My gf has a cushy office job doing digital marketing. She works with a bunch of wealthy basedboys, she gets to work from home whenever it's convenient for her, she can call in sick whenever, her boss buys her lunch sometimes. I'd say she has it pretty good, she gets paid just to post shit on social media. But she's always whining about how stressful it is, how she can do things better than her boss but he only wants it his way, etc.
I work a labor job, I have to work 12 hours a day in the blistering heat, and freezing cold in the winter. I get ordered around every minute of the day, I argue with annoying as fuck Mexicans all day. I'm exhausted from the heat and stressed from all the shouting matches I have with them every day, but I leave that shit at work, I try not to let it bother me.
Would it be insensitive to call her out and tell her to stop whining? I try to be as compassionate as I can, but one of my biggest pet peeves is people complaining when they have it easy.
Welcome to being with a woman in the 21st century. They complain constantly but in their mind it's "communicating their feelings" and you're in the wrong if you get annoyed by the pessimism and negativity. Any married man can tell you this.
Justin Perry
she's probably a whiny cunt by default.
Here's the deal if you call her out (tactfully), either: >She realizes and improves her act >She gets butthurt
If she gets butthurt it will only turn into "you don't respect me" or "you don't know what I have to deal with" and other bulshit. If that's the case, I'm sorry, no matter how much you love her, she's not long-term material and you can put the idea of marriage or babies out of your head. This is the world we live in now, these are the women we've allowed girls to become. The only thing you can do is accept that these types will NEVER change, because society support their behaviour. So figure it out and make your move.
Cameron Price
Every job has it’s suffering. You wouldn't last a day doing her job.
Carson Rodriguez
This is what I was thinking. Minding your own shit and doing manual labor all day sounds like a breeze compared to having to deal with office politics and bullshit day in and day out.
Christopher Cooper
Women will CONSTANTY complain about stuff. It is their way of life. The moment you tell her to stop whining, she will make from your life hell. DONT DO IT.
Instead learn how to ignore her babbling and every 5 minutes say something like: uhuh.
Seems horrible. I can't imagine how hard she has it having the luxury of working from home when she feels like it, having a nice boss that pays her lunch just to be around her, and all the while you have the horrible hard work of posting on social media. On top of that her boss expects her to do her work in a certain way and doesn't give her total freedom to just crap around.
I'd much rather work in extreme temperatures doing back breaking labour 12hrs a day.
Jordan Wilson
>It's impossible for anyone to be stressed in their job except for the exact same ways I'm physically stressed in MY job. Anything else is "having it easy" and they should just shut up about it >I try to be as compassionate as I can >as I can
So...not at all?
Christopher James
Tell her how her behavior makes you feel.
Nicholas Garcia
Dude just turn off your brain and say "uhuh...huh...I hear you...uhuh...sounds terrible...what do you think?...". With a bit of practice you can even start altering the rhythm without having to think about it.
This is key to any functional marriage.
Jackson Bell
>The moment you tell her to stop whining, she will make from your life hell. DONT DO IT. Kek I did this, man whats the deal with staying up to 3 AM still fighting? Doesnt she want to sleep aswell? hahahah fucking ridicolous
If thats really the truth then its really sad. Im actually thinking about quitting it with my GF because Im so seriously bored hearing about my gfs work.
Its difficult, living a good life with whining and complaining and atleast 4 big arguments every month or just to be single?
Christopher Lopez
It depends. An idiot boss can make the simplest jobs feel like a major pain in the ass, especially if he/she is a know-it-all.
Nathaniel Sanders
Everybody wants to complain about their job. Just listen to her and keep saying "that sucks".
Isaac Sullivan
Sounds like you don't believe she has it rough because you're jealous of her "cushy job." Work on that jealousy, OP.
Ayden Scott
I'll have to agree. I work both in an office and out on the field, and I'll much rather work outdoors. I'm left to my own, the day goes by fast, I dress how I want and do what I want as long as the stuff gets done.
Landon Jackson
>Everybody wants to complain about their job No, not everyone actually complain about their job
Ian Adams
Just wait until she starts complaining that you're not spending enough time or money or attention to you, and you should respect the fact that she's been sleeping with a couple other boys because you fail to provide her with the bare minimum of what she deserves.
Dominic Adams
>not OP God, Im just wishing this could happen so I could dump her and go single
Luke Reyes
>waiting for problems to escalate >not communicating and breaking up pronto bc you're not happy
Yeah it would be insensitive, it's not some contest of who has the right to complain. Everyone experiences stress and pain differently, so you really don't know how much it affects her.
Jace Moore
>communicating
from my earlier post >>The moment you tell her to stop whining, she will make from your life hell. DONT DO IT. >Kek I did this, man whats the deal with staying up to 3 AM still fighting? Doesnt she want to sleep aswell? hahahah fucking ridicolous
Breaking up would mean a lot of feelings along plus we live together so that would be hell. Guess I will just continue to go with the flow and see how it ends
Jaxon Parker
The sooner you break up the better it'll be. If you wait until she hurts you so you think you can have a "justified" break up it'll be even worse, and in all likelihood she'll make away with everything you have.
Take the time to develop an exit strategy, then leave.
Christopher Garcia
True, but its hard to break up with someone you love.
>Take the time to develop an exit strategy, then leave. Im thinking about doing stealth style if I would do it. Maybe get help from 2 friends and then empty the appartment in one hour then leave totally.
Oliver Allen
>not having the balls to confront your partner and give them closure >giving the physical equivalent of ghosting
nigger, that is reserved for breaking up with only literal psychos who might hurt/are hurting you.
Jacob Jones
Look at all these onions boys here. How come whenever I hear someone say "I'd rather work a manual labor job and work outside than work another day trapped in my horrible cubicle?" They never do that type of work instead? You know how easy it is to get a labor job? They pretty much recruit anybody willing to do them, no fancy resume or interview skills required. A onions boy wouldn't last a day lifting heavy objects in 100 degree weather, though.
This guy gets it
Ayden Perez
Lmao, office jobs are kushty as fuck, get real.
Jack Stewart
I have done that work before that's how I know OP is a little bitch.
His complaints amount to "I'm too hot I'm too cold"
Drink water and wear a fucking coat then. Those are not real fucking complaints. Also if your job is so awful, get a cushy ez peasy office job then. Oh wait you can't because you're as dumb as a donkey and manual labor is all you're good for.
Nathaniel Perez
Do not ghost unless you are going to completely leave the city/country. It only backfires if you screw it up, and odds are more likely that you'll screw it up than not. Lay down the cards up front, let her know that things are over, let as many people as possible know that it's over so there's no potential for misunderstandings, and don't accept an alternative. A clean break is always better than having potential loose ends.
Camden Jackson
Wow you guys can make anything into a shitfest
Dont see what youd get out of telling her to stop whining OP. If youre trying to make yourself feel better, i suggest switching to a more comfortable job. If she seems unappreciative of the perks the job has, remind her that her boss is cool enough to buy lunch and she can go on her phone while working. If she whines too much about things that dont seem worth it to whine about, leave her
Jose Scott
You don't have the best reading comprehension skills, do you? Its not complaining, it's just describing. Complaining would be saying I hate doing my job. It don't hate it, I like it. I have good days and bad days like anyone else.
Cameron Parker
As a heavy laborer who has a good boss and therefore enjoys the job, I can second this.
Brody Wright
I don't know man Girls always seem to bring work home. I always want to leave it at work-- unless you're gonna change it don't bitch, y'know?
Might be time for that talk.
>I want to white knight for a girl I've never met because I'M SO COOL!
Robert Hughes
wowie, marriage sure sounds more and more valuable with every day that passes.
Cooper White
You're supposed to pick one you can tolerate and communicate with evenly
