How do I win him back, now that he's eying her?

>op is beta
>guy is beta
This isn't going to work, let the alpha females have him
>Very smart, very beautiful guy
So nothing about his personality? He's just good looking? That's very shallow.

>So nothing about his personality? He's just good looking? That's very shallow
OP is a woman

I was told in a previous thread this is a bad idea, because it will without a doubt come off as desperate female behavior.

He's very kind to me. Very warm.

Ask him out so he gets the idea in his head.

you snooze you loose

Beat the shit out of her with a baseball bat, and threaten to castrate him with a pair of pliers of he ever looks at her again.

That's exactly my problem. I missed my opportunity. I need to tell my crush ASAP, because it's now or never.

I was supposed to text him yesterday but couldn't. I was told don't tell him you want to go out over text. But, he was at work so I couldn't exactly call him, plus I'd rather just engage in small talk and then lead up to asking.

At this point he probably doesn't like you, he moved on, who knows if he ever liked you at all

Stop listening to faggots on here and just ask him out

Should I just ask him, or should I ask him during a text conversation and lead up to it? If I ask him out immediately he might find that odd, no?

>Stop listening to faggots on here and just ask him out
>should i just ask him
Are you stupid. It's better to find out asap so you can stop obsessing if he doesn't like you.

It comes off as too sudden if I just send him a text saying: "Would you like to go out some day?".

>"Would you like to go out some day?"
He will assume you mean as friends

I can't just confess my feelings to him immediately in one text.

You text him right now, tell him you want to go out. Once youre out, have fun then tell him you love him. If you dont do it I swear on my mother I will find you and shave your head you pussy piece of shit.

DO IT NOW

Find her and shave her pussy.

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ASK HIM OUT.

Again, I can't just randomly send him a text asking him if he wants to go out (let's just say, it will take a bit of effort for him to meet me in person, i.e. he has to drive for a few hours). I want to lead him into it? Good enough?

Tf is this. If you don't live together you have to tell him in discord/text, that would be incredibly awkward to have to drive 6 hrs round trip to deal with another person's beta personality, especially if he doesn't like you that way.

Guys online are VERY open about whether they like you, so if he really did I assume he would have told you by now. Your chances are getting worse as you continue giving out details. Stop asking for advice if you aren't going to take it.

He's a very shy and introverted guy (so am I).

Honest question for the people responding to OP: how many of you *would* take a girl back as a lover if she asked you out and told you her feelings during the date?

You can start by talkin to em

Spend time with him as much as you can, without beeing creepy. If you can text everyday, or try to talk everyday just for a little bit, he might start eyeing you. Just believe in yourself user, *less than three*

That's what I was thinking, casually talking to him every day so he knows I'm here.

How do I take it to the next level though? I need to do so ASAP or else he will be gone with her for good.

Him knowing you're there won't stop him from going for the other girl. He already knows you're there.
Talk to him but as soon as possible let him know that you have feelings and hope that he reciprocates. Whether that's by going on a date or by telling him it'd up to you but you need to move asap. You've been posting this for what, 3 days now? Everybody has already told you to make contact and be clear that you want to be more than friends. You've already wasted enough time.
If I were in your position, I'd organise to hang one on one, doesn't matter what doing or even if it is a date. Then I'd tell him that I regret not going for anything more when I had the chance and that the thought of missing that opportunity again sucked and then see what he has to say.
None of us can tell you exactly what you need to say, we don't know the guy, but you need to do something right now. It doesn't matter if he's at work or whatever, text him at the very least to ask how his day's going or some shit. Anything is better than what you are currently doing

Drop hints, ask how his day's been, say goodmorning/goodnight, and say his name after it. ex: "goodnight, user" "goodmorning, user!"
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Maybe find out what he likes.
Mum gf, innocent gf, etc.
Try appealing to his fetishes and his interests , it'll make it easier for him to talk to you and you'll have topics so the conversation wont get boring.
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I can try giving some tips daily, for specific situations. If you want my discord or insta id be happy to pm you.

A few weeks ago when we were talking together I told him I appreciated him and I enjoyed our talks together. I don't get how he couldn't pick up a hint after that.

Most of what we discuss are shared interests.

walk up to him and ask him out

>I told him I appreciated him and I enjoyed our talks together
wow that makes me so horny, how did he not understand, it was so obvious your pussy is soaking!

Well it's a step from "hey how are you" to "I love you".

It sounds like something an acquaintance would say

>If I were in your position, I'd organise to hang one on one, doesn't matter what doing or even if it is a date. Then I'd tell him that I regret not going for anything more when I had the chance and that the thought of missing that opportunity again sucked and then see what he has to say.
I'll keep this in mind. I keep getting contradictory responses, i.e. some are telling me don't text him, others are telling me texting is fine; some are telling me to tell him everything right away, others are saying confessing something that sudden will scare him.

So what is the next step between "I appreciate you/you're very smart" and "I love you, be my bf"?

Holy fucking shit woman are absolute retards when I come to this, no wonder you guys always take a back seat and wait for us to do something. Listen since this guy is too much of a wuss to ask you out YOU have to do it, but I'm pretty sure that you treated him as a friend the whole time you two interacted and now are only wanting to be with him because another woman wants his dick, "pretty typical" what you have to do is call him not text then tell him point blank "I like you, not as a friend but romantically, I would love to go out with you, you're so cute *insert smilly face emoji* that's all you have to do faggot now go do it.

And you're SURE being this sudden won't scare him away?

Op I tried to help but you are too stupid, see

Let me put it this way. If you don't take the risk you miss out, if you do, you might get what you want. So what's it going to be big guy?

All right. Next time we talk (which should be in a few days) I will finally tell him. For reals.

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There's a massive difference between confessing your love and how you can't live without him and telling him you're interested and want to go on a date.

Either way, keep us updated

Would something like: "I'm very attracted to you" fit the latter?

I can be your bf for the meantime if you're a girl, what do you hink?

No thanks. I love him and only him.

I can pretend to be him ;--;

Faggot

Spoke to another friend about my situation. They said tell him how I feel as soon as possible.

OP here. My crush's work schedule is incredibly busy so I'm going to have to wait a day or two before I talk to him. Fuck.

>women throwing themselves at men
>bad idea

pick one

He's a pretty shy guy. Lunging myself at him, especially now that he's looking at someone else, will scare the shit out of him.

OP give up.
I'm gonna tell you from experience that the more you wait for the "right moment" their time hoping for you to do something has run out.

I do this with all women whether I flirt with them, express interest, or actually in a relationship with. The most powerful example I can give you was when me and my ex(fiancé) fought for the last time I decided that she didn't take the initiative to fix our relationship after she decided to piss it away on vacation I was leaving her and leaving her there. She didn't do a thing.

I left her.

She sobbed to my mom over the phone how I disappeared, that I was gone, that she tried to report me missing to the police so they could find me even though I left her a message saying we were done and where I was going. She didn't try to call me even after and maybe because I loved her so much I would've heard her out. But she didn't.

If you don't want to be like my ex OP you find a way to get his attention right this moment and tell him you want to give yourself to him (which will give him the most massive hard on if he isn't a faggot) you will have him.

Shouldn't have cheated.

All right. I'll send him a casual text tonight. If he responds, I'll tell him.

>shouldn't have been shy
FTFY

What are his initials?

Yeah, my bad, didn't even read it all and just shitposted with my assumption beacause of OP's weird wording.

T.E.K

Ask yourself WHY he's choosing her instead of you. What did YOU do wrong which would turn him away? Maybe you didn't show any interest in him which is why he's going for someone else. Maybe he thought you were faulty. YOU have to reevaluate yourself before you do anything or else you'll be right back where you started.

It's my social anxiety that kills me. Like: pointed out, my biggest issue is I always feel as if the "right time" never comes, and when my crush and I are together (as friends of course) we always get caught up in something and I lose all track of my plans.