Fellas let’s be real for a sec. You get with a woman that has a kid. You want to build a life with her...

Fellas let’s be real for a sec. You get with a woman that has a kid. You want to build a life with her. She’s down to marry you and settle down and all that good stuff. BUT, she doesn’t want to have any kids with you and says that the one she’s got is enough for you. Is that a deal breaker for you? Femanons are welcome too put their two cents in but this question is for guys.

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I'm not marrying a single mother because I have a brain and I'm not a cuck.

I've dated a couple women with kids and that is already a deal breaker for me now.
It's always shit.

I would literally rather die single than marry a single mom.

Do you literally have a cuckold fetish? Why are you even considering this?

It was a debate I was in with a friend and my sister. But most of thier arguments were anecdotal. I tried to tell them that not all guys are that compassionate and charitable to give them a chance, but I could see that they were getting hurt feelings about it and knew we weren’t going to come down to a truthful answer so I thought I’d ask here and hear others perspectives on the scenario.

I'm female and you couldn't pay me enough to fuck with single dads or single moms. I don't want kids under any circumstances. I have had to sacrifice and go through a lot of hardships in my life to avoid having children. I am not going to adopt some child out of the blue just because I like their parent.

And I wish my stepmom growing up had adopted that attitude instead of dating my dad anyway and making life miserable for us kids. She loudly screamed while she fucked my dad, in our house with paper walls, because fuck you kiddies.

When we expressed our unhappiness with this incident, she drank a ton of wine, drove to our house while drunk, parked in our driveway, and screamed over the phone about how we're despicable spoiled brats and how my older sister is a "pretend wife" for my dad. I really wish people like that would be honest with themselves and not even try to take up the fucking mantle of being step-parents if they're going to act like human fucking garbage and traumatize some kids.

>she doesn’t want to have any kids with you

no problem, just adopt

Nah. I'd be fine with her being a mom already. But to deny you from experiencing creating a child of your own? No thanks. I have a kid with my ex-wife. I'm not shitting on my current girls goal of having one with me. My daughter isn't hers and I don't expect her to take her as her own. Though that kind of happened anyways

Nah. I was raised by a single mother with a foster father figure, so I understand how familial ties are defined by a family unit rather than genes. I also understand how important it is for a kid to have a father in their life, and I would feel honored to help raise a kid as my own. I'm honestly surprised to see so many different anons worried about cuckoldry though.

Did you skip answering the central point of the question just for the sake of being obtuse, or were you just too drunk to read it?

Basically this.

I will not raise another man's child. Fuck that, I rather be single for the rest of my life than be together with a single mom.

I'd adopt after I have my own kid. But that's about it. I stay away from single mothers. Usually the cause of bad decisions.

Been there except that I didn't want children of my own and she had her tubes tied.

However, do not do this ever. You get no vote in how the child is raised or even behaves in your own home. Yes, there can be conversation and insistence you have influence but the child knows and the mother knows you don't count for shit other than a paycheck and occasional pussy. In otherwords you have all the responsibility and none of the decisions. You also expose yourself to the onging relationship between she and the father of the child. They could have a good relationship or bad but it doesn't matter. Things could be going great, she picks up the phone to call to arrange some pick up with dad and things go awry and then she's pissed you say something or pissed you don't.

I'm very low maintenance and understand the child is her priority but I never knew how far down the list I would be.

It depends on how young is the kid and is the real father in the picture at all.

If the kid is older than like, 4, and if there's a good chance you will have to deal with the kid's father at all, I would abort regardless of how strongly you feel about the girl.

femanon btw

>getting married
and raising someone else's kid on top of that?
are there men who actually consider this?

>let’s be real for a sec.
>You get with a woman that has a kid.

Pick one.

Of course it's a deal breaker. I'd understand asking a guy not to have any more kids if I was coming in with like 5 or something, but I'd have to be an increadibly selfish person to not have the empathy to see why that might bother my boyfriend.

If it was intended men have a say in all this they would have a womb. they don't so end of discussion.

I would rather just die than marry a single mom

you have issues

The kid beforehand is usually a breaker for me, because the dad is usually around and usually not a stand up guy which brings too many questions up and I'd just prefer to leave them to their thing whilst I find me a woman more on my level. So I guess if I got that far and her thing was no kids by me, I'm probably fine with that. It'd be nice to be able to discuss the option but I don't really want kids at present anyway.

If she doesn't want more kids she doesn't want more kids, though. You should look for someone more on your level too, don't be trying to make "one sided reason" into "compromise."

Too sleep deprived, and no. I wouldn't give a shit.

Not interested in ever having a biological kid of your own or?

id rather die then be alive

I would never get in a serious relationship with someone who had a kid. Ultimate goal would be a white woman, no kids, and a low body count. Rare, I know, but nothing wrong with setting a bit of a high bar.
Now sleeping with someone who has kids is a different story...

absolutely, I would want at least child of my own and also more than just one no matter whose it is