ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

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Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
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If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

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What should I think if a girl seems to mention me to her sister?

So apparently this girl has mentioned me to her older sister. (I ran into the sister and her boyfriend last night. I went to HS with both (but only knew the older sister in passing). She basically told me the "[Name] says hi", when I mentioned that I actually work with her younger sister)
Also, she'll make small jokes about what I'm doing, or what she's doing. And I have caught her looking towards me a few times. But then other days she'll be shy and quiet with a slight smile on her face...

Male here. Is it attractive if I have a clean room and I'm super straight edge discipline-like?

Not to me. I'd worry you're one of those types to get mad at people who occasionally eat pastries without a platter. It's good that you're an abstinent, though.

Ask her out

Should I get more tan?
Why are very old women attracted to me?

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Depends. CM Punk is straight edge. Are you like him?

I paid for this girl on our first date. She expressed interest in hanging out again. I waited around to see if she would suggest plans herself, but she didn't, so I just asked her out again. Would it be unreasonable for me to expect her to pay her way, even if I initiated the plans?

I'm a subhuman but I'm hoping to become super good to compensate

It’s unreasonable to “expect.” If you invite her out she’ll probably assume it’s your treat. If you make a big deal about her paying for shit, then she’ll think you’re petty. You should always be able to treat a woman to a night out, if not, you’re too poor

Probably not a bad idea.

I just havent spoken to her too much really, so IDK why she felt the need to mention me to the sister. (Though she knows that I was childhood friends with the sisters BF)

Like someone else said, I wouldn't "expect" it, but if she offers you know you found a winner.

Is it normal for women to want to make porn of themselves? Not just nudes, full-blown videos of us having sex. I'm not necessarily against the idea it's just odd to me that she would be the one that requested it.

She's going on a trip for job training at the end of the month for 4 days and I suspect they're to keep her and I company during that time.

Now that my fatass is getting matches on Tinder what the fuck do I actually say?

It means she's close to her sister and talks to her about stuff.
>Is it attractive if I have a clean room
Clean room is nice, it implies you would keep a clean home if we got together.
>super straight edge discipline-like
If you are a dom that would be very attractive
No, your skin looks fine the way it is. Use sunblock on your face to prevent wrinkles.
>Would it be unreasonable for me to expect her to pay her way, even if I initiated the plans?
It would if you didn't mention it in text, if you talk about it before and she agrees it should be fine, it would be an asshole move to wait until the check comes
>Is it normal for women to want to make porn of themselves?
Some people are into it, it would be strange if she wanted to post it on the internet imo
Something witty, icebreakers are good

I am not a tough boi
it's too late for me to be physically strong like that anyway
I just want to overcome all my bad habits

What’s with the whole friendzone thing, and why does every guy I try to be friends with act weird
Why can’t girls and guys be friends, i’m so tired of everything being sex related.
Life story
>talking to a guy
>going well, no undertones, just talking about things in life
>”so do you have a boyfriend”
>yes
>35% of the time “you led me on”
>35% of the time crazy nice guy response or cut off all together
>30% of the time “oh that’s cool” and continues conversation and have a good time

I do have guy friends and I've talked about it with them, I know the main points are every guy will think of you naked wether that'll go somewhere or not, you're pretty, or just guys dont want to be friends with girls because it’s seen as unmanly
I really enjoy talking with guys when they dont know im a girl because they're very rational and easy to talk to, but once they know I'm a girl it’s all irrational
Plz y.

>It means she's close to her sister and talks to her about stuff.

True, but why mention me in particular?

I'd love to video me and a guy I worked with going at it. Gonna go touch myself to that now.

I work with a cutie grill, and normally her shift ends an hour or two before mine. Today she was working late and it ended up about two hours past her home time and half an hour past mine. I said I was ready to leave and asked if she needed anything from me. She said "user, you're not leaving me, are you?" and I said I could stay if she wanted. She said this was just a joke. I stayed anyway for half an hour till she was done. She never asked me why I was staying, and we left together. Now, I'm sure she knows I didn't happen to finish up at exactly the same time as her. Do you think she really wanted me to stay and was telling the truth through a joke? We didn't do much work desu, we talked about everything from our problems to God and laughed a lot. I genuinely had a good time.

Men are programmed to seek out sex. Some dudes are very short-sighted with it, and won’t seek out friendly relationships that don’t allow sex.
I spent nearly all of my school life making friends with girls, it honestly got me laid more than anything else. Emotional connection beats out physical attraction for a lot of women.

Reading into it too much, I’m sure she appreciated the company though.

>Why can’t girls and guys be friends
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Don't play dumb. Women know fine rightly what's going on.

>Something witty, icebreakers are good
Try
Ayy girl are you my appendix?
Because I don't know what you do, but this feeling in my stomach makes me want to take you out.

>Why can’t girls and guys be friends
Well they can be friends, you said yourself that 30% are willing to be your friend. Idk, I feel like if they don't want to be your friend after your "rejection" then that's okay, you can't force people to do things they don't want to do.
>why mention me in particular?
Well she may like you, I don't know her personally so I can't give a definite answer either way. My sister always tells me about people she's working with, that's just my experience tho
That's a nice gesture
haha that's a good one

Aye, thought so. tbf she's the reason I come early to work and I think she knows that. She stays late to talk to me too sometimes.

>Well she may like you, I don't know her personally so I can't give a definite answer either way. My sister always tells me about people she's working with, that's just my experience tho

True. Could be liking me, could just be just telling her sis about random people she works with. She did know that I knew her older sister (and the BF) from highschool. Soooo yea.


But why the older sis saying "[Blank] says hi"

Im a dude. A girl at my work goes out of her way to chat with me every day. I figured she was just friendly. I overheard a couple other coworkers talking about how she used to exclusively date other girls, but now she’s been married to a dude for a few years. Kind of unrelated to my story. Okay, none of my business.
A few days ago she asked if I wanted to get lunch, I agreed. On the way back she was telling me about how her and her husband have completely opposite schedules and she never sees anyone. Then she says we should hang out sometime.
Ever since then, she’s been lingering like a motherfucker when I’m around.
I always make a point to move on and go back to what I was doing when the conversation ends, but it always takes her fuckin forever to leave me alone. Like I have to walk off most of the time. Is she just wasting time or is she trying to get me to talk to her more? Either way it’s getting progressively more awkward

That’s fine bro, it seems amicable for both of you, just keep after it if you’re interested in her. At my last job I had a friend there that I was excited to see every time I went in. We never hung out outside of work but we both talked a lot about how it was more bearable working together

She is having an emotional affair with you.

Girls, if you're flighty and a bit insecure, what's more likely to get you to hang out:
>me asking you to grab coffee while I'm in your town
>me asking you if you're free the day before I'm in your town

She's breddy much my best friend anyway. Like a work wife.

Man making friends with man
>man 1 meets man 2
>each man scans the other man for "is this guy interesting or cool"
>99.999% of the time, he is only interesting/cool enough to be basic acquaintances with
>very rarely both men both implicitly broadcast "nigga you're pretty fucking cool, let's be actual real friends" to each other
>neither man has anything to gain or to offer, other than friendship, so the friendship is guaranteed genuine if both parties decide to turn their keys and say "yes, sounds good"
>likely outcome A: friendship not established
>rare but possible outcome B: friendship established, guaranteed genuine

Man and woman making friends
>man meets woman
>woman evaluates man roughly similarly to how man evaluates man in the above scenario
>man evaluates woman FIRST AND FOREMOST AS A WOMAN
>man's unconscious brain: "a woman is always nice; women are 'rarer' than men, because men are a dime a dozen but getting a woman to be your friend is a little bit of an accomplishment because women are generally discerning and don't like being friends with gross men, therefore if i get her to be my friend i'm not gross; having a female friend is therefore a mild dopamine trip because it's a tiny achievement and status boost; women are sweeter and nicer to be around in general; women are soft and pleasant and make me feel good and remind me of sex and maternal cooing; if this woman just decided on a whim to let me touch or kiss or smell any part of her, it would pretty much make my day - that's how nice women are by default"
>man's semi-conscious brain: "i could possibly fuck her!"
>man's conscious brain: "no! i'm capable of being just friends with a woman. we're just friends! just friends, i swear! i promise! to myself, and to her!"
>man's conscious brain, finally, after ALL THE PRECEDING has already been done in a microsecond: *begins evaluating whether this woman actually has any personality/interesting traits*

That's why. (continued)

Men generally aren't interested in women AS PEOPLE. This is because men are generally not interested in people - as evidenced by the "man making friends with a man" scenario, where only VERY rarely do men actually say "nigga wow you are actually pretty cool."

It's a little bit like everyone is going around grading each other, constantly. Men are very very harsh graders of other men, and only the highest grades are even worthy of consideration. A "passing," average grade, let's say a C, doesn't mean fuckall: it means you are inoffensive, but not even worth remembering aside from that. Maybe worth a nod in a hallway. A B-grade means you are above average, but there is no "click" aside from that. Even when men grade each other A-'s or A's, which is very very rare, it basically means nothing unless they are forced to spend time with each other, and then MAYBE they will become friends as a result of that forced contact. On top of all this, men usually already have several A+ friends that they have had for years. A man doesn't really need to be on the prowl for new friends; men don't enjoy ephemeral socializing, nor do they enjoy having many C's, B's, or even A-'s in their repertoire, because their lifelong A+ BFF is already waiting at home to play video games with them any time.

What does all this mean? Well, women already have a much harder time getting graded highly by men, because men and women have different interests. Women also don't have very deep hobbies, at least not in the autistic way men do. Yet somehow, men jump at the opportunity to have a female friend... Gee, I wonder why.

Hint: It's because they're women. To men, a woman is a woman, first and foremost. It's VERY difficult to get a man to see you as a person, asexually. If men all became asexual overinght, women would be fucking astounded at how invisible they suddenly felt - men would treat women like other men, i.e., as virtually nonexistent unless they get a 1/10000 grade of A+.

I am a little abrasive, do I call her out or let it slide? How do I be nice about it?

Also, keep in mind that the entire society is motivated to deny this, the whole culture is built around pretending it isn't the case. Men don't want to admit they're pathetic horndogs, and women don't want to think they only have male attention because they happen to have a female body.

But it's true in most cases. Men are going into friendships with you mainly with the ulterior motive, and the guaranteed "You Are Interesting, You Have An Interesting Personality" card that you get just for existing-while-female, and THEN they are evaluating you based on your personality.

Now, if you actually had the kind of personality they enjoy in a male friend (nearly impossibly unlikely), they would maybe come to value you as a real person - but the thing is, then they'd fall in love with you anyway.

So for the most part, you can choose between male friends seeing you as a walking vagina who is cool because vagina regardless of whether they'd find you cool if you were the same person but male, OR you male friends who actually find you cool but fall in love with you; and in both cases, most guys will probably fall in love with you eventually anyway, because nice sweet friendly women are like morphine to men. Female affection and intimacy are rare and confusing, as a male, and we are perpetually addicted to them.

Rare exceptions always exist. Your best bet is in men who are too alpha, or who are taken by another girl they are genuinely loyal to (and ideally who is much hotter/cooler than you). Then you will possibly become sexually inert, and they can actually see you as a person. But then they are unlikely to want to be close bros with you anyway desu. Women are not very interesting to men, as a general rule, as I said.

Let it slide until she tries to make it physical, maybe. Do you enjoy her company? Or her attention? Basically she's getting from you which she isn't from her husband.

Hey,

I asked a guy out for the weekend on Sunday(in text granted, because I have no chance to see him in person) and he immediately said yes, and said we'll talk about it, like when and where to meet.

He still hasn't messaged me and I'm kinda worried he doesn't really want to go out. I'm not big on messaging and neither is he, but when we do text he has always been the initiator and he expressed interest in us meeting but never outright set any plans hence why I ended up asking him out.

What do you think guys? Am I just overthinking and should wait more or does it seem like he's not that interested?

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She is trying to bond with you because who knows. And maybe wants your penis. Is it awkward because you're stupid and can't tell, or awkward because you don't want your penis in/on/around her?
Just fucking ask her what's going on.

Please explain "emotional affair"

What is it and what does it feel like for the woman

He may be different from me but I will tell you that every time I've had a nice thing like this with a girl like you, I've overthought the FUCK out of it and assumed the girl was impatiently tapping her foot and waiting to judge me for being too thirsty.

Unless he's some alpha supergod, I would err on the side of assuming he's just as afraid of being the thirsty one as you are, if not much more so.

I already wrote the archaeologist line on my bio. It apparently worked this far. I guess I could try that. I think these are the only matches I'll probably get, especially considering one of them just seems to be a girl I knew from high school reconnecting, and the conversation already went dead, due to my own ineptitude.

Is pale skin on a man generally seen as ugly?

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I don’t mind her company and she’s pleasant to be around. She is incredibly attractive and smart. I’ve met her husband before though and he seems to be a great guy, he’s definitely a catch by most women’s standards.
Well I’m married too and my penis is committed to my wife. It’s awkward I think because she’s a little awkward. She occasionally blurts out autistic shit but she’s attractive enough that I think most people find it endearing.
Curious about this, if she’s doing this to get at me or use me as a tool to make her husband jealous or some shit, I want no part of it. I don’t want to be the center of any rumors either, the last thing I need is uneccesary drama. I might ask her in a few minutes if there’s anything she needs to tell me, and why she’s been different lately

Enjoy her company, but draw the line. Unless you want a wet dick.

At the risk of acting like a retard: to that lifter femanon last thread
L O S A N G E L E S

Otherwise, what's a good way to eat enough when trying to bulk up? My skinny ass finds it hard to force myself to eat more for gains.

Update: she said she’s been waiting for me to tell her when we’re hanging out. I told her let’s do Saturday if our spouses are free and she said hers isn’t, “so it might just be her if that’s ok”
So it looks like I have a 3rd wheel for dinner this weekend. This is just weird. Is she like starved for attention?

I hope it's that... I'm just afraid that he said yes in the moment and now he has regrets and will let me down soon lol. Well I mean it would only be a rejection, but still.

He's quite good-looking to me, but he doesn't seem very confident, each time we met he would only stare at me, I was the one who approached him, so maybe you're right

So I asked this girl out 5 months ago who is the sister in law of my best friend and the sister of my best friends wife. She said no but was polite about it so i thought there would just be an awkward period and then things would be like normal. She then blocked me on facebook, removed me from league of legends (a game we played together) and then left our discord (voice chat thing). I guess she needed space or some shit, I really have no idea. Ive ran this by multiple people but they have no clue either.

Now in the current time, we are in the same social sporting league. Right now it just seems like we ignore each other and just pretend the other person doesnt exist. It bothers me because it doesnt let me socialize the way I want to after the game. Like I feel like I cant be near her because i want to give her space and she might be thinking the same thing. Maybe she thinks I resent her or something?

What should I do? She hasnt talked to me since February. I think Im just gonna start things easy and say hello and stuff. And then after the game just light talking and try to get a read. I accept that she said no, its just that we literally know all the same people so its getting rather annoying having to play a social game of keep away everytime we are in the same place. Basically my main goal is to defuse the tension (that at least i feel, no idea what she thinks) and becoming friends again would be a bonus.

If you want anymore details feel free to ask.

You don't know. Maybe her partner is chronically overworked, maybe she knows he resents tagging along to her friends/coworkers, maybe she thinks he'll realize she has a crush on you if he's present.

Just inform your wife if there's anything she doesn't know yet and team up to kill her with kindness. Drive home that you're committed and happily so.

I met a girl at an event this on Tuesday and she’s very keen on me. She wanted to leave and asked if I wanted to grab a drink elsewhere. Several drinks later we get flirty and touchy feely. She gave me her number and said to call. She works from home most of the time, so idk if calling or texting is preferable for a date on Saturday.

Thoughts?

When i first start talking to a girl im all badass. lighthearted and fun

but when it gets serious or she shows interest I become such a horny, dull, boring guy...

What do?

People dislike awkwardness, chances are she'd also like for any semblance of weirdness to be gone. But I'd go in easy and just greet her. Keep at it even if she doesn't say anything back. You can talk if the opportunity naturally arises. After months of awkwardness I definitely wouldn't go out of your way trying to strike up conversation let alone be friends. If you can greet one another with friendliness you already know there's no hard feelings.

Call

call after 5pm

I would act like nothing happened and treat her how you would anyone else. It’s not your fault that her rejecting you changed the way she socializes. I can appreciate the circumstantial consideration you’re showing her given your situation, but no one can be a complete social ogre about you saying hello and going on about your normal behavior with friends. I would give fewer shits about what she thinks.

Yeah, I really don’t know her situation, other than she’s trying to do something other than work. My wife said she was a huge bitch in college. But they’ve met and talked at parties and social gatherings and they act like girls typically do, giggling around and shit. I don’t think my wife is a huge fan of her, but she’s definitely softened over the years, and she tells me she’s probably just looking for a friend at work. That’s not right because she’s way more social than me at work and yet she always ends up at my fuckin office, standing in the doorway trying talk and gossip about the most random shit. It’s 3pm and I think she’s come by here for no reason 7 times today.

toasting to find the persian grill living in the uk I want to talk to you some more desu

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How do you manage an anxious girlfriend?
She'll have seemingly random bouts of anxiety at work and home, often with no readily apparent cause. I usually ask if there's a cause and if there is one we talk and if not I try to distract her with an activity we can do together; I'll read to her, we'll draw or do some coloring books, write, etc. She seems to really appreciate all the support and I don't necessarily expect her to be cured by these mundane distractions I was just curious if I'm doing this right or if there's something more or better I could be doing to help?

>I'll read to her
Wow

yes

Nobody likes pale skin. Which is very irritating as a Scotsmen who doesn't want skin cancer.

Your wife doesn't have to be convinced in order to show up and show you're a good couple and you are not looking for attention elsewhere.

Treat her cordially but distantly at work. After she's stopped by three times it's 1000% fine to tell her it's too much and you can't focus on work, nothing personal.

>i’m so tired of everything being sex related
amen user, but as a guy, I have to admit it's harder to be friends with qt single grills than with grills who are taken
but that's just because I'm single and somewhat longing for a gf
so I think that also answers your question
*for the record I only told one of them that I liked her and that was that, it was clear she wasn't interested and we stayed friends
either way 1/3 isn't that bad desu

however, this is the bit that sounds rather bullshitty from you:
>I really enjoy talking with guys when they dont know im a girl
it feels like you're making the point that dudes shouldn't treat you differently than their dude friends just because you're a grill
but you seem to be treating guy friends differently just because they're guys
which is normal, guys and gals are different overall, but this goes both ways

and on an Jow Forumsice note, I dislike it when grills try too hard to be "one of the guys"
overall I do agree with your main point, it is horribly tiresome, but it also varies quite a bit depending on culture and setting, circumstances, etc

i am familiar with this feel

I texted my wife and told her she’s meeting us for dinner & that her husband has to work. Her response was “what a slut” lmao.
I’m glad I can talk to someone about this other than my wife because I think it’s awkward and not really something that needs to get brought up constantly with her. I might invite other friends because I think just us 3 would be a little dumb

>Nobody likes pale skin
you've never been in asia have you

This isn't that crazy; my wife and I are both avid readers and I have a good reading voice so she prefers when I read aloud.

Doing coloring books together on the other hand....

You have found your soulmate.

stop playing games, even with yourself
instead
just
message
him

I agree with not playing games but I literally asked him out, the ball is in his court now whether he really wants to go out with me or not.

I mean I suppose I could message him but I don't want to get annoying

Any girls on here like to lick their boyfriend's butts?

>the ball is in his court now
not really. it's in both courts in my opinion
> I don't want to get annoying
look, thinking this way will cuck you out of any relation, no matter what. If you're annoying he'll let you know. Two messages definitely won't make him feel this way.

dunno about them, but out of my 3 gfs, two liked it and one didn't mind

did they make you wash it first?

I've never tried it, suggested it to my ex but he was uncomfortable thinking of his ass as a sexual bodypart (even though he loved eating mine). I'd still like to try it if I come across someone who does like the idea.

Now I'm really turned on!

>why does every guy I try to be friends with act weird

Probably because you’re interacting with guys who can’t deal with being friends with girls? That or you’re overthinking things.

Personally, I’ve definitely had a number of close friendships with women through out the years. Hell, my best friend is a girl.

Can I say I’ve never thought about them naked? No, i also can’t say I’ve never through about what it would feel like to have boobs or the female orgasm.

Likewise I’ve directly had female friends ask me what it feels like to have my balls played with/show a keen fascination with how the penis works/ask if things float, etc

Curiosity over the opposite gender is pretty natural.

And just like those random times when I see a car carrier truck and wonder what it’s be to launch myself off one, or those times Im stuck in traffic and tempted to get out of my car and just walk away, just because I’m curious or I have an impulse, it doesn’t mean I *must* act on those or that it has any real influence on what I do.


>How do you manage an anxious girlfriend?
Sounds about what I do for mine. Really it’s just your presense and about being a calm and stable rock that’s there for her to buoy herself if she feels like she needs it. Any more and you’re smothering/coddling, and that’s not really what she needs.

>Am I just overthinking ?

More than likely. You already said you know hes not big on texting in the first place, and even if he’s not that interested *now*, well that’s kind of the point of dating isn’t it? To see if you have any potential and if can be built up.

And what’s the worst that happens? You Go out and waste a few hours? You’re overthinking things and probably getting ahead of yourself. The first dates always just about informally feeling things out and seeing if you can relax and hang out with one another in a one on one setting. Chill out and just try to enjoy the ride.

Missed tag:

Would you make him wash it first?

Both:

Linguistics or HR?

she wanted to have excuse to talk to you user
as in "oh, he knows my sister, that would be nice thing to touch to break the ice"

getting flirty with that girl

i want to escalate physical contact a bit
would hugging as greeting be good thing to do? Or would it be too much.
How do you feel about hugs girls, lets assume you are into guy but its pretty early

Like a tight hug and id lift her up a bit like in my animes

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So I've given my boyfriend a couple blowjobs, but he never came from any of them. He said it was fine and that it is kind of hard to make him cum, but I still felt a little bad. Then last night I gave him one and he said he got multiple orgasms, but he still didn't cum. I read that guys can do that, but they have to practice it? And he said that was the first time ever that happened to him. I don't really know what sort of advice I'm looking for, but I guess I was mostly wondering if it sounds like he was lying to make me feel better.

i also have a hard time cumming from bj, even if done more or less well, but never had an ideal bj done on me so i can't be sure
no bj is better than lazy bj, if you did that
also it's not just moving your head back and forward

Whatever he'd have preferred, I'd have tried it without washing, love does things to you. He did it to me without washing up (directly beforehand) because it was his preference and it was fine.

I think for most people this would be a condition and I take it that if I had a bad experience I might rather be safe than sorry as well. But if you want to do anal play smelling shit is a risk, period. If someone comes straight out of the shower that doesn't mean their insides are squeaky clean, either. If you can't stomach that thought or would lose long term attraction if it happened just stay away to begin with.

Blowjobs are just a bit shit for bringing men to orgasm, honestly.

they never had to. I take care of such things on my own

Why live if I will never breed
t.male

If a girl agrees to come over, sit in bed with you, and just watch movies, should I try to make a move?

What would be the best way to start? Sit closer to her? Just put an arm around her?

Sorry man, I get where you're coming from but all girls know the "let me hug you so I can touch you" hugs and it's not great. A hug as a greeting is an expression of closeness and affection. Unless a girl is explicitly a hugger and initiates, leave it for when you actually ARE close and affectionate.
The idea of escalating is also that you bring up the level gradually so you can gauge a response and see how far you can take it. Hugging a girl you usually don't touch leaves her no option to tone it down other than physically distancing herself, which is uncomfortable.

Also hi/bye hugs are generally pretty brief anyway. Even with my best male friends I've had for ten years we only do a full frontal crotch to crotch hug after an emotional moment or drinking or whatever, otherwise it's more of an upper body thing where you focus on the shoulders.

>should i try to make a move
yes

>sit closer to her
yes

>put arm around her
yes

kiss her

I cum from bjs very rarely. it mostly happensif I'm really turned on already, almost about to cum anyway

You sound like a fun girl .You and I could have a lot of fun licking each others natural asses!

desu you have to build up to a hug, you can just do it out of the blue
you can get physically close in some way or another (hand on shoulder, forearm, hair, w/e) and then after having a good time out you can go for a half hug with one arm and tuck her in
depending on how that goes (how she reacts) next time you can move forward
you do _not_ give her a lift on the first hug

basically if she hugs back properly you can move forward, if it's a touch and go short goodbye hug or anything less than that it probably ain't gonna work
you do know how to read basic body language and responses, right user?

Part of the appeal for me is that it's something you wouldn't dream about doing to just anyone, but becomes appealing when you are that crazy about someone. I get the sentiment, though, and from my sexual internet lurking female on male analingus seems to inch towards being more accepted in the mainstream conscious. So who knows what life holds in store for you user.

He's my first boyfriend and the first I've ever given a blowjob to. So he was most likely lying right? Because I seriously doubt I've gotten that good after just a few times doing it. I asked him how I could be better, but he says I'm doing good already. Any tips to be better since he doesn't seem to want to hurt my feelings or something?

I've had an orgasm without spunking before, so there's a chance he isn't lying, but he most likely is. Use your tongue more. Use your hands more. Swirl tongue around tip, look up at him with the doe eyes, stroke what's not in your mouth and give his balls a fondle to see if he's into that. This still may not end in him cumming, but don't be discouraged because bjs are just generally not great for cumming.

I don't know if she's actually awkward expressing herself or if she's simply not interested in me.

>fall in love with cute exchange student chinese girl that is both from work and uni (we work at different offices but for the same company and we have some classes together)
>start to see she has some confidence issues: she believes she's an old hag at the age of 28
>spends her whole salary on facial creams and beauty products
>I'm tall, fat and poor as fuck so lack confidence myself
>She asks me one time to go to China with her in her yearly break, even although I'm totally broke. I take that as an "interested".
>We are both stressed because finals so I ask her to go watch the Incredibles 2 together to relax for a while, she starts putting excuses that she's busy and recommends me to "go out and run" to relieve stress.
>she asks me what should she do to run away from everything once in a while. I recommend her to go spend a night under the stars in the nearby hills camping or renting a bungalow, and offer to take her there. She answers me that we should totally go together.
>she sends me an audio afterwards that she's failing her classes and that she's pretty awkward at expressing herself, so I call her at night to see how's she going. She only answers with a "don't worry, don't worry".
>Today we talk in my office (completely alone) about some uni things, like studying together and payment, and in the flow of the conversation she starts moping about how she's 28 already and some issues she has. I ask her if she plans to stay in Peru. She says "If I had a boyfriend, sure". I only answer "a boyfriend, huh?".
>She said goodbye via a fistbump, but I hit her hand so hard that she fell down to the floor. Can't tell if she's acting or not.

I'm fucking confused Jow Forums. She can't send hints and if she did I definitely didn't recieve them. The fuck should I do? She's gorgeous.

ive been escalating touches for a while now

touch on the shoulder, side hug

like one situation:

>were going somewhere
>she walks next to me
>looks at me and says "youre so big i have to look so high up"
>shes like 2 heads smaller than me, im 6'2
>grab her by waist with one arm and give sorta side hug while smiling to her
>she liked it

other time
>were wearing things like approns
>im putting mine on
>she asks jokingly "and what about mine"
>i take mine off my neck, and put it on her neck, moving her glasses little bit
>she laughs and liked it, we were close to eachother
on retrospect i should pull her even closer in and tie the appron behind her back

So its not like im going to start hugging out of nowhere

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I've had it done on me before, but the girl has always made me wash first. I want her to eat it naturally, because I enjoy eating a girl's ass naturally.