General Advice Thread

Not OP, but I know a lot of women that wouldnt care, and some that go to strip clubs themselves just as a group with others.

They arent the most wholesome women, but they arent complete thots either

I've used tinder and eHarmony. I'm simply too ugly and fat for those to work. I don't blame anyone, though. I sure as shit wouldn't date a fat uggo like me.

thanks user this helps

get custody and gtfo. cmon

Girls can't judge size at all, don't sweat it.

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Thank you for this thread in advance, I really wanted to talk about this
>moved last year
>best friend tells me he loves me after I move
>text him all summer
>tell him I love him back halfway through year
>I visit when I can, we're bros
>agree to date after highschool
>It's summer again
>he doesn't text me often, doesn't respond most of the time
>when he does he's chill
I really still love him, and he must've lost interest? That's okay because we're technically only bros anyway. I still want to talk to him though. I know he's really lazy and occasionally sadistic but I'm not sure what to do now, I haven't told him any of this bc I don't want to sweat him..

Well, that is clearly some toxic/abussive relationships. Do you have any baggage in the relarionship? What is preventing you from just cutting ties and going your own way? Otherwise if that's not a choice, I guess we could resort to plan B, although that's a little more... uhm, questionable.
Learn how to pleasure women in other ways if you aren't just satisfied with normal sex, practice pleasuring them orally or digitally, learn how they react and use that experience! If you can make a woman cry for you then it would for sure boost your self-steem. You don't need 8" to make a woman's legs give up

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Aah, well, sadly I've been in the same spot as you in the past, but lucky for you because I have experience because of it.
In short, you have to options.
A) You are straight with him and tell him what's been worrying you, such as both of you growing more distant over time and start from there. Being sure to express what you feel and what is bothering you, while being mindful of his reasons if he gives any of course.
Or B) Move on. Sometimes friendships simply.. just, vanish, and slowly wither away, I know it's hard and it's actually quite sad, but there is little to be done in those situations other than being happy for the moments shared.
So? What will it be?

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Mainly the kids. Custody is never 100% guranteed, even when it clearly should be. Plus theres the chance DCS could step in due to her irrationalality and take the kids out of the home before things get settled. I dodged marriage thankfully, and I own the house.

Its hard to find a mistress when all my time is spent working or taking care of my kids / house. Plus, its not like I can invite them home.

Is it weird that I did not feel particularity attracted to either gender until my late/mid teens? I just kinda masturbated to do it 'cause it felt good

Trips check'um... ahem.
Personally, I feel that is a dangerous person and if I had kids, I would not want them near my children. My advice, keep records of her behavior, you said that she is violent when confronted, right? Then manage to sneak a recording while she lashes out with a knife, ask her to be institutionalised, and use said recording as evidence.
I'm sorry all this stuff went downhill for you, but really, I would not want her near my kids. Other than that I'm not sure, do you have any ideas yourself, user?
Not weird at all, some people simply have a lower sexual drive than others, as well as different sexual orientations, nothing weird there, dear.

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Posted my own thread but it's not getting any burn so I'll comment here too. Thoughts on "settling" for a girl that I think is objectively worse than me in terms of looks? Not like a 10/10 and a 2/10 difference, more like a 6-7/10 and a 4-5/10 sort of difference depending on what you value for people's looks. I haven't had a gf for a long time and I'm considering settling for a girl who I met recently who I have a lot of common interests with but isn't great in the looks department. Will probably do it unless there's some good reasons not to but kind of unsure.

I feel empty in every way possible, I also really can't find any point to my life because every time I try and do good something worse happens. My job, friends, family, and etc. only make me feel better temporally, once I am alone I feel shitty again. What do I do.

Are superficial looks more important than any other of her qualities? I won't judge, everyone is superficial to some extent, hell, even I like pretty people, but the question here is, you say she doesn't have killer looks, but does it matter when you're in love with her?
Well, you don't seem to be unable to experience joy, so I won't jump gun and say anhedonia or depression just yet, perhaps you should consider to avoid being caught without anything to do, after all idle time is wasted, keep yourself busy, be productive on those iddle times, avoid being alone with your own thoughts, what do you say?

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If I just leave her be, she isnt violent at all. Some anger issues, but nothing like when I try to confront her.

Honestly, I can tolerate taking care of a lazy woman. I just miss the physical affection, thats what tears at me the most. I just want to actually be able to feel someone again. But I cant figure out how to get another womans attention while Im in this situation.

Our women friends know we are together, and the only way I have to meet new women is online, but God damn is it hard to get a woman's attention, let alone keep it with limited freetime.

Thank you for at least talking to me about it user. For obvious reasons, its not something I can talk to many about irl.

Thats the norm for the guy to have to settle, women are just more desirable in general. Im not saying guys cant get better looking women, just that its more common that way.

I've lost weight four or five times now each one being like 40 to 70lbs. I appreciate your upbeat and supportive attitude though. Thank you.

Easy to say that I'll do it, but I've tried and it just gets to a point where I can no longer be with that person or thing. Or it becomes boring or unfulfilling, and I resort to just staring off into space thinking why bother with anything. I take Anti-depression, Anti-anxiety, and ADHD meds. The Anti-depressant and anxiety work only when my life is on a good spot, not when I am in a terrible spot.

I miss al/ck/.
I'm watching The Nice Guys now.
And one of the main characters is a total alcoholic fuck up
And I know I'm supposed to be laughing (and I am, it's a very funny movie) but I'm feeling myself too much in that drunk fuck up

Clearly, other than that, or maybe trying to reignite the romance in your relationships, I don't really have much to give. I don't know if cheating on her would be a good idea, but I won't try to stop you, I'll simply trust your judgement if you think it's good then go ahead.
If the relationship can no longer hold itself, you either attempt to repair it, or you go your own way.
Feel free to stick around if you feel like doing so, the night is still somewhat young and I'll be around for another hour or so.
You gotta put that weight off, and keep it off, or even better, turn it into muscle! But, well, my point is, if you consider yourself to be undesirable atleast physically, no one will help you other than you, the change begins with yourself, so keep that in mind, okay? Same thing for you, feel free to stick around if you'd like.
Then you should, by all means tell this kind of stuff to your psychiatrist and/or therapist! I know what you're going through, been on that spot myself, all I can say is "Endure", endure and you'll succeed, no one said life would be easy, but that's the point, don't allow your own brain to get the best out of you.
What happened to al/ck/? I heard you guys got kicked out of /ck/.
Does it make you feel ashamed perhaps?

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>does it matter when you're in love with her?
In terms of my own feelings I'd say no it doesn't matter, but in terms of how other people view you/your relationship it does doesn't it? Like being laughed at by friends behind your back etc.
Also, hard to say anything about being in love with someone at such an early stage.

how do I learn what I'm good at? I've tired things such as: writing(sucked) , piano (sucked), coding (sucked), there is much more that I've sucked at. I just can't seem to find anything I'm talented at

Wait what do you mean by "settling"? Getting married? Moving in together? Dating??
I think we may be going on a misconception right here.

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Is it true that the more confident a girl is, the more she thinks she deserves a bigger penis?

>What happened to al/ck/? I heard you guys got kicked out of /ck/.
New jannies. They decided to enforce the letter of the law rather than the spirit.
There was an al/ck/ in exile here in Jow Forums but I see that's died. Same as the one in Jow Forums. I don't know where my fellow fuck ups have gone.

I don't feel shame. Well I do, but it's part of the melange of shit I'm feeling now.
The primary emotion is regret and how I wish things were different. There's a sliver of hope that maybe things will be different in the future. But that hope has never turned out to be true.
I'm probably a lot older than most Jow Forums people now.
There's a time where you wake up and realize that all your dreams will never come true. And that sucks.
You won't be a rock star or an astronaut or a writer or an inventor or anyone history will even recognize. You will never have a Wikipedia page, no matter who small. Deleted due to insignificance. You won't make the history books. You won't make a difference.
And the worst part of this is that you realize this when you have at least 40 more years of life.

Drinking puts life on fast forward. Both in perspective and also in literal longevity.
I fucked up. The time when you decided your life was 15-20.
And that was a looong time ago.

That's the point of learning, dummy. You'll never be a prodigy on so
ething you've never done. Everything takes practice, and time, how good you become depends solely in how much time are you willing to put on practicing said skill, say practicing playing the piano, or cooking, or coding. For example, there is a reason why in certain jobs they ask for atleast X amount of years of experience on Y coding language, or why talented pianists start practicing at an early age.
Rome was not build in a single day, and just like that you will not be good at anything at the start, so you must practice a lot! And failure should not mean you are bad, rather consider it to be experience in becoming better, okay?
I'd stop hanging out with ratchets, user. Otherwise, I wouldn't know really.

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How do I learn to believe in myself?
How do I use my good looks to finally get a gf?

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Dating/getting into a commited relationship. Not at the marriage/moving in stage of life yet. Just haven't had a gf in a long time...

How can I evolve from brainlet status? I barely remember the stuff I learned in high school, I never read books, and every time I say something dumb on here people assume I'm just doing it on purpose.

what's the point of practicing hard when some can just go u there and do it effortlessly.plus I'm too stupid to learn

Practice makes perfect, friend.
Read books. Play board games with your friend.
The brain is a "muscle". Work it.

Also, don't use your phone for anything other than texts. That's why you're dumb. Fucking parasite machine

Mmh, I feel you on the last part, user.
Let me get this out of the way, I do not, by any means, mean to disrespect you, but I got to ask just to make sure, are you here for advice, or to chill? You know, so I can simply chill with you and just chat it up, you know?
Believe in yourself in what way?
Easy, show you're available as well as showing interest and making clear what you want from the start. What have you tried?
The point of practicing hard is to become one of those that can just come up and do thing effortlessly. Practice makes the master, technically speaking, it only takes two things to become a master in something, 1) practice, and 2) discipline, to keep practicing no matter what.
You could start off by studying, user. Just the simple act of reading books makes your vocabulary more wide, if all you do is stare at shitposts amd copypastas your vocabulary will be miniscule, and just as said, the brain absorbs what you give it, so start by making the effort and study!
Thanks for the help! I appreciate it!

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When would you say is the best time to quit a job? I get paid well but I hate everything about it. I'm considering leaving it with nothing lined up because I'm too mentally tired on my days off to job hunt.

>Let me get this out of the way, I do not, by any means, mean to disrespect you, but I got to ask just to make sure, are you here for advice, or to chill?
I'm here to express myself. Because I am drunk and therefore want social interaction.
So I guess just chill. I guess that's not strictly following the "advice" part of the thread.
I was looking for GIOYC but I couldn't find it. And this thread guarantees some kind of interaction, at least.

Exactly when you have another job lined up, do not trust yourself not burning through your savings because it's easier to do than what you may think. Try to make time and fit that into your schedule, otherwise you could end up fucking yourself over.

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I'm definitely going to see him again for the first time in a while soon. Depending on the vibe, I'll either fade out or get back in contact with him again. Either way I'll be happy to see him again even if it's the last time. Thank you very much, I've really wanted to get this off my chest.

That train of thought is honestly the only thing keeping me from quitting. But we're talking 25k in savings vs 800 a month too

It may not follow the advice part, but I did add friendly conversation for a reason!
What's your poison? Personally I have quite a decent stash myself but I haven't been able to relax lately. I'd say my fav liquor is bourbon, personally.
You're welcome user, that's what I'm here for! I wish you the best of lucks, and hopefully the relationship can be fixed.
Eeeh, still I don't think it'd be too wise, perhaps a month or so of vacation for yourself, but more than that you may end up finding yourself with way too much free time in your hands, what do you think you should do, user? It's easy to ask others but what do you consider would be the right thing?

On a sidenote, finding pictures is hard, oof.

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>Believe in yourself in what way?
Have a greater sense of confidence and self worth, not panicking at small reversals, feeling like I actually can do the things I and other know I am capable of.
>What have you tried?
Almost nothing. I had bit of a rough time in my early teens, which made me believe things, like women hated me, I was only to a temporary prize, not as a person to them, things like that. I didn't start to break out of this until after I turned 20. Since then, I have made some weak attempts to hit on girls at bars that almost always left me feeling terrible about myself. I've had some girls who were very interested in me, like so interested they were oblivious to the world outside of what I was saying, but I panicked internally, drew a blank, or whatever at all of these girls.

I was dating a girl for four years and it was great until the end. I started losing my confidence and experiencing a lot of anxiety. We broke up and it was pretty ugly. I basically just started treating her like a ghost/friend and it made her go nuts, and she flipped out one night and dumped me.
I went to a therapist and he told me I sound like I have a sex addiction. I had to abstain from sex and masturbation until my body reset itself. Since then I cut out porn, masturbation, casual sex, etc and I feel like my old self again.
The thing is my ex still doesn't know. She is convinced I was cheating on her.
I never cheated on her, I just was dealing with something I didn't realize was going on at the time. I want to contact her and explain what happened, but she's blocked me on all social media and last I knew my phone is blocked as well.
What should I do? I don't like knowing she thinks I was cheating on her. I'd rather her know that I was just going through some personal shit that needed to be resolved.

Mmh, I mean, if you got the skills/looks to do things, but you don't feel confident enough, the only thing I think you could do is forcing yourself. Succees inherently breeds confidence, so the most sound thing you could do in my opinion is "just doing" things, or simply going on dates for a start, no? Try trying is what I mean.
There is absolutely no way of contacting her through some mutual friend? First thing, lets get this out of the way, there is no certain guarantee she'll go back with you after, and if you even manage to explain the situation, okay? You would need some sort of proof that what you had was an actual thing, you need something to back up your story, then and only then you should try reaching to her in some way, and explain what truly happened, again, keep in mind, there are no guarantees, but if you feel like you need to, it's worth taking a shot.

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Do your job hunting at home, in the kitchen, late at night. You can send a hundred copies of your resume in minutes.

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I KNOW for a fact I'll be loads happier if I put in a 2 weeks tomorrow. But the logical side of me says that's stupid because I'll go from being in the green every month by like 1.4k to being 800 in the hole every month. Money shit is just stressful I guess.

The job pays well but the new management is trying to tell me I was promoted too early. The company has been a shitshow from the second it started up (I helped open 2 stores now) and they overload my team with too much stuff and too little people most days.

I'm just scared to quit but too exhausted to job hunt. I think I just need to nut up and quit and then I'll have a second wind.

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>What's your poison? Personally I have quite a decent stash myself but I haven't been able to relax lately. I'd say my fav liquor is bourbon, personally.
Rum. Appropriate because I want to join the Navy. Rum and coke is the most efficient.
I'm drinking my offbrand because the store was out of the regular brand. Tastes off. But I'll get over it.

Let's talk about something else.

Money shit is stressful, of course it is, it is MEANT to be stressful, it's your livelyhood afterall. has a point, the one that looks for always finds, it's somewhat of a saying we have here, which basically means, the one that wants a job will never be unemployed, because they'll take anything, take your time, try to slow down a bit, and listen to your logical side, okay? Look for a new gig and then put up your 2 weeks. Alternatively, try to get a hold of a new job, and give yourself a proper timespan to rest, if you think you'll be able to find a new job in the range of 2-4 weeks, then quit now. Otherwise, it'd be a gamble.
What sort of music do you like? Most of my music is either violent or fast paced, I like trap or j-pop, mmh, my favourite band is Death Grips too.

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how do I meet someone when I am an extreme introvert? I would prefer to meet a guy honestly, but it's all the same for me. I often spend time at home on the computer

I'm a bi male btw

>What sort of music do you like? Most of my music is either violent or fast paced, I like trap or j-pop, mmh, my favourite band is Death Grips too.
Shit taste, imo.
But I'm going to diplomatic.
I like mostly classic rock and folk.
But I do like some faster pace shit. Mostly when I'm jogging or working out.
Sabaton. Love those guys.
Doesn't help that I have a minor in History

Clubs mate.
Even small cities have dork clubs. Like it can be book clubs, or game clubs, or even fitness clubs.
They're mostly male (but also mostly straight) so there's that.

People join clubs because they're lonely. Prime hunting material.

Just broke up with my girlfriend a couple weeks ago because she said I exhibited toxic behavior. She did as well but I tried not to call her out on it even after she left me. She reached out to me today and I completely went off on her. She says she thought that her leaving would wake me up to thinking differently and that my reaction proves that I'll never fully be capable of being who she wants. She even said she entertained the thought of us getting back together before I went off.

I feel like I completely fucked up everything between us. Now just during the relationship but now because I thought she was moving on even though I was stuck.

How do I get over this, Vanilla? I'm so sad.

You get over it slowly. You get over it by learning from your mistakes. And by not repeating them. You might not be able to salvage this relationship, but you will be more than ready to handle the next one.

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Videogames, obviously, have you tried online videogames? Usually you get to meet tons of new people there.
Mean ;u; fast paced is usually when I'm riding my motorcycle, to drown out the sound of the engine a little.
Do you have any hobbies?
Thissss! This so much, also, thanks for helping! Appreciate it.
You said it yourself, you consider she was toxic. And in my honest opinion, people that are so wishy washy about relationships in that way aren't really worth the effort of going back with, problems in a relationship are to be discussed and worked over, and decisions should be final. Keep your chin up, okay? Give it some time for the wounds to heal and go back out there.
Sounds good?

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She's immature, she cut off contact for weeks then reaches out to you when you're reeling in emotional pain and blames you for venting your pain to her. There's nothing to feel guilty about here user, this is a human response to a painful situation.

Her manipulation attempts are subtle but powerful and she's attempting to place all the blame on you when there's plenty of blame to go around here. If she really wanted to make it work between you she would have let you vent your pain and then she would have kept trying to close the distance with you. She didn't do that, she had no intention of getting back together user, sorry to say.

Walk away and don't look back, you don't need someone like this in your life.

Thank you all. Your words mean a lot to me. The thing that I need to make a strategy for is that we both go to the same school and are in the same classes. My first instinct is to avoid her but it's going to be difficult since it's such a small program. It starts in a month or so and I don't think I'll be ready. I'm afraid.

I'd advice to move on, but if you really do want to do it, make it before meeting up randomly at school.

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You're welcome
It's gonna be OK.
Even somewhat liberating, because she has no hold on you. Just go about your business normally. You can be civil to her. But she has no hold on you now. You are free.

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Oh well, it's already kind of late, and the thread seems to have slowed down.
So I think it's time to close shop for tonight, it was a pleasure speaking with you anons! Expect to see me around again soon, see ya later!

(For those of you who'd like to take over the ship and help others, feel welcomed to do so, wish you luck, and good night. Warmest regards, Vanilla.)

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>;u;
The fuck that means you weeb faggot?
You're nice and shit for making this thread. But lay off the weeb shit. You're too old for that crap.

I used to have a lot of hobbies. Dorky ones. Games, kite flying, but now it's mostly reading.

You're still a weeb faggot

Goodnight, op!
See you soon!

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I have this problem: I'm addicted to asking for advice before doing everything now. I already posted this in the GIOYC thread and got a helpful motivational reply but I still feel afraid to take action without having someone tell me first what they think is the best option. Like I need validation from at least one person before doing something, I can't help assuming that my original idea is probably the wrong one. I'm afraid of failure because I have failed many times that I just followed my gut. But I have succeeded a bit in some others.

At times I feel a little empty. It's a weird feeling because for the most part, I have a few things going on right now that make me happy.
I have friends who love me, I'm getting really close and growing up to be good friends with a group of people I met a year ago, a very special group that don't let anyone approach them. Together I've live some great adventures and discovered things that have been crucial to my development. Like realizing there are more ways to do art than just painting after a lifetime of feeling you have an artistic vision, but painting was never engaging to you.
There's also a great deal of adventures in the following month, most of them alongside this group of friends, which I'm looking forward to.
Really they're one of the greatest things that have happened to me because I'm a very open person and I know lots of people, but I never quite felt in touch in most places. Turns out I had to bump into the most alternative and underground people to realize things like the before mentioned "Art means more things than just painting like Bocaccio" so in that sense I'm hugely happy because every day I feel closer to who I want to be and what I want in my life because I breathe it.

But sometimes I just feel empty. I'm spending a summer doing a shitty -but forgiving job- alongside a good friend and that alone makes it great. After summer I don't know what will be of me. I still live with my parents, who are out for the month. Living alone is nothing new to me, it happens each summer. But this summer it's been greater, since I have a lot of time and space to try new things.
Nothing of this must make much sense to any of you I guess, I doesn't even make much sense to me right now... I don't know why I feel like this sometimes. This crushing emptyness between big event and big event. Luckily I space out the drug usage a lot.
I feel as if I needed to keep going. I feel like atleast I'm on the right path, but I need much more to do for myself.

look at , Op went to bed

Ay but I'm still here
OP's been saying how great my responses were all night.
I just gotta figure out who is trolling and who is not

Yeah I realized after posting. Anyone can answer anyway.

Not op.
Talking out things and situations is not a bad thing. In fact, it's a strength, not a weakness.

saw it after posting, I'll save the link and check out later to see if it's still alive!

How do I maintain a convo? Ive been approached by strangers and seem to be able to say hi but not much past that. My friends say hello before I do. I know I have social anxiety but how do I focus on the conversation topic and keep it going? I tend to over think and it shows on my face.

Oh man, oh well but in my case I often take it to the extreme. For example I get extremely anxious before texting a girl I like because I can't ask someone first "she said this, what do I text her now!?". I'm also very annoying at work, people laugh at the dumb stuff I ask. I know failure is a part of life but still. Anyway thanks!

Hey mate
Sounds like you're enjoying yourself and have people you can really have fun with.
Good things.

But happiness and I mean real happiness, needs satisfaction too.
Are you satisfied? You're having fun, but are you doing what will make you close your eyes one day and think that you lived a life well lived?

Feeling like you lived a good life is better than feeling like you lived a happy life.
Think about something ambitious and challenger. Like joining the military as an officer or going academic as a professor or starting your own business.

Erh.. forgot to mention but I'll just say it now since I'm about to jump into bed, I'll probably make another thread tomorrow around 8 or 9 pm CLT, so keep an eye if you'd like to speak.
Good job, good luck taking care of anons, okay?
Check above.

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Take it slow. Move at your own pace. And trust your gut instincts. Easy to say, I know. It will be tough at first.

Have you ruled out anything physical? How's your appetite? Any changes in your sleep pattern?

i have strabismus and a head turn and it affects my confidence and self consciousness very badly.

I can't afford the surgery for it, and in my case (duane's syndrome), it usually regresses anyway.

How can I learn to ignore how I look or feel comfortable with it? I know it looks weird to other people, and I usually just ignore it, but it still affects how I act, and I usually just don't look at people unless I really try to or have to.

My girlfriend of two years is a surgeon. Most of her friends / their partners are also very successful. I'm a woodworker and climbing guide with an engineering degree.

I make enough to support myself comfortably, but I can't help but wonder what her perception of this dynamic is. Anybody have a similar experience?

I had bad acne as a teenager. My back looks like a WW1 battlefield.
I can offer nothing but sympathy.
Shit's fucked.

But what has helped me was going to the gym. When you get that pump going on you feel like a million bucks

Can an overweight autist like me really find love? It's not like I'm not trying. But things are rough out here.

You have a choice between one of those things
Stop choosing to be fat, faggot

How can I get over losing a huge sum of money to a family member? I want to forgive them but I can't.

No you Mongolian.

i went to the gym a few times but i was way too self conscious to do anything other than stay on a treadmill the whole time

Then consider that your fault isn't your appearance but rather your ability to deal with it

i know people say it's a meme, but keto for a couple months works fucking wonders for quick weight loss.

Once you're done you can go back to a more normal diet, but you should probably keep carb intake reasonably low to avoid gaining the weight back over time.

that's why I'm asking for help

I figure there's probably a way to be confident regardless

Is there anything stopping you from getting into better shape? I spent a lot of time being skinnyfat but focusing a little more on my physical health really helped my mental health and dating outlook.

The notion of finding live is a bit of a misnomer too. It takes some effort and making yourself vulnerable. You don't find a relationship the same way you find an errant bit of cash in a freshly laundered pocket.

I know that feeling man. I got lucky when I was younger and found a super supportive rock climbing community. That really gave me the drive to get in shape without the culture of a traditional gym. I now visit a traditional gym regularly and I realize 95% of people there are just stoked to be working out. I now get to be the person supporting people who seem uncomfortable and it's really fulfilling.

Anybody who isn't stoked for somebody deciding to work on themselves has a much more bleak dating landscape than somebody overweight.

Go with a friend if you can find one.
That what's what got me going the first time around.
But ultimately, the bottom line, where the buck stops, it's you just saying "I don't give a fuck"
And that's how it is when you go with a buddy too. It's just that you're unspokenly sharing that burden.

I usually don't give a fuck it's just been bothering me lately. And I know it still subconsciously affects how I act around people I don't know.

I mostly stay at home which allows me to not worry about these kinds of things when I have to go out, but it sucks because I know if I don't do anything about it I'm probably going to die alone.

Home gym.

The biggest different going to the gym reg like is that suddenly people stop and respect you.
I think a lot of problems that introvert nerds have is that they look like an ambulatory scarecrow. Even if society has appeared to have moved on from might is right, deep down we're still barbaric apes thinking about it.
A lil fag with no muscles is something who everyone will laugh. Why the fuck respect him? Even if he has "power' over you, like in a manager type position, why the fuck care? Laugh at the bitch. Can't even over a pickle jar.

Humanity will never not be animals. Which is why we should get strong. People will respect us on intuition. Or if not, you can always rest assured that they're only living because you didn't decide to make them eat their own fist. Because you could have. If you were strong enough. Which you aren't now but could be.

No... I don't feel really satisfied about many things. Starting from the basic around here: My love life is unexistant. My friends all say I'm handsome and interesting, and I believe them because they're the kind that would give me any kind of constructive criticism. And on most days I do feel like I'm actually just like that, I feel confident. So taking that out of the road, there's two things happening. 1-I often feel underdeveloped, as if not satisfied with myself and that I need to pursue certain ambitions before being satisfied and settling down 2-I rarely meet girls I feel interested and engaged to, and when I do there's some bullshit bad luck situation like they're in a relationship but have more fun with me but that still makes me the "side-hoe".
Appart from my love life, I'm really trying to focus on pursuing my artistic aspirations strongly. All my life I've been really low on self confidence, struggling with myself (my worst enemy). The few times I've managed to shut up that voice inside me telling me not to try, I've managed really nice things and I would love to really keep on that road. Being in the special company I am is but another proof of that special touch I have. I just feel I'm not using it for anything, and that brings me great unsatisfaction.
I have weird sleep schedules, but I get my healthy hours of sleep. I also get a lot of sun hours, since I'm aware of how healthy that is for your body.
What do you mean by "Have you ruled out anything physical?"

>be underaged
>meet person online who is a decade older
>near instantly fall into love that cannot be described as anything but true, was and am level headed person not inclined to create false realities, absolutely had zero and still have zero doubt
>couple of years later
>going to be moving out soon and in with futurespouse

How do I possibly explain the situation to my mom and step-dad? I’m very much not close to step dad, and not close enough to mom to really talk about even mundane but personal/close things with her. This is such a huge thing to reveal, and certainly the rawest thing I’d have ever exposed to her.

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