Told this girl who loves me that if she sees this guy even as a friend then I'll cut her off, we had discussions about it for over a week and we spoke a day before she went to see him (not sure if she did) and we haven't spoke since.
Should I hit her up first or wait for a message? I think she's testing to see if i 'care about her' in her distorted way.
Say what you mean and mean what you say... she didn’t listen so fuck her!
>Told this girl who loves me that if she sees this guy even as a friend then I'll cut her off
Today, on "Making Your Own Problems"
well the guy has a crush on her and they had history
Two things.
1. Making ultimatums when they're not needed WILL end your relationship.
2. If she is willing break your trust then what was the fucking point in trying so fucking hard to keep her in the first place
If she's worth keeping around at all you'd never have to make demands like this.
I had to make the ultimatum dude. She would've seen a guy who likes her.
So block her and move on...
Thank you for not reading my fucking post.
You’re very welcome.
Seriously, if you trust her so little that you think the fact that SOMEBODY WHO ISN'T HER has feelings is a fucking problem then why the fuck are you in a relationship with her? If you were willing to ask her out it means you fully believed that she would NOT betray you even if she had the opportunity. If this is not the case then what the fuck are you doing?
she said she wouldn't abandon me and said 'shes making a bad decision'. should i give her another chance..?
This isn't about her, it's about you.
Do
You
Trust
Her
Or
Not
yes she sounds so genuine when she says she loves me but she keeps going out with this guy (she avoided him for two weeks for me) and i dont get it. its not even about the sex. its just manipulation at this point
You don't trust her. Break up. If you don't believe that she won't betray you then you should leave. It's got nothing to do with whether she actually is doing anything with this guy or not, relationships are based EXCLUSIVELY on trust and trust alone and you have none for her.
ultimatum == you have no power over the relationship
basically you're fucked at this point
for me male friends are red flag
user is right that you don't trust her, sometimes you have to listen to your guts
moreover, she does not give a fuck, if she cared about you a bit she'd break the contact with the guy
>ultimatum == you have no power over the relationship
Yes
>basically you're fucked at this point
Yes
>for me male friends are red flag
Wait
>user is right that you don't trust her, sometimes you have to listen to your guts
Okay...
>moreover, she does not give a fuck, if she cared about you a bit she'd break the contact with the guy
And you've gone off the deep end. She shouldn't have to cut contact off with anyone. If someone tell you to cut contact with someone, you should be cutting contact with THEIR controlling ass.
Man words are just words. It's so easy to say you love a person but it's another to show actions. It doesn't sound like she respects you that much and the fact you're going as far as making ultimatium, it's already over.
>It doesn't sound like she respects you that much
I'd ask where the fuck any of you are getting this idea from but then again I have no respect for OP either.
I mean I guess it's not fair for me to speculate that much since it's only a paragraph about her in OP's post. But to me the action of her not meeting the guy friend despite OP's request, that alone is a sign of disrespect
>But to me the action of her not meeting the guy friend despite OP's request, that alone is a sign of disrespect
You're only correct about that on an absolute scale if we remove all context and only look at it from the standpoint of "she didn't do something he asked her to".
Dude, if you said you`ll cut her off (which was stupid) then be a person of self respect and dignity and actualy DO what you say.
If you go back to her i dont know how you can expect anything next to go your way.
this
what the fuck are you doing. She's not your luggage.
Stick to your principles It's that simple if you don't you're gonna bring yourself a lot of unnecessary pain from women who like to play stupid games.
Also it's a reason you didn't want her around this guy be confident in your judgment.
>Also it's a reason you didn't want her around this guy be confident in your judgment.
The problem with this equation is that THE OTHER GUY is the one who has feelings for her and he doesn't trust her not to fall for him, and I wouldn't be surprised if he extends this to all her male friends. Or, former friends, if OP has his way.
And?
This doesn't change anything I said previously in the slightest.
The entire point is OP needs to find someone who's willing to comply with his terms.
As far as being reasonable or unreasonable that's up to him and the other party involved.
>The entire point is OP needs to find someone who's willing to comply with his terms.
That's a funny way of spelling "pull his head out of his ass, get over himself, deal with his insecurities and find a new relationship because he's done irreparable damage to this one."
Rightttttt....
Is there a reason why you're this offended? I could almost swear the OP is talking about you.
Not everybody play by the same rules understand this shit and deal with it.
>Not everybody play by the same rules understand this shit and deal with it.
That's not a justification for having shitty rules that attempt to control the other person's life.
>this is supposed to be a justification for treading on your SO's right to Freedom of Association
You've flown right past unreasonable to literally unconstitutional.
Just how long do you plan to keep this up?
Because clearly you don't understand I don't give a fuck.
Retarded Hyperbole
Am I supposed to take this seriously?
I can keep this up
for as long as you can keep reddit spacing
Classic case of woman does something stupid and everyone blames the guy. Shut the hell up with that nonsense. If op was a girl you would be saying how much of a POS the boyfriend is for not respecting her comfort level and seeing another woman she didn't want him to see.
>If op was a girl you would be saying how much of a POS the boyfriend is for not respecting her comfort level and seeing another woman she didn't want him to see.
No, no I wouldn't. I'd be calling her an unreasonable cunt and if she has a problem with her SO having friends of the opposite sex then she can fuck off back to whatever incel NatSoc hugbox told her that was okay.
It's not about having friends.
Right here is the proof in the pudding I guarantee NO fucking woman would want her boyfriend hanging out with a woman that not only had a crush on him but also had history especially after she requested that he doesn't see her out of respect for their relationship. Wake up you jackass.
So you just want somebody to talk to I'm here for you if you need me.
because otherwise this is a waste of time my minds not changing.
I'm genuinely in love with you.
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