ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

How much attention do guys pay to a girls' nails?

>be a guy
>was sexually assaulted by a girl in highschool
>told school counselor and teachers
>"she just has a crush on you"
>got in trouble for "harshly rejecting" her by telling her to stay away from me anytime i saw her after that
>she kept trying to go out with me or do shit to me whenever i was somewhere alone
>any complaint would go ignored as it was "just a crush"
>got so screwed up by it that i didn't date a girl until i was almost 20
>sometimes sit and think about how many guys out there dont report being assaulted because people will laugh at them or how it will be brushed off

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0% unless I get cut by them accidentally. We don't care about length, shape or color at all.

More than 0% but mostly none.

I _will_ notice if you've got those gross fake nails that are like an inch or more long.

You aren't old enough to have casual sex if you aren't old enough to tell a guy you don't want to do something without getting physically violent. Do you know what would happen to a guy if he kicked a girl? Imagine that those same consequences would apply to you and use your words.

What’s there to lose in asking if a girl isn’t interested in talking anymore. We had been good friends in high school and I tried talking to her today and although she responded to the first text she hasn’t responded to the other text yet but, she was very busy today, she seemed to have been enthusiastic in the first text, but obviously it’s very easy to do so via text. I obviously intend on giving her some time but I just want to know how and if I should just straight ask if she doesn’t want to talk anymore.

Femanon and my bi fucc budy says he likes pretty nails a little bit but yo I don't give a shit lmao, unless they're durty or long and ugly

I'm stuck on this quest:
>Get a gf
Can you help me?

Christ. Apart from losing your self-respect, you can't dump this on a girl just because she didn't text you back on a busy day. I hope you understand how off putting that would be to a girl that you've had minimal contact with. Suppose she was keen enough to talk to you, or at least neutral on the matter, and then checks her phone to find you've gotten all "if you don't want to talk just say so" while she was away, what do you think her reaction is to that?

>a partner you've been intimate with asks about doing something sexual
>I HAVE BEEN SEXUALLY HARASSED
the other guy is right, you're aren't mature enough to be having casual sex. or any kind of sex at all desu.

Ye I should just get over those shitty mechanisms my shitty terapists gave me as a child. Thank you

To be fair he just did it, and I never said I considered it sexual harassment, I just felt it like sexual harassment. Of course I'm not gonna report him or something

I don't think you know what sexual harassment feels like if you think a guy you've already been fucking says "hey, wanna try this?" and you flip out in a violent episode.
Stop seeing him. For his own safety.

Like I said I was going to wait. IF I did it all. I was leaning towards it being extremely dumb considering. There is a good chance I see her in a few days anyway and gauge better in person anyway

That's not what happened yo
And I didn't turn violent to him, I just somewhat wanted to

>never said I considered it sexual harassment, I just felt it like sexual harassment

You're going to have to point out the finer details of what the fuck the difference is.

>it felt like sexual harassment but I don't consider it sexual harassment

So cool, he sprung it on you and you didn't like it, that sucks, but you have free agency to say to him "whoa don't do that I seriously don't like it."

First: it felt like that disgusting feeling, but I am aware is not totally sexual harassment and he didnt have the intention to make me feel bad
Second: yeah I just have problems with comunicating my disgust and I know I must fix that

In part maybe my disgust was amplified because I'm still somewhat mad at him for not telling me he wasn't coming at my place when he said he would, two days in a row

As a footfag, I notice well maintained nails and expect the same from your toenails.
You have pretty feet, don't you?

Was she THAT ugly?

If they're cute then I like them a lot, and if not then I'm just indifferent.

Got seriously pressure into sex the first time by the girl I was seeing at the time. I was a virgin, she wasn't, she asked if I wanted to and I said no but she started being really rude to me so I changed my answer. Was a shit experience.

>gets lucky
>complains about it
I wish I was in your place.

Why does talking to girls have to be so difficult and such a process.

>get pressure into sex
>nervous
>can't get 100% hard
>she gives a really low effort fake orgasm
>70% hard on goes flaccid
>knocks my confidence so badly I can't get it up during sex for years afterward

Yeah, lucky me.

Most things worth doing are hard work.

Being a sperg it's not even like someone turned up the difficulty, it's like someone changed the game entirely. The things I can say to guys I can't say to girls and I have to think about every single thing that comes out of my mouth and not be boring for one second.

Please don't take this bit of advice too seriously since it's obviously very situational and what applies to me probably won't apply to you (since I don't really have any trouble talking to girls and my flirting game is pretty strong): my personal bar for whether or not a girl is worth pursuing is how easy it is for me to do those things you listed.

>is it easy to talk to her without conversation flagging?
>can I spend hours or more with her easily? (this one is important because I'm an introvert and being social requires a certain amount of energy)
>do I find myself trying to be more impressive for her sake?
>do I find her interesting enough that I WANT to talk for hours on end?
>does she misinterpret or misrepresent the stupid shit that comes out of my mouth for the sake of drama?

It's all one big part of compatibility, but even before I think about how attractive a girl is or whatnot, I place importance on how easy it is to be around her. Find someone that it's easy to be around, that you have one of those easy connections with.

Girlies
How do I stop thinking that you all hate me?

I just have so much experience with rejection from girls that I thought I had a chance with that I have so much anxiety now. I even have matches on Tinder that I haven't spoken to for days since matching them because I have all this anxiety about it.

Why would I hate someone I don't even know? There's literally no point to that.

And are you being rejected by girls you might have a shot with (e.g. tinder girls who have matched you) or are more of your experiences with girls that you've been memed into "confessing" to or cold approaching?

Because they deserve it

>in a shop buying clothes
>pretty shop assistant helping me choose some stuff
>she's flirting kind of hard but don't give it any weight because girls in shops always flirt with me, presumably to get me to buy shit
>choose some stuff and she's ringing me up
>asks what I'm getting up to this weekend
>tell her my plans with my friends later
>she says "oh I used to love that but I haven't gone in years because none of my friends like it
>finish paying and leave, flirting continues

I'm not a total sperg and my gut says that she was honestly flirting with me, but girls in shops often do this to me and I don't think anything of it. Did I miss an opening to invite her out sometime? Or was she just making conversation?

Question to men and women:

How many women like their hair pulled and their throat choked during sex? Is it common?

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women should be happy then if they get raped by a hot guy right?

They do say a lot of rapes are not reported and I have to assume males getting raped is a massive percentage in that. Even in movies when a guy is sexually assaulted, it's seen as funny.

Fuck man, had something similar happen. I didn't acknowledge it for years. Now I'm remembering trying to talk to my father about it and his complete inability to understand or at least shut the fuck up long enough to hear me out and Iam fucking MAD.

Shit man I have the same feel. I miss the obvious signals of a girl at a coffee shop. She even dropped into conversation that she didn't have a boyfriend, wasn't seeing anyone and wasn't doing anything that weekend. I completely ignored it and bought donuts because I assume they're just be really nice or it's part of the job.
My friend still tells me I'm a retard for not going for it. He was right there with me and was like "WTF man" when I just bought my shit and didn't ask her out. I fucked up.

It's more of just stuff in the past, I haven't really talked to the girls on Tinder yet. I'm surprised I even got matches at all. By all accounts, my profile should be terrible and I shouldn't be getting anything.

the majority.

Fuck. I flirted back freely because I'm a flirt but one of the things I just flat out glossed over was when I made a joke and she said she wanted to keep me.

I have a friend like yours too, and thank God he didn't see this shit or I'd never hear the end of it.

don't bother posting man, girls don't give a shit about this.

It's been a year and he still pokes at me about missing it.

I want to say I'll know better next time but I still feel like I'll just be that clueless customer who thinks the employee was flirting with him and embarrasses himself by asking her out. I'd rather miss out then look like a dumbass desu.

Relatable as fuck. That's the exact reason I didn't take her comments seriously. Shit she wasn't even the only girl working in a shop who tried to charm me today but the others were clearly just trying to get me to spend more money. We spent as much time talking unrelated shit as we did talking about clothes.

Excuse me while I go commit ritual self loathing.

Uma pergunta para todos:

What do you think of a guy who sports loafers?

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Do girls really not care if you were sexually assaulted in the past

How do i sexually tease a man? I tried to tease my bf but it doesn't always end up successfully. I want to know what are men's weakpoints

Slow and steady wins the race.

I don't understand

How come women are ok showing off and wearing their two piece swimsuits but no so with their underwears and bras? Are they this stupid to realize that there is not much difference between the two?

not*

My ex and I broke up on good terms and have tried to stay friends, but the line is blurred and we fool around sometimes.

I think that she might now be starting to see someone else now, though. Is it the right thing to do to find a way to ask her, and then if she is just to get out of the picture?

Frame it in a "just making sure everything's still cool to fool around" way. And yeah, step back if it's not still cool.

Okay I'm losing my mind right now. Seems like a rejection or something, I don't even give a shit at this point but still what's the deal of this?
>Be me
>meet a guy in convention September 2017
>He approached me
>Had fun talking and the chemistry was great
>Said goodbyes and left, didn't really feel much and thought I wasn't going to see him again
>Fast forward February 2018
>Another convention and I met him again almost immediately right after entering the building
>Both volunteering
>Still had great time together and with "late notice" we received each other's numbers
>Promised to see each other again May
>May finally comes
>Finally meet again and this time I got to visit his apartment and I got to know more about him overall, great guy for sure
>Bought me ice cream too
>But never really contacted me though, the conversations almost always fail
>recommended a meeting in June
>"Of course! I'd like that"
>June
>Came to hang out just like promised
>Still was great, felt really comfortable around him and got to know him better
>Still a great guy
>Even contacted me every once in a while
>He paid a lot of food for me even though I didn't ask him to do it and I said he doesn't need to feel responsible to do it
>"nah, just wanted to"
>Saying good byes was pretty shit and he half-accidentely offered a hug
>Pretty much ended up throwing myself in his arms because fuck it
>also told me he's busy the rest of summer, showed me his schedule too. Promised to see each other again in the next convention we originally met
>"OK!"
>Now
>Stopped contacting
>isn't really responsive
>know he's busy but still feel like shit
Okay umm, I guess that was it then. He's leaving abroad next week so I won't definitely hear about him in a while for sure. What the fuck should I do? Give the cold shoulder treatment or something the next time we meet?

How do I deal with the inevitable crushing loneliness if it is the case and I need to cut her out of my life?

It is pretty common.

My first sexual experience was forced upon me by a girl when I was 17, she gave me an STI to sweetened the deal as well.
This is why I have a crippling fear of women at age 24 and why I am a virgin.

No didn't mean no appartly.

Why is she playing mind games with me? She rejected me a year ago, distanced herself for months and now she is my best friend again.
But she acts all flirty, complimenting me, touching me all the time, playfully running objects from my bellybutton up to my chin or across my butt.
Today she went really far she was walking by and leaned in really close to my face for two seconds as she walked by, as if she was going to kiss me.
I went to meet two girls for dinner she knows I have had previous history with but remained good friends with and my phone buzzed with snapchats every twenty minutes from her even though usually I would get two a day.

She doesn't want me and I don't want her but all this attention is kind of awkward because the touching and lean in gave me boners.
We work together so I spent the day half mast and went home with blue balls.

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If its a really bold new color i notice. If its an interesting shape like coffins i dig that shit too.

Because its hard to interpret whats a "sign" and whats a sign.

They are meant for the eyes they want to see and not meant for the eyes that they dont want to see.

If you like him then giving him the cold shoulder will produce the opposite result. You are free to, at any time, be the one who initiates contact and tell this guy that you like him and wish he would talk to you more often.

Please also keep in mind that every single person you meet leads a life as vivid and varied as your own. You know for a fact that he's busy, and that's presumably busy on top of all the other things a person needs to do, and since you aren't dating and have a grand total of one hug between you, you have no more claim to his time than he would have to yours.

If this is a matter of feeling jilted because he hasn't been talking to you and you want to move on, then you are also free to do that. You clearly aren't a priority, but that doesn't seem abnormal considering the total lack of a relationship between you, and are free to decide that you have enough self respect to stop pining after someone who doesn't want you.

As a general rule I avoid interpreting anything a girl working in a shop does as actual genuine interaction, though I assume it does happen and if you can deal with the rejection (i.e. shop elsewhere if she turns you down) then you have nothing to lose by going back some time soon and looking at the situation under the assumption that she does like you, and see if it feels like there's any interest there.

For starters if she specifically remembers you at all then you've got a good chance.

Could also try tracking her down on social media if you want to risk being a creep if you were wrong.

So basically you're saying that I shouldn't overthink and I should accept the things the way they're now but still not act like a bitch if he comes to talk at me?
So I need to be the grown up again huh? Fine. I leave things the way they are now but I still will question him why he even wants to be around me if he's not really interested in me even as a friend.

I have a general question that doesn't need its own thread that could be answered by anyone.

I accidentally opened a whatsapp chat of my ex and then she almost instantly went online. Does whatsapp give a homescreen popup notification for 'typing'? Or was this just a coincidence?

>accidentally
>typing
>sent
>accidentally

you're stupid.

I've been waaaaiiiiiitiiiing
In this siiiiiileeence
While you're sleeeeeeeeepiiing
Until you belieeeve

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I accidentally opened the whatsapp chat, I didn't type anything but thought since it opened a chat box it may be considered typing. Nothing was sent either.

>calling someone else stupid without properly being able to comprehend something simple

I'm saying that he doesn't deserve being treated badly just because you expect something he doesn't, and you haven't ever indicated to him that you expect those things. Can you comprehend how retarded that would be?

Oh shit you're right. Fuck. Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck. Well what the fuck now? I can't imply anything more because it'd be so wrong. Why me why me

desu you might as well just go for it in those situations imo. At worst, she was knowingly playing you like a fiddle and is prepared to get asked out by someone she's not actually interested in. At best, she's actually interested in you and you score a date. As long as you're prepared for the possibility that she's just fucking around, there's no real downside.

I know I do.
Follow up question, do guys like doing it as much as women like getting it?

It's just about social norms and context.

If that's how you're feeling, then you should move on and find someone new, whether she's seeing someone or not. Sounds like you're pretending you're still together.

hair pulled I wager is very common
choking might be a bit less common but honestly you only need one good fucking session to make her realize it plays well; very rarely will anyone outright ask for it tho

To: women

Have you ever ghosted someone? Ifvso, why?

>Give the cold shoulder treatment or something the next time we meet?
Dude just talk to him honestly. You're only seeing him for like 3 days out of the year, you don't have time to fuck around with that shit.

Stop being an autist. He's going over seas? Before he goes send him a message wishing him a good time. Do something cute like tell him to be safe. When he gets back be more proactive. One of the primary ways people get into relationships is by spending time around each other. Just because he doesn't seem to be romantically interested in you right now doesn't mean he won't ever be. Get him to hang out more often, talk to him more often, put yourself out there as a viable option and not just some girl he knows from conventions.

You're nervous? So is every dude you've ever expected to make the first move, and yet they still manage to do it somehow. Stop being a literal coward.

Women, when you give a blow job, how often does a guy drip piss in your mouth, i mean a few drops? Do you enjoy the taste at all?

My ex actually liked it when I pissed a little in her mouth and asked me to piss in her when I had the chance cause she loved the taste.

What's the grossest fetish you have and what do you consider every women should try at least once?

Different user, but I really don't understand what the problem is. Just make a move if you think he's not going to. Worst case scenario, he's not interested and you awkwardly avoid him the fucking one day out of the year that you MIGHT see him again. You'll fucking live.

I thought guys couldn't pee when they had a hard on.

no its not that its if you have to go bad enough and if you're standing.

Yes, I have. He exposed himself as a potential creep when he started talking about his uncontrollable anger issues and implying that I'd regret it if I made him mad, so I decided to drop the relationship before he found out where I lived.

We can but it's not easy. The body does its best to close it off so you have to make it happen. That said though, a drip or two can sneak past since there might be some still in the shaft.

I'm not pretending we're still together, I know that we're not. She doesn't want a relationship and that's up to her, and it's my fault for screwing it up.

I just want to believe that everything will work itself out though, and that I'll get another chance some time. My life's on track now finally and I can't stand it that I might have screwed up something for good.

>Potential creep
What do you mean by this?

The real challenge is more in pointing your dick down at a toilet to do it. Even sitting you have to bend it a fair way which further constricts the flow. Easier to wait 5 minutes for it to go away than try to piss with a boner.

I meant what I said. It's in the rest of my comment.

yea there's some bretty neat plumbing in men's dicks, quite ingenious for evolution to come up with this system; I imagine it works like this so that our cavemen selves wouldn't miss a procreation opportunity just because they had too much river water to drink
we can, of course, but it's just not ideal; on average if you have a hard-on and you take a piss, you quickly lose the hard-on

and the worst thing is that if you really need to pee but you're fapping/fucking, you'll still sort of feel that pressure but actually pissing will need some kind of intentional effort; usually I just cum and then a few moments later I go take a piss
I'm sure this felt very educational

>autist tries to act tough
>you won't like me when I'm angry
>serious fedora tipping
>gets ghosted
good choice user

Should I tell my dad about a bitch I knocked up 8 years ago? He's getting old and I think he might like to know his blood line is still going, even if I'm not a part of the kids life at all (one night stand, married chick, definitely my kid)

I've kinda kept it a secret, only a handful of friends have heard me mention it.

>definitely my kid
Test? Or just your desire to have a child