ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

> "girls are drama" girls

Elaborate? I know the type, but why do girls do that?

Because they think they're special or something? I wouldn't know, I love my female friends.

Girls, why do you ghost people on dating apps after you respond to them in the first place and ask questions etc. And in this case it wasn't because I took to long to ask her out or anything.

Because it is easier than to say "look user, I don't really want to continue this conversation for this and this reason" because then you'd start to argue and try to keep it going anyways.

Ghosting is an asshole thing to do, but I can understand the behaviour a little

What said. Girls on dating sites are mostly just doing it out of boredom. Unless you're constantly making jokes and keeping their attention, or they were already ready to fuck you because you're hot, then your odds of getting with them are pretty low, and you need to work for it.

Basically, male approval. They're boring as shit/unattractive and so they hope to get male attention by brown-nosing them.

Just ask her what happened and be honest and not drunk this time.

Do girls like guys who constantly look pissed, like just furious but its his resting face. He also doesnt talk to anyone, gives 1-4 word answers.
Asking for a friend.

>Asking for a friend.
You mean you right?

Short answer: no

Long answer: It's autistic as fuck. It's the "oooo so mysterious" bullshit and people won't bother wanting to talk to you because they'll just think you're creepy.

Sounds boring

Nice. No its not me its the cunt Im worried about

No. If you want someone to care, you need to be at least slightly social.

Femanons please tell me: is the physical contact thing a meme? Like is it really that casual, like arm around her, touching, whatever? A girl has shown interest in me but I think she's waiting me for me to make a move. What the fuck do I do when I'm alone with her?

>cunt im worrried about
Interesting phrasing. Why are you worried about him?

>What the fuck do I do when I'm alone with her?
Kiss her

Clearly it doesn't go from sitting on her bed smoking weed to kissing so what's the gap here? And how would I even know she's comfortable with that? I have to work with this person too. I probably also sound really autistic rn.

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Thank you, user, i think you should listen to it if you are able to handle the pain.

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Light physical contact. Look at her lips. Kiss her.

Guys,
When I finish on my girlfriends face it's hard for me to aim and I get it in her mouth, hair, and bed. It's such a mess that she doesn't want to do it often. How can I control where it shoots better?

This isn't rape in 2018? Even if you're not actually dating or seeing each other? It's not weird? Like 2 single friends will just kiss sometimes?

Press it against the spot you want to hit

Hey so, it's not all bad. Many people will be put off, but in some ways it can work. It can (emphasis on can) give off stoic/ mysterious vibes.

But the other anons are right, like , if you start talking to them/ getting close, the dude has to open up more.

Dude, i will say to you what i do when i don't know what to do but you should know that i'm the kind of guy who are always making people laugh. I'm also always making people uncomfortable with my sincerity, not in a mean way, it's just that people are always afraid to say what they feel and i hate to lose time.

Just be sincere and say, after making her laugh somehow and putting your hands somewhere near her hair/arms, "I'm the only one who want's to kiss you? Like... Do want to kiss me?" Force a little laugh, look into her eyes. Just like that, i'v been doing this since always and it worked well.

>girl hugs every guy in group except for me
>moments later goes in front of me and slaps the side of her ass

What does it mean?

Twitter isn't real life

Don't do this.

Ah, so simple. Thanks

I realize this but didn't realize physical contact like kissing was casual in that way...

>girl hugs every guy in group except for me
happens to me a lot too.
Guess they can sense I am single.
>moments later goes in front of me and slaps the side of her ass
Never happened to me. Maybe she wants you to pursue her.

It's not 'casual'. You should act like it is though.

What does this mean

if it sounds retarded, it probably is. who the fuck just kisses someone out of nowhere

Be confident you dolt

I bet you're the retard who told him to force a laugh in her face

It was not, that retardad was me. Do you know what a forced laugh looks like, right? It's more like a smile.

Stop embarrassing yourself

He's anonymous.

>she says she's not interested twice
>I'm getting mixed signals here

Dude

What would being single have to do with giving someone a hug?

I think his confusion comes from her randomly crying about it and calling him over just to tell him it again for no reason

A hug won't be misconstrued by someone in a relationship but can be misconstrued by someone that's single and wants to get his dick wet

Grill here. If she does seem interested in you, a good idea is when you're on her bed to put your arm around her or something. If she looks happy, like blushing and smiling, smile back and lean closer. If she doesn't lean away, or better yet, leans in as well, kiss her

I mean that's how some guys did it with me. There's ultimately nothing wrong with just straight out asking to kiss, but this is a bit more exciting what I mentioned earlier

A girl keeps asking me why I’m so short in a playful way, and when someone asked if we were dating, she said no and that I’m too short. Is she attracted to me but height is a deal breaker?

even if she's attracted to you she's a being a Dick. When I was in Kindergarten, I taunted a boy because he was so small, I called him an ant. Honestly, I think I just wanted his attention back then.

Short guys can be just as attractive as tall guys, I know plenty of them. Don't let her stupid comments put you down and tell her to fuck off next time she does it

I'm a total manlet. Happy in my relationship and haven't really been single for a long time. Be confident about it and joke back at her. If she gets too dickish about it no need to look twice. Women can be super insecure about anything if you're insecure about it too. If you're confident, it's like a magnet and somehow being short/fat/whatever becomes a good trait.

Thanks, I’ll keep an eye open for other girls then.

I have a woman coming round to my house tonight for a 3rd date; dinner and a movie.

I am currently a shaking, nervous wreck at work. Never done this before.

Ladies: Give me background music suggestions, movie suggestions, and advice on how to calm the fuck down.

Tbh I wouldn’t care but it’s annoying it’s a deal breaker for her. I’m not going to say anything though.

Yeah, and? She's weird but there is absolutely no reason to assume a girl who's said she wasn't interested twice is in fact interested.

I never said there was. Stop being such a fucking retard.

That sounds more like she's playfully teasing you. She's probably somewhat interested in you, otherwise she prolly wouldn't do that.

Also she might be shit testing you. Girls do that, it's like, she's making fun of you for being short just so she can analyze your reaction and determine if you'd make a good bf. If you overreact and display blatant signs of insecurity about your height, then you're no good. If you keep your shit together and look totally indifferent to her saying that, then you passed the test.

What was the purpose of your post then?

Guys, if a girl isn't attractive would you be her platonic friend?

You're fucking braindead.

That's a real red flag though and on grounds of her might "testing" him and his reaction he should not try to get together with her. How fucked up would it be if he teased her for bmaybe being overweight with the same intentions or anything the like?

Nah dude, he should tell her to fuck off or stop teasing him with a well known insecurity of many men.

I laugh it off and give a reason for my height. Idk, is that being insecure?

Just reply with something easy like "you know you love it" and carry on as if she didn't say anything.

>That's a real red flag though

Oh yeah I actually agree. I would definitely not go for a girl who puts up this kind of bs. I was just trying to give a clue to user of why she might be doing it.

no problem, but he seems a little bit unsure whether or not he should pursue her. I'd just say even if she does it because she's attracted to him it's not a good idea to go after her on those grounds.

Definitely.

Sounds ok. Just act like it doesn't affect you.

Yes. In fact I could only be platonic friends with a girl if she wasn't attractive.

Posted in the last thread but got no help. Grills:

How do I tell the difference between flirting for fun and girls who are actually interested?

>I've been told I come across pretty flirty
>not chad but above average
>most girls will flirt back
>can't tell when they're just flirting because they think I am and when they actually mean it

yes

You ask them out. If they say no, they're doing it for fun, if they say yes, they're interested.

You don't, this is like asking "how do I know if someone smiles at me because they like me or because they think I'm attractive". In rare cases will it be obvious but most of the time it's just the same thing and it's everything surrounding it that gives it away.

Look for patterns of behavior. Does she flirt more with you than with other guys? Does she seek out your company, value your opinion, act protective of you etc regardless of flirty attention? How well do your conversations flow?

Knowing whether or not someone likes you is a matter of intuition particularly because not everyone displays it in the same manner (and many people are actually kind of stunted with showing attraction and try to hide it instead). You only acquire that "intuition"/gut feeling with experience.

Hard to say what's going through her head but I'd say she's either obliviously mean or she digs it (you, and your height specifically).

Girls

How are you suppose to break up with someone you are in love with? My gf and I both love each other a lot and we’ve had a very good relationship. But, there is 1 issue regarding compatibility that will affect a longer future. My girlfriend loves me so much and told me to think about the issue and maybe i’d change my mind. Well, I don’t think my mind will change. I doubt it will. So I don’t know what to do now. I love her a lot and I don’t want to hurt her. I’ve never been through a breakup before, I don’t know how this works

I get what you're saying and I think maybe it's like I don't trust my instinct because I'd rather tell myself I was imaging it than be wrong.

>meet a girl when she posted she had a spare ticket for something
>end up spending 8 hours drinking and talking
>meet up again and grab drinks/meal; talk for about 6 hours
>next meeting go to a cinema, seems cold and distant and leaves early
>invite her to a group outing with friends
>"sorry, it's my week off, next time"

Come to the conclusion that she only meets me after work when she's in the city, we also don't text at all during the week and she only replies to set things up. Also takes her about 1/2 days to respond. She has a busy job and a 1 hour commute, but that's all I know.

She is not interested, even in being friend; right?

I didn't know background music was a thing (other than for sex), but if you want to play it safe just put on something bland and hipster and sweet. Like M. Ward or Alan Isakov Gregory.

I would definitely discuss what movie to watch and go with preferences of hers. If she likes horror It Follows was nice and spooky and Get Out got great reviews (didn't love it myself, but entertaining enough, not that scary). The Big Sick got great reviews and is soon as a fresh romantic comedy, Hello, My Name is Doris is a light comedy that's pretty cute. I don't really watch a lot of thrillers or action and I wouldn't recommend arthouse to set the mood, but if you want to try it anyway, are up for a long movie and are comfortable with drawn out explicit sex scenes, Blue is the Warmest Color is really emotionally intense and atmospheric.

^^ This is actually good advice. I've never heard someone describe it that way before.

What's the issue?

Forgot about the calming down part. Pump yourself up beforehand with your favorite music and try to enjoy the night for what it is. If you are too focused on whether or not it's a "success" you could well miss that it's just incredibly exciting to have a date with someone you like without knowing how it ends. Chances are one day you're married and have a steady job, maybe kids, and the kind of freedom and chance you are going to experience now will be a thing of the past. Try to enjoy that, that tension of every option being open and indeed not knowing if it will go well.

All you can do is be on your best behavior and try to have a good time and show her a good time. If that's not enough for her then you weren't a good fit, it's that simple. If a girl is into you it doesn't matter much what movie you picked or whether you said the smoothest possible things at given times. If that's the make or break factor then she wasn't enthusiastic to begin with. Good luck man. Enjoy.

Also just realized that spy movie with Charlize Theron could be a good option if she wants action. Atomic Blonde.

She wants a child in the future. I don’t

This is a common issue and only understandable because there's a lot at stake. It's easier said than done but it's a lot more doable to gauge her interest when you don't overanalyze little incidents and instead allow yourself to notice what catches your attention because it just stands out. You lose perspective if you lose yourself in all the little parts and start to view your interaction in a different way than you usually do. If you interact with a friend you could also go "he suggested having lunch together today, but when I later asked him how his weekend went he was kind of short, and he didn't invite me to the party he mentioned later - so apparently he doesn't like me that much". But with friends it's a non-issue because you're more relaxed and when you keep a healthy perspective you are able to tell whether or not someone likes you even if not every single little action shows it.

>not wanting a child

faggot

You didn't call me a faggot once I don't think this board is your true home user.

But yes I take your point. Honestly reading your first reply I realise that I brought up my original question because I met and talked with a girl for all of 10 minutes and I was feeling it hard, and because of hangups of my own that's pretty rare, and I am trying to justify the fact that I didn't ask her out by pretending I can't tell the difference.

Am I better off giving a girl my number than asking for hers?

>pros
>no pressure on her if she doesn't like me

>cons
>expecting a woman to text me first

Also is it too weird to use a business card to give my number out? I always have a few cards but rarely have a paper and pen to do it the old fashioned way instead.

How do I stop feeling like every girl I ever start dating is THE ONE and that she's sooo like me? I do this everytime. I want to just be able to go search for a girl and not be hurt every two days if the last one didn't text back.

That’s rude

I guess I'm an intruder, happily so though.

Yeah if it's such a short window there's really no way around having to take a chance (or not) and hope it works out. At most you can layer it by throwing out hints, e.g. if she's being sassy and acting like she could teach you, say something like "yeah I see that and it's only been ten minutes, imagine what you could do in an hour", she'll either laugh it off or eagerly run with that. But it's always a risk.

Try to enjoy that you hit it off and see it as a promising sign for the future, rather than focusing on what you should've done, it's a waste of energy. Simply improvising with chatting/flirting with strangers or acquaintances is very valuable practice because it's a skill like all others and one day you'll meet someone you REALLY want to impress and then you don't want to start from scratch. Cheers user.

Whenever I hang out with my best friend, his gf is around, from what he tells me they fight a lot, when I'm not around of course, when I am, everything seems fine.

Anyways, her and I have a very similar personality and get along really well. Recently she started getting into my interests more, she likes when I play guitar and wants me to send her music I listen to even though I assumed she's not into it because when they play their music its on a completely different spectrum. Once we all went to a donut shop and we got a different one each, then she changed her one to the one I have for some reason. I mentioned that I like art and started painting and soon after she's been telling me she is also starting to paint. At times, when she's angry with her bf, she'd ignore him and give me a hug instead. She would sometimes tell me I'm a good person to have around and stuff like that, that I'm easy going and such.

I may exaggerate it thinking she might be into me, but I'd rather be safe than sorry. I like her too and if she was single then sure, but I don't want to come in between her and my friend and ruin their relationship.

I guess I'm asking if those things mean anything? is she starting to be into me? I'd rather know now so I could figure something out not to come off too "inviting" or whatever, I value my friendship with him a lot since I've known him for the longest time out of all people so I don't want to ruin that

It's generally advisable to ask for hers, just because a girl isn't immediately taken with you doesn't mean there's no long term potential. Especially if you're a good texter it's better to keep more control and be able to continue to pursue her.

I'd mostly give yours if you can tell she's uncomfortable with being put on the spot and asked out (she might just take the out, but if she's a sensible girl she'll appreciate that you took the pressure off and might feel differently once settled down later), or if you'd naturally put her on the spot e.g. because she's your server and supposed to charm you and give you what you want.

I think it depends on your business. If cards are common and understandable (e.g. because you have your own company), do it, it'll make an impression. If it's a profession most people don't have business cards for (that they hand out), don't bother.

Realizing this is something you are inclined to do is the first step. The second step is finding a way around this, e.g. warn friends and family upfront that your rose tinged glasses are strong and you want them to point out red flags to you (if you know you can handle it graciously and not resent them for it, only). The ultimate long term solution is developing more (mental/emotional) independence and more self respect so you aren't looking for an external future (in the form of another person) to swoop in and change your life for the better. This will make you less hasty to convince yourself you've found it.

Thanks for the insight.

It's impossible to say, she could be honestly into you she could be (consciously or subconsciously) signaling to him to step it up by trying to make him jealous, she might use the fantasy of being with you to balance out her real relationship without actually wanting to be with you, she might look at you more as a shoulder to cry on/emotional support and not a prospective partner.

You are starting to fall in love with her and are looking for signs. Some stuff you say is legitimate but if her changing her donut to yours makes that big an impression, it's not because she thought your donut seemed the better choice but because you want her to like you.

Treat her cordially but distantly. Make sure you spend one on one time with your friend, explicitly tell him you don't always want his girl around because it's a different dynamic and you also enjoy the one with just the two of you. Don't respond quickly or elaborately to whatever she sends you privately. If she wants to hug you when she's upset with your friend tell her laughingly you want no part in their relationship politics and you'll stay impartial, thank you very much. Exaggerate it a little so she can also laugh it off, the point will be clear.

You're welcome, it's a long term thing but just remember many people spend A LOT of time denying these kind of mechanisms before they can even start attempting to work on it. Good luck user.

Women, what do you think of trans women? Are they just men invading your gender space?

>Are they just men invading your gender space?
Mainly this. They are mentally ill individuals, usually crazier than normal girls.