time, my gut says that she has to at least have some of these same feelings. what do you think, girls? is getting super close with a guy in a short period of time attractive to you as a potential partner?

How the fuck are we supposed to know?

>what the hell did i do wrong?
you posted something incorrectly

>we were walking alone and bonding over our mutual self-esteem problems
this will work out great OP carry on

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delete this, no bullying

i dont really have self-esteem problems any more, and she seems self-aware enough that she could reach the same state, too, but theres no doubt about it, any relationship we have will probably be a shitshow, we are both incredibly sheltered and aware of it

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When do I tell her I love her?

How do I get a tall, sporty gf?

you have to mumble it sleepily to her when you guys are napping together, so you can gauge her reaction

Go to the Netherlands

I'm a guy btw.
I don't go to the gym, I don't really feel like I have to, I do exercise at home however but I'm only doing it to somewhat stay in shape but I'm not ripped by any means.
Is that repulsive in any way to women? is hitting the gym a must for some? or do you not mind as long as I'm happy with myself?

Guys

Would you gf a girl who has done casual sex in her past a bunch of times but doesn’t do it anymore?

If I cook a nice Dutch girl kassouffle, how much have I raised the odds of a happy marriage?

No.

Define "a bunch".

sure

Yes, but only because I'm looking for my first ever gf, not a wife

Yes. Difficult to find a girl who hasn't, and she is probably better in bed.

This makes me nervous because I'd worry she just jumps outta bed and flips out

activities to meet women at? ive done/currently do salsa, hiking and meetups

6 guys (a few ONS and FwB)..

That's ok, but you're pushing the limit.

at which point you can say you were just half asleep. how long have you guys been together? how close do yo feel to her, and vice versa? is there anything you feel like you cant tell her?

Why don't you talk to your friends, family, or someone whose opinion you trust?

If you know your behavior is changing to boring-guy when you're talking to someone, it may be because you're trying to MAKE that person like you. That includes both being bland so you don't accidentally say something offensive, and being a blowhard braggart who is concerned about the impression he's making to the exclusion of showing an actual interest in getting to know person.

For me, I find that when I'm boring myself when I'm talking to someone it's because they're probably not a good fit for me. I'm just not getting anything back from them that engages me.

She doesn't "have" to be thinking or feeling anything. This is wishful thinking on your part.

Getting super close with anyone very quickly should be a very real concern to you. Yes, sometimes people just click with each other and have a really good feeling about who they are, but quite often such feelings of very quick closeness just shows poor judgment and that something is missing.

If you want to know if she might have a romantic interest in you, ask her out. If that closeness is real, it will survive rejection.

I usually say something like that when I feel I know someone well enough to be able to know it's actually true.

Ask out tall, sporty girls until you find one who likes you enough to want to be your girlfriend.

Doesn't the OP answer this question?

Assuming it's someone I like who has compatible values, yes. Obviously other guys will say no.

There's no ask same sex general so here goes:
For girls, how is it like to have sex with a girl?

Start a band for fun with 2 girls I know, one of them a qt I love. Ask if they can meet for a practice next week at my place, and not qt says she cant. Was I just given the perfect opportunity with qt and what should I do if we meet only us to show her Im interested in her?

Tinder is demoralizing.

I know I'm attractive. I just don't have the right type of photos to get with an average tinder thot. All my matches are slightly above average girls looking for actual relationships.

To think I actually have to go out and talk to thots in bars. But I dont have the right clothes for that either.

Is it even worth trying?

Boring post here, this is helpful and gives me a lot to think about, thanks.

you can contact with a photography student more than willing to shot you a good photo for a very low price.
but i guess it's indeed not worth it, if you don't even have enough motivation to get over such easy obstacles by yourself

Yo do any of you know people who take like 10-20 hours to reply? I've been talking to this girl I've gone on a date with, and we're good friends but her replies are getting more and more spaced out. They still have good content and thought put into them but it's nearly a day in between responses.

so what is your problem?

I'm trying to set up another date but it's super hard when I have to get my point across one day, one text at a time.

Girls

Can I make long distance work? There's a 5 hour drive between us. We'll both be apart/busy due to work for about a year with breaks in between. Should I just end it now for now until I see her again next year?

>end it now for now until I see her again next year?

end it now and end it for good.

LDR works only if you guys see yourself being together multiple years and have a plan to get back to a normal distance within a year or so. If you don't feel that strongly then it probably won't work.

You value different things
If you cant deal with that dont date her
If you can date her

you dont need a girl to analyse this

just send her a full proposition already.
'let's met at x at the y day/hour, ok?'
it won't take so long then

he has been answered already, clearly he just waits for us to tell him what he wants to hear

Ok, but I'm still concerned with why she takes so long. It makes me question what her opinion really is of me.

I think my friend may have broken up with her bf. How do I flirt with her? We've known for 3 years, have done some spiritual walk together, she showed some hints of liking me when we barely knew each other (though idk if that was her just feeling sorry for me) but I didn't act because I had low self esteem and I assumed she was in a relationship with the guy (not sure if she already was or if they became official later on). Now I meet her every Sunday at church. I once told her about a failed crush I had on another girl (friendish of hers), not sure if that's a black flag to a girl.

people use electronics in million different ways. there are girls I can't ever call, cause that upsets them and makes them uncomfortable, there are girls whom I can never text, cause she won't respond in days, but will pick up her phone right away. there is a girl with so much issues she won't ever pick up the phone, nor answer to sms, but will be very glad to see me on parties.

just accept that some people don't have any strong need to care about electronics. When you meet her, explain how you feel and work towards compromise.

'hi, how about some coffee this weekend?'

>saw a girl from my highschool the other day
>added her on facebook last night
>asked her to get a beer this weekend
>no reply or "seen at" yet
>moving out next week

wish me luck, chon. I hope shes down for a fling. She was cute

how do girls feel about putting lubed condoms in their mouth?
i only own prelubed condoms, and i dont know if girls mind having lube in their mouth. should i buy nonlubed ones?

why do you even want to put a condom wrapped dick into anyone's mouth?
you won't feel a thing anyway

like her boobs are bad or the quality is bad?

If the boobs are bad then idk. You've got to be attracted to her in some way to stay with her

>you're in something like a LDR and you love the girl.
if I'm in love with the girl, I want to be with her, therefore I drop exactly everything that would separate me from her and move to live with her.
if two people settle for less then that, please don't abuse the term 'love' to describe their relationship.

as for the boobs, even if they are super large, I would keep loving her, no problem

That's... Really good advice, thank you.

Girls please

I have been out of dating since the 90s. I am 40, divorced with kids just recently started dating. I recently started dating a fellow single parent that I knew from high school. We went on two dates, both very limited due do child obligations. She text me she just got a new bathing suit, and wants to use my hot tub time to try it on. Is she 100% DTF?

How bad are we talking?

How do I get a girl to have sex with me?

chloroform

That's a straight Yes

How do I flirt with girls? I'm not like an autist (much). I can talk with them, and they laugh at my jokes and whatnot. It's just I'm confused as to what counts as flirting and when its acceptable.

Flirting is basically just glorified banter. If xou can banter anons on Jow Forums, you certainly can banter ladies. Just tone it down, some people really gets easily offended in real life. Woth enough experience you will be able to safely guess what will pass as a joke and what wont. See See above and remember to never take advice about dating from women...

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I've had the experience of girls practically falling in my lap, but was too shocked to do anything. How do I prevent this from continuing?
>remember to never take advice about dating from women...
Fellow men always tell me to lie, which I don't want to do

Alcohol isnt called social lubricant for nothing
Practice makes perfect
Abstaining from porn and masturbation for few days / weeks should do the trick
Remembering that as long as she isnt resisting, she likes it: touch her skin and dont stop groping

I see what you are saying. At this point in my life I will not throw myself into any woman like that. I know my worth. And, I have everything a woman could possibly give me. Three beautiful children. A big beautiful 5 bedroom house I own myself. I'm looking for someone to share my life with. She will enjoy the fact that she has to do nothing, not bear kids, maintain a house, nothing. Just be nice lol. I have the luxury of being the choosy one.

Recently been going out with a really hot girl but we only hang out at her house and her parents don't really like me (im white she's black) is this a thing? my gf has said that its because im white i don't really get it also she only wants to have sex when her parents are home which makes me feel really uncomfortable what should i do?

Is a girl being tired after sex a good thing? I banged one girl who felt too tight (despite foreplay) and my dick was half limp due to alcohol, so prob only 5 inches max. Gave her a good pounding and she said her pussy hurt the next day but she was satisfied.

Next girl and my dick length was hurt a bit by alcohol but closer to full length, around 6.5 inches. Tried to give a good dicking but was tired, was probably only 15 min of pounding. She was exhausted right after and couldn't really do anything and the next day she said she was still tired but not in pain or anything.

Is this normal? I don't fuck slow but I can't go pornstar fast either, but generally try to give a good pace. Heard girls can take pretty much any sort of pounding because their sturdy and babies come out of there so no worries. What gives?

>>I have a friend that from time to time would pay the tab when we had lunch or dinner. In return, I'd do him favors like branding/graphic design, photography, videos etc. However a week or so ago, he texted me asking how I was and such so I told him I was hungry and felt a little lonely (at the moment my flatmates were off on vacation and I was alone) so he asked me if I'd like him to accompany me to eat something, I said sure.

>>I pick him up, we eat and I paid the tab. I noticed this kinda startled him but paid no attention to it. I mean shit, It was about time I did it. So I wanted to be even for the previous times he paid.

>>We saw some youtube vids and i dropped him off his place, and he didn't talk to me for a week.

>>Mind you im not the type to be a conversation starter, let alone insist or beg for attention. by the time I was very busy and working on projects and whatnot, but I did text him twice sending him pics of cool shit I saw online that i'd knew he liked. Both times he sorta brushed it off, so I got the idea that he didn't want to talk, I left him alone.

>>last night he texted me asking how i was and whatnot, we spoke a little but I didn't feel to thrilled to talk to him due to his wierd behaviour. I told my other friends about it and they say that perhaps he saw my actions as if I wanted something more with him and honestly I didn't see it that way. For me it was just spending time with a friend and paying the tab cause he was willing to spend a little time with me after work.

Do guys feel offended if a girl pays the tab? I'm really confused.

>she only wants to have sex when her parents are home
wait what

it's the social code that if someone invites you to a place, they pay the check
it doesn't even seem that anything is wrong. as well, you can be talking about a normal human behavior.

Yeah we have to be really quiet while we do it one time her father went into the room while we were doing it but the blanket saved my life we just stayed "hugging" while he was in the room

I have never paid the tab in a platonic relationship. Every girl I date I pay for everything. It tells me everything I need to know about her. If she accepts it or even never even reacts when bill comes, than she is accepting the traditional dynamic that I pursue. Not just in this situation, but other established gender roles. If she insists on paying or half whatever, I'll appreciate her time and all that, but I wont pursue it.

So she's into getting caught?

Damn, I'm a dude and I like it when the girl wants to pay her half.

It's all good user. Not saying anything pejorative about it. It's just I prefer the traditional power dynamic. You don't and that awesome too.

Idk i think she is into the fear of being caught

I was considering hitting the bars tomorrow night. You convinced me

>her father went into the room while we were doing it but the blanket saved my life
He is either an anime character or he fucking knows and is letting slide. Either that or he refuses to believe that you could be so bold. But he definitely suspects.

it would be really weird if he is letting slide i think its the second one either way how should i go about telling my gf i don't want to do it when they are home...

Men,

I just bitched about this in another thread on Jow Forums but here's the tl;dr - I work with this woman whom i think likes me, and I think she's cute also. We're both married and I'm a woman on top of that too. She invited me out somewhere on Sunday, so.. what should I expect?

I do want to kiss her and maybe more but this is the very first time I'll do anything sexual with another woman. What would you do in my shoes?

Not enough lube, I guess.

>proud beta provider

I wouldn't cheat on my partner for a start. Cunt.

>planning to cheat on your husband
what you should expect is a divorce and a lot of talk at work about being a terrible person.

I guess I should explain further, but I'm actually separated.

But she isn't right? That makes it worse. Two marriages taken down by the same woman, that's a rare achievement.

Hmm. You're right. I won't pursue it, then.

>Canceled with a girl cuz of work issues
>Tell her I can meet her next week
>She says I'll call you
No response
>Text her again a week later, ask if she wants to meet
>Says sure but next week
>Ask her where
No response

Is she ghosting me? Should I ask her what's the matter or move on? Problem is, I'll have to see her for a year so I want it to be atleast bareable between us.

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Im snapchatting this girl I'm interested in, we're really good friends and went on a date recently (it went really well) but now she takes over a day to reply to my texts and her snapscore can go up by over a hundred in between our interactions. When she does reply its thought out and has some effort to it but what gives?

either she lost interest or is busy

Why would she be busy texting others and not to text me? I did a bit of snooping and both her snapscore and her best friend's snapscore goes up somewhat linearily.

talk to her for a while about her interests or whatever. when an appropriate topic comes up (either something that you also like or one that would be conducive to a date), just say 'oh, you like [certain food/drink/fun activity]? let's go [eat it/drink it/do it] on friday!'

Girls, if some guy that you had class with a semester ago messaged you on FB just to say hi and catch up would you assume he's interested in you? Most importantly, would it be creepy to do so?